SELF DEVELOPMENT

Chapter - 1
Agenda 2 - Sessions
4 - Hours
1. Introduction Self-Development

2. Self-Assessment

3. Personal Goal-Setting

4. Career Planning

5. Self-Esteem

6. Self Confidence

7. Personality

8. Perception & Attitude

9. Values & Belief Systems

10. Johari Window

11. Exercise
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 1.1 Self development

• Who am I ?

• Why I am here ?

• What are my duties ?

• Where I want to be (should be) ?

• What should I do ? How ? Why ?

• Who am I after death ?

A process that covers activities to improve self-awareness & identity.

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1.1 Self development
Making a difference between Present & Future
• Who am I today?
– My CGPA is 2.10 (out of 10)
– Not interested in subjects
– No special boy/girl friend
– No/low self confidence
– I came from a poor family
– Week in sports/extra curricular activities
– No special hobbies/likeness
– No highlighting skills/talents

• How to change my present status for a improved future

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1.1 Introduction Self-Development
A process that covers activities to improve self-awareness & identity.

• Improve/learn skills,

• Identify/Develop/strengthen talents & potential,

• Build/enhance value & improve employability/career,

• Enhance the quality of life (health, wealth, status, & peace/satisfaction),

• Realization/fulfilment of dreams & aspirations,

• Time management,

• Learn/Improve social relations & emotional intelligence,

• Takes place over the course of a person's entire lifetime (personal &
professional).
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1.1 Self development
• Self-Assessment

• Personal Goal-Setting

• Career Planning

• Self-Esteem

• Self Confidence

• Personality

• Perception & Attitude

• Values & Belief Systems

• Johari Window

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1.2 Self-Assessment

• Assessment or evaluation of oneself

– one's actions, interests, values, personality, attitudes, or performance.

– ignoring any of them may mislead the result.

• Process of assessing aspects that are important to one's identity.

• Clarify uncertainty about self-concept (self-awareness/knowledge)

• Building block to successful self-development.

• Self-Assessment for Organization/others??

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1.2 Self-Assessment - Example

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1.3 Personal Goal-Setting

• Systematic process involving thought, determination & execution, to achieve

objectives that will result in personal betterment (subjective or overall)

– Short-term goals

– Long-term goals

• Relationship between Motivation, Goals, & Achievement/success

– Your goals need to motivate you, and excite you.

• Goal Break-down

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 1.3 Breaking down Goals - Example

Arrive to smaller sub-goals until you can actually start working on now.

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1.3 Personal Goal types

• Academic goals – what knowledge / qualifications do you want to achieve?

• Career goals – where / what level do you want to reach?
• Monetary goals – what do you aim to earn at a given point in your life?
• Ethical goals – do you want to volunteer some of your time to a good cause
or get involved in local events, politics etc.?
• Creative goals – how do you want to progress creatively or artistically?
• Domestic goals – how would you like your domestic life to be in the future?
• Physical goals - do you want to develop your skill in a certain sport or other
physical activity?

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1.3 Organization Goal-Setting - Example

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1.3 SMART Goals
Specific
Make each goal specific, so you know exactly what it is.

Measurable
Make each goal measurable so you know how you are progressing.

Attainable
Don’t set impossible goals (each goal and sub-goal should be attainable)

Relevant
Make your goals relevant.

Timed
Set time-limits or deadlines for each goal and sub-goal.
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1.3 Goal Review

Review your goals regularly, to make sure that:

• Goals are still relevant to what you want to achieve; &

• You are on track to achieve them.

• If not, you need to revise them, in line with your current situation.

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1.4 Career Planning
• Identify where you want to go and how to get there

• Identify realistic short-term and long-term career goals

• Assess your skills and identify skills gaps

• Assess your interests & values in relation to job requirements

• Plan the achievable steps to take to get your goals

Thoughtful Balance between

– What’s needed by employer,

– What can you offer,

– How can it be different/better then others (competitors)?

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1.5 Self Esteem

• Individual's overall subjective emotional evaluation of own worth.

• Decision made by an individual as an attitude towards the self.

• Beliefs about oneself (not to confuse with self-confidence)

– "I am competent", "I am worthy"

• All emotional states (triumph, despair, pride, shame)

• Self-Concept is what we think about the self;

• Self-esteem, is the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we

feel about it.

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1.5 Self Esteem

• Social psychological construct  Influential predictor of certain outcomes

o Academic achievement, happiness, satisfaction in relationships, criminal

behaviour.

 "I believe I am a good writer and feel happy about that“

 "I believe I am a bad person, & feel bad about myself.

• Self-esteem relates to many things: (Synonyms or near-synonyms)

– self-worth, self-regard, self-respect, self-integrity.

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1.5 Self Esteem .. Types

• High
– Secure,
– Defensive.
• Low

• The three states:

– Strong,
– Vulnerable,
– Shattered.

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 1.5 Self Esteem .. Types & Characteristics
High
– Firmly believe in certain values and principles,
– Ready to defend them even when finding opposition,
– Are able to act according to what they think to be the best choice,
– Trusting their own judgment, & not feeling guilty when others do not like their choice.
– Secure (high)
• Confident; don’t need reassurance from others to maintain positive self-view.
– Defensive (high)
• Act defensive; high self-esteem may still be vulnerable to criticism.
Low
– Heavy self-criticism and dissatisfaction.
– Hypersensitivity to criticism; resentment against critics & feelings of being attacked.
– May lead to physical appearance or weight, mental health issues, significant emotional
experiences,
– Easy victims of peer pressure, bullying
– May lead to self-harm or suicidal tendency
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1.5 Self Esteem .. Types & Characteristics
• Strong (the 3 states)
– Positive self-image; enough strength to deal with fear of failure.
– Mostly humble, cheerful; don’t get carried with success, or failure
– Capable of fighting to achieve goals
– Even if things go wrong, their self-esteem will not be affected.
• Vulnerable (the 3 states)
– Generally positive self-image;
– However, their self-esteem is also vulnerable to perceived risk of an imminent
failure (defeat, embarrassment, shame, discredit); consequently they are often
nervous and regularly use defence mechanisms.
– Typical protection mechanism  avoiding decision-making.
– Although, may outwardly exhibit great self-confidence, the underlying reality may
be just the opposite
• Shattered (the 3 states)
– Individual does not regard themselves as valuable or lovable,
– May be overwhelmed by defeat, or shame, or see themselves as such.
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1.6 Self Confidence
• Self-esteem: how you feel about yourself OVERALL; how much esteem, positive
regard or self-love you have.

• Self-confidence: how you feel about your ABILITIES (to succeed at new challenges,
tasks & opportunities)

• Generally; high self esteems boosts self-confidence, and

• Low self-esteems reduces confidence.

• NOT necessary, in all cases. (can vary from situation to situation)

– One may have healthy self-esteem, but

o low confidence about situations (solving math problem). Or

o low confidence in dancing on stage. OR

– May have low self-esteem, but
o Confident about winning the match for your team
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1.7 Personality

• Psychological patterns of behaviour, thought, & emotion.

• Personality is individual’s Personal traits (with influence of states).

Trait: relatively permanent individual characteristic.

• Example, outgoing, friendly, confident, or shy. (Generally)

State: A temporary change in one’s personality.

• Examples, angry, depressed, fearful, or anxious. (situation based; person’s

reaction to something)

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1.7 Personality

A trait can also be a state, and visa versa.

• One who is outgoing might be shy at first around new people.

• One is typically confident, might exhibit fear or self-doubt when facing a

dream-job interview.

Personality: how the person typically is (trait); and how one may temporarily
change (state) in response to something.

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1.8 Perception & Attitude
• Ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses.

• Way in which something is regarded, understood, or interpreted.

• Perception refers to the way sensory information is organized, interpreted,

and consciously experienced. 2 models of perception;

– Bottom-up processing: perceptions are built from sensory input.

– Top-down processing: how we interpret those sensations is influenced by

our available knowledge, our experiences, and our thoughts.

Two Important Perception determining factors:

– Sensory adaptation: Not following stimuli that remain relatively constant

over prolonged periods of time. (clock ticking)

– Attention: what is sensed versus what is perceived.

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1.8 Perception & Attitude
• A settled way of thinking or feeling about something.

• Tendency to respond positively or negatively towards a certain idea, object,

person, or situation.

• Attitude influences an individual's choice of action, and responses to

challenges, incentives, and rewards (together called Stimuli.)

• Four major components of attitude;

– Affective: emotions or feelings.

– Cognitive: belief or opinions held consciously.

– Conative: inclination for action.

– Evaluative: positive or negative response to stimuli.

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1.8 Perception & Attitude

• Attitude can be absolutely controlled.

• Attitudes can be changed through persuasion (controlled influence)

• How to react, how to think, what to say, or what to believe; are all within own
control, & are portrayed by your attitude

• Attitude has direct and huge impact on Behaviour and Personality.

• Attitude plays crucial role in Self-Development (personal & professional)

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1.9 Values & Belief systems

• Belief: state of mind in which one thinks something to be right/wrong, with

or without there being empirical evidence.

• Belief system: set of mutually supportive beliefs.

– religious, philosophical, political, ideological, or mix of all.

• Invisible force behind behaviour, and decisions.

• Over time, one is exposed to thoughts/beliefs that are in contradiction to your

belief system  one may start to question some of own existing beliefs.

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1.9 Values & Belief systems
• (General) Importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

• (Ethics) Important and lasting beliefs or ideas or understanding shared about

what is good/bad, desirable/undesirable.

• A value is a belief/understanding that something is good and desirable

• Degree of importance of some thing/action, with the aim of determining

what actions are best to do

• Moral ideas, general conceptions, orientations towards things

– (interests, attitudes, preferences, needs, sentiments and dispositions)

• Major influence on person's behaviour & attitude (serve as broad guideline)

– business values: fairness, innovation and community involvement.

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1.9 Values & Belief systems

• Beliefs, ethics, or principles that create a set of informal rules that regulate
behaviour.

• Types:

– Personal values

– Cultural values

– Religious values

– Family/Relationship values

– Business values

– Professional values

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Self-Development.. Building blocks
• Values & Belief Systems

• Perception & Attitude

• Personality

• Self-Esteem

• Self Confidence

• Self-Assessment

• Personal Goal-Setting

• Career Planning

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 1.10 JoHari Window
• A Model for Self-Understanding

• Technique that helps people better understand their relationship with themselves & others.

• MODEL of self awareness , personal development, group development and

understanding relationship

• American psychologists Joseph Luft & Harry Ingham; 1950's

Model considers that there is information

• you and others know
• only you know about yourself
• only others know about you
• nobody knows
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1.10 JoHari Window.. Example

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1.10 JoHari Window.. FEEDBACK MODEL

• Model for understanding & training self-awareness, personal development,

improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group dynamics,
leadership, team development and inter-group relationships.

• One’s willingness or unwillingness to engage is self-disclosure, and listen to

feedback, has a lot to do with your understanding of yourself and others’
understanding of you.

– Information processing tool

– Disclosure/feedback model of self awareness

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 1.10 Open Area

• “public” or “awareness” area

• Contains information that both you and others know

• Information that you don’t mind admitting

• Gets bigger over time as relationships mature

• A productive relationship is related to the amount of mutually held information

• Building a relationship involved expanding this area

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 1.10 Blind Area

• Information about yourself others know but you are not yet aware

• Others may see you differently than you see yourself

• Effective relations strive to reduce this area

• Open communication encourages people to give you feedback

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 1.10 Hidden Area

• Information you know, but others don’t

• Private feelings, needs, and past experiences that you prefer to keep to yourself

• If this area is too large, you can be perceived as lacking authenticity

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 1.10 Unknown Area

• Information unknown to you and to others

• Areas of unrecognized talent, motives, or early childhood memories that

influence your behavior

• Always present, never disappears

• Open communication can expose some of this area

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1.10 JoHari Window

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Chapter-1 : Exercise (30 minutes)

• Take a piece of paper and draw Your OWN Johari Window chart.. 05 min
• Based on your Johari window; prepare a Self-Development plan.. 05 min
o Use ALL (SD) knowledge shared in previous slides/sections.
• Choose a friend who can give a fair view on your Johari window, and Self-
Development Plan.
o Get the feedback completed by the partner.. 5 min
o Analyze the feedback.. 05 min
• Discussion… 10 min

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