Sol 1 Seminar The Family

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THE FAMILY
School Of Leaders
Seminar Level 1
STUDENTS’ GUIDE:
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Contents
1. Family ................................................... 1
2. Family members and their proper roles ........... 13
3. Protecting self esteem .............................. 25
4. Strengthening communication in thefamily....... 34
5. Strengthening marital love....…………………………… 42
6. The blessing of God upon the family ............... 53
7. The inner healing of the couple
8. The Leader and his family ........................... 62
9. Abundant life .......................................... 69
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Preface
The material you now hold in your hands was birth out of
our own experience within the church through the
leaders that we developed over the years, in ministry.
Even though we knew from the day our church opened in
1983, that we would be a cell church and would have an
immense effect on our city, it was not until sometime in
1990 that the Lord removed the veil to expose to us, the
vision of the government of twelve. In the wake of this
revelation, the church experienced a growth explosion
that has superceded all records on church growth with
no waning in sight. Along with the excitement of growth,
as pastors we were challenged to develop these new
believers that the Lord entrusted to us.
During this time God gave me a Rhema word for our
ministry: “I will give you the ability to quickly train
people.” This was a word we truly needed because up
until then it was taking at least two years to train a cell
leader. The demand was great and the process was just
too long. But after that word, the heavens opened up
and a special anointing was released upon each person
that was helping us in the ministry. Now, the entire
congregation, from the least to the greatest, reeled with
motivation; they wanted to be a part of the vision. The
mind of the people, even ours, was powerfully impressed
with the vision of growth, but the necessary components
were not in place for the most advantageous operating
system.
A formula has been developed and implemented as a
result of the word the Lord gave, thanks to the team of
pastors and leaders that Jesus gave us. How would we
actually train faster? What tools would be used? The best
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possible method was being created for our use according
to the results we saw as we went along. We then
decided to put them into motion as a part of our vision.
For many years prior, we did not want to be away from
the church because we felt that our vision was still being
established. Neither did we want to teach about church
growth until we had a congregation to back it up. Now
that God has allowed us to become one of the largest
churches in the world, with an average of 25,000
leadership school students, we can only thank God for
His mercy to our country and for having lifted up our
church as the leader of that great spiritual awakening
which has been able to influence the nations of the
earth. It is our prayer that this material blesses your life,
your church and your ministry. May each one of you
fulfill God’s purpose in your lives.
In the love of Christ,

Cesar and Claudia Castellanos
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LESSON
THE FAMILY
BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

Genesis 1:27
CORRESPONDING BIBLICAL FOUNDATION

Genesis 2:19 Proverbs 22:15
Genesis 1:15-25 1 Timothy 5:8
Mark 3:27 Colossians 3:21
Luke 14:27-30 Ephesians 6:4
Psalm 127:3-5 Proverbs 31
Psalm 128:3 Mark 10:6-9
Ephesians 5:28 Psalm 27:10
Titus 2:4 Matthew 7:27
Proverbs 13:24
KEY VERSE
“God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and
increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over
the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every
living creature that moves on the ground.” (Genesis 1:28)
DEVELOPMENT OF THE SUBJECT

I. GOD’S PLAN FOR THE FAMILY
Marriage is an extension of God’s own nature as expressed
in Genesis 1:27. The fullness of God’s happiness, peace,
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abundance and greatness was bestowed upon the human
race through the first couple that He created. Had they
kept the principles that God established, they would not
have needed to go through so many difficulties such as
pain, sickness, misery, sadness, suffering, etc. Even
though God had carefully prepared the place where this
couple would inhabit (with their descendants), and even
though God had thought of every last detail necessary
for their eternal happiness, there was one area where
God chose not to intervene, the human will which He
had placed in each person.
This would be the inheritance that He had entrusted to
them, to administer as they saw fit. But the happiness of
the couple depended on their obedience to the Word of
God. Even if the couple was not educated in other
subjects that would affect their marriage such as
finance, educating their children, etc., with just their
simple obedience to God, He would guide them into
having the best home possible. The reason is because
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom.”
It is important to understand that God’s intention to
redeem marriages and families is to restore them to His
original plan. A part of that plan is that our
understanding needs to adjust to the divine purpose of
living effectively within the relationships that God has
ordained for our homes.
A. GOD CREATED MARRIAGE (Genesis 2:18)

Marriage was not man’s idea; it was a divine idea. God
created man with the capacity to feel attraction for the
opposite sex; man towards woman and woman towards
man. God gave Adam a perfect helpmate, someone that
would partner with him; a woman who would be his
helper and support. Together they would make a team.
In His infinite wisdom, God chose two completely
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different people and brought them together in a
covenant of faithful and permanent love. When this
happens, a miracle takes place. These two individuals
join together in a mysterious way to become one. The
purpose of this union is to bring forth a new generation
for God. (Malachi 2:15)
B. GOD UNITED THEM IN MARRIAGE (Genesis 1:28)

The fullness of the blessing comes, not when people are
single, but when they married. God blessed the couple and
both were given the same degree of responsibility. If the
couple abides in full harmony, these three blessings
abide with them:
1. Fruitfulness
The fruit determines the type. The first couple’s life was
innocent and pure therefore the fruit should have been
the fruit of sanctification.
2. Multiplication
What is seen in the natural realm is true also in the
spiritual. Children in a marriage are the result of
teamwork. In the same way, abundant fruit is seen in
ministry when both work together as a team. The end
result is multiplication.
3. Lordship
A life of holiness should lead to multiplication when this
happens authority comes. A couple united in harmony
being led by the Word of God, is as powerful as a well
organized army. The secret is to always work as a team.
When Eve wanted to be independent she opened the
door to the tempter. But had she first consulted with her
husband, things would have been very different.
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C. GOD SET GUIDELINES (Genesis 2:15-25)
Vs.15 Man should provide for his home and protect his
family.
Vs.16-17 Man should be obedient.
Vs.18 Fellowship.
Vs.19 Man determines his family’s destiny.
Vs.21-23 From the two He made one.
Vs.24 Protection of intimacy.
Vs.25 Transparency.
II. THE IMPORTANCE OF A FAMILY

A. MARITAL STABILITY (Luke 14:27-30)
Allow me to paraphrase this text: Anyone then, wanting
to build this great tower called marriage, must first see
if they are able to go to the very end. May it not be that
the person (be it the husband or the wife) gets married
full of enthusiasm but after a few years abandons the
spouse, ending in separation. This person may become a
laughing stock befuddled by such mockery as, “Yeah, he
stared out so excited. But now look, he’s left his wife
and his children!”
Within divine guidelines, marriage is one of the greatest
blessings, especially when you understand that the
blessing of God is enriching and does not bring sadness
to our lives. In other words, God will keep you from
ending up in separation.
B. OFFSPRING (Psalm 127:3-5)

What good is it to build a home and have no family to
live in it after you are gone? Napoleon, despite all his
efforts, was not able to create a dynasty. Thousands of
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wealthy people would give half of everything they own,
just to hear the cry of a newborn babe in their family.
Children are the inheritance that God will give us. When
a man dies without children, his home is still not built.
A warrior is happy to see his arrows fly where he himself
is not able to go. Good children are like arrows headed
for the targets that their parents point them toward.
What marvels can a man accomplish, if he has
affectionate children who fulfill the wishes of their
father and pay heed to his counsel!
C. A BLESSED FAMILY (Psalm 128:3)

Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house
and your children like olive plants around your table.
The vine is a type of happiness and fruitfulness. These
are the two abilities the Lord has given wives. Children
are like olive plants. The olive tree represents the
anointing of God, which is what strengthens families to
conquer all. The meaning behind the anointing with oil is
that God will fight for us.
D. CONJUGAL LOVE (Ephesians 5:28)

The standard that God set for each man is very high:
love your wife with the same love that Christ loved the
church and gave Himself as a sacrifice for. This was all
for the redemption of the church. Marital love must be
fed daily with words, attitudes and nice details. You
must fight to protect the members of your family from
any emotional wounds. There must be a firm
commitment by both spouses to never allow the flame of
romantic love to die down or burn out.
E. THE WOMAN’S LEADERSHIP (Titus 2:4)

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Paul emphasized working with homogeneous groups. In
the scripture he encourages women to develop in
ministry and to be trained so that they can teach other
women. The best way to do this is in groups made
strictly of women where the issues discussed can be
specifically designed for that group. The two
foundational issues far women’s groups are love toward
your spouse and love toward your children.
III. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

A. THE USE OF PROPER DISCIPLINE (Proverbs 13:24, 22:15)
There are three steps in the use of proper discipline in
the family:
1. To edify
In the same way we establish limits for the proper
growth of a tree so that it does not grow twisted, so
must a father do with his children. He recognizes that
his children must be corrected from an early age and to
set limits, in order to help in their growth. This is true in
any type of discipline.
2. To encourage
Discipline should be focused on encouraging the children
to become better day by day. A negative attitude or the
use of negative speech can bring emotional destruction
and kill their drive to overcome. It is important for
parents to encourage and bless their children daily. Each
word spoken over them can be as powerful as a prophecy.
3. To comfort
Children need to know they are not alone in their
struggles but that they can count on the help and
support of their parents, to whom they can run to in any
situation and find refuge. Our children’s worth is not
determined by what they do but by who they are.
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B. THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD INSTRUCTION

(Proverbs 22:15)
In general, children have the tendency to believe that
they know best. But it is the parent’s duty to guide them
down the path of truth, with love and by their example.
The world may offer many alternatives but there is only
one way to the Father; Jesus. If we can help them enter
into an intimate relationship with God, as parents, we
have fulfilled a large part of our responsibility. We
should also seek to invest time in their lives as they grow
up. Parents should look for bridges of communication to
cultivate their relationship with their children.
C. PROVIDING FOR YOUR FAMILY (1 Timothy 5:8)

A human’s life develops in cycles. During the first cycle,
the parents are the ones working and providing for all the
needs in the home. In the second cycle, the children are
the ones with the strength of providing for their families.
This is the time within the cycle when they should honor
their parents with the necessary provision, to avoid
being classified by God as “Worse than an unbeliever.”
Whoever carries the responsibility of providing for their
home should do so with an attitude of faith and a generous
heart. In doing so, the inherent blessing in the relationship
will not be lost through any negative comments.
D. MORAL VALUES (Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 6:4)

We should have balance when we discipline our children.
It should not be too drastic, but the other extreme of
excessive permissiveness should also be avoided. Both
extremes are dangerous because it could damage or
spoil the children as was the case with the sons of Eli.
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He never disciplined them and this brought about early
death. (1 Samuel 3:11-14)
E. THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN (Proverbs 31:10)

The virtuous woman builds her house. She is the center
of the home. She is able to discover the talents and
gifting of her children, discerns good business decisions
for her husband, knows where to raise her children and
has the ability to bring prosperity to her home.
F. THE IDEAL MARRIAGE (Mark 10:6-9)

We can say that the divorce rate within Christianity is
minimal, thanks to those covenant vows that the man
and the woman spoke as they joined their lives in
marriage before God. Since the Lord is a covenant God,
He is keenly aware of those lives coming together under
His blessing. He watches over those who are truly trying
to fulfill His commandments.
There are many reasons for divorcing: infidelity, lack of
love or communication, false expectations, etc. But
those who have the blessing of God will have the
strength to overcome any obstacle.
G. GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (Psalm 27:10)

In general, humans have many spiritual voids that stem
mainly from childhood and were caused from a variety of
reasons or circumstances: For some, parental neglect, due
to abandonment, is a factor. For others, indifferences
and stress in parenting became the reason. Even though
the parents may have forgotten their primary responsibility
of protecting their children, God does not forget. He
comes in and takes over the responsibility abdicated by
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the parents. For that reason, God is always waiting with
open arms to comfort each one of His children.
CONCLUSION
The origin of the family goes back to the origin of
mankind and is part of God’s plan for all humanity. That
is why God’s plan is to restore the family with the
purpose to rebuild that which the enemy tried to
destroy.
STUDENTS’ ASSIGNMENT
The students should do reports about their own families
evaluating their family’s current condition and any
possible.
APPLICATION
During this week, take time to thank God for the family
He gave you. Seek to reach out with loving arms to each
family member living at home. Make lists of each one of
their qualities and thank God for their lives.
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QUESTIONNAIRE FOR FURTHER STUDY
1. What is the main purpose of the family?

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2. When God established the foundation of marriage,
what were the three steps given by God for us to
practice?
a. ___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
c. __________________________________________
3. How did God establish the first couple according to
Genesis 2:18?
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4. What were the blessings God gave them when He
united them?
a. ___________________________________________
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b. ___________________________________________
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c. ___________________________________________
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5. What were the guidelines that God gave the first
couple according to Genesis 2:15-25?
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6. Why is marital stability important in a marriage?
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7. Define offspring and explain why it is so important to
the family.
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8. What is the blessing of God for the family?
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9. What does Ephesians 5:18 tell us about marital love?
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10. Explain Titus 2:4 in reference to a woman.
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11. The responsibilities within marriage are:
a. ___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
d. ___________________________________________
e. ___________________________________________
f. ___________________________________________
g. ___________________________________________
FAMILY MEMBERS
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LESSON
AND THEIR PROPER
ROLES

Ephesians 6:1-3

Luke 15:20 Galatians 6:7-9
Genesis 17:5-6 Proverbs 31:10-31
Genesis 27:27 Titus 2:7
1 Kings 9:4-5 Esther 2:11
Proverbs 1:8 Proverbs 23:22
Proverbs 20:20
KEY VERSE
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is
right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ which is the first
commandment with a promise ‘that it may go well with
you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.’
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring
them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
(Ephesians 6:1-4)
DEVELOPMENT OF THE STUDY

I. THE FATHER
The heart of God is that of a father’s. His very nature says
that He is first and foremost a father. In our Father’s
heart there is love, sweetness, understanding, mercy
and provision. No one has greater love as the Father
does. He loved the world so much that He gave His son,
Jesus Christ, for our redemption. If an earthly father
gives only the best to his children, how much more will
our heavenly father do so with each one of you? In the
Sermon on the Mount, Jesus set a high standard for each
of His disciples: “Be perfect, therefore, as your Father
in heaven is perfect” (Matthew 5:48).We will become
outstanding leaders when we first become excellent
fathers.
Paul said, “For this reason I kneel before the Father,
from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth
derives its name” (Ephesians 3:14-15).
God is the solid foundation of the family. The word
“family” originates from the root word “paternity”. God
wants to restore true paternity in the family through the
men by having them take back their authority as fathers,
who build relationships with their children which
establishes their family’s destiny.
A father who is led by God shows character qualities
different from those learned in the world.
A. A MERCIFUL FATHER (Luke 15:20)

It is exciting to see how Jesus revealed the Father’s
heart to us through the use of parables. For example, in
the parable of the prodigal son, the father is anxiously
waiting to forgive his son when he returns, in spite of his
rebelliousness. He had always been waiting for his return
and when he saw him arriving from afar, he ran out to
meet him and embraced his son with a blessing. That
was one of my first experiences as a new Christian. I
sensed that my Father’s arms were opened, extended to
me, wherein I could take my refuge. I did not hesitate to
place myself right there. This brought so much security
and emotional stability to my life that I never wanted
that moment to end. Anyone wanting to love another
person must first receive love from the Father.
B. FATHER OF MULTITUDES (Genesis 17:5-6)

“Abram” means exalted father, but his new name
“Abraham” means father of multitudes. God was pleased
by the faith of this great man and knew that he would
raise his children in the fear of God. It pleased Him to
multiply his descendents for a thousand generations.
C. A FATHER WHO BLESSES HIS CHILDREN (Genesis 27:27-29)

The blessing is the path that the father prepares for his
children. Every word proceeding from his lips activates
the spiritual realm causing things to move in order to
fulfill the words he spoke over his children. I highly
recommend that fathers speak daily blessings over their
children. They should pray for their divine protection,
spiritual peace, financial provision, family harmony and
the anointing for multiplication.
D. AN EXEMPLARY FATHER (1 King 9:4-5)

David was known as a man after God’s own heart. One of
the best descriptions of his life is found in Psalm 15.
Vs.1 He was committed to the House of God
Vs.2 He led a life of permanent integrity
Vs.3 He never spoke evil about anyone nor accepted
gossip about others
Vs.4 He kept his word and never took it back
Vs.5 He was transparent concerning his finances
E. A SUBSTITUTE FATHER (Esther 2:11)

When Esther became an orphan, Mordecai, her uncle,
took on the role of her father. He cared for her and
trained her up as his own daughter. Even though the
emotional void in Esther’s life may have been great, he
was able to fill it in such a way that she eventually
became a woman in her own right knowing how to trust
in God. She grew in her faith and later won the support
of her own people. God was able to use all of this to
make her a queen in the midst of a pagan nation. This
later worked to save the lives of all the Jews living in
that country.
II. THE MOTHER

God blessed me with the best mother in the world. Even
though she had twelve children, she was careful to
watch over each one of them. When my father died
thirty eight years ago, people wondered how she would
raise and educate her children. She would later
experience the truth of God’s word where it said, “God
is a husband to the widows and a father to the orphans.”
How she was able to do it, I don’t know, but God knows.
Everything she touched was multiplied and there was
always abundance. This proved that God never withheld
his provision to us. I can say that my mother was a
woman who lived only for her children.
I rejoiced greatly when at the age of eighty one, she
started her first home cell group meeting with sixteen
people in attendance. Everyone there was about as
young as she was! Seeing her actively involved in ministry
has brought great satisfaction to me. I have never seen
her as happy as she is now serving God. I have memories
of love, affection, self denial, patience, dedication, and
above all, of a woman who always trusted in God.
A. VIRTUOUS WOMAN (Proverbs 31:10-31)
The author of proverbs presents us with all the benefits
that accompany the virtuous woman.
Vs.10 She is a gift from God to her husband. Her worth
is far above jewels.
Vs.11 Her husband trusts her and she has the anointing
to attract prosperity.
Vs.12 She is always a blessing to her husband.
Vs.13 She is a hard worker.
Vs.14 She is resourceful.
Vs.15 She looks out for her family’s well being.
Vs.16 She works in order to leave an inheritance for her
children.
Vs.17 She is strong and courageous.
Vs.18 She is financially discerning and has a sensitive
spirit to divine revelations received in dreams.
Vs.19 She knows how to do her job.
Vs.20 She has mercy on the needy.
Vs.21 She guards her household.
Vs.22 She is elegant.
Vs.23 She encourages her husband in ministry.
Vs.24 She’s entrepreneurial.
Vs.25 She prepares for the future events.
Vs.26 She always has a word of wisdom and she knows
how to practice mercy.
Vs.27 She can carry her own weight without being a
burden to anyone.
Vs.28 She has her family’s respect and admiration.
Vs.29 She is extraordinary and excels above everyone
else.
Vs.30 She is not deceived by outward beauty but puts
confidence in God only.
Vs.31 Her work speaks more than her words.
III. WHAT ARE YOU SOWING INTO YOUR

FAMILY? (Galatians 6:7-9)
The home is like fertile soil where the words spoken in
the past have grown, bringing all their consequences
with them, into the present. What we plant today will
bring its fruit tomorrow.
A. MOTIVATE THEM TO BECOME POSITIVE INDIVIDUALS

Positive is my word of choice when I describe a life of
faith that is not easily churned by circumstances. To me
a positive person is someone that has learned to speak the
Word of God only. The opposite of positive is negative.
Parents, I admonish you to teach your children to be
positive. Meet with them and teach them the message of
truth so that they may learn to see all things with eyes
of faith.
B. TEACH THEM INTEGRITY

Children are formed and trained from a very young age.
When Paul wrote Titus 2:7, he affirmed, “In everything
set them an example by doing what is good. In your
teaching show integrity, seriousness...” (NIV) For
instance, teach them to be considerate of the emotions
of others; they should never play with someone’s
feelings. Teach them that betrayal towards his or her
friends is showing lack of integrity also. The primary
example comes from the family itself because you are to
be examples for your children.
C. HELP THEM IN THE SPIRITUAL AREA
Just as we must feed our physical body, our spiritual
being must be nourished also. Spiritual nourishment
comes from the study of God’s Word and our ongoing life
of prayer. Each one of my daughters has developed the
habit of having time of intimacy with God daily. They
also journalize all the teachings they receive through His
Word. Their commitment with the Lord is to first feed
their spiritual life and then feed their physical bodies. I
recommend that you meet with your family daily, for at
least fifteen minutes, and share something from the
scripture. This habit will bring strong unity in the family.
D. MOTIVATE THEM TO HAVE A SURMOUNTING SPIRIT

A crisis plaguing our society today is the fact that we are
overly saturated with information that has diminished the
human spirit. Conquest has been replaced with a spirit
of conformity and mere subsistence. We don’t want that
for our children, so let’s motivate them to influence that
sphere of society, in which they are involved with, the
example of their Christian living. This world is in a
desperate search for stability within the family, not
another electrical appliance or a faster vehicle. We
know that people will only find what they need through
Jesus Christ. So let’s encourage our children to be
ambassadors of Christ at work or in school.
E. HELP THEM HAVE A BALANCED SELF-IMAGE

Parents should help each one of their children with their
self-esteem, keeping in mind their own struggles with
self-acceptance at one time or another:
 Speak words of blessing to them each day
 Honor them for their accomplishments
 Do not embarrass them when things don’t go as planned
 Help them to see adversity as small steps toward
making them better people
 Help them to see that they are God’s special treasures
 Help each one of your children to have a proper self-
image
F. HELP THEM FOLLOW THE RULES

Help them to have discipline and maintain rules. Teach
them to keep a schedule for everything including their
personal lives, their studies, personal commitments (that
they need to keep) fulfilling their ministry, and one for
their daily relationship with God.
G. TEACH THEM HOW TO RELATE TO OTHERS

Have you noticed that many young people don’t greet
others? Teach them to be courteous toward other
people, their friends, cousins and anyone outside of
their norm. Teach them to speak and express themselves
properly, not using street vernacular. Teach them also to
dress properly. And as for their self-education, teach
them to be good readers, especially of books dealing
with faith and success.
IV. RESPONSIBILITIES THE PARENTS MUST

SHARE
COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN
Another societal problem facing us today is that
technology has brought virtual friends into our
households, putting distance between family members.
This means that parents and children must make an
effort to re-build bridges of communication, bringing
more closeness, as they lay aside the things that serve as
obstacles to better communication.
 Set time aside each day.
 Dialogue with them.
 Create a good atmosphere for communication. If
someone is offended and no one has asked for
forgiveness, it can make the atmosphere very tense.
It is imperative to have all past wounds healed and
all resentment put aside.
 Have recreational activities that involve all the
children keeping in mind their individual age
differences.
 Keep them involved in important family decisions.
 Treat them like you treat your own friends.
 Make them feel like they are the most important
people in your life.
V. THE CHILDREN’S ROLE

A person’s success depends upon how they treat their
own parents; if they despise, hurt or curse them, their
days will be shortened. If they bless and honor them,
their days will be prolonged.
A. HONOR YOUR PARENTS (Ephesians 6:1-3)

Honoring your parents is a divine command that brings a
double promise with it:
a. It will go well with you in all that you do.
b. Your life will be prolonged.
 Be obedient to them (Ephesians 6:1)
 Listen to their counsel and teaching (Proverbs 1:8)
 Bring joy to their lives (Proverbs 10:1)
 Care for them when they are old (Proverb 23:22)
 Declare over them in the form of blessing, that their
understanding will be clear and their lives will shine.
(Proverbs 20:20)
CONCLUSION
There must be an understanding that God’s purpose is to
establish priestly families and that each family member
is to make the effort to evoke the presence of God in
their homes so that God’s Spirit can keep our families in
harmony.
Make a table or chart specifying roles for each family
member with the purpose of identifying wrong attitudes
and praying that God would change your family. This is
an important project for the teacher to effectively
identify the specific problems in the families of the
students.
APPLICATION
During the week you are going to pray for each one of
your family members and you are going to bless them,
taking authority so that each one may fulfill their proper
roles in the family.
1. What should be the heart of a Father?

______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. Fill in the following chart:
Characteristics of Fathers Bible Reference Explanation
a. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
d. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
e. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
3. What should the heart of a mother be?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
4. What are the characteristics of a virtuous woman
according to Proverbs 31?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. What is the seed I need to sow into my family?
a. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
d. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
e. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
f. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
g. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
6. What responsibilities do parents share?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. How should children honor their parents?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
8. For meditation:
a. Before knowing Jesus, how was your relationship
with your father, mother and brothers and sisters,
how has it changed?
b. If your relationship with any of the members of
your family is not right, ask God to give you an
attitude of forgiveness in your heart that you may
be able to restore that relationship.
3
LESSON
PROTECTING SELF-
ESTEEM

Isaiah 53:4-5

1 Corinthians 2:9 1 Samuel 15:17, 24
Galatians 3:13 John 10:10
Matthew 23:9 John 14:6
Matthew 11:28 Joel 2:25
Lamentations 5:7 Isaiah 54:4-17
Luke 15:17 -19 Exodus 20:5
2 Samuel 9:6-8 1 John 4:18
2 Samuel 4:4 2 Corinthians 2:14
Luke 15:20-25
KEY VERSE
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their
wounds.” (Psalm 147:3)
PURPOSE
The Lord made a great exchange on the cross of Calvary:
He took all of our evil and gave us all of His good. What
would you think if you saw a man bring in and old, beat
up car to a dealership, asking to trade it in; and the
manager replies, “No problem, just give me your old car
and I will give you a brand new one.” Let’s say that you
are that person and he gives you a new Mercedes Benz
and says that you don’t owe him anything but to sign on
the dotted line making the car yours! In a similar way,
this is what Jesus did on the cross. He took our life of
sin, completely destroyed by evil, where no matter what
medicine we took, nothing was able to solve our
emotional, spiritual and physical ailments (Isaiah 1:6).
We knew we needed a complete transformation.
That’s when we decided to come to Jesus saying, “Lord,
here’s my life, I want to trade it in.” Jesus replied, “No
problem, bring your life with the good and the bad, and
do away with it at the cross. “
If you can understand the power of the cross, your life
will never be the same. Jesus redeemed us from the
curse, destroying it (the curse) completely on the cross
of Calvary.
In Deuteronomy 28:15-68, you will find 53 verses that
speak of the effects of the curse that come upon those
who do not obey the voice of God, who do not keep and
do His commandments. On the other hand Paul taught
that our redemption had been complete (Galatians
3:13).

I. OVERCOMING EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS
First, define what the emotions are because that will
make it easier to identify any problems. Then minister to
them. Sadly, those who say that they love us, have
caused the deepest wounds.
Children are an extension of their parent’s characters.
Their lives affect them in a positive or in a negative
way. Jeremiah the prophet said it this way, “Our fathers
sinned and are no more, and we bear their punishment”
(Lamentations 5:7). But God opened a new way through
Jesus Christ so that through Him the curse will be taken
away and the blessing restored to our lives, families and
ministries.
A. SELF-ESTEEM (2 Samuel 9:6-8)

Mephibosheth was the grandson of King Saul. Naturally,
along with this came all the privileges afforded to the
high society families in Israel. But adversity touched all
the members of the king’s family. Within just one day,
he lost his father and grandfather. When his nanny
received the bad news, in her panic she hurried to run
away, but ended up dropping little five-year-old
Mephibosheth leaving him crippled as a result. (2 Samuel
4: 4). Because of all the adversity that he went through
in his childhood, he let many negative thoughts enter
into his mind set and a herded his personality. When the
king offered to restore to him, all the privileges and
rights of a prince, it was difficult for him to understand.
He considered himself an undesirable person. He was
accustomed to people rejecting him and running away
from him. That is why he used the example of a dead
dog, when describing himself, because was a perfect
example of repulsion.
David is a type of Christ and Mephibosheth represents
the afflicted person. The words of the king represent the
offer Jesus makes to each one of us:
He encouraged him to not be afraid. “Do not fear” (2
Samuel 9:7). Mephibosheth had inherited not only his
grandfather’s fear but also his inferiority complex (1
Samuel 15:17,24). Fear is more than just a feeling, it is a
demonic spirit whose sole purpose is to kill, steal and
destroy (John 10:10). It was written in God’s law that
God visits the iniquity of the fathers on the children, to
the third and the fourth generations of those who hate
Him (Exodus 20:5). John said, “Perfect love casts out all
fear” (1 John 4:18). If the son makes you free, you are
free indeed (John 8:36).
He offers His grace, “For I will surely show kindness to
you...” (2 Sam 9:7). Grace is the unmerited favor of God
toward each of us. It is not a reward for something good
that we may have done. Grace brings dignity and brings
elevation into people’s lives; it also brings the family
unit to life and causes God’s blessings to become
manifest in each one (Romans 5:8, John 3:16). If God is
for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31)
He restores material blessings: “I will restore to you all
the land,..” (2 Samuel 9:7). In other words, God will
restore to you everything the enemy took, because of
your faith. In just one day, this man’s whole life
changed. He went from a life of scarcity and poverty to
a life of abundance. When the favor of God reaches our
lives, He restores us and pours out rich blessings upon
our lives. Like the prophecy of Joel 2:25-26, “ I will
repay you for the years the locust have eaten – the great
locust and the young locust, the other locust and the
locust swarm - my great army that I sent among you. You
will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will
praise the name of the LORD your God, who has worked
wonders for you; never again will my people be
shamed.”
“Paul said, ‘“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind
has conceived what God has prepared for those who love
him.’ (1 Corinthians 2:9-10)
“You shall eat at my table” (2 Samuel 9:7). Not having
anything to be ashamed of and being able to share all of
your desires with Him is one of the greatest privileges
anyone could have. This is what God has made available
to any one of us who believes. All those who were
invited to eat at the king’s table had to sit with him
each morning so that the king would see their faces. If
someone was not present, it was due to some illness or
tragic circumstance. What is “the table?” It is when we
enter into the intimacy of prayer with Him. At His table
we hear the voice of God speaking, full of promises that
are within our reach, they are ours now and we accept
them by saying “amen,” Paul said, “But thanks be to
God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ”(2
Corinthians 2:14).
B. THE CHILD ALWAYS TURNS TO THE FATHER

(Luke 15:17-19)
In this story, the son represents how separated our lives
are from the Father God. We misuse our spiritual
blessings continually and each day that we remain apart
from Him, our state worsens. The steps the son
eventually walked out, exemplifies how we need to seek
spiritual restoration:
a.) He came to his senses: He stopped in his tracks
and reconsidered the foolishness he was
committing.
b.) He made a decision: He had the courage to
seek a second chance.
c.) He had a repentant heart: He didn’t even seek
the privileges he once had but wanted to be
received, at least, as a servant.
C. THE FATHER RESTORES THE SON (Luke 15:20-24)

No matter what we did in the past, when we decide to
return to God. He will run to meet us, opening his arms
and offering us His love.
Vs.21 The father accepts his son’s confession.
Vs.22 He restores all of the son’s rights and privileges.
Vs.23 He performed an act of redemption the fattened
calf is a type of Christ,
Vs.24 The son goes from death to life, from a life of
perdition to a fruitful one.
D. THE RESTORATION OF THE WOMAN (Isaiah 54:1-17)

God is as much a loving Father as He is an understanding
husband. Before giving the woman words of comfort, in
the first two verses He offers some suggestions:
Vs.1 Shout for joy, because you will overcome
barrenness.
Vs.2 Project yourself because you will grow in
accordance to your faith.
Vs.3 Promise: You will be enlarged greatly and conquer
nations. God, as a loving father, brings the past to
light to give us a better future.
Vs.4 Fear brings confusion, outrage brings shame. God
will heal your memories from the afflictions of
your youth.
Vs.5 Restoring your intimacy with God.
Vs.6 Abandonment brings sadness, separation brings
pain.
Vs.7 God will repay the time of affliction with great
compassion.
Vs.8 You will not know an angry God, but a deeply
loving God that assures your eternal future.
Vs.12 He will fill your house with precious things and
raise up a wall of protection around your family.
Vs.13 Your children will be taught of the Lord and there
will be peace in your home.
Vs.14 God will keep you from oppression and fear.
Vs.17 No weapon that is formed against you will
prosper.
CONCLUSION
Make sure all students were ministered to because the
strength of your leadership depends on how healed their
lives are.
With paper and pencil, write down all the wounds you
need to overcome. In an act of faith, take them to the
cross, and then destroy the sheet of paper as a symbol
that all those arguments have been canceled.
APPLICATION
From now on, the student knows what to do to heal his
wounds. So, from this moment forward, each time they
are wounded, they will forgive and take it to the cross.
1. What are emotions?

______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. What is the cause of our emotional problems?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
3. What is self-esteem?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
4. What does Jesus do when our self-esteem is not right?
a. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
d. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
5. When we make mistakes, we need to acknowledge
them. What was the attitude of the son in Luke
15:17-19?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
6. How did the father restore his son in Luke 15:2-32?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. How does God restore the woman according to Isaiah
54?
______________________________________________
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______________________________________________
8. What must I do to receive restoration for all areas of
my life?
______________________________________________
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STRENGTHENING
4
LESSON
COMMUNICATION IN
THE FAMILY
Luke 6:45

Ephesians 5:25 2 Timothy 2:4-6
Matthew 12:35-38 Numbers 13:31-33
Colossians 4:6 Acts 10:34
James 3:2 Proverbs 15
James 2:14-17 Ecclesiastes 3:1
2 Corinthians 11:23, 27
KEY VERSE
“For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your
words you will be condemned.”(Matthew 12:37)
PURPOSE
To help our students become excellent communicators;
first towards God, then in their family and later with
their disciples.
One year we were about to begin our annual convention
in Bogota the opening day I found myself being upset
with my wife. A situation cropped up between us and
caused us to become at odds with one another. Our
point of views went in completely opposite directions.
Even though we discussed this sensitive issue, we could
not come to amiable resolution. With that, I chose the
easy way out. I chose to ignore her, not taking her into
account on any level.
The meeting began as usual with me greeting the
people. Right after a guest saxophonist completed his
repertoire, I introduced my wife so that she could
address her portion of the meeting. To my
embarrassment, the first words out of her mouth were,
‘dear friends, today my husband and I had an argument.’
The unexpected shock of those words almost knocked
me over! She continued ‘ but while the music was
playing, God gave me the prophetic interpretation. He
said, My daughter, I permitted what you went through
today with your husband. In the same way you were hurt
by his indifference, it is the same insensitivity that my
own children show me by allowing days, weeks and even
months to go by without any type of communication with
the Holy Spirit. I want to restore that relationship
starting today.’ After my wife shared that word, a
tremendous breaking came upon the audience of
eighteen thousand and in the midst of tears, they asked
God for forgiveness for their indifference toward Him.
They yielded to a time of restoration between the family
members. The entire opening day ended up being filled
with a supernatural move of God. It led me to
understand that the basis for excellent communications
starts with cultivating a close relationship with the Spirit
of God.

I. DEFINITION
Communicate: Give or exchange ideas, feelings,
information or such things in writing, speaking or by
ways of signs, symbols, etc.
This process can be described as verbal or nonverbal
communication. At any rate, it is a means of sharing
information with another person were one person comes
to understand what the other person expresses. Parts of
communication include speaking, listening and
understanding.
A. Moving Towards Better Communication
Even though we are living in the age of communication,
the number one problem in most homes is lack of
excellent communication. There is nothing more tragic
than experiencing the deterioration of your relationship
with your spouse and not being able to salvage it. The
bible has within it the answer that we need to recover
our lost values and have excellent communication. It is
readily available to all of us.
Watch out for confusion. Solomon said, wisdom will build
your home. There is an urgent need for good
communication within the heart of the family. Without
it, it is impossible to build good home. The tower of
Babel was left unfinished and deserted because no one
was able to understand his fellow man. I can imagine the
moment; the architect has an idea, he expresses it, but
his words are in a language that no one around
understands. The engineer presumes to have understood
the idea but when he expresses his thought all the rest
of the workers become discourage and abandon their
work.
B. Actions
James 2:14-17. Faith without works is dead.
Matthew 21:28-31. Obedience is what pleases God.
2 Corinthians 11:23-27. The seal of Paul’s apostleship
was earned through hard work.
2 Timothy 2:4-6. Paul used three examples: the soldier,
the athlete and a hard working farmer. What gives honor
to them is how they perform their jobs.
In a conversation, actions represent 37% of what is said.
c. Attitudes
Number 13:31-33 Because of their unbelieving attitude,
ten of the twelve spies gave bad reports and a whole
generation was lost and died in the wilderness.
Numbers 13:30 Caleb and Joshua had a different spirit
and therefore a different attitude for which God
rewarded them. They were permitted to enter the
promised land.
Out of anger, Moses beat the rock that God commanded
him to speak to. Because of this outburst of anger (angry
attitude), he was not able to enter Canaan.
d. The Power of Words
The worst insults are generally made in moments of
anger or desperation. We know that the mouth speaks
from the abundance of the heart (Luke 6:45). Our words
either dignify us or put us to shame. Sometimes men
forget that women are fragile vessels and the easiest
way to destroy them is through offensive, demeaning
words, words that prompt humiliation or violence.
Nevertheless, Jesus taught us the correct way to treat
our wives: Ephesians 5:25 says, “ Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself
up for her.”
- The relationship between Christ and the church
became a great example of what a proper
relationship should be.
- Jesus always expressed words of love and hope
towards each one of His disciples.
- He spoke words of protection: “Fear nit little flock,
because it has pleased your father in heaven to give
you the kingdom.”
Your words determine the type of person you are, good
or bad (Matthew 12:35).
Avoid trivial conversations that bear no fruit (Matthew
12:37).
Your words will either save you or condemn you
( Matthew 12:37).
Your words should be motivating and joyous (Colossians
4:6).
Avoid offending with your words. In a conversation,
these may be only 6% of your words but they can and will
become unforgettable (James 3:2).
These two passages speak much about words. First, they
speak of having wisdom to address each person
according to the circumstance at hand, and secondly
they explain, that we become perfect when we don’t
hurt others with our words.
II. WHAT CAN GOOD COMMUNICATION
BUILD?
Those who have learned to relate well with people have
also been able to penetrate society in an effective
way.Those type of people that are influential, affect the
behavior of many.
It is imperative therefore that the communicator be
concise, clear, precise, and anointed.
Clear: The communicator should understand that the
very method of his message is in direct competition with
television, movies and other means of graphic,
entertaining presentations. Therefore he must present
his message with all the clarity that is possible! This is
the reason Jesus spoke in parables, making his message
so clear that the authors of the four gospels wrote their
interpretations exactly alike.
Concise: It is not the quantity but the effectiveness of
words that can transform lives. Jesus spoke a few words
because He only wanted to speak what was necessary.
Every word coming from His lips was full of power to the
extent that He was able to influence even the weather
with the power of His words.
Peter began preaching in Cornelius’ house and had
spoken for only a minute and a half when the Holy Spirit
interrupted him and fell upon those who were listening.
They were all filled with His presence. Peter understood
that the message he had preached was what they
needed, for the purpose of God to be fulfilled (Acts
10:33).
Sadly, many good messages are ruined because
preachers don’t finish on time. It is better for people to
wish you had spoken more instead of less.
Precise: Avoid getting off the subject and take
advantage of every second God gives you to share with
others. It may be the only opportunity that you have.
Discernment will give you an effective word that will
supply the needs of those listening. Solomon said that it
was good to speak the right words at the correct time.
Paul advised Timothy to know how to handle well the
Word of God, as a soldier handling his weapons.
Anointed: The anointing comes as a result of our
intimacy with God. It is our duty to bring down the
presence of God wherever we go because the eyes of
God are upon the righteous of the earth and His ears are
attentive to their cries. Every believer has the full
backing of the angelic host. Jesus told His disciples that
He cast out demons by the Spirit of God. He worked in
harmony with the Father and everything He did was to
bring the Kingdom of God to the people so that they may
receive life.
III. MOVING TOWARDS GOOD COMMUNICATION
- Speak at the right time. How good a word spoken at
the right time (Proverbs 15:23).
- There is a time for every event under heaven.
(Ecclesiastes 3:1).
- Speak, don’t shout. “A gentle answer turns away
wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of
the wise commend knowledge, but the mouth of the
fool gushes folly” ( Proverbs 15:1-2).
- “Better is a patient man than a warrior, a man who
controls his temper than one who takes a city”
( Proverbs 16:32). It is difficult to come to an
agreement when both persons are out of control,
shouting and exchanging offensive words. That does
not portray good character.
- Think before you speak and don’t speak before you
think. “The heart of the righteous weighs its answers,
but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil” (Proverbs
15:28). If couples would put this rule into practice
many misunderstanding could be avoided in marriage.
- Unleash life through your words. “ The tongue that
brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue
crushes spirit” (Proverbs 15:4). In a great majority of
homes, negative talk has been allowed to dominate
the atmosphere. More time is spent on accentuating
flaws rather that in focusing of the positive attributes
of one another. This creates tremendous emotional
wounds.
- Speak with knowledge, wisdom, kindness and
respect. “The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not
so the hearts of fools” ( Proverbs 15:7). It is
important to speak edifying words within a marriage.
Words that encourage and motivate. Always exalt
your partner’s qualities and treat them the same as
you want to be treated.
- Speak with understanding and wisdom. “The wise in
heart are called discerning, and pleasant words
promote instruction. A wise man’s heart guides his
mouth , and his lips promote instruction” (Proverbs
16:21,23). The words spoken to your spouse should
be words of support and comfort. They should always
be able to depend on you for that. So, be a blessing,
not a burden.
- Let your words be sweet and healing. “Pleasant
words are honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing
to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24). Your words can make
your spouse’s life more joyful or more embittered.
They can either bring healing or sickness, motivation
or discouragement. You can decide what type of
home you want to have.
CONCLUSION
In order to have a good level of communication, we
should be concise, clear, precise and anointed. We need
to understand that everything we share must be to edify,
motivate and support. Good communication is a weapon
we can use to reduce conflicts and improve our family’s
relationships.
Let the student have a workshop in their own home by
practicing a more effective method of communication to
improve their family’s relationship.
APPLICATION
Review the words that you use to address your loved
ones; change how you address those whom you do not
have good communication with.
1. Define communication:
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. What are the elements of communication?
a. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
3. How can we have good communication?
a. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
d. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
4. What things can hurt good communication?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. What should I keep in mind when communicating?
a. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
b. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
c. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
d. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
6. What guidelines should I follow to be a good
communicator?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. Perform a “mirror test” to evaluate how you transmit
a message. Confirm the clarity of your spoken words
to them by asking them to recite back to you what
was spoken. Did they actually hear what you
intended to say? Did you communicate it precisely
and did they receive it that way? A mirror will give
back to you exactly what you put before it.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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STRENGTHENING
5
LESSON
MARITAL LOVE

Matthew 7:24-27
Proverbs 18:22 Galatians 6:4
1 Corinthians 7:5 Proverbs 5:18
Genesis 1:26-31 Hebrews 13:4
Genesis 2:23-24 Proverbs 6:24-35
Malachi 2:16 1 Corinthians 13:5
Galatians 6:4
KEY VERSE
“and the two will become one flesh. So they are no
longer two but one.” (Mark 10:8)
PURPOSE
For each one of the students to learn what the Bible
teaches about marriage and be able to value it for what
it’s worth. To have what it takes to be able to build healthy
relationships, strong homes and to bring balance stability
to their children’s lives.
I. FOUNDATION IN GOD’S WORD
( MATTHEW 7:24-27)
To construct this grand institution called marriage you
need to have vision towards the future and believe that
you will both be happy forever. This is why, during the
wedding ceremony, the bride and grooms make vows to
each other declaring eternal love: I will love you always,
till death do us part.
A man once told me of a horrific personal experience that
he had on the day that he moved into his new home. He
and his son decided to set up a hammock. He tied one
end to a tree and the other end on a hook extending from
a wall. When it was all set up, he scooped up his son, and
lay with him, swinging gently in the hammock. Suddenly,
the wall lost its security and collapsed on top of them. The
impact was so great that it killed his little boy. As it turns
out, the wall was false, not stemming from a secure
foundation.”
How many build their homes on a wobbly foundation
where, at the least expected moment, everything comes
tumbling down? Just imagine the home falling apart and,
then separation ensures, affecting everyone. That is why
we cannot build our marriage on an unsure foundation.
The Lord said, “the foundation is for both, as a couple, to
hear the word of God and to do it.”
From the very first day of our marriage, we purpose in our
hearts that the foundation we would build our home upon
would be the Word of God. And since then we make a
daily effort to have contact with the Word. After asking
God for several confirmations on whether or not my
relationship with Claudia was from His Spirit or just my
emotions, He spoke to my heart with a scripture that says,
“and the two will become one flesh. So they are no
longer two but one.” (Mark 10:8)
We have experienced God’s knitting of us together from
the start. We feel woven together physically,
emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. My wife’s
success is mine, and she agrees that mine is hers. We
never felt that we were competing with one another.
Together we both have worked hard to build a firm,
flexible and lasting relationship.
I know that there is no greater privilege for a human
being than to find that person who can fill all the
expectations in your life. “He who finds a wife finds
what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
(Proverbs 18:22)
God has predestined a specific woman for each man. The
success of a marriage depends on having full certainty
that the person you married was the one God has
reserved just for you. That is why; even if the adversary
tries by all means to lead you into a double life, do not
permit it because human beings do not have sufficient
emotional energy to maintain several love relationships
simultaneously. It would be extremely tiring and would
leave deep wounds in the members of the family.
A. MARRIAGE: A DESIRE FROM GOD’S HEART

DEFINITION
There are various parts and pieces that make up the
definition of marriage. In order for us to fully understand
that the desire of God’s hears is to reproduce His
character through those couples willing to obey him, we
must understand that components of marriage.
GOD’S DREAM TO CREATE A MAN AND A WOMAN
(Genesis 1:26-28)
Marriage was not a man’s idea; it was a divine one. God
created man with the capacity of being attracted to the
opposite sex, but more specifically, it was an attraction
to one person: from the man towards the woman and the
woman towards the man. God created an ideal helper
for Adam, a woman to be his support so that together
they would make a team.
GOD DESIGNED US TO BE IN FELLOWSHIP AND IN
HARMONY, NOT ALONE
It is not good for man to be alone, so God created a
“suitable helper”. The benefits of having a relationship
are that we can sustain one another as friends and allies.
The perfect plan is that one would complete the other.
TO GIVE HAPPINESS TO MANKIND
The man said, “ This is now bone of my bones and flesh
of my flesh; she shall be called woman, for she was
taken out of man.” (Genesis 2:23)
This was the very first love song in history: At last I have
found someone to complement me, to take away my
loneliness, whom I will appreciate as much as my own
flesh. She is beautiful, perfectly suited for me; she will
be the only thing I need.
TO BE FAITHFULLY DEDICATED TO ONE ANOTHER
Marriage must start by abandoning all other relationships
in order to establish one permanent relationship
between a man and a woman.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and they will become one
flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)
No one should interfere in the marriage relationship. In
the cycle of marriage, each couple must learn to
confront the different situations that come up in life. To
achieve full success, they should raise up a hedge of
protection around the unity that was consolidated
through that marriage covenant. Marriage entails
leaving. Unless you are willing to leave everything else,
you will never develop unity in this emotional
relationship that God had in mind for every married
couple to enjoy.
IT IS A COVENANT RELATIONSHIP
Marriage demands an inseparable union between
husband and the wife throughout their lifetime. Before
the eyes of God, “joining to” means a complete
surrender of the heart. It means you will have an
ongoing opportunity to unite with your spouse even in
the smallest things of life. Anything that separates you
either mentally or physically should be avoided because
it breaks God’s divine design for married life. God hates
divorced because it is a sin against the covenant.
(Malachi 2:16a)
IT IS FOR MUTUAL PROTECTION
“Let us examine ourselves” (2 Corinthians 13:5).
Marriage means that the couple must continually
evaluate their condition. Many marriages have been
shipwrecked on the ocean of life because they thought
they were doing well and never took the time to spot
small leaks in their ship. Test yourself. The best way to
test yourself is to listen attentively without getting
upset, to what your spouse sees, feels, and says about
you. This way no one will be able to use “ignorance” as
an excuse.
“But each one must examine his own work,” (Galatians
6:4). Marriage requires that you implement new
methods, from time to time and to improve the
relationship with your spouse in order to reach the most
important goal: Happiness.
B. THE IMPORTANCE OF SEXUALITY IN MARRIAGE
THE HOLINESS OF SEX ( Mark 10:8)
Let us say that there are two persons who have not seen
each other for several years and quite by accident, one
foreseen day, they run to each other again and
immediately they feel a strong mutual attraction. So,
they come to the confusion that this is the person
they’ve been looking for, that this is the missing piece of
the puzzle in their lives. We can call this a pleasant
miracle. A relationship without a permanent attraction
to one another would not make any sense. The sex drive
was created by God to make man’s life upon the earth
more pleasant.
It brings happiness. “ May your fountain be blessed, and
may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe,
a graceful deer – may her breast satisfy you always, may
you ever be captivated by her love.” (Proverbs 5:18-19)
It dignifies people. “Marriage should be honored by all,
and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the
adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Hebrews 13:4)
It blesses us with children. God blessed them and said
to them, “ Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the
earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:28a)
Sex was created by God. “God saw all that he had made,
and it was very good.” (Genesis 1:31a)
It brings harmony. “Do not deprive each other except by
mutual consent and for a time.” (1 Corinthians 7:5a)
Sexual intimacy has God’s approval also as long as it is
within the marriage setting. Sex outside of marriage
becomes something grotesque, which leads to more and
more impurity. The author of proverbs warned about the
dangers people are exposed to when they fall into the
trap of sex outside marriage.
Proverbs 6:24-35
Vs.24 The Word protects you from the strange
woman
Vs.25 Strength of character is required to avoid
being trapped in seduction
Vs.26 The harlot will reduce a man to his minimum
expression
Vs.27-29 You will suffer the consequences
Vs. 30,31 The harlot ruins men
Vs.32 It corrupts the soul
Vs.33 He will have to carry the mark of his sin
C. RESCUE THE VALUES IN YOUR HOME
HAVE A PROPER SELF IMAGE
Many people have failed in marriage because they
accepted an incorrect self-image. No one should permit
problems or circumstances to lead them to think
incorrectly about themselves. There is no one else on
earth like you! God has made you unique and has given
you riches that the adversary does not want you to
discover. Proper self-image can be restored through
Jesus. He understands you and accepts you as you are.
EXAMINE YOURSELF AND CORRECT YOUR WEAKNESSES
Correcting our weaknesses will allow us to have a more
stable relationship. For example, character weaknesses,
a competitive spirit, being easily angered, having a hard
time asking for forgiveness. All these areas must be
improved upon or they can damage a relationship.
RECEIVE COUNSELING
A wise person will always have the counsel of those who
have more experience. Never allow time to heal a
problem. Learn to dialogue as a couple and make an
effort to overcome conflicts. Participate in marriage
encounters because at these events you will receive
tools to help build your marriage.
PRAY FERVENTLY AND KEEP A GOOD RELATIONSHIP
WITH GOD
Marriage, more than a relationship of love, is also
spiritual relationship. It is not only where we give of our
body but also of our spirit. Both, the husband and wife
being in ministry together will help to develop a partner
relationship and each one will see that their professional
success will be a result of a great relationship.
CONCLUSION
Decide to build a home according to the desire of God’s
heart. Put aside any differences that you may have had
with your spouse. Together make a commitment to
consecrate your lives to the service of God.
Treat your spouse like a queen/king and do not nag or
complain for a whole week; do not shout at them, but
love them and serve them. Let them feel that they are
valuable as a person. If you can do it, continue this way
for a month. If the results are good, extend it to a year.
The result will be an end to all conflicts in the marriage.
APPLICATION
Put each one of the principles learned in this lesson into
practice to ensure having a home built on the solid rock,
which is Jesus.
1. What is a marriage?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. What foundation should a marriage be built on?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
3. Marriage was a desire of God’s own heart because:
a.____________________________________________
b.____________________________________________
c.____________________________________________
d.____________________________________________
e.____________________________________________
f.____________________________________________
4. Is sexuality important in a marriage? Explain.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. What does God think about sexuality according to
Mark 10:8?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
6. Having sexual intercourse within marriage gives us:
a. Happiness Proverbs 5:18 because
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
c. Dignity Hebrews 13:4 because
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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d. Freedom to participate in His blessed creation
Genesis 1:31 because
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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e. Harmony 1 Corinthians 7:5 because
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. What warning does God give in reference to sexual
relationship according to Proverbs 6:24-35?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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8. What are the values I should build into my family?
______________________________________________
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THE BLESSING OF
6
LESSON
GOD UPON THE
FAMILY
Genesis 1:28
Genesis 1:26-30 2 Corinthians 8:9
Deuteronomy 28:1-14 Proverbs 10:22
1 Corinthians 2:9 Galatians 3:13
Ephesians 2:8-9
KEY VERSE
“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and
that all may go well with you, even as your soul is
getting along well.” (3 John 2)

I. GETTING TO KNOW THE BLESSINGS
Introduce the subject by giving a biblical definition of
love; so that later you may explain the different aspects
of love as applied in marriage.
A. MARRIAGE IS A BLESSING
God’s purpose for marriage was to bring happiness to the
family. At first, Adam was alone. After Eve was created,
the blessing of God came upon the couple.
God loved that first couple as much as a father would
love an only child. He gave them everything they needed
to enjoy His blessings. Adam and Eve were:
 The image of God, (Genesis 1:26) God’s character
was precisely reproduced in both of them.
 In divine harmony, (vs.27) God is triune; Father, Son
and Holy Spirit and the three are one and never
disagree. In the same way, God created marriage for
the couple to live in perfect harmony.
 They were placed by God as kings over all creation
(vs.28).
 They were taught the principle of seedtime and
harvest (vs.29).
 They were given provision (vs.30)
“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and
that all may go well with you, even as your soul is
getting along well.” (3 John 2)
Proverbs 10:22 The full blessing. “The blessing of the
LORD that brings wealth, and He adds no trouble to it.”
I have been able to share with thousands of people
around the world and from what I can tell, everyone
wants a better life, even those who think that
spirituality should have nothing to do with material
things. We need to learn that God gave us all things in
abundance for us and for our enjoyment.
B. GOD IS THE FATHER OF ABUNDANCE (1 Corinthians 2:9)

God’s blessings are always beyond what our minds can
perceive. The things that eye has not seen, nor has ear
heard, are the things that God has stored in His secret
place and they will only be manifested to those who by
faith, get to see them, touch them and confess them as
if they already were their own.
God is not poor and He is not selfish, therefore, He
always gives in abundance. He never considered giving
mankind just a small portion of the earth along with a
few animals. He was very generous and gave man the
whole earth so that both he and his children could live in
it and enjoy it forever.
If man had not been so selfish and stingy of heart, I am
sure every human being could live like a king. But
because of sin, man lost all of his privileges.
C. THE PURPOSE OF GOD IS TO BLESS YOU

(Deuteronomy 28:1-14)
The blessing of God is tied to obeying His Word.
Vs.2 Every type of blessing will be upon you.
Vs.3 You’ll be blessed wherever you go.
Vs.4 Blessings will be upon your children, your
neighborhood and your work.
Vs.5 Blessings will be upon your family basket.
Vs.6 All your activities will be blessed.
Vs.7 You will always find a way out of all your
problems.
Vs.8 You will be blessed in all you do.
Vs.9. You will be called into ministry.
Vs.10 God will exalt you and give you honor.
Vs.11 Wherever you live, you will prosper.
Vs.12 You will be a great businessman able to help
others.
Vs.13 You will be lifted up to places of honor and
authority.
D.JESUS REDEEMED US FROM THE CURSE OF RUIN
(Deuteronomy 28:16-68)
The existence of blessings are real as curses are. In the
book of Deuteronomy, chapter 28, Moses wrote a whole
chapter about the blessing and the curse. We have some
excerpts on that chapter. Verse 15 says that not obeying
the Word of God exposes the person to many types of
curses. These are four times more numerous than the
blessings.
Vs.16 It will find you wherever you go.
Vs.17 It will affect the families’ basic provision and
supplies.
Vs.18 It affects your children, contaminates the place
you live in and stops production in your business.
Vs.19 Brings instability to your life.
Vs.20 Affects your health, emotions and everything you
work to do.
Vs.21 Death will surround you and your family.
Vs.22 Every type of sickness will attack you.
Vs.23 Heaven will not listen, the earth will not respond
to you.
Vs.24 Because of you the whole territory will be dry
and arid.
Vs.25 You will not be able to stand up for yourself and
will flee all the time.
Vs.28 Mental crisis, lack of vision and spiritual confusion
will be the norm.
Vs.29 You will be far from prosperity but near to
oppression.
Vs.30 You will lose your wife and belongings in an
instant.
Vs.32 Your children will be trapped in vices and you will
not be able to help them.
Vs.33 Others will enjoy what you have worked for.
Vs.37 No one will want to imitate you.
Vs.38-43 You will not see the fruit of your ministry.
Vs.44 You will live enslaved to debts.
Vs.47 You will be affected by ungratefulness.
Vs.48 You will live in absolute poverty.
Vs.62 Your ministry will decrease until it disappears.
Vs.65 Evil will find you no matter what country you’re in.
Vs.66 Uncertainty, fear and insecurity will be
permanent in your life.
Vs.67 You will be very inconsistent and unreliable.
Vs.68 You will go back to the world thinking that it will
end your problems, but you will find that no one
cares about you there.
E. THE CROSS: OUR PLACE OF VICTORY (Galatians 3:13)

If we could travel back for a moment to Calvary and see
Jesus hanging on the cross, we could better understand
that the curse, which was upon us due to sin, came upon
the body of Jesus. He was suffering extreme hunger
when He arrived at the cross because He had not eaten
for over 24 hours. He felt thirst and shouted “I am
thirsty!” He experienced nakedness and died completely
nude without a single piece of clothing. Artists have
tried to be kind to His image by covering His private
parts, but we should not be deceived by this depiction.
Jesus died completely naked. He exhibited His shame
because He was taking our place to make us completely
free of any and all curses.
“For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that
though He was rich, yet for your sake He became poor,
so that you through His poverty might become rich.” (2
Corinthians 8:9)
If Jesus died for my poverty and misery, I don’t need to
suffer any of this again because it would mean I was
doubting what He did for me on the cross. If I thought
that renouncing material things would help me win God’s
heart then my salvation has a price. Because I am trying
to earn my salvation by works. If I did so, then it will be
the same as living under the law and not under grace.
“For it is by grace you have been saved through faith;
and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God, not
by works, so that no one can boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
F. WE ARE HEIRS OF THE BLESSING OF ABRAHAM

(Galatians 3:14)
We inherit the blessings of Abraham.
vs 29. Being a Christian gives me the legal right to
partake of all the blessings given to Abraham.
CONCLUSION
The easiest way to go, is to run to God and the surest
way is to walk with God. He set before us the curses
and the blessings. Success and prosperity, depends
exclusively on us. Let us be wise and choose to walk by
the sure way: submitted by the Word of God.
Students should review the lesson at home and take time
to cancel any of the curses they may have identified in
their lives, and claim the blessings.
APPLICATION
Declare daily, the blessings of Deuteronomy 28:1-14 and
appropriate them and confess them for yourself and your
household.
1. Find the definition of the words blessing and curse in

a dictionary.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. Complete: What were Adam and Eve to God?
The image ____________________________________
In divine ______________________________________
Placed by God as ______________________ over
creation
Taught the principle of __________________________
And ______________Given _______________________
______________________________________________
3. God gives a triple blessing according to 3 John 2 and
Proverbs 10:22.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
4. Explain why God is the father of abundance according
to 1 Corinthians 2:9.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. Write the blessings for your life found in
Deuteronomy 28:1-14.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
6. Review the curses found in Deuteronomy 28:15-68.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. The cross is our place of victory. Why?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
8. Why are we heirs of the blessings of Abraham?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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7
LESSON
THE INNER HEALING
OF THE COUPLE

Ephesians 4:31-32
Proverbs 18:14
Isaiah 54:46
Mark 11:25
Matthew 13:51
2 Corinthians 5:17
Romans 8:1
KEY VERSE
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances
you may have against one another.” (Colossians 3:13)
I. THE INNER HEALING OF THE COUPLE
(Proverbs 18:14)
The worst wounds a human being can have are the ones
affecting the soul. God designed mankind to feel love, to
be loved and also to give love.
Many wounds come from childhood where there has been
lack of family love lack of affection and
acknowledgment. This lack creates a void in the heart
that remains as the years go by.
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Usually, people try to fill the void with secondary things
and thereby exposing themselves to serious sin. Many go
into marriage under condition thinking the marriage will
help them forget what they suffered in childhood. This
actually can make things worse.
I can say that the wounds of the spirit go beyond the
memory and are deeper than even a conscious mind can
fathom. In most cases these wounds did not even
register in our memory because we were probably so
young that we do not remember events.
II. CAUSES THAT LEAD TO A WOUNDED
SPIRIT
The most common causes for a wounded spirit are:
A. REJECTION
The general cause of rejection is lack of love. That is
why it is so important for each person to be loving
toward each one of their children and between spouses,
in order to avoid deep wounds that we mistakenly think
time will heal. Instead, years go by and the wounds
become even deeper than they were in the beginning.
Several things can cause a wounded heart:
- When a pregnant woman does not want her child
- When children are born but not accepted because
their gender or due to the financial situation in the
home.
- When the parents show preference to one child over
another
- When children are publicly embarrassed or shamed
B. ANGER
This is an uncontrolled attitude in someone’s character.
It is a sign of weakness which sometimes is manifested
more in men, especially if he feels he is losing authority
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in the home or at work. He reverts to anger to cover up
some sin or because of bitterness in his heart he wants
to express in a violent or forceful way. “Get rid of all
bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along
with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to
one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God
forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32)
C. BLAMING ONE ANOTHER
Generally, human beings tend to always justify
themselves and blame others: “It is your fault, you did
this to me, you said that to me, you don’t love me, etc.”
It is important to acknowledge our own mistakes, and
ask ourselves where did we go wrong. We always blame
our spouse for the financial problems, or we blame them
when our children make mistakes, or we blame whoever
was home watching them, we think that educating our
children is only one person’s job. The raising of children
depends on both parents and it is important for each
parent to fulfill their proper roles in a marriage and
learn to confront each situation that arises.
D. HURTFUL WORDS
Sometimes in a marriage, one of the spouses knows how
to hurt their spouse with sarcastic words that cut like a
knife. In all my years of counseling, I have seen that the
deepest wounds were caused by words spoken many
years ago, but are still alive in their hearts.
Words can be very powerful as they can continue to echo
in the minds of people becoming an entrenched wound.
The result is that people then become resentful and
desire revenge, possibly even breaking their vow of
faithfulness. That’s why it’s important in a marriage to
ask for forgiveness with all your heart, when you have
offended the other with hurtful words, it is also equally
important to cancel them out in the name of Jesus,
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asking for the continued blessing and protection of the
home.
E. PHYSICAL ABUSE
Some men have become used to physically abusing their
wives. Isaiah 54:4-6 God himself places a cord of
protection around the woman, and says that He Himself
is her husband. He is not that man who abused her or
abandoned her, He will take her into His great mercy.
III. STEPS FOR EMOTIONAL HEALING
1. Each one should pause to think. If you feel you have
been offended, forgive with all your heart, even
those who have rejected you or who have wounded
you. In Mark 11:25 it says, “And when you stand
praying , if you hold anything against anyone, forgive
him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you
your sins.”
2. Renounce the temptation to keep anything in your
heart that you may have produced bitterness,
resentment, hatred, or rebellion. In Matthew 13:52 it
says, “Therefore every teacher of the law who has
been instructed about the kingdom of heaven is like
the owner of a house who brings out his storeroom
new treasure as well as old.”
3. Forgive yourself. Romans 8:1 states, “Therefore,
there is now no condemnation for those who are in
Christ Jesus.” Don’t let your thought accuse you nor
let the mistakes you made in the past condemn you.
Paul said, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a
new creation, the old has gone the new has come.” (
2 Corinthians 5:17). Accept yourself and restore your
personal relationship with God.
4. Return to Jesus with all your heart. Jesus said, “
Come to me all you who are weary and burdened,
and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)
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Accept that you married the right person. Most homes
that go into a crisis leading to possible divorce do so
because deep down, one of the spouses, or both, have
entertained the idea that they married the wrong
person. How can someone change their attitude toward
their spouse like that? Before marriage they vowed
eternal love and now they say they can no longer live
with each other. Before, they used to spent hours just
looking at each other, now they struggle to avoid seeing
one another and avoid running into each other.
CONCLUSION
It is important to experience total healing of the soul in
order to enjoy a true marital relationship.
APPLICATION
Identify the root of lack of forgiveness in your life and
place it on the cross of Calvary. Forgive and seek to
forgive those who offended you. Always do it at the time
of the offense, don’t wait for too much time to go by.
Have the student contact those who offended him or
those people who he offended and either forgive them
or ask for their forgiveness. This can be done in person
or on the telephone.
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1. What is inner healing?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. Why do you need inner healing? Use biblical
references.
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
3. What is rejection and what causes it?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
4. What causes anger and how does it affect the people
around us?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. What consequences does guilt bring us?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
6. Why are hurtful words damaging?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. Physical abuse, damages relationships. How can we
receive protection according to Isaiah 54:4-6?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
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8. What are the steps for emotional healing?
a.____________________________________________
b.____________________________________________
c.____________________________________________
d.____________________________________________
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8
LESSON
THE LEADER AND
HIS FAMILY

1 Timothy 3:1-7

Acts 26:18 Genesis 27:13
Psalm 127:1 Genesis 27:46
Colossians 2:14 Lamentations 5:7
Deuteronomy 27:15 Genesis 31:32
Isaiah 61:4 Genesis 35:16-21
KEY VERSE
“Deacons, likewise, are to be men worthy of respect,
sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing
dishonest gain. They must keep hold of the deep truths
of the faith with a clear conscience. They must first be
tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let
them serve as deacons. In the same way, their wives are
to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers
but temperate and trustworthy in everything. A deacon
must be the husband of but one wife and must manage
his children and his household. Those who have served
well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in
their faith in Christ Jesus.” (1 Timothy 3:8-13)
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PURPOSE
For the student to have full certainty that God desires
consecrated families and that the chief purpose of the
church is to restore families in order to save the nation.

I. THE LEADER’S HOME (1 Timothy 3:1-7)
The apostle Paul gives important requirements that
should be evident in the life of any leader:
 Above reproach: He is blameless
 Husband of one wife: He has a consistent marriage
 Temperate: He knows how to keep things in balance
as a husband, father, and leader, as a disciple, as a
businessman or as an employee.
 Self-controlled: He knows when to speak and when to
keep quiet, has the ability to overcome all difficulties.
 Respectable: He has good taste, creates an
atmosphere of excellence.
 Able to teach: A good disciple makes a good teacher,
he loves what he does.
 Not addicted to wine: He knows how to control his
desires, practices self control.
 Quarrelsome: He does not impose his doctrine by
force, lets the Holy Spirit do its work.
 Not greedy for money: He is not seduced by the
glitter of gold, knows how to wait on God.
 Kind: He has the gift of serving and makes an effort
for others to feel more important.
 Gentle: He always stays calm and never
temperamental.
 Not covetous: He loves God with his entire mind,
with all his soul, and with all his strength and
because of this he does not make room in his heart
for the god of money.
 Manages his household well: He knows and applies
biblical principles therefore his whole family is
involved in ministry.
 Not a recent convert: He does not get ahead of the
training process, knows how to work under the
direction of his leader.
 Must have a good reputation: His actions speak more
than his words.
A. ALLOWING JESUS TO BUILD YOUR HOME

“Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in
vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the
watchmen stand guard in vain.” (Psalm 127:1)
The family crisis has arisen because we have forgotten
certain simple but important elements within the family
nucleus. Not knowing how to educate the children, not
honoring our spouse, living with resentment and fighting
against having to forgive; selfishness, pride, and the
vanity of life are things that have affected many
families. But the worst thing of all is that they have
taken God out of the home and have wanted to raise a
family in their own strength.
All efforts made without God are in vain because parents
can lead their children to salvation or to damnation, into
success or failure, prosperity or misery, blessing or
disgrace. The only thing that is sure and is always
guaranteed is that parents have the responsibility of
raising their children in the fear of God.
B. CANCELING OUT ARGUMENTS (Colossians 2:14)
 Many of the conflicts experienced in the family have
their roots in the parents’ homes:
 Due to sins inherited from the parents: Our fathers
sinned, and are no more; and we bear their
punishment. (Lamentations 5:7)
 Because of idolatry – (Deuteronomy 27:15)
 Because of words parents spoke over their children.
What you say shall be done unto you. – (Mark 11:23b)
 For taking the blame of another. Rebecca accepted
the curse of her child. “Your curse be on me, my
son…”
 Because of negative talk. Rebecca said to Isaac, “I
am tired of living... what good will my life be to
me?” (Genesis 27:46)
 Because of words spoken by your spouse. The one
with whom you find your gods shall not live - Genesis
31:32. Jacob did not realize it, but he put a curse
upon his wife whom he loved very much. And because
of this she died giving birth to his son Benjamin.
(Genesis 35:16-21).
All of these words become arguments against us, in the

spiritual realm and they become legal ground for the
enemy to lay hold of and to use against us. In the
redeeming work of Jesus Christ, all this arguments were
canceled and the demonic powers that operated through
those things were disarmed and publicly exhibited on the
cross of Calvary. For you to experience full deliverance,
you need to identify the argument against you. In order
for you to experience true repentance for this, confess
your sins to God, renounce the curse that entered in
through that sin, and in an act of faith, visualize the
curse as removed from upon your life and your family’s
life. You may also ask God in prayer to give you the
opposite of that which you were delivered from.
C. GRACE THAT RESTORES (Isaiah 61:4)

One of the most important aspects of Jesus’ ministry was
the ministry of restoration.
 Brought restoration to wedding ceremonies. His
presence at the wedding feast of Cana of Galilee,
was a teaching to the world that couples should unite
their lives in the right way: in holy matrimony.
 Restored the health of those who were sick.
 Restored the vision of those who had none.
 Restored mental health to those who hallucinated.
 Restored the dignity of those that were cast out by
society.
 Brought light to those in darkness.
 Brought life where there was death.
 Taught the language of love.
 Opened the door of hope for those drowning in
confusion.
D. JESUS COMMISSIONED US TO CONTINUE WHAT HE BEGAN

“...to open their eyes so that they may turn from
darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God,
that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place
among those who are sanctified by faith in Me.” (Acts
26:18)
CONCLUSION
Someone being trained for ministry should ask God to use
them in a special way for restoring their own family, and
the homes of their relatives and disciples. And may their
lives and leadership be a fountain of inspiration for many.
APPLICATION
Be sure there are no arguments left standing against
your family. Keep your prayer life sensitive to divine
direction, where God can show you the needs in your
family in order to pray for them effectively.
Make a list of family members who are not believers.
Identify what arguments may exist against them so that
you can cancel them out by faith and declare salvation
for your family.

1. According to the Bible, what was God’s purpose for

creating the family?
______________________________________________
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2. What are the main requirements for any leader
according to 1 Timothy 3: 1-7?
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______________________________________________
______________________________________________
3. How can I let God build my home according to Psalm
127?
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______________________________________________
4. Where do the conflicts suffered in the family come
from?
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5. According to Isaiah 61:4, how can I restore the
family?
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6. God commissioned us to: (explain according to Acts
26:18).
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9
LESSON
ABUNDANT LIFE

3 John 2

Ephesians 2:1 Matthew 25:20-24
Acts 16:31 John 10:19
Genesis 17:1 Romans 12:2
Genesis 14:22-23
KEY VERSE
“Now to him who is able to do immeasurable more than
all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at
work within us.” (Ephesians 3:20)
PURPOSE
The abundant life comes from the internal to the
external, from the spiritual to the material, from the
invisible to the visible. Jesus taught that it was useless
for a man to gain the world and lose his soul that no
ransom was enough to pay for his soul. He was telling us
that no material success, no matter how great, can be
equal to the spiritual riches that only God can give.
The abundant life is a combination of spiritual, moral and
material values. It is not God’s desire for us to benefit from
spiritual blessings, on the other hand live a life of material
scarcity. On the contrary, the work of redemption
restored everything man had lost due to sin. Paul said that
Jesus, although He was rich, became poor so that through
His poverty, we would be made rich. (2 Corinthians 8:9).
The abundant life is for you to enjoy good health. And by
His wounds you were healed. (1 Peter 2:24)

I. ABUNDANT LIFE
Abundant: from the Greek term, PERISSEIA:
 Abound
 Fullness
 An over abundant measure, something above and
beyond the ordinary
II. HOW DO WE ATTAIN IT?

A. ABSOLUTE DEPENDENCE ON GOD
Abraham knew God as “El Shaddai”, meaning the God
that supplies or meets all our needs.
This Hebrew word means:
El = All powerful
Shad = Breast ( a mother’s breast).
In the same way a mother nurtures her child, God nurtures
us through His strength. God told Gideon, “Go in the
strength you have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand.
Am I not sending you?” (Judges 6:14). God had nurtured
Gideon and now his strength was the very strength of God.
Abraham, a man of determination (Genesis 14:22-23)
a. Abraham made a covenant of dependence on God, to
believe that God was his only source of provision.
b. Abraham new those riches came from the hand of
God, that’s why he became one of the most powerful
men of his time. His dependence on God was absolute.
B. PUTTING PRIORITIES IN ORDER (Matthew 6:33)

God wants us to have complete dependence on Him
because there is blessing in it. When we desire to have
our spiritual lives enriched by Him we become enable to
be blessed by material means also.
C. FREE FROM COVETOUSNESS (Psalm 62:10)

Covetousness means an excessive desire for riches. God
wants us to have prosperity, but when covetousness
already exists, it is impossible for God to bless.
Covetousness is a form of idolatry.
D. BEING FAITHFUL STEWARDS

If we are faithful in administering the resources God has
entrusted us with; God will add greater responsibilities.
The purpose of talents are:
 To be used wisely
 To be multiplied
 To be used to glorify God
We should understand that God always rewards those
who are successful with what they have been entrusted
upon. But He also shames those who are afraid and
negligent. For this reason, God will also take away what
little they had received in order to give it to those who
have been successful.
E. RECEIVING THE ABUNDANT LIFE (John 10:10)

The opposite of the abundant life is theft, death and
destruction. This is what sin did to each one of us. It
deceived us, seduced us and then took everything away
from us. Finally, it took us down the path of destruction
and death. Because of being in this condition, we were
ignorant to the fact that the wonderful life found in
Jesus, was possible for us too.
F. RENEW THE MIND (Romans 12:2)
Man is the sum of his thoughts. That’s why we need to
open our mind to the revelation of the Spirit because it
can lead us to new conquests. The renewed mind does
not permit thoughts of poverty, scarcity, ruin,
frustration, failure, etc. The thoughts of the diligent
surely lean towards abundance.
CONCLUSION
We can only conquer our abundant life through the
cross. It was there that Jesus canceled every curse and
argument that was against us. Therefore we need to
walk with a renewed mind.
The student should completely memorize the Biblical
Foundational Reference of this lesson.
APPLICATION
Read a book about the renewing of the mind. Read all
the words that speak of abundance and claim them for
your own life.
1. Define the word abundance.
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______________________________________________
______________________________________________
2. How do you reach the abundant life according to
Genesis?
a. Genesis 17:1
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______________________________________________
b. Genesis 14:22-23
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______________________________________________
3. How should I prioritize things to have the abundant
life according to Matthew 6:33?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
4. What is covetousness and how can I be free from it
according to Psalm 62:10?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. Who are the stewards and what are their functions
according to Matthew 25?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
6. How can I receive from that abundant life according
to John 10:10?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
7. I should renew my mind, Explain according to
Romans 12:2.
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The Family: YOUTH

The Family: YOUTH ii

In the love of Christ,

BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

CORRESPONDING BIBLICAL FOUNDATION

DEVELOPMENT OF THE SUBJECT

A. GOD CREATED MARRIAGE (Genesis 2:18)

B. GOD UNITED THEM IN MARRIAGE (Genesis 1:28)

II. THE IMPORTANCE OF A FAMILY

B. OFFSPRING (Psalm 127:3-5)

C. A BLESSED FAMILY (Psalm 128:3)

D. CONJUGAL LOVE (Ephesians 5:28)

E. THE WOMAN’S LEADERSHIP (Titus 2:4)

III. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

B. THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD INSTRUCTION

C. PROVIDING FOR YOUR FAMILY (1 Timothy 5:8)

D. MORAL VALUES (Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 6:4)

E. THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN (Proverbs 31:10)

F. THE IDEAL MARRIAGE (Mark 10:6-9)

G. GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (Psalm 27:10)

1. What is the main purpose of the family?

BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

CORRESPONDING BIBLICAL FOUNDATION

DEVELOPMENT OF THE STUDY

A. A MERCIFUL FATHER (Luke 15:20)

B. FATHER OF MULTITUDES (Genesis 17:5-6)

C. A FATHER WHO BLESSES HIS CHILDREN (Genesis 27:27-29)

D. AN EXEMPLARY FATHER (1 King 9:4-5)

E. A SUBSTITUTE FATHER (Esther 2:11)

II. THE MOTHER

III. WHAT ARE YOU SOWING INTO YOUR

A. MOTIVATE THEM TO BECOME POSITIVE INDIVIDUALS

B. TEACH THEM INTEGRITY

D. MOTIVATE THEM TO HAVE A SURMOUNTING SPIRIT

E. HELP THEM HAVE A BALANCED SELF-IMAGE

F. HELP THEM FOLLOW THE RULES

G. TEACH THEM HOW TO RELATE TO OTHERS

IV. RESPONSIBILITIES THE PARENTS MUST

V. THE CHILDREN’S ROLE

A. HONOR YOUR PARENTS (Ephesians 6:1-3)

1. What should be the heart of a Father?

BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

CORRESPONDING BIBLICAL FOUNDATION

DEVELOPMENT OF THE SUBJECT

A. SELF-ESTEEM (2 Samuel 9:6-8)

B. THE CHILD ALWAYS TURNS TO THE FATHER

C. THE FATHER RESTORES THE SON (Luke 15:20-24)

D. THE RESTORATION OF THE WOMAN (Isaiah 54:1-17)

1. What are emotions?

CORRESPONDING BIBLICAL FOUNDATION

DEVELOPMENT OF THE SUBJECT

BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

A. MARRIAGE: A DESIRE FROM GOD’S HEART

DEVELOPMENT OF THE SUBJECT

B. GOD IS THE FATHER OF ABUNDANCE (1 Corinthians 2:9)

C. THE PURPOSE OF GOD IS TO BLESS YOU

E. THE CROSS: OUR PLACE OF VICTORY (Galatians 3:13)

F. WE ARE HEIRS OF THE BLESSING OF ABRAHAM

1. Find the definition of the words blessing and curse in

BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE

CORRESPONDING BIBLICAL FOUNDATION

DEVELOPMENT OF THE SUBJECT