Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
Kristin Lovell
Dr. Lane
English 102-30
Paper #5
17 Apr. 2007
With the familiar words, “‘In sickness and in health, ‘til death do us part’ millions
of people each year are married, a public affirmation of a private bond that both society and
the newlyweds hope will endure” (Stoddard 29). Yet, many men and women who choose to
involve themselves in same-sex marriages and get denied every year when trying to pledge
their lifelong devotions to one another. States such as Massachusetts, Connecticut, Vermont,
New Jersey, California, Maine, and Hawaii already allow the marriage or “civil union” of the
same sex. And as the years progress and opinions are changed, an increasing number of
states will and should be allowing the marriage between two individuals of the same sex.
Although many Americans have become more accepting toward homosexuality over the past
few decades, it is still an extremely controversial issue in the United States. The struggle for
gay and lesbian rights in the United States is multifaceted issue based on not only the feelings
of the couple and society, but also on religious beliefs, and politics.
feelings from both the society and also the homosexuals themselves. When it comes to
supporting the gay community, many people are torn between their traditional beliefs from
older generations and their own personal beliefs. Williams believes that, “Most people in the
contemporary United States believe that each person has the right to control his or her own
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body, even if that person chooses something unnatural with it” (Williams xxii). Several
individuals who are in their late teens and early twenties are more supportive of same-sex
marriages in opposition to the older generation and their views. The younger age group tends
this time period. In contrast to earlier times, when if you found out someone was
homosexual, those people were shunned from society or homosexuals just denied their
feelings in fear of being ostracized. Education is also a key factor in people’s different
feelings on gay marriages. A recent survey showed that, “Americans with college degrees
are divided almost evenly over the issue of gay marriage (49% oppose, 44% favor) while
those without oppose the idea by well over two-to-one (63% to 27%)” (Doherty 2). Another
issue that may cause a person to be more liberal with the idea of gay marriages and change
someone’s feelings is their location and where they were brought up. More people are in
opposition of the homosexuality in the southern part of the country. A person who was
raised in the country is more likely to disagree with same-sex marriages than someone who
was raised in a city atmosphere where it is more common to see a homosexual couple.
Personal contact with homosexuality also shapes people’s views on this issue. Feelings can
instantly change about homosexuality when a friend, colleague or family member who is
gay. Being around or knowing someone that is homosexual also tends to lead a person to
favor same-sex marriages other than those who are not around someone who is gay. Feelings
are also very different towards the question if a person was born gay or became gay. A
recent poll said that, “overall most people (55%) who think homosexuality is something
people are born with favor gay marriage, compared with just 21% of those who think it is just
the way that some people prefer to live. Similarly, 49% of those who think homosexuality
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cannot be changed favor gay marriage, compared with 19% of those who think it can”
(Doherty 2). Homosexuals are under constant scrutiny from their family and friends. They
are also being discriminated against by strangers and other individuals within our society.
This discomfort should not be in a homosexual’s life and they should be able to express the
way they feel without being constantly judged from the society.
Along with the feelings involved with homosexuality, religion is also one of the
many struggles that gay and lesbian couples have to deal with in every day life. “You shall
not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination” (Leviticus 18:22). This is a
famous line from the Bible that goes against the idea of homosexuality. Even though some
individuals get uncomfortable when mentioning religion, it is a main basis for many
Americans and their beliefs on controversial issues such as gay marriage. Although many
modern Christians are against same-sex marriages, most homosexuals are actually Christians
themselves. “Religion influences a large part of our society in that Christians are taught from
a very young age to be forgiving and accepting, to have characteristics of Jesus, but they all
do not practice what they are taught” (Roste 2). Actually, many of them do not practice what
is preached, making them have many double standards about homosexuality. The education
the Bible, which is simply a collection of stories that is told from someone’s point of view.
Stories in the Bible are not anything but made up tales. People came to America for the
opportunity of freedom of religion and denying homosexuals from worshipping the way they
choose is denying their rights as an American citizen. If Christians are truly Christians, they
would be welcoming all into the church instead of judging or shunning them simply for who
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they choose to make a partnership with. The article entitled Pro adds further insight to our
How can we condemn a person who believes in the same God as at least eighty-
five percent (if not more) of the people in this country believe in. Jesus would
have loved everyone equally because he knew that everyone was not perfect. He
even said, “If any of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at
her.” Let’s let the one who is perfect pass judgment upon the rest, but since no
one is perfect then who are we to step in and play God. It is not our rightful place
Using Gillette, Wyoming as an example, a lesbian couple, Leah Vader and Lynne Huskinson,
was wed in 2006 in Canada and has been happier than ever as a couple living in Gillette.
After Ash Wednesday a local newspaper interviewed the lesbian couple and took pictures of
them with ash on their foreheads. Soon after the newspaper article was published, they had
received a notice from their parish saying they had been banned from receiving Communion
because of the article. The priest had said later that if it did not reach the newspaper than no
one would have known about the situation, and it would not have been a big deal. Vader
commented, “You spend half your time defending your gayness to Catholics, and the other
half of your time defending your Catholicism to gays” (Miller A6). This kind of
discrimination against same-sex couples should not be happening in the United States.
Homosexual couples should have the same rights as everyone else whether it is in a religious
aspect or not. As citizens of this nation, homosexuals should be permitted to marry and
attend religious sermons because it would be a violation of religious freedom to not allow
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them. The First Amendment allows individuals to exercise their freedoms and the right to
marry a member of the same sex falls under the category with freedom of religion.
America has been based off the fundamental principles of freedom which
includes, but is not only limited to the freedom of religion, it also guarantees the freedom of
speech, the press, and assembly. Stoddard acknowledges that, “Marriage, the Supreme Court
declared in 1967, is ‘one of the basic civil rights of man’ (and presumably, of woman as
well). The freedom to marry, said the Court, is ‘essential to the orderly pursuit of
happiness’” (Stoddard 30). Marriage is a basic human right that belongs to each and every
individual, whether you are homosexual or not, not to the state. The government should not
be allowed to be in the position to arrange marriages and decide who marries who. Doherty
demonstrates the political party’s views that, “Both Democrats and Independents (39% each)
are twice as likely as Republicans (18%) to approve of gay marriage. The decision whether
or not to be married should be the individual’s choice, not the government’s preference”
(Doherty 1). By not letting same-sex couples get married is a form of minority
discrimination. No government should be able to prohibit anyone from legally declaring his
or her love. Discrimination against a particular group of people because of race, color or
religion is outlawed by our nation’s constitution. Homosexuals are denied their basic rights
every day, not only because of their race, color or choice of religion, but because of their
sexual orientation. Our nation’s famous words, “equality, liberty, and justice for all,” is not
being carried out while prohibiting the rights of this specific group of people. The laws that
prohibit homosexuals to marry are similar to the laws that once abolished by the Supreme
Court in 1967 for interracial marriages. This was once an extremely controversial issue in
the United States and now is humdrum during this time period and happens daily. As
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discussed in The New York Times, “The idea of marriage between two people of the same
sex is still very new, and for some unsettling, but we have been down this road before. This
debate follows the same narrative arc as women's liberation, racial integration, disability
rights and every other march of marginalized Americans into the mainstream” (The Road
to…1). Civil law permits marriage between divorced, imprisoned, and insane people;
however, they do not allow the marriage of same-sex couples. Who draws the line at gay
people and for what reason? A large number of homosexual individuals are more fitting to
marry, adopt a child, and create a strong family atmosphere as opposed to an individual who
maybe was divorced, imprisoned, or insane. In a personal interview, L. gave her view on gay
marriages, “Although I am not married myself but wish to be one day, being in a lesbian
relationship in the United States is a very hard thing to deal with. It is an emotional
rollercoaster, and I hope one day people will understand. And as for the government, I
believe they should allow two women or men to engage in marriage if they are truly in love,
like my partner and me” (L. 1). The lesbian couple has adopted two children from China that
would have been killed if they were left there. This is a major benefit for our society, and
even the world, because many same-sex couples adopt children and give them a much better
environment to live in instead of leaving them in orphanages. Adopting children that would
have been killed is only one of the benefits of allowing gay marriages to occur in the United
States.
prides itself on being open and not discriminating toward other cultures and ethnic groups
and should carry through with that idea. Jasper explains that, “Same-sex couples only want
what is given to the rest of the country. They want the pension and life insurance of a spouse
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when they die, they want the tax breaks and they want to be able to openly show their love
for each other without living “in sin”” (Jasper 3-4). Gay marriages do not hurt or affect
anyone outside of the marriage. Society is not affected at all by any means so why should
society or anyone else for that matter dictate whether or not homosexuals should be allowed
to marry each other. Gay marriage is a commitment between two individuals and that is
where the line should be drawn. If two people of the same sex are in love and committed to
each other than they should be allowed to join each other in holy matrimony. Homosexuals
should not have decisions made for them or be treated any differently then anyone else. Gay
citizen, we are entitled the right to exercise our freedoms. On a daily basis, homosexuals are
discriminated against for their affiliation with other members of the same sex. This
discrimination should not be allowed any longer. The issue of same-sex marriages is a
controversial one, but an issue that does not harm or affect the members of society but
actually make it better. Marriage has gone through many changes throughout the times, and
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Doherty, Carroll. “Republicans Unified, Democrats Split on Gay Marriage.” The Pew
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The Holy Bible: New International Version. New York: Harper, 1983.
Jasper, Margaret C. Living Together: Practical Legal Issues. Dobbs Ferry, New York:
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Roste, Vaughn. “Ten Reasons Why Christians Should Support Same-Sex Marriage.”
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Williams, Walter L., and Yolanda Retter. Gay and Lesbian Rights in the United States.