4 Parts of

Psycholo
gy
The Character has 4 parts. Any problem has also 4 parts:
Personal Boundary - Durable
Decision Making Power - Freedom
Intellect or Ideas - How they are arranged - Time management -
Success
How to manage emotion energy - How to use angry as power - how to
build self-esteem. - Happiness

Happiness + Freedom + Success = Fulfillment (Life purpose)

- Inalienable - (cannot be taken away by anything/anyone)

Master the spectra to master anything between the 2 ends.

TRANSFORM Negative into positive.

I. EmotionAL Energy Spectrum
 - Negative Emotional Energy :
Anger <=========Neutrality=========>
Anxiety
- Positive Emotional Energy :
Lacking Confidence
<=========Happiness=========> Lacking of
Well-Being

II. Intellectual COnfidence/Ideas Spectrum

(Left Brain)
(Right Brain)
- Negative Intellectual Confidence:
Too narrow & Inflexible
<=========Neutrality=========> Too Confused
And Scattered
- Positive Intellectual Confidence:
Lacking Education
<=========Genius=========> Lacking
Experience

III. Decision Making Spectrum

- Negative Decision Making:
No/ too slow Decision
<=========Neutrality=========> Impulsive/Too
fast Decision
- Positive Decision Making:
Lacking Intuition
<=========Wisdom=========> Lacking
Consciousness

"Problems that can't be solved right now... just let

go of them. Or else you will be SUFFERING."
3 types of problems:
Stress (Hurt or Loss)
Feeling Trapped (Lack of Conscience or Intuition)
Failure (Lack of Education or Experience)

1. Personal Boundary-
- THE TANK that HOLDS anything else. Your EDGES.

Control:
- Any matter has a portion inside our personal
boundary and another one outside personal boundary.
- LET go what you DON't control. And FOCUS on
what you DO CONTROL!
- Spending energy in what you don't control is
SUFFERING! IS like holes in your boundary, letting your
fuel flow out of you.

Boundary Improving:
- Instead of having HOLES in your boundary it is
good to build DOORS in their place. With the only knob
accessible to YOU.

Sharing Boundaries:
When you have a relationship with someone, your
boundary connects with the other's boundary, and you
start to exchange EMOTIONS, IDEAS and start to make
DECISIONS together.
WHen this happens, you feel like your boundary has
grown bigger, because now you share ideas, decisions,
and emotions.
The Feeling of having more control over stuff is
good, but you need to pay attention on what kind of
dependence this relationship is providing.
- Independence:
Each one does his own stuff, there is no decision
together, no ideas shared.
Pro: You have control over small things.
Counter: Your boundary is small, you don't
control as much as you could.
- Codependence:
You only feel bigger when you are with the other
someone, when you make decisions together, discuss
ideas.
Pro: You have a bigger boundary
Counter: You can't make decisions or have
ideas on your own. This is very unattractive and starts
to ruin the relationship.
- Interdependence:
The most gaining form of dependence. You
make decisions and discuss ideas in both ways.
Together with someone, or by yourself. You're not
dependent. You have your own life apart from the
relationship, BUT your relationship is constructive, so
it's good keep. These two behaviors mixed together are
ATTRACTIVE.
Setting Goals:
When you have a GOAL outside your boundary, and
spend ENERGY trying to achieve RIGHT NOW, you are
SUFFERING, because you are spending energy on the
UNCONTROLLABLE. Instead of doing that, it is better to
SET GOALS still, but spend energy on the PATH to your
goal.
By doing that, your boundary gets bigger and once
you achieve your goal, you will be controlling MORE.
2. Decision Making-
Constructive or Destructive.
Destructive are immature - WIN-LOSE . Low
Character.
Constructive are Mature - WIN-WIN. High Character

Use observing ego to change Destructive HABITS

into Constructive.

MAKING decisions is GOOD.

Even destructive decisions fill both POTS
=> CONSCIENCE (ETHICS)
=> INTUITION
Having observing Ego is VERY important.
Mastering Decision Making Power will give you
FREEDOM in life.

DECISIONS Fill holes in your boundary

3. Intellect
Intellect is related to SUCESS
The spectrum is:
EDUCATION(Book smarts) - > LEFT Brain
EXPERIENCE(Street Smarts) -> Right Brain
LEFT Brain:
- Logical.
- Organizes time.
- Probabilities
- Analytical
Right Brain:
- Creative, artistic.
- Future.
- Possibilities
- Wild and crazy

EFFICIENCY is to get SUCESS rapidly. To master

that, you need to improve both ends of the
spectrum.
The middle is called GENIUS. An example is
LEONARDO DA VINCI. Both artistically and
logically smart.

Mastering INTELLECT Spectrum INCREASES

your boundary size.

The Concept of INTENTION is the opposite of

SUFFERING.
Intention is the mixing of IDEAS(Intellect) and
DECISIONS. Is like a GUIDANCE to a goal.
With the adding of the EMOTIONAL part to this
INTENTION, you get ACTION that leads to a goal.

TIME Management:

For your intellect growing to be optimized, you

need to manage time correctly in an efficient
way.
The way you do it is by applying a solid
BOUNDARY to your intellect improving.
By doing this you'll be saying NO's to the
knowledge that is not applicable to the moment
you are in.
That is MASTERING time in your LEARNING favor.

Why a BELIEF is so powerful?

BELIEFS are IDEAS that are heavy tied with an

specific EMOTION.
You can have positive or negative beliefs.

What is Communication?
Communication is IDEAS passed with EMOTION.
Your gestures, body language, facial expressions
combined altogether represents 93% of
communication.
Without using of EMOTION, just talking, your
communication will be just 7% effective.

4. Emotional Energy
Emotional energy is what fills your boundary. If
your boundary is not solid, and big enough, there
is no reason to cultivate good emotional energy.
For that reason is recommendable to master the
other 3 parts of psychology first.

Emotional Energy can be either POSITIVE or

NEGATIVE.
Negative Energy is what we call STRESS.
Positive Energy is what we call Self-esteem.
The SPECTRUM for Emotional Energy is a little bit
different.

Positive/Self-esteem:
Well-being <=========== Happiness
==========> Confidence

Well-being is sort of like being taken care by your

mother. The feeling good, protected.
Confidence is more like a father feeling. The one
that teaches that you can do stuff on your own.
Confidence is useful to overcome fears, trouble.
An example of only Well-being is Edmond Dante
from Count of Montecristo, and an example of
only confidence is Alfie.

If you were an automobile, the Well-being would

be the Oil, and the Confidence would be the Fuel.
Negative/Stress:
Anger/Sad <=========== Neutral
===========> Anxiety

The funny thing is that even the two ends being NEGATIVE,
they are OPPOSITE.
you can NEUTRALIZE one with the other.

Stress:
Can be of 2 types:
Hurt - causes anger
Loss - causes anxiety

Saying NO's is the first defense in your boundary.

"I won't tolerate this".

How to master ANGER:

There are only two causes of anger:

 Hurt or Low on well-being(Needs not met).
Well-being STRENGTHENS your boundary
against HURT.

What to do with anger?

3 things:
Nothing - Store inside you(sadness) =>
NEGATIVE
Aggression - Destructive - Childish =>
NEGATIVE
Assertiveness - Constructive - Mature =>
POSITIVE

When someone attacks you with anger, don't spend

energy fighting back, just use your SHIELD.
Knights that were attacked by others in medieval times
had 4 options. To aye, to run away, to fight back and to
defend himself.
The last option was the most effective, because the
attackes would feel tired past some time, and you would
have the advantage.
In this case, the defender was using ASSERTIVENESS
against ANGER. The positive way of facing this emotion.

Being assertive makes your well-being up. Is

mothering yourself.
Assertiveness may take longer than just dump
your anger on someone, but is much more
constructive.

How to master ANXIETY:

Two causes:
- Loss
 - Low On Confidence

What to do with anxiety?

3 things:
- Passive - Impulsiveness
- Masochism (whiny, hopeless, helpless,
worried, regret) => NEGATIVE - COURAGE. Do
the right thing (a decision). Risking => POSITIVE
Courage:
- Go for it with all you've got, not going with a
feet behind. REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU FEEL.
- Doing the Right thing is using your
CONSCIENCE and INTUITION when facing anxiety.
Before the moment of COURAGE you are alone,
but after it, you are a leader, everybody wants to
be with you.
WHen you do courage, you are FATHERING
yourself.

Having COURAGE fills your pot of CONFIDENCE.

Summary:

Mature Masculine Power

Observing ego. Your cool. Your presence.
Ability to coach yourself.
Mature Boundary Function
Use doors instead of holes in your boundary.
Say No and hear No and not suffer.

Write down your top 3 inner game issues, and also write
the new actions and frames to build in order to solve these
problems.