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Andre WorleySturt
English
08 November 2018
Giving birth outside of marriage was almost unheard of 50 years ago, but over the past
few decades single motherhood has become more and more common. Between 1960 and 2016
the population of kids with two parents has decreased from 88% to 69%; during this time, the
percent of single mothers increased from 8% to 23% while single fathers increased from 3% to
4%. Today there are currently 8.5 million single mothers and 2.5 million single fathers in the
U.S. (US Census Bureau). In the year 2016, 27% of single mothers were jobless for the entire
year, 31.6% of them were food insecure at some time, and 35.6% of them lived in poverty (Lee,
Dawn).
If these facts weren’t depraved enough, the effects of single motherhood on their children
most certainly are. According to the National Fatherhood Initiative, kids raised by a single
mother are more likely to commit crimes and go to prison, 7 times more likely to get pregnant as
a teen, more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, 2 times more likely to suffer from obesity, 2 times
more likely to drop out of high school, and are 279% more likely to carry guns and deal drugs.
There are two major groups of single mothers: those who were previously married and
those who weren’t. In 2011, 50% of single mothers were divorced, separated, or widowed; 44%
were never married; and 6% were married, but their spouses were not living in the household
(Wang, Wendy).
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a professor and clinical psychologist, briefly talks about divorce
in one of his online lectures. He explains that marriage will not solve all problems, but there is
an extremely detrimental cost to divorce. He says that divorce is expensive, and by the end of
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the process either one or both parents will become poor. He also states that divorce takes a big
chunk out a person’s life and will disrupt the relationship between the parents and their kids.
If what Dr. Peterson says is true, then why are so many couples choosing to divorce? It
makes sense that a couple could grow apart after years of being together, but the decision to
divorce rarely considers the future and well-being of the children; at least by one of the parents.
Sure, some relationships between spouses are toxic and staying in these relationships will have a
negative impact on everyone, including the children. Maybe the father is an abusive drug addict,
or the mother is schizophrenic and delusional, but there are also fathers that decide to run away
from the responsibility of raising a family and mothers that decide that they can raise their
children better without interference from a man. It seems as if most parents are separating before
they consider the effect that a separation will have on their children.
Alexia Fernández Campbell, a former staff writer at The Atlantic, wrote an article where
she assessed research from sociologists at John Hopkins University and the University of
Melbourne to answer the question “Why are so many millennials having children out of
wedlock?” She found that it wasn’t random mothers having kids out of wedlock, but that these
mothers disproportionately came from a specific group who didn’t have college degrees, lived in
areas with high income inequality, and tended to not have very bright job prospects. It could be
inferred that these mothers did not want to marry someone who had a low paying job, but they
Raising a child is expensive, time consuming, and requires both a mother and a father to be done
correctly. Dr. Peterson says, “The idea that you be divorced once you have children, that’s kind
of a stupid idea, because you can’t.” What he means by this is that marriage is a bond created
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more for the sake of the children and less for the sake of the spouses. The bond of marriage
makes sure children don’t have to live in poverty and have food every day, but the bond of
marriage also makes sure that children don’t become fatherless and suffer the negative effects of
essay, “Children without a dad have a sense of something missing and are likely to internalize
that sense so that they feel inadequate too.” She also writes, “There is a fundamental difference
between a father figure and a dad proper that goes beyond the biological.”
Connor has worked with countless kids in her Thinking and Feeling group, and she sees
how confused fatherless children are. Connor believes having a father makes people feel like
they are real, so the kids without fathers don’t feel whole. She would look these children and
wonder about the kinds of adults they would grow up to be. She imagined them growing up to
be adults with a “fragmented sense of self, endlessly striving for perfection in an imperfect
world,” and the only thing that could’ve fixed them was growing up with a biological father.
Even the greatest step-father in the world can’t compete with the realness of a biological father.
It could be argued that Connor’s words are simply an opinion, or maybe an interpretation
of her experiences, but there has been significant research done over the years that supports her
words. Not only is there a difference between growing up with a biological father vs a step-
father, but there are significant negative effects of not having a father at all.
In “The Causal Effects of Father Absence”, a group of data analysts identify 47 articles
and examine the effects of father absence on children in four categories: educational attainment,
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mental health, relationship formation and stability, and labor force success. They found that
when it comes to education, a fatherless child’s test scores will remain about the same and they
will maintain positive aspirations for the future, but they are more likely to drop out of high
school; this is likely due to problem behaviors rather than cognitive ability. The research team
also found that fatherless children are more likely to have social and emotional problems, more
likely to have kids of their own at a young age, more likely to have negative effects on their
social-emotional development and are more likely to participate in risky behavior (such as
smoking and unprotected sex). There is no substantial evidence that fatherlessness affects a
child’s future family outcomes, marriage, divorce, college, income, or economic stability
(McLanahan, Sara).
This information is important because it proves that there are significant negative effects
of being fatherless. Children may seem like they are perfectly fine while being raised by a single
mother, but there is a large part of their life that is missing, and they will miss out on a lot of
learning experiences without a father. This lack of experience won’t mean much when the
children are younger, but when they get older the effects will become clearer. A fatherless child
will be less disciplined and will be more susceptible to getting into trouble, sometimes life
altering trouble. A fatherless child is more prone to start using drugs, leading them down a path
that will cause them many hardships; a fatherless child is more prone to getting pregnant, which
would just repeat the situation they grew in of being fatherless; and a fatherless child is more
prone to dropping out of high school, ruining their chance of living a fulfilling life. There are
countless negative effects of growing up without a father, and not a single positive one.
Conclusion
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In this paper I explored why there are so many single mothers today and how single
motherhood can have a negative impact on a child’s life. Both men and women alike need to
become educated on raising children before having children. Too many people are having
children before they are prepared. This causes drastic changes to their lives, often for the worse,
plunging them into financial instability and poverty, reducing their chances of obtaining a higher
education, and guaranteeing an incredibly difficult and stressful life. Fathers need to act like
men and take responsibility for raising their children and mothers need to understand that they
cannot raise their children by themselves. Parents need to understand the importance of marriage
If parents choose to separate and a child ends up being raised by a single mother, the
child’s chances of growing up to become a successful adult decrease. Even if the child manages
to complete high school and stays away from drugs, they will still have to deal with emotional
problems related to being fatherless. No matter how successful that child ends up being in the
future, they will always know that they missed out on one of the most important relationships of
their lives. They will always know that their father chose to abandon them to chase after his own
selfish desires. They will always know that their childhood and growth was underdeveloped, and
When a mother and a father choose to separate, they are choosing to ruin their children.
They may only be ruining a small part of them or they may be utterly destroying the child’s life,
but one way or another, damage will be done. The only way to ensure the greatest possible
outcome for a child is to raise him/her as a couple; anything else is risking destruction.
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