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KNOWING YOUR

LEADERSHIP VOICE
ACTIVITY
Identify the 

PROBLEM
63% of suicides come
from fatherless homes.
www.fathersforlife.org

80% of rapists, motivated by displaced


anger, come from fatherless homes.
http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/bjsdr88.pdf

70% of juveniles in state-operated


institutions come from fatherless homes.
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr048.pdf 

Children from fatherless homes are twice as
likely to display emotional and behavioral
problems than children who live in two
parent households.
http://scholarworks.wmich.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?
article=1044&context=hil ltopreview 


32% of children do not live with their


biological fathers.
http://www.greendoors.org/facts/family-homelessness.php
Virtually every major social
pathology has been linked to
fatherlessness. Violent crime,
drug and alcohol abuse, teen
pregnancy, suicide — all
correlate more strongly to
fatherlessness than to any other
single factor.
— Stephen Baskerville, Howard University
“The most fundamental
flaw in society is
fatherlessness.”
Cassie Carstens
A child is considered
fatherless when his
biological dad is either
absent or abusive.
The main responsibility of fathers
is to disciple their kids in the love
and fear of the Lord.
DISCIPLESHIP
“You shall love the Lord your
God with all your heart and with
all your soul and with all your
might. These words, which I am
commanding you today, shall be
on your heart.
Deuteronomy 6:5-6 (NASB)
DISCIPLESHIP
You shall teach them diligently to
your sons and shall talk of them
when you sit in your house and
when you walk by the way and
when you lie down and when you
rise up.

Deuteronomy 6:7(NASB)
DISCIPLESHIP
You shall bind them as a sign on
your hand and they shall be as
frontals on your forehead. You
shall write them on the doorposts
of your house and on your gates.

Deuteronomy 6:8-9 (NASB)


DISCIPLESHIP You shall fear only the Lord your
God; and you shall worship Him
and swear by His name.

Deuteronomy 6:13 (NASB)


As far as God is concerned,
discipleship is a way of life and
DISCIPLESHIP IS A FATHER’S
MAIN RESPONSIBILITY.

Discipleship is also the


KEY COMPONENT IN SUCCESSFUL
NATION BUILDING.
Let’s look these
local statistics
TOP Teen Pregnancy (2002 data): highest in

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IN THE WORLD
ASEAN, of 15-25 yr old, 3 out of 10 had
pre-marital sex, 4 out of 10 are living-in
http://youthproblemsinthephilippines.weebly.com/teenage-pregnancy.html

Suicide (2015 data): highest depression


count in SEA, 17.1% of 15-19 yr old
seriously thought of suicide, 16.7% had a
plan, and there is a RISE in %
http://www.gmanetwork.com/news/story/524070/lifestyle/healthandwellness/special-
report-suicide-and-the-pinoy-youth
TOP LGBT POPULATION

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http://www.insidermonkey.com/blog

PORN SURFERS
http://www.youthproblemsinthephilippines.weebly.com
IN THE WORLD
HIV GROWTH
http://www.unicef.org/philippines/hivaids

PROSTITUTES
http://www.liveandinvestoverseas.com/news

DEPRESSION
TOP in ASEAN
Problem
+ Passion
= Purpose
Know the 

TARGET MARKET
IMPACT YEARS
Every year counts
The following chart gives us an indication of the primary characteristics
developing in each year of our lives during the formative phases — from
birth up to 11 years old.

Home Phase

11 Identity (Values, Friends, Choices)


10 Identity (Values, Friends, Choices)
9 Sexuality
Father Impact
8 Body, Soul, Spirit
7 Competencies
6 Emotional Security / Validation / Discipline
5 Strengths
4 Industry or Inferiority
Mother
3 Autonomy or Uncertainty
Impact
2 Autonomy or Uncertainty
1 Intimacy (Trust or Mistrust)
IMPACT YEARS
embarking on the somewhat daunting task of exploration) are secreted.
Phase 2:every
Again, The Group-Adventure
year is essential in thisPhase
phase.(12–18
The child years)
will learn the basic
social skillsis for
This phase maintaining
all about a good
learning to be partmarriage and— being
of community a good citizen and
in this instance,
the peer community.
employee later on.From
It is now on peers
a great phase willof
have the primary
testing impactabilities in a
and trying
on the child, so parents should learn the skill of cautiously, yet cleverly,
team environment, as well as venturing out with the group and testing the
impacting the peer group so that they adopt the right values and validate
dynamics of the sub-culture of
the good values already in their child.the group within the bigger culture.
According to Dr. Etienne van der Walt, the child now starts to explore,
building the creative
Group-Adventure Phaseproblem-solving areas of the brain. The need to
belong in this world outside of the safety of the family forms the basis of the
development of the need to belong and find identity in the peer-group brain
18 such as:
(teenage brain). Neurotransmitters Leadership
a) dopamineDevelopment/EQ
(for reward when
achieving new goals); b) acetylcholine
17 (to respond toDevelopment/EQ
Leadership threats of exclusion
from  the peer group) and c) serotonin (for a sense of happiness while
16 Relationships/Guardrails/Team/EQ
embarking on the somewhat daunting task of exploration) are secreted.
15 Relationships/Guardrails/Team
Again,Peer
everyImpact
year is essential in this phase. The child will learn the basic
14 marriage
social skills for maintaining a good Relationships/Guardrails/Team
and being a good citizen and
employee later on. It is a great 13phase of Rite of Passage
testing and trying abilities in a
team environment, as well as venturing
12 out with
Peer the group
Group and testing the
Initiation
dynamics of the sub-culture of the group within the bigger culture.

Group-Adventure Phase
entering into the next phase.

IMPACT YEARS
Phase 3: The Stepping-Out-and-Up Phase
(19–21 years)
In this phase children often move out of the house, and while their new
environment may have the dominant impact in their lives, I believe that in
very healthy homes the father’s role in this phase should be dominant for
reasons that may become clearer as we continue.

Stepping-Out-And-Up Phase

26 Success Season Starts


25 Tertiary or On-The-Job Training
Culture 24 Tertiary or On-The-Job Training
Impact 23 Tertiary or On-The-Job Training
22 Tertiary or On-The-Job Training
21 Rite of Passage Into Manhood
20 Identity (Values, Friends, Choices)
Father Impact 19 Identity (Values, Friends, Choices)
We must involve
the PARENTS
especially the
FATHERS
MALACHI “He will restore the hearts of the
fathers to their children and the
4 hearts of the children to their
fathers, so that I will not come
:
and smite the land with a curse.”
6
2 COR
“This means that anyone who
belongs to Christ has become a new
5 person. The old life is gone; a new life
has begun! And all of this is a gift
: from God, who brought us back to
17-21 himself through Christ. And God has
given us this task of reconciling
people to him.”
2 COR “For God was in Christ, reconciling
the world to himself, no longer

5 counting people’s sins against them.


And he gave us this wonderful
: message of reconciliation. So we are
Christ’s ambassadors; God is making
17-21 his appeal through us. We speak for
Christ when we plead, “Come back to
God!”
2 COR “ For God made Christ, who never
sinned, to be the offering for our sin,

5 so that we could be made right with


God through Christ.”
:
17-21
Problem
+ Passion
= Purpose
LET YOUR
LEADERSHIP VOICE
BE HEARD!