The National Teachers College

Quiapo, Manila

Theories
Of
Personality
(Autobiography)

Submitted by: Marie Jennifer A. Soliman

Submitted to: Mrs. Aida Monterozo

Good day, this is my autobiography. It indicates all about me, my life, my
nature and my words. I hope you enjoy while you read this, it also might
help you to know be better.
My name is Marie Jennifer A. Soliman, some called me at my first name but
some called me Jennifer. But also if you are my best friend since high school
for sure you will called me jape, that nickname was given to me by my high
school best friend Mariel, since our first year high school she called me that
because it’s too long when she called me Jennifer and Marie was too
common name. So she made that name also to be unique. I was born on the
9th of June year 1997 in Tondo Manila. 2nd child of Maria ann Aponio and
Jesus Soliman. I have 3 real siblings the oldest was Maria Jessica next is me,
followed by Marianne jean and the youngest was Matthew john. I also have
step sibling, two from my mother side kuya joseph and the oldest ate Jayne,
but sat to say she died when i was in my grade school. I really don't know
personally my step sibling from my father side because ever since I never
meet them.
We live at tondo since my mother was a child. The house was owned by my
grandparents or my mother's parents. My mom inherited the house because
she was the one who don't want to sell the lot. All of her siblings want to sell
it and divide the money all of her siblings moved at bulacan. And since we
have business before at quiapo owned by my father they decided to build a
house there at tondo.
My mother and father are both finish high school, my mom didn't make to
go to college because of lack of money while my father sent to manila when
his parents died at magalang pampanga. He work abroad to save money and
do some business. I really don't know what love story was there because
before they live together they have their own family, they don't usually want
to talk about it. But as far as I know they both have partners before and got
children. My father have 3 bisexual children while my mother has one boy
and one girl. How chaotic right? � I was at my grades school when I / we
my siblings found out that we have a step siblings.
Because my step sibling from my mother are living to us we know that time
that they are also my father’s children. It happens when I was looking for
my birth certificate because I needed that for my church works. And saw
that my brother's birth certificates has different surname from me. I also
saw that the Father's name indicated in his birth certificate was also
different. I asked ate Jessica if they are really our siblings and she said of
course yes. But because of curiosity, I asked my mother who is kuya jo and
ate Jayne’s father, are they my true siblings. Then my mother answer me a
slap. We all get shocked about what happen. Because I the young age. I
didn't know what I do wrong for me to be slapped by my mother. I cried all
day, and the night come and my father was arrive at home. They decided to
tell us the story, and by that time we found out that they are just my step
siblings and I also got step sibling from dad. We are all shocked except ate
Jayne and kuya because they knew it all along buy refuse to tell us because
my parents told them. And that day also my mother said she was sorry for
what she's done. She didn't expect me to tell her on that day, she never
thought that i am going to find it out earlier, she just waiting for the right
time to tell us everything.
Also about my sibling from my father's side. We really didn’t know each
other well. Because we didn't saw each other personally, only in Facebook
and we talk there seldom times. That was year 2012 when we start talking.
We didn't talk about that afterwards. So I didn't know the whole story. My
mother also told us to not talk about that things and treat them as my true
siblings.
We were a happy family, but sometimes I cannot escape the fact that we
have a lot of flaws. My father was a good man. He gets angry once in a blue
moon. He also taught us to become a hard working person. Like if you want
something you need to work for it. That's the reason why we are happy even
if it is little or big things came to us.
Because we have our own little business which is a store of uniforms like
taekwondo and accessories like gloves, head gear, punching bags and so on.
My mother was not always at our house, so me and my siblings are the one
who is responsible for house chores. That’s why even if we were little we
know how to wash dishes, clean our room, etc. And every time my father
see that we work hard he treat us foods or went outside to go to parks. My
unforgettable things that my father gave to me was a teddy bear. I named
that blue. Bu something happen on my high school day, there was a fire and
it burn blue. That teddy bear was my friend before. When my parents
scolded me, blue was the one who witness thousands of my tears. Most
especially when my step sister died, I cried a lot because she was the one
who sent me school when I was in elementary days. The doctor didn't find
out what was the cause of her death because there is something on her
spinal cord and the bacteria was spread into her internal organs.
When my step sister died, my mother blame herself, she think that because
of lack of attention and care that why my sister died. So she decided to
become a full time house wife. It was in my high school when tragic happen
to us, our business needed to close because the lot where out store located
was sold to someone and they were going to build mall on that lot. So my
father do not have a choice bit to destroy it. Things happen so fast like a
domino effect. A lot of problem came to us but my parents remains strong
for our family. As a high school student, I understand the struggle that my
parents facing that's why I study hard to finish my study and help them in
future.
For me, I thought that I am no one’s favorite. They only give attentions to
my other siblings. Well I think that they knew how strong and intelligent I
am enough. Because they always told me that I am the most intelligent
among my siblings. I got honors at school and I can do my ate and kuya
home works. I was so happy when they admire me. That’s why I study
harder so that they will sent me to college.
After high school, they told me that they cannot take me to college because
it was too expensive if 3 of us will going to go to college my brother was in
his 2nd year college at Our Lady of Fatima while my sister was 1st year
college at University of Manila. They told me that I can only go to school
when ate and kuya finished college. They cannot make it because of the
problem we were facing plus my two other siblings are studying in high
school. I was upset that time, I cried a lot because of disappointment. I do
everything so that they will going to be proud and sent me to college to
fulfill my dreams, I do all my best but nothing happen. Instead of being
happy that soon or months after, I will going to graduate/ finish high school.
I cried and cried every time I think about that thing.
Despite of telling me they cannot make it, I try to seek universities that
there is no tuition fees. I took an exam at Universidad de manila, and I
thank god I passed. I told them that I passed the entrance exam, I saw that
they were both happy for me, but there is also disappointment. I told them
that I am going to work at my cousin store in quiapo also so that I can
support myself. Summer time, I work there and save money.
College come and I become independent person, but sadly to say, I didn't
make it to finish first semester. I realize that even if there was no tuition
fees, you need money for books, projects and everyday allowance. I get
tired, stopped to go to school and work and also the first time to be a
liberated person.
While I was working at my cousin store, I become liberated. I go to clubs or
bars to drink alcohol, and party with friends. I didn’t tell them that’s going
on with me and what I was doing to myself. There were also time that i
escape at 12 midnight to hang out with friends or chill and then go back
home at 5am. I feel that i am free from all the problems that I had. I felt
that there was someone who got my back when I was with my friends. For
the past years of my life I do everything I want, not knowing that there was
someone who’s worried where am I, what was I go through, if I was safe
and others.
I become worst when we found out that mu step brother lied to us. That he
didn't enrolled the money my father gave and sacrifice to him, he just play
computer for2 years. All we knew was he is graduating but not. He also told
my parents that he becoming a father soon. His girlfriend was 5months
pregnant that time and he spent all the money to barkadas and computer
since he was in 2nd year. I didn't control myself and confronted him.
Blaming him for everything that he's the reason why my parents didn't sent
me to college.
But my mother told me it's not my brother’s fault, though he was wrong, still
we cannot undo things if we know that it was a mistake. By that, I feel that I
am the one who was wrong. It hurts me more that’s why I didn't talk to
them, I disobey their rules and sometimes answering the. And the worst
thing I do was I went home tipsy and vomit in our bed, they told me to stop
my bad habits and I answered back that it was my life and they don’t have
any rights to disagree. My mom slapped me and my parents decided to send
me to bulacan where my very strict untie lives.
Tita Ethel was an authoritative person, that's why we are all scared to her, i
declined but I don't have any choice because the next morning my tita was
picked me up.
Our house at bulacan was far from crowded people. You cannot see
teenagers there. Most of the people are slept at 6 in the evening and wake
up 5am in the morning. At first week there was exhausted and boring. You
need to get up in the morning and do house hold chores and cook. But
eventually, I enjoy there because of my cousins. I teach them and help them
to their school works. I survive their without barkadas, alcohol and gala.
That time, I have a cousin whose love to go to church, she was a born again.
She invited me to go with her because I told her I was bored. I was feel
excited not because we were going to church but finally I am going to mall.
Then when we arrived there, I feel weird.
The first time I went to Christian’s church. I feel like I was enlighten by
them. Most specially the part when they form a group for youth to talk about
their struggles in life. And how they overcome it. That time, I feel like I have
someone to talk to, someone who value me and never judge me. That day,
they assign ate Claire for us to be the youth leader for our group, then we
were 4 in that group.
When I heard their problems. I realize that my problem is just a little
problem unlike what they are suffering. It's just like I make it as big deal but
it is not. And I told ate Claire that I want to talk to her privately. After the
cell group. She asked me what’s going on and I told her that I hate my
parents for not allowing me to go to college and they are not love me
anymore because they sent me there, in bulacan. Then she told me there is
no parent that make his/her child feel abandoned. They just do this for me
to realize how hard to live without parents besides me and that day I
learned that the reason why they sent me is for me to become a better
person. When I get home I barrow my auntie’s phone and talk to my mom.
She was so happy when I called her. And I told her I want to go back home
and study, and she told me that was their plan already. Luckily my sister
was graduating that time. So it's my turn to go to school. I feel so happy
and can't take my excitement. I am very thankful to that ministry foe
enlightening me.
Christmas Eve we celebrate it at my auntie’s house in bulacan and my mom
told me that I can go home with them. And apply for the college entrance
exams. That was a best give I receive I learn that they just want me to be
patience for everything. Because time will come for your chances.
And now I am currently studying at the National Teacher College taking up
Bachelor of Science major in Psychology. I take this course because i was
wondering why people behave like this and those. And why people ending up
their lives, why people have many problems in life but they decided to
become strong than to kill themselves.
In my 3 years in school. I built some friendships. I was happy when I finally
go to school without thinking where am I going to find money for my tuition
fees after a year of being there, my mom told me to go home now and stop
being stubborn. I realize that it was do difficult to be with other people. Like
you need to please them and do things even if it is not mandated. That's
why I feel so happy when my mom told me that I can go home now. And
because my sister that time was graduating, I feel so excited because finally
I can finish college.
My family told me that I am grumpy and snobbish. Most of my cousins that
is younger than me are afraid of me. They think I am superior and
authoritative like my auntie Ethel. For them that was my personality maybe
because of my past experiences, I always disobey the rules of my parents
and sometimes answering them. And also they thought that I am bad
because I was short tempered person, I hurt people physically and
emotionally when I am mad at them. I easily scold people most especially
the one who do the same things to me. I also have a personality that when I
get mad and angry at you because you hurt me so bad. Don't expect that I
will be your friend again. You’re just like a stranger to unknown person to
me. But it would only be happen if you do things that is below the belt.
But I am a friendly person. Some people say that I am a jolly person. That’s
why it was do easy for me to gain friends. I make they laugh, make happy
memories and be their always through ups and down of their lives.
I also love to help other people. Sometimes I went somewhere else to be a
volunteer. I love kids most especially the good one. I love hiking and help
people who live at the sides of the mountains. And now I am one of the
sangguniang kabataan of our barangay you help them to serve, protect and
help our co-baranggay in their problem financially. We help in terms of free
educations, tutorial, and feeding programs. And it makes me happy when i
saw that i helped people who’s in need.
So that was my dramatic life. Now I am happy studying and helping other
people. And also excited that I am one step away from my college year. And
can't wait to finish college and help my parents now, and to experience new
things in life. Thank you and God bless. Always remember that always keep
the faith. God may always delay your desire but time will come, he will going
to give the desire of your heart.
B. F. Skinner- Behavioral Analysis

There are a number of theories which have attempted to explain human

behavior and its impact on social as well as work life. These theories have
tried to explain how human behavior shapes a person’s personality. One of
the important theories is the Behavioral analysis or Behaviorism. This theory
depends on the premise that all kinds of human behaviors are basically
acquired via conditioning. The behavioral theories originated in the first part
of the 20th century and were promoted by eminent psychologists like John
B. Watson and B.F. Skinner. These behavioral techniques are in use even
today to facilitate the learning process of individuals and learn new behavior
in various circumstances

Consistency in behavior results from repeated learning of certain behavioral

patterns, resulting in stimulus generalization and response generalization.
Basically the behavioristic position would hold that personality is nothing but
the package of consistent and generalized elements in the behavior of a
person across different situations.

Of course, there is the problem of behavior exhibited by people in certain

specific situations, differing from their general pattern. Thus some
individuals who are confident and even aggressive in most of the situations
are rather shy and diffident in a specific situation, say in the company of the
opposite sex.

When I was little my parents taught us to become independent person. In

order for us to get what we want, we need to work hard for it. For example, i
will do the laundry and washing the dishes. For exchange he will bring
something for me like Jollibee meal or Mcdo kiddie meal. Another one is
when I got high grades he will give something like teddy bear or any toy.
That’s why I can call myself as an independent person and also hard
working, because our parents built our personalities.

In order for us to survive in the society we must do our best so that in the
end of it there was a blessing that comes in our lives. According to skinner,
this kind of conditioning was a operant conditioning, because he believes
that most human behavior learned through this kind of conditioning. And
with most cases of operant conditioning, the desired behavior is too complex
to be emitted without first being shape by the environment. Our parents
shapes our behavior through this. Because they want us, their children to
know how to work hard for something you want. They don't want us to rely
our future to other people, they want us to build our futures in life.

Also there was a time that punishment occur, because we all know that you
will always obey what your parents wants. Time will come you get tired and
lost. Like what happen to me when they disappointing me, that they cannot
sent me to college because of lack of money. I also lost interest to them and
become liberated.

B. F. Skinner says that reward may increase behavior while punishments

decrease behavior. I can relate my autobiography on Carl Jung theory of
personality called analytical psychology. In this theory, Jung said that people
have as many of collective unconscious inherited tendencies as they have
typical situation in life. Countless repetition of these typical situation have
made them part of the human biological constitution with these repetition,
this forms begin to develop some content and to emerge as a relative
autonomous archetypes. I think that some of these archetypes shaped my
personality. I believed that we are all born in the world to please everyone,
we should project or show them the good side of our personality.
Carl Jung- Analytical Psychology

When I was on my youth stage, I learn that I need to behave in a nice way
in order for me to be fitted in this society's expectations and norms. For
example, you are depressed, you cannot show them what you are suffering
through. That's why I didn't show what I feel or what are my problems to
anyone, because I always think that they were just going to judge me if ever
I will tell them. For me, it's much better if I only know the struggle or pain
that I feel.

When the time that my parents told me that they cannot afford to send me
to college, I feel sad and disappointed. The thing that I do was to have fun
with my friends, that’s the only thing I know to divert my emotion and pains.
I didn't stay at home long time because whenever I was there and nobody
around me I feel so lonely, it's depressing when you are alone. Especially
when you saw your brother and sisters go to school while you stay only at
home do house hold chores. It’s hurt me inside, I feel like nobody live me
and there for me.

Even if you were dying inside, you need to be happy, strong and emphatic in
the eyes of other people. But you cannot always pretend what you feel, time
will come that you going to feel like you were going to explode. And that’s
the reason why we also have our own best friends in life.

But later on, I learned to express to other what I feel because it may help
you to lessen your burdens and not all the people judge you, there are
people who will lift you up and make you feel stronger and not alone.

I also considered myself as extrovert person which is based on Jung's

extraversion is an attitude were more influenced by surroundings than by
their inner world. Because I have a personality that I am afraid to be alone,
I always want to be with someone or talk to someone so that I cannot feel
that no one loves me, that many people will like to be with me, sharing each
other’s stories. I prefer to hang out and go somewhere with my friends.
Carl Rogers-Person centered theory

Carl Rogers was a humanistic psychologist who agreed with the main
assumptions of Abraham Maslow, but added that for a person to "grow",
they need an environment that provides them with genuineness (openness
and self-disclosure), acceptance being seen with unconditional positive
regard, and empathy being listened to and understood.

Without these, relationships and healthy personalities will not develop as

they should, much like a tree will not grow without sunlight and water.
Rogers believed that every person could achieve their goals, wishes, and
desires in life. When, or rather if they did so, self-actualization took place.
This was one of Carl Rogers most important contributions to psychology, and
for a person to reach their potential a number of factors must be satisfied.

Rogers rejected the deterministic nature of both psychoanalysis and

behaviorism and maintained that we behave as we do because of the way
we perceive our situation. "As no one else can know how we perceive, we
are the best experts on ourselves."

I have a personality that when somebody need someone to lean on, I always
try my very best to help them in their emotional needs. I become their best
friend in this kinds of situation. By this, I learn that all people have different
kinds of problem in live. We need to help them to be strong, courage them
to be happy and always think positive whatever circumstances their facing.

Carl Rogers believed that humans have one basic motive, that is the
tendency to self-actualize - i.e., to fulfill one's potential and achieve the
highest level of 'human-beingness' we can. Like a flower that will grow to its
full potential if the conditions are right, but which is constrained by its
environment, so people will flourish and reach their potential if their
environment is good enough.

However, unlike a flower, the potential of the individual human is unique,

and we are meant to develop in different ways according to our personality.
Rogers believed that people are inherently good and creative.

They become destructive only when a poor self-concept or external

constraints override the valuing process. Carl Rogers believed that for a
person to achieve self-actualization they must be in a state of congruence.