THE QUEST FOR AUTHENTIC MANHOOD

SESSION II

THE FOUR FACES OF MANHOOD

I. A Brief Review

II. Manhood’s Four Faces

A. Face #1: ___KING____________________________________________.

1. This is a face reflecting a love for what is right and moral_______.

2. This is a face characterized by:

• __Strong convictions _

• _ Courageous moral choices_________________

• __A servant spirit___________ _____

• __Righteous or moral leadership_____________

3. This face is seen in Scripture:

Proverbs 4.18 “…the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn,
which shines brighter and brighter until full day.”

Proverbs 20:7 “A righteous man who walks in his integrity, blessed  
        are his sons after him.” 
B. Face #2: ___The Warrior_________________________________________.

1. This is a face reflecting ___ a drive or desire to overcome or conquer__.

2. This is a face characterized by: _______________________________.

• _____Initiative_________ _

• ____ Protection____________________

• ____Provision_____________________

• ____Perserverance_________________

• ____Fight (for what is right)_________

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3. This face is seen in Scripture

4. I Timothy 6:11-12--“… aim at righteousness, godliness,

faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness. Fight the good fight
of faith; take hold (or seize) of the eternal life to which you
were called …”

C. Face. #3: ____Lover_______________________________________________.

1. This is a face reflecting the drive or desire in us to love (do good for
the other) and be emotionally intimate.

1. This is a face characterized by:

• Tenderness

• Sensitivity

• Sacrificial care

• Emotional openness

• Physical affection

2. This face is seen in Scripture:

Ephesians 5:25—“Husbands love your wives, as Christ

loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

D. Face. #4: ___FRIEND______________________________________________.

1. This is a face reflecting _the drive or desire to connect emotionally

with other men.

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1. This is a face characterized by:

• Loyalty

• Accountability

• Challenge

• Fun

• To have a friend you have to be friend-worthy

2. This face is seen in Scripture:

Proverbs 17:51—“A friend loves at all times, and a

brother is born for adversity”

Proverbs 27:17—“As iron sharpens iron, so one man 
sharpens another.” 

III. Some Important Observations About These Four Faces

A. Too often, these honorable faces of manhood are replaced by Ugly Charicatures:

• King Face—too much, Tyrant—too little Abdicator

• Warrior Face—too much, Destroyer—too little, Wimp

• Lover Face—too much, Critical and Harsh—too little, cold and

Withdrawn

• Friend Face—too much, User—too little, Loner

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The issue is balance of these four faces

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B. Because of our morally-compromised culture, many men today lack a _King face.
Without a _King face___________, the _____Warrior face_________ becomes
unrestrained, hurting lives, including his own, in the process.

C. Our increasingly feminized culture has emasculated the ___Warrior____ in

many young men. The result has been the creation of the __soft male___,
__indecisive________ as to direction, ___weak_______ as to leadership.

D. Our world is desperate for the __Four-Faced_____ balance of real manhood!

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Questions for Your Small Group

1. Which of the four faces of manhood can you most identify with? Why?

2. Which of the four faces do you need the most help with right now? Why?

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