Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
Curate Comfort
with Jennifer Peterson of Indigo Home
T
o say I’m a homebody is putting
it mildly. I l-o-v-e my home and
I love being at home. Home is
where I can be myself, whether alone or
hostessing a group of friends. In my home,
I’m surrounded by all of my favorite things,
and my three favorite feelings—stability,
THE security, and safety. I have, more than once,
bemoaned leaving my home.
The Perpetual You extracurriculars; grocery shopping and other domestic blessings…
101 Putnam Ave.
Hamden, CT 06517 During the winter, though, I retreat even more. And to be honest, I don’t have any
words of wisdom for all those of you who feel the way I do, and I have a helping of woe
for those of you traveling during the holidays. I’m still stuck at “I really just want to
T HE C O R R E C T I O N S
stay home.”
The Quote on p. 80 of the
Nov. issue was mistakenly I know setting an intention to find comfort wherever it is I find myself is going to be a
attributed. The correct author
challenge for me—this year and likely many years to come. I also know that a life of ease
is Louise Hay.
doesn’t mean life is always easy. And I’m okay with both of these things.
Yet, I want to enjoy my holidays. That’s why I was excited about exploring this month’s
T H E C O M MU N I T Y
theme, finding comfort, coming at this time of year. More than anyone, I need to read
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That’s why I’ll be packing a few extra favorite things in my holiday overnight bag—my
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Meet like-minded women in on these things to bring me the comfort I crave. And I encourage you to do the same!
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P H O T O by @ M A R K I E J O N E S P H O T O G R A P H Y L L C
– JANE AUSTEN
IN THIS ISSUE
Create Ease by
Choosing Comfort
M O N T H LY M US I C
Choose
Choose to write your own story, love
what you love, and design how you please,
with Jennifer Peterson of Indigo Home.
with P H O T O G R A P H E R A N G E L A A R M S T O N G
Lifestyle
Think Smaller.................................................. 14
Go with What You Know................................. 30
Relax + Re-Wear............................................. 34
TPY Faves
Books.............................................................. 17
30 Soup!.............................................................. 18
Cocktail.......................................................... 20
Stillness.......................................................... 22
Products......................................................... 24
Self-Care......................................................... 32
Plus
Shop Small with
PNW photographer
27
@markiejonesphotographyllc
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Dwell
Crave the comforts of home, even if you’re
not there at the moment or have just
arrived. Create sanctuaries of restoration
where you need them most. Allow chaos
to show you what’s truly important.
Design
90 Live
Create a life that takes no for an answer,
particularly when yes is becoming your
default. Stop to assess what brings
you comfort, show you are grateful
for these things, and then connect
to the pleasure of receiving ease.
Mindset
Give Love....................................................... 80
Practice Gratitude......................................... 84
Connect to Pleasure...................................... 90
T H E MA K ERS
Angela Melissa
Cover Photography Dwell Feature Photographer
@todd_studios @mawilliams8311
toddstudiosphotography.com Update
Like many photographers, Angela picked up her first Melissa Williams is a Gulf Shores, Colorado Rockies, and
camera as a kid. She studied photography and graphic Arkansans Native who has danced her way {literally- she
design, and got her first job with an ad agency just three is a part time ballroom dance instructor} through three
days after graduating. Since 2008, Angela has owned Todd states in search of meaningful wanderlust. Whether
Studios in St. Louis, MO. She is still in love with the work it be a plate of great Italian cuisine or a family home
that allows her to be a part of the most important and full of love, she captures it all behind her lens. This is
intimate moments, which bring her pure joy to capture. This Melissa's first dwell shoot for The Perpetual You.
is Angela's first cover story shoot for The Perpetual You.
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Art Director Proofreader Intern
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with your
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C HO O S E
Small Comforts
with Marie Levey-Pabst
Seize winter’s slowness to identify what brings you comfort and ease.
T
he winter holidays bring plenty of images of comfort Comfort means slipping into something familiar. A habit, a
with it. Cozy blankets, sweaters, and hot chocolate with beverage, a sweater, a book, a place that is familiar and safe.
a mountain of whipped cream are enough to make us all Comfort means having space to simply breathe, be ourselves, and
give into cravings. let our guard down for a while. Beyond this basic understanding,
your definition of comfort is up to you.
Indeed, if this is a season of warm and safe comfort for you,
huzzah! I personally look forward to quiet nights where I We live in a world that would love for us to define comfort by
can enjoy the holiday lights or watch a movie that I’ve seen a what we can consume: a holiday drink, a certain exquisite fabric,
hundred times before. My comfort comes from the familiar, the even furniture molded to suit our tastes. While some comfort
activities where I don’t need to think or plan but can simply relax can be found in these things, we do ourselves an important
and enjoy. service when we step back and identify items and experiences of
comfort for ourselves.
Of course, this season also comes with its own unique needs for
thinking and planning. Children are on break from school. There
are events for work, with friends, and family get-togethers with N A M E T H E I T E M S T H AT B R I N G
Y O U C O M F O R T.
all the excitement one might expect. For some, this is the fun
part of the season; for others, a challenge. I can tell you three items that bring me comfort, even in the
most unlikely of places: my well-worn purple hoodie, my favorite
I’ve learned that I thrive in a holiday season that has just the right
mystery book that I’ve read a dozen times, and green tea. Even
mix of engagement and events tempered with quiet and comfort
when I’m out of my literal comfort zone (on a train, in someone
where I can find it. Sometimes this balance means weaving in
else's home, etc.) these items bring me comfort.
a weekend with no plans after a weekend spent with family or
friends. Sometimes this balance means weaving in forms of
comfort in the most unlikely of places. continued on next page
N A M E T H E E X P E R I E N C E S T H AT B R I N G
Y O U C O M F O R T.
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REALIZE
P H O T O by @ C A T B A L L O U 2 4
PAT H S + J O U RN EYS
The title track of “Empire Builder” was written This book is an amusing memoir of Hamlin’s When Things Fall Apart is a collection of
on a train from Oregon to NYC when Gibson early years, first as a teacher working at a talks given between 1987 and 1994 by
was headed to grad school, leaving behind her small logging camp (a position that was Pema Chodron, American Tibetan Buddhist,
family and friends. Confident, invigorated, and frowned upon for women at the time), and ordained nun, and author. Her thought-
free, this album rumbles along like the train later living with her game warden husband provoking approach on embracing our
that influenced it, paving a path towards joy, at his wilderness outposts. Full of details on struggles with openness and curiosity invites
comfort, and prosperity. Gibson’s lilting voice homestead living and finding comforts in the in comfort and wisdom. "Obstacles,” says
is like a comfortable blanket on a cold, winter small things even during times of boredom and Chodron, “teach us where we're stuck."
day; her pace is unhurried, which makes space struggles, Nine Mile Bridge shows just how Simple, yet beautiful, the truths in this book
for her cathartic tale of loss and redemption. wide of a definition words like “comfort” and move us toward a future of freedom, even
“ease” can have. while encouraging gratitude for the present.
C HO O S E
Simplicity
with Julia Grimaldi
Some of the most satisfying and delicious meals are the simplest ones to cook.
C
ooking and enjoying simple food is nourishing and The pomp and circumstance that leads up to and surrounds
satisfying. With little fuss and lots of forgiveness, a holiday meal with family and friends is well and good. Every
soup fits the bill. You are guaranteed to get it day meals can, in their own way, be just as extraordinary.
right. You need not have precision knife skills, or any fancy Be inspired by stepping into the kitchen with compassion,
equipment—just a few quality ingredients, a couple basic patience, and curiosity. Allow your taste buds to lead you on
tools, and an idea about what you’d like to eat. a culinary journey that’s familiar and comforting.
Teatime
with Crystal Cathcart
Choose
Stillness
with Shana Schneider
H
oliday fever is building: the songs playing Practice slowing down by focusing on one thing that
everywhere you go, the invitations to parties delights you. Be enveloped by the smell of spices lingering
and receptions, the non-stop shopping emails. in the air; admire the decorations and twinkle lights
Busyness and cacophony comes with this time of year. that sparkle at night; the sound of wrapping paper as it
crinkles. Comfort can envelop you in those moments.
Or does it? Even with the traditions and obligations,
December can be a wonderful time to slow down, even You are on the go most of the time. Let’s do intentional
if it’s for just a few moments. To stand in one place; to be movement differently this month by gifting ourselves a
still; to take a breath. few minutes of stillness each day
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Whether you’re shopping for someone else or for
yourself, the product you purchase can be a reflection
of the values in which you believe. That’s why we’ve
curated an entire shopping guide of goods from
female small batch makers and women-owned
conscious companies. Rather than spending time in
and out of stores, you can find the exact item you’re
searching for—a product you love and feel good about
buying/gifting—all without leaving the comfort of
your own home!
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C HO O S E T O
Shop Small
with photographer
The name Finders Market gives you the perfect sense of the
atmosphere at this unusual store. Similar to a flea market, one can
browse the aisles at their leisure and find a variety of things they just
can’t live without! “Market” also conveys the homey environment, as
well as pays homage to stores of yesteryear.
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hard to turn down. And man is it easy to picture
myself drinking a hot cup of cocoa out of their
signature market mugs.
Choose
Tried + True
with Leigh Schwab
C
hoosing a simple and easy skincare routine that you these acts are also time-consuming, and often turn out to be
know works brings the comfort of familiarity and uncomfortable. This year, I’m sticking to my favorite shades and
confidence. When I venture outside of my normal tones instead.
skincare routine, I often get breakouts or redness while my skin
No matter where you are or how late you get to bed, you can
settles into a new product. During this busied season, I stick to
aim for a good night’s rest. Adding a little luxury, like a body
what I know works. Consistency is the key to flawless skin.
oil at night after a bath, helps relieve any tension from the day
Using a tried and trusted makeup routine allows you to feel and allows me to relax. I prefer oils with a calming scent, such
like yourself even while enjoying the abundance of the holiday as lavender, to help soothe both mind and body. Even if I’m
season. Year after year, I try some crazy smoky eye or trendy exhausted, I don’t skip this crucial step.
lip color; while doing these things can be creatively liberating,
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BeYOUtiful 1
1 Hydration + Joy.
Too many cocktails, too little sleep, and burning the candle
at both ends can dehydrate your skin. The Countermatch
Collection (a serum, eye cream, face lotion, and night
cream) includes two types of hyaluronic acid, Vitamins C
and E, as well as a host of other plant-derived goodness to
keep your skin properly hydrated.
Leigh recommends...
Beautycounter’s Countermatch Collection ($175)
Options + Ease.
2
2
Take the stress and guesswork out of your makeup routine
with a set that includes a foundation, concealer, blush duo,
brow pencil, lengthening or volumizing mascara, and a lip
gloss. I love the Flawless in Five set from Beautycounter
because I can choose the shades of each product to best
suit my skin tone and preferences.
Leigh recommends...
Beautycounter’s Flawless in Five set ($148)
3 Relaxation + Peace.
The smell of lavender is the clean-living version of Calgon
Take Me Away, as evidenced by Osmia’s Night Body Oil.
Slather this oil on damp skin right out of a shower or bath
so that it can sink in and work its magic. Use it consistently
as part of your bedtime routine to harness its benefits.
Leigh recommends... 3
Osmia Organic's Night Body Oil ($20)
Leigh Schwab uses her love for skin care to help educate women about the
ingredients in their products and the need for proper skin care legislation in our
country. Learn more about her passion for a healthy and simple life on Facebook
and Instagram @leighschwab.
December Self-Care
Get Cozy. Pay attention to the feel of your
clothing against your skin. Choose soft
socks, wrap a sweater around you, curl up
under a blanket while you take advantage
of the Internet and cross off some holiday
shopping from the comfort of your couch.
CH O O S E T O BE F U L L
Just like the seasons change, the beauty of self-care practices comes in their ability to morph in whatever we
want and to nourish and support us based on our current needs. As the weather gets colder and the days get
shorter, nature encourages us to slow down and rest; still, the added busy-ness of holidays and end of the
year means our calendars don't always reflect this urge. This month’s toolkit encourages you to find comfort
and ease through the filling up of your energetic well. Naturally stimulate your immune system, spend some
quiet time appreciating the mesmerizing flicker of a candle flame, be warmed at your core by a calming cup
of tea, and embrace the embodied knowledge and trust of the innate wisdom that we are all born with.
Take our skin story quiz & discover products right for you
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Hand Salves
Facial Products
Bug Spray
Deodorants
Herbal Tinctures
Choose
Re-Wearing
with Cait Sherrick
Choosing to re-wear can bring some much needed ease into your holidays.
I
don’t know about you but when I get really busy or I’m up precious time we don’t have, and makes us rush around all
running around all day every day, I tend to gravitate toward morning, if not all day. Too much of this and we feel like we’re
wearing the same outfit over and over again. I think it’s my losing ourselves.
subconscious telling me to chill out, my intuition’s way of trying
The solution? Wear the same thing you wore yesterday.
to make it all a little easier. The more I think about it, the more it
makes sense.
Choose to wear one plaid shirt for every occasion and find some
calm in the chaos of the holidays. Wear leggings for pants every
When it seems like we don’t have enough time in the day,
day and run around with ease all month long. Leave your favorite
spending too much time getting dressed in the morning is
sweater in the car as back-up and feel better knowing you’ll
more stressful than anything else. Lingering in the closet uses
never get cold wherever you go. Maybe even do all three.
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Choose a Plaid Shirt
Cozy and comfortable, a plaid shirt adds a little
charm to every outfit, from your most relaxed to your
most fashionable.
1 Cozy.
Wear your favorite oversized plaid shirt with some leggings
and thick socks. Throw on a few rings and statement bracelets
for a touch of glam. Super easy and warm, you can take this
combo from the kitchen to the post office and look stylishly
current the whole time.
2
2 Couture.
Tuck a more fitted plaid shirt into high-waisted black pants,
layer on a leather jacket, and pair it all with a statement
necklace and some heeled boots. From holiday parties and
nights out, to family dinners and dates, this glam look is easy
to pull off.
3 Cheeky.
Pair your plaid shirt with a neutral, solid-colored pencil
skirt and some heels. Throw on a blazer to make it more
professional and some statement earrings to make it more
creative. Unexpected and cheeky, this outfit will keep you
looking professional and fresh from your first meeting ‘til
happy hour.
P E R SPECT I V ES from T H E PA N EL
Heather I feel a sense of home when there is laughter and joy surrounding
Success Coach
me. It doesn't matter if I am actually at home, working,
teaching a workshop or sitting with my friends at book club,
@vickeryandco
VickeryandCo.com if we are laughing and experiencing joy, I am "at home."
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REALIZE
Lisa
Founder
Nature and meditation. I can find my "home" when I take
Living Fully Balanced LLC
time to push pause in the craziness of life, step back
@livingfullybalanced
LivingFullyBalanced.com and take a breath and get outside of the house.
Donella I have this black and white fuzzy blanket which I take everywhere
Wellness Diva I go. Business trips, family vacations, an unexpected road trip…
my blanket goes with me. It holds the fragrance of home
@iamdonella and settles any anxiety I may experience while away.
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– G I N A G R EEN L EE
to align your physical space
with your
ever-evolving self
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hearth / härTH / noun
A cozy respite that offers grounding
and peace
Photo by @Lindsay_Stanford.
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DWELL
Room for
Restoration
with LaToya Burton
O
ne of our most private spaces, our
bedrooms reflect how we care and create
comfort for ourselves. Over the holidays,
when our focus is on keeping our communal spaces
organized and presentable, our bedrooms can easily
become a last thought. During this time of year, we
send a lot of our energy out to others. Balance that
by treating yourself to an in-home retreat, a bedroom
that empowers and inspires you every day.
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Dwell on This
Creating a home is about support: designing a
place where we are completely comfortable being
ourselves and where we can explore how we want
to lead our lives. I’ve found the following strategies
useful for creating a sanctuary—in my bedroom
and the rest of my home.
1 Get Inspired.
Pay attention to the life outside your window and
you will find colors and textures that make a natural
accompaniment to the rhythms of your life. When we
turn our focus on the coming season—winter’s silence
and retreat; the pastels of spring; summer’s abundant,
enlivening sunshine; and the rich colors and textures
of fall—we are bound to find inspiration for our decor.
2 Stay Rejuvenated.
Incorporate plants, flowers, and bits of nature
collected—shells, drift wood, feathers – to bring life
to your space. Plants clean the air, rejuvenating as
you go about your day (or sleep!). Plants also carry
symbolism that inspire, from the healing Aloe Vera
to the virtuous Peace Lily, to the elegant calm of
Lavender. Check lighting and water requirements
when purchasing your plants.
3 Feel Supported.
Create coziness through texture and textiles.
Cushions and throws are an easy way to change up
your decor and add comfort. You can even borrow
from your wardrobe pulling in a scarf or two that you
love - using it as an accent at the foot of the bed,
tied around a throw pillow or even across the back or
arm of a chair. Thick woven or woolen textiles create
warmth and light smooth materials can feel cooling.
Thank You!
Chaos
C R E AT I N G A H O M E
WHILE LIVING
IN TRANSITION
The photographer did a high step over a rotting, fallen log and
pushed through heavy, knee deep brush behind our family of
five, while my husband, David, bushwhacked a path ahead to a
small clearing. I wrangled our three children, ages 7, 3, and 2,
into a heap and awkwardly held both my daughter’s little hand
and a “Sold—3.01 Acres” sign.
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Happiness and bliss will
always happen when you
follow your heart.
– SHANNON KAISER
Two years and one more child later, his career moved
us yet again to Colorado Springs, where our third
child was born. And after three years of life out West,
we returned back home, determined to give this
family of five some stability, some roots. Ultimately,
we found them—In the form of real roots, on a wet
weather creek and presided over by a majestic Black
Walnut tree.
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With an array of ongoing projects, life at home is always
evolving. Our sights are consistently set upon the next
season—the approaching chores that accompany the changes
in the weather, and the plan to complete it all before the last
leaf falls, the first grass grows, or the ground freezes. Ours is
a continual practice to enjoy the present while also looking
ahead with intent: a challenge to appreciate the here, the now,
even while thinking ahead.
continued on page 57
Velveteen
corresponds to
Benjamin Moore
2144-70
My Favorite
Blue
corresponds to
Benjamin Moore
2061-50
K I D CO ZY
Fuzzy Blanket
corresponds to
Benjamin Moore
AF-665
Comfort comes in all shapes and sizes. A child’s room can show us the various
ways to get enveloped, from curtains to books to a globe that takes us around the
world. A warm gray is neutral without being sterile and plenty of colorful accents
keep an abundance of {sensible} white from being the primary focus. Decorate
away, and then get lost in your favorite comforting activity.
Love these colors for a more grown-up space? Here are some ideas for its use in other
Whirls parts of the house:
& Swirls
corresponds to Seasonally Speaking Winter Wow
Benjamin Moore If you’re one of the lucky few with a 3-season Enliven the fireplace mantel with farmhouse-
2000-20
porch, beach it up with this all-American esque touches of metal, wood, and weathered
combo of red, white, and blue. Driftwood white. This winter palette is neutral enough
and other natural elements can bring in the to be the backdrop to holiday décor or
warmth of gray. comfortable enough to stand on its own.
Shop
the Look
Comfort comes in tiny moments
and cozy vignettes. Pause for
a cup of tea, relax on a lush
pillow. Sit and stay a while.
The warmth magnifies
when you invite a friend.
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KENSEY PILLOW ($28) via Indigo Home ∙ THE MARBLE COAST(ERS) (set of 4, $32) via Indigo Home ∙
IKAT MUGS (set of 4, $32) via Indigo Home
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This month's Shop the Look was curated by Indigo Home (IndigoHomeDecor.com), a mobile décor truck in St. Louis, MO.
See our article featuring Indigo Home owner, Jennifer Peterson in this month’s cover story.
– M AR I E F LY NN
to align your life story
with your
ever-evolving sense of self
A R T W O R K by @ J A M I E G A L L E Y
T H REE Q U ES T I O N S
with Jennifer
What's one practice in your daily life that What about your physical space that For you, what is the relationship of
brings you Ease? brings you Comfort? Comfort & Ease?
Every morning, after my husband leaves for Every detail of the truck reminds me of You have to be comfortable to have ease. This
work, I sit on the couch with my dog and a cup comfort—I created it that way. That is evident could be anything from having confidence in
of coffee and just chill for about 30-45 mins in our flooring choice and the decision to your ability to run your business that helps you
before I start being productive for the day. paint the ceiling of our truck rather than the
create ease in your processes. I think they kind
Sometimes the Today Show is on; sometimes walls. Inspired by a trip to Charleston, SC
of spill over into one another.
not. I love running my business, but taking that where the porches of historic homes have their
quiet time for just me is imperative. ceilings painted a color called 'haint blue' to
keep the evil spirits at bay, it's a pretty and
unexpected element.
D I S C O V E R I N G C O M F O R T AT T H E
INTERSECTION OF HOME AND HEART
A Conversation with
Jennifer Peterson of Indigo Home
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Jennifer Peterson, designer, maker, and owner of the mobile décor
truck, Indigo Home, never expected to be doing what she’s doing; she
didn’t “plan to reinvent the wheel”—or even to become an entrepreneur
at all—and, yet, owning a mobile décor truck has turned out to be her
ideal life. “I’ve never been so satisfied or worked so hard,” she says.
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B E W H E R E Y O U A R E & L O V E T H E S PA C E For her shop, Jennifer designed inviting product vignettes
Y O U H AV E . that can be easily moved around, and chose a small amount
of delicate furniture pieces to display. Since the aesthetic is
As the owner of a box truck turned mobile décor store,
focused on comfort, textiles and textures take center stage.
Jennifer can write the book on designing a small space. To
Most importantly, Jennifer chooses which items she will sell
make her tiny shop look cozy but not crowded, she relies on
with great finesse. if she’s not excited about a product, she
her background in theater production. “That was my formal
doesn’t sell it.
training,” she jokes, “In theater, you learn to utilize the space
you have.” These tricks, as you can see from the photos on these pages,
totally work! More so, they’re easily translatable to a space of
Having a store that’s unlike anything else she’s seen or heard
any size. (And, in fact, principles Jennifer follows in her own
of required Jenifer to reach into her design memories for
home.) Jennifer admits that “it takes work to make [the truck]
inspiration; for example, the first time she ever designed a
appear well laid out.” However, she knows the result is worth
space of her own—her teen bedroom—and the freedom she
it. “Ease doesn’t equal easy,” she says.
enjoyed when decorating her own dorm room in college.
Both of these were a lesson in blending trends (magazine
collage!!!) What matters most, she says, is “being comfortable
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in your space.”
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Couch LOVE
Let’s face it: buying a couch might be the most
challenging aspect of setting up a comfy living
room. The trends tell us to go modern and make
the couch a focal point, whereas common sense
and instincts tell us we don’t want to invest
in something we’re going to outgrow. What’s
a couch buyer to do? The following tips from
Jennifer let you know that A) it’s okay to buy
into trends, if you really want to; and B) it’s
okay not to buy into trends, if you don’t! What
matters is the feeling you want to have in your
home. Period.
1 Choose a Color.
Even though color may seem like a BIG decision in couch-
buying, it’s a good place to start, says Jennifer, because this
will determine whether your couch is the focal point of the
Design Question to Consider: What’s something in your
room or a neutral backdrop for other pops of color to bounce
current living space that isn’t working at all? out. If you’ve always been a bright red lover, then buying a
bright red couch is probably safe. If not, explore that trend in
throw pillows and curtains instead.
AIM FOR COHESIVENESS AND GET
COMFY WITH COMPROMISE.
2 Measure, measure, measure.
Of course, falling in love with our homes would be a
Size does matter, says Jennifer, at least when it comes to
no-brainer if we were A) living alone, B) independently
couches. Unless your style is Hollywood Glam, you probably
wealthy, and C) not dynamic beings. Assuming none don’t want your couch to overshadow the rest of the pieces of
of that is true, however, you will likely need to make furniture. You also don’t want a couch arm or leg sticking out in
a doorway—so measure three times and then go out to buy.
compromises. Be “aware of things that make you tick and
those that tick you off” says Jennifer.
3 Explore Features.
Let’s take the whole “perfect couch” challenge as an
According to Jennifer, any couch of hers must have bounce and
example. What if you love neutral, sensible design and
must be nappable—a word she might just have coined herself!
your partner wants to have a show stopping statement “If I don’t see myself falling asleep there,” she says, “I wouldn’t
piece? This takes negotiating, which Jennifer has buy it.” When testing out couches, keep your lifestyle in mind.
If you love to Netflix binge or work from the couch, you’ll be
recommendations for. “Show your whole vision” to the
happier with something comfortable.
other person and they’re more likely to hop on board,
she says.
4 Invest Wisely.
And remember: design is malleable. Pops of color or
The couch is typically the biggest expense in a living room
trendy patterns can be worked into throw pillows and design, says Jennifer. Thinking of it as a long-term investment
other textiles, which are easily changeable if anyone piece could color your purchasing decisions in all of the above
areas! Are you going to love bright orange forever? Or are you
tires of them later on. This is also a way to find cohesion
the type of woman who updates décor with every new trend?
throughout your whole house; for example, repeating
Will you be moving or renovating in the future? Or is it safe to
the same navy blue color on accents in several rooms. buy that 6 foot sectional and call it a day?
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For her part, Jennifer loves flowers—fresh or faux—because Design Question to Consider: What design elements bring
they’re super easy to change out when the season or your you comfort?
occasion (or your mood) dictates. “Little things make the
space,” she says. You can move furniture around if you
T R U S T Y O U R I N S T I N C T S A N D L E AV E
feel compelled to, but it’s a whole lot less stress to swap
PERFECTIONISM BEHIND.
out throw pillows or buy a $3 bouquet from T.J.’s to add
instant freshness. Okay—but what if we don’t know what we want OR if we know
what we want but aren’t “good” at design? How do we get our
By using elements of cohesion throughout her home, Jennifer home to look like the ideal design in our head? Public opinion
feels more comfortable if the “sense of comfort” varies from can be helpful, but only to a point, says Jennifer pointing to
room to room. She also knows and is okay with the fact that the “oversaturation of perfect houses” on Pinterest, HGTV,
her definition of what’s comfortable will change over time. and the cover of design magazines. “It’s hard to make it
“Design isn’t permanent,” she says, “and comfortable has personal if it’s also perfect.”
different meanings” depending on the time of life you are in.
hand-me-downs or gifts from years past, you can “put them up Photos by Angela Armstrong of Todd Studios Photography
on a Tuesday and take ‘em down on a Thursday,” says Jennifer. & Stationary.
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– JEN N I F ER PETER SON
to align your innermost thoughts
with your
ever-evolving perspective
A R T W O R K by @ J A M I E G A L L E Y
I L L U S T R AT I O N B Y @ V E L A S Q U E Z S T U D I O
Crocus
Growing with ease in any environment,
the Crocus can bloom comfortably in
sun and in shade. The adaptability
of this winter flower even permits
its blooming potential to extend
from late winter to spring. Like the
crocus, we too can blossom and find
comfort even in the most unforeseen
and uncomfortable situations.
– LAURA VANDERKAM
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The love we take time to show to others can be something we fully extend to ourselves.
W
inter slows us. Like the snow falling in drifts, we indulging on the decadent offerings of the holiday. All this
become softer and more gentle. Time slows, the leads up to the penultimate day of self-criticism that comes
nights are longer, and we arm ourselves with around on December 31.
priorities stemming from growth: giving thanks, celebrating,
The day before our new beginning; the day before the many
reflecting, and honoring. This can be a good time of year for
flaws we’ve broken our own hearts over will be magically set
your heart, as words like “peace” and “joy” literally begin to
into perfect healing. With our minds so occupied and our
decorate the walls around you.
bodies so poorly taken care of, it’s no wonder why this time of
This time of year, holy though it is, can be challenging for year is a prominent opportunity for depression to sneak in.
your body. The gentle peacefulness of the season is met with
What if you chose differently? What if, this holiday season,
the harried and stressful obligations of shopping, cooking,
you chose to include your body in the spirit of comfort and joy,
wrapping, gathering, visiting, showing up, and holding space.
in the spirit of gratitude? What if you slowed down your body
The physical experience of the holiday season somehow
and your inner-critic the way the snow slows down the earth,
manages to take on a polarity to the spiritual experience.
the way the long darkness slows down the night?
Seasonal gatherings will provoke our inner-critic to jump out
This time of year can be even better when the fullness of our
and share her two cents on how much weight we’ve gained or
love—robust peace and acceptance—Is also shown to ourselves.
lost since last year, so we’ll shame ourselves out of (or into)
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acknowledge that these things are as good for our bodies Ultimately, we find comfort through wholeheartedly
as they are for our souls, we consciously choose to honor embracing the truth that we deserve as much care as the next
our body, to invest more of our time and our energy person. Through unconditional gratitude, and the intention
into ourselves. to slow down, we make room for peace and ease. We find
wholeness when we release expectation—giving ourselves
The process of self-love will look different to everyone; it’s
permission to be imperfect, giving in to self-love.
an excursion inward—an investigation into what truly evokes
comfort for each of us. Where does your body need love? In a
dedicated practice of taking care of your skin, or perhaps in Casee Marie is a motivational writer living in Wallingford, Connecticut
with her rescue pup, Blaze. She is the author of the online journal
lovingly developing more satisfying eating habits?
Hope & Harbor where she writes to encourage a deeper relationship
with compassion and vulnerability. You can connect with her at
Some of us may find comfort in movement, some in stillness. caseemarie.com.
Some in elaborate package-wrapping; some in simple gift-
Photo by Lauren Alexandria Photography, laurenalexandriaphoto.com.
giving. Some in serving others; some in drawing our most
loved ones nearer. Some in going out; some in staying at home.
Comfort +
Connection
TENDING TO
R E L AT I O N S H I P S
W I T H G R AT I T U D E
T
he December holidays are my favorite time of
year, and every season I work hard at being
present and taking in every opportunity
for warmth, quiet joy, and reflection. I live for those
postcard moments when everything feels just as it
should be—knowing it might not last long.
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Whether it’s something tangible or even just
the time I spend with each person, I infuse
the gift I give with as much love and intention
as possible.
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Keep the pleasure from fading through intention-setting and making purposeful connections.
H
ow often have you started out the holiday season 1. Decide your values.
full of lofty intentions and suddenly found yourself
2. Make intentional decisions.
in survival mode, with a social calendar bursting at
3. Communicate those intentions.
the seams, an endless to-do list, and a desire for everyone to
just disappear?! 4. Let go of “should.”
5. Embrace compromise.
This is my experience almost every year. I’ll have some
moments of Christmas “magic,” but often it seems to fall flat. 6. And, practice resilience.
As the season wraps up I’m left feeling as though I missed
something vital and precious. I’m determined to make this the
year I reclaim the pleasure and magic of the holidays—both in E S TA B L I S H Y O U R VA L U E S F O R T H E S E A S O N
A N D P R I O R I T I Z E A C C O R D I N G LY.
receiving and in giving.
Educator, blogger, and mother, Marie Levey-Pabst, told me that
To facilitate this intention, I asked some of my friends how they
“taking a moment or two to step back and name our own values
find pleasure in the holidays. I got some excellent responses,
for the holidays (or anytime) is helpful.”
which I’ll refrain from quoting verbatim, but my takeaways in a
nutshell, are: Marie also mentioned that she decides her values for herself
personally and then what she values with her immediate
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family. They then choose the activities that
uphold those values and everything else is
extra without obligation. Taking a values-led
approach frees us up to connect and give in an
authentic and meaningful way.
When we went three years ago, it was magical for my oldest. We missed it
C O M M U N I C AT E Y O U R last year due to a work conflict, so this time we made sure to get time off
INTENTIONAL DECISION TO
to take our boys. We’re surprising them, and I’m so excited! Because we
THOSE WHO WILL BE AFFECTED.
started talking about this experience and planning for it early, we’re able
When healer, educator, and coach, Kelsey to indulge.
Fox Bennett, communicated her holiday
I also value rest. The company my husband works for throws a huge party
intentions, she “was surprised at how many
every year and I find it exhausting. I don’t know most of the people and I
people were not just on board with the
don’t enjoy “small talk.” On the other hand, it’s a night out with delicious
changes but incredibly grateful—it opened the
food and my husband would like to go. To navigate our different interests,
door for them to make more conscious choices
we’ll likely dine and dash (with no guilt!).
as well.”
Have that conversation with your loved ones. Share your values and hopes
One of my values is magic. By that, I mean
for the season and find out what theirs are. Work together on a plan to
creating and being present in the magic this
honor everyone’s values. Compromise can be a beautiful thing.
time of year holds for my children. My two
oldest love the movie “The Polar Express” and
for the past few years a local organization for continued on next page
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Also, we usually put up the decorations December 1st, but I’m doing it because we want to—not because it’s expected, or we
starting early this year. In fact, I’ve already started and it’s feel like we should.
mid-November! I’m letting it be a gradual process this time. No
This goes back to communication. Find out what is important
stressed out scrambling to put up the decorations. And—If I feel
to your spouse or partner, your children, family, and friends.
like switching things around mid-season, then I will.
Work together to decide how best to celebrate in a way that is
When we let go of the pressure of expectations, and instead meaningful for everyone. The season is about togetherness—not
honor our values and those of others, we are empowered to just you, and not just them.
give and receive authentic joy and connection.
When things don’t go as we envisioned, which is inevitable, we
can look for what is good in the situation. We can ask ourselves,
B E A D A P TA B L E , A N D R E L E A S E How can I receive and give pleasure in this moment? Curiosity
THE “SHOULDS.” and openness can lead to magic.
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