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Murasaki Shikibu was born in Kyoto,
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at Japanese court. The story goes that Free your low
said daughter tired of the books she had No matter how organised our menstruation
to read, and so gave Murasaki a royal order admin is (correct-absorbency tampons,
to write something more compelling. spare moon cups, pads in bag pockets),
Write it she did, penning a hefty manuscript it’s inevitable that us women get caught
telling the tale of lusty courtier, Genji, and his out from time to time with a spill. So we
romantic escapades. The Tale of Genji was were overjoyed when we heard the words
published at the start of the 11th century ‘period-proof pants’ – no more washing
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authentic, powerful, adventurous, funny and
proud era”. To which we say three cheers.
“We need to make our culture more embracing
of diversity,” says Judith. “If older people aren’t
included, then you don’t really have it.”
Inspired by Judith’s style and joie de vivre? Follow her
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we’ve been inspired by the recipes in the
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into the autumn. Here’s our fave recipe Many of us will fondly remember the
for fennel, apple and elderflower iced tea: day that we irst mastered eating with
You will need: chopsticks. But, beyond a valuable life
*Fennel Tea skill, could they be the key to tastier food?
*Fennel fronds (leaves) or dill A group of scientists found that when
*Apple juice (use equal parts fennel they gave a set of subjects chopsticks
tea and apple juice) to eat a bowl of popcorn with, they
*Splash of elderflower cordial reported higher enjoyment levels and
Method: better-tasting popcorn than another
1. Make one very strong cup of fennel group who just ate it with their ingers.
tea and allow to cool. They concluded that, whether with
2. Once cool, add the apple juice, chopsticks or another inventive utensil,
sweeten with elderflower cordial and mixing up our eating routines can
pour over ice. actually reset our tastebuds and
3. Ball up the fennel fronds and place on enhance our eating experience.
top, to serve.
And if the autumn chill does soon arrive,
just wrap a blanket round your shoulders
while you sit and sip!
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Once in a while, something comes along that makes you stop,
put down your phone and really listen. Down To Earth is an
award-winning documentary, ilmed and narrated by a Dutch
family who gave up their enviable life in cosmopolitan London
to travel to the ends of the earth.
For ive years, ilmmakers Rolf Winters and Renata Heinen,
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live with some of the oldest indigenous communities on the planet.
Their mission: to gain access to the ‘Earth Keepers’; the medicine
men and women, wisdom keepers, shamans, spiritual leaders and
healers who have retained a natural balance and live in harmony
with their surroundings.
“Down To Earth is a mirror to humanity, a poignant and timely
reflection on our civilized world,” says the couple. “The movie
invites you to see the world through the eyes of the Keepers of the
Earth. [It’s] both a wake-up call and a resurgence of hope for our
world to come.” As a viewer, we travel from the deserts of Kenya
to the Amazonian jungle to an Aboriginal ‘urban earthkeeper’ living
in Sydney. The family discover deep wisdom from their
conversations, not least that in all of us is the power to change our
lives and the lives of others.
Profound, timely, reassuring. Like the ilmmakers, you’ll come
away both changed by the experience and wanting to do more.
Down to Earth is released on 14th September. Watch the trailer, read more and
ind out where you can see it at www.downtoearthilm.com
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When things feel overwhelming, take a moment to reflect and you’ll soon be back on track
Words: Harriet Grifey / Illustration: Amelia Flower
owever well organised we are, there are times this is really tricky. Often we feel obliged to say yes when
when events seem to conspire to overwhelm even we already have enough on our plate, we don’t have the
the most resilient of us. We may pride ourselves right skill set, or someone is asking too much of us – and
on our ability to juggle, to be constantly available and on saying no would be the more realistic option. Learning
top of things, but this can sometimes mask underlying to say no, diplomatically, gracefully, tactfully, is so much
anxiety, or an inability to delegate or just say no. Then, better for both you and the other person, and will keep
feelings of being overwhelmed can sometimes result. you free to focus on the initial task.
But what tips the balance between managing things and Asking for help is another thing many of us struggle
not? This is very individual and can even vary from day with. Perhaps we’re worried about seeming incapable, or
to day. It might come from literally having too much to fear being refused, but often a task that feels overwhelming
do, an emotional reaction to something that’s happened, could be easier to face with a little aid. Knowing when you
or an insidious creep of circumstances. But regardless of need a helping hand isn’t a sign of weakness; it shows that
what causes these feelings, the trick is to be self-aware, to you know your own strengths and those of others around
recognise if things are mounting up, and take a step back you. Many people will happily do what they can to help
rather than get to a point where it’s all too much. out – and you might be able to reciprocate at some point.
Work/life balance, for example, is very subjective. What Accepting our capabilities also helps us to deal with
hits the spot for one person won’t be as useful for another, unrealistic self-expectations. Often we think we can
so making comparisons can be really unhelpful and can accomplish more than is feasibly possible, or we don’t
exacerbate feeling overwhelmed. We all have diferent factor in how long it will actually take. Whether we
priorities. If buying all the school uniform for the next promise this to ourselves, or others, we can then feel
academic year by the end of July makes you feel on top a huge sense of failure as we realise we won’t get the task
of things, then that’s great; but it’s not necessarily where done by the deadline we set. This can lead us to feel more
everyone’s energies lie. overwhelmed by the idea of inishing the task, or doing
I often think of the Nelson Mandela quote: “It always it again in the future. Instead, when you start something,
seems impossible until it is done.” I ind it a useful carefully think through all of the factors involved and how
reminder when I’m feeling overwhelmed to just pause, long each will take to do. Bear all these things in mind,
think it through, break it down into manageable chunks, have a plan B, and be realistic about the promises you
and put one foot in front of the other until the task is done. make to yourself and others.
Another tactic I ind useful, when anticipating something Finally, I always try to keep at least one day a week clear
I’m anxious about, is to remind myself that I have done of any commitments – a day when I know I can wake up
things like this before and will reach the other side. and do whatever I want, on my terms. It makes me feel as
However, on that journey, things can crop up that bring if I have at least some control over my life, and because
your feelings of being overwhelmed back to the surface. I’m the one in charge, I know there’s not going to be even
Not being able to say no is one of them; for some of us, a hint of feeling overwhelmed to get in my way.
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NATURAL SKINCARE
Ingredients that
can irritate
WHAT NOT TO PUT ON YOUR SKIN
* SYNTHETIC SKINCARE
It can be dificult to know
the origins of the products
used in our skincare routine.
“There’s no need to use
synthetic ingredients on our
skin,” says Rebecca Martin,
creator of Conscious Skincare handmade products
(www.conscious-skincare.com). “There are always
alternatives. Nature, as usual, can offer something
just as good – I use a vegan-friendly version of
hyaluronic acid made from recognisable natural
ingredients, such as brewer’s yeast.”
* CHEMICAL IRRITANTS
Many chemical skincare
ingredients are actually
known irritants; these
include sodium laurel
sulphates, artiicial
fragrances, parabens,
preservatives and phthalates. It’s easy to identify
them on labels – look for products that don’t
contain them.
* WATER WOES
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Shann Nix Jones is a farmer, our irritated skin, even
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with serious skin issues. Around that time, to your diet, Shann advises building up the
she was also dealing with acute stress, having amount you take gradually. “Because keir is so
recently lost three members of her family, powerful, it is best to begin slowly: I suggest
as well as juggling three jobs and a course. starting with just one tablespoon per day, and
“I sought help from a GP and a dermatologist work up to 170ml over time,” she says. Keir
and was prescribed antibiotics and several is also safe during pregnancy, and can be taken
diferent topical creams, but nothing worked,” by babies after the age of four months.
says Betsan. “In fact, they made my skin worse.” “A study by the Norwegian University of
She began to look for alternatives, and Science and Technology found that taking
started to learn more about her microbiome. probiotics during pregnancy decreased the
“At irst, when I heard about keir and how it chances of a baby being born with eczema by
could help with skin issues, I was on a strict nearly half,” says Shann. “The good news is
no-dairy diet, so I ruled out the idea,” she says. that with keir, unlike chemical medications,
But a year later, after doing more research, all the side efects are beneicial.”
Betsan realised that it was likely she was Simple food swaps can also help with skin
sufering from a leaky gut and that one of the issues. Eating good fats, like walnuts, salmon
best treatments was keir. She decided to give and avocado can reduce inlammation and
it a try. “I couldn’t believe the diference it help to speed up healing. Fresh fruits and veg,
made,” she says. “My skin is better now than especially dark green leafy vegetables, are also
it’s ever been.” She applies keir skincare too, key to support the good bacteria in your gut.
and avoids conventional soap, preferring to You could also make your own skincare
make her own face washes using natural saviours to use alongside keir. These can
castile (olive oil-based) soap and combat speciic issues or simply soothe your
essential oils. skin, and they’re easy to make at home – all
HONEY HELP
But she is wary of you need are some containers, a blender and
Honey’s anti-fungal
attributing everything to some good raw ingredients, many of which
Photography Phil Sowels
and antibacterial
properties mean it’s drinking keir: “It’s not can be found in your kitchen cupboard.
great for soothing acne just the keir, it’s not just If you like your porridge smooth, chances
as a face mask. It’s also the lotions, it’s also about are you’ll have some ine oatmeal to hand.
efective for digestive getting your diet right,” This is incredibly soothing for the skin.
problems such as peptic she says. Betsan drinks It has antioxidant and anti-inlammatory
ulcers. www.honey 170ml of goat’s milk keir properties and will soak up excess oil to
association.com every day and follows a low- help treat acne. Ground almonds are great
GI (low glycemic) diet, free from for gentle exfoliating, and also provide oils
gluten and reined sugar, to keep her beneicial for the skin. Almonds also contain
blood-sugar levels steady. It’s the combination vitamin E, which is rejuvenating and soothing.
of her diet and skincare routine that she Meanwhile, sea salt is perfect for adding to
believes has made such a diference to both olive oil to make a facial scrub to remove dead
her skin and her overall health. skin cells and get that glowing feeling. The
Shann agrees: “Natural healing is slow, citrus oils found in lemon or orange juice can
and takes time. The length of time required act as mild astringents for oily skins, while
depends on the severity of the dysbiosis (the raw extra virgin coconut oil can be used as
term for an imbalance of microbes, or ‘good’ a moisturiser for face and body (as well as
bacteria, in your gut) and how long-standing an intensive hair conditioner).
the issue is. It can take nine months to a year If you’re in need of inspiration, look to the
to deal with severe autoimmune issues.” next page to ind a simple recipe that you
If you are considering introducing keir can adapt to suit your skin and its needs.
Photography Betsan Evans
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Choose an essential oil that
suits your skin and add it to NATURAL SKINCARE
your natural beauty recipes.
Below left to right: Betsan
developed skin problems in her
30s; taking care of her
gut soothed her skin.
Anti-ageing oil
SOOTHE YOUR SKIN WITH THIS SIMPLE RECIPE
METHOD
Mix the rosehip oil into the sweet almond oil to make your base, then add the
drops of lavender, rose and frankincense oils. Pour into a small glass bottle
(preferably one with a pipette) and use sparingly. It smells divine!
Ingredients
* 50ml sweet almond oil * 2 drops of lavender oil
(as a base) * 2 drops of rose oil
* 50ml rosehip oil * 1 drop of frankincense oil
SUPERFOOD
BEAUTY
What we eat can do wonders – both on the
inside and the outside. Here, we’ve picked
products made from our favourite natural
ingredients to nourish and restore
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PERCEPTION
However much you might flap and yap, the
problem really hasn’t arisen from fate, bad
luck, destiny, the ‘fact’ that this sort of thing
always happens to you, or the alignment of
“Fortune can take the stars in the sky. It’s an event, making it
away riches, but as indifferent as the rain. And as soon as you
ditch your diva and start to see it that way,
not courage.” your options increase.
Seneca
ACTION
Once you’ve taken that irst healthy step
back by changing how you look at the crisis, Holiday
emphasises choosing the ‘right action’ to deal with it.
Simply put, that’s doing something that is actually likely
to help. Next time you’re faced with frustration, think
through the problem logically. ‘Would swallowing my pride
lead to a better outcome? Can I break the problem down
“Grant me the into smaller steps? Should I try again? Could I settle for
something short-term in order to achieve my long-term
serenity to accept goal?’ Once you’ve considered all of these things, you’ll
know which is the right action to take. And, remember,
the things I cannot even deciding to do nothing may be the best option.
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Struggling to switch
off can be a sign that
it's time to take a
break from technology.
MATT HAIG
What is modern life and new technology doing to our brains and our bodies?
Matt Haig tells us about his new book, Notes on a Nervous Planet
Words: Sarah Orme
ver picked up your phone and found that himself to a new pocket watch: “He couldn’t stop
you’ve lost track of time while you scroll taking it out of his pocket – he was obsessed with
through your Instagram feed? That’s just telling the time. As we do with our smart phones,
one of the ways that technology is taking over our Pepys was constantly checking it and he ended up
lives, according to author Matt Haig. giving it up because it was driving him crazy.”
“It’s very hard to stay mindful in contemporary Social media can also damage our self-esteem.
life because we’ve got so many things to check,” When we’re online, it’s tempting to compare
he says. “We’re overloaded with everything – ourselves to others. Matt says the problem is that
books, magazines, TV shows, friends. We’re more you’re looking at the perfect parts of other people’s
connected than ever before and we’ve got so many lives – the carefully-presented parts. “We’ve become
options. It can be hard to step back and remember magazines of ourselves and our own little personal
who we are, but it’s certainly possible.” fan clubs of ourselves. We can always see and feel our
In recent years, our relationship with technology worst bits, but we’re looking at everyone else’s best
has changed radically and it’s easy to develop a social bits,” he says. When we relect on our best moments,
media addiction. “I’ve deinitely been addicted to my they’re often not captured by a photograph because
phone,” admits Matt. “I always charged my phone we were too busy enjoying ourselves. “Someone
by the bed, so I would wake up and check my emails, who is Instagramming about a great experience isn’t
check my Twitter and Instagram, check the news and necessarily having a great experience,” he adds.
end up just scrolling aimlessly for ages – suddenly, It can be difficult to ind a balance between the
that’s an hour of my day gone. Then you’re not beneits of technology and the impact on our health.
eating breakfast at the right time and everything’s There are some positives: social media allows us to
a bit more delayed. It just swallows up time.” In ind support when we’re struggling with our mental
Matt’s case, this compulsive checking and scrolling health and to ind our own tribes online. “When
triggered anxiety attacks. “I used to get anxiety when I irst became ill with depression and anxiety, which
I’d been on the computer too much, but I didn’t was before the age of social media, I kind of wish I’d
realise that it had anything to do with it,” he says. had it,” Matt says. “One of the things, certainly when
Surprisingly, this kind of fascination with our you feel bad in life, is that you often feel very alone.”
technology is far from new. Matt tells the story of Matt is very aware of his own mental health. At the
17th century diarist Samuel Pepys who treated age of 24, he became depressed and anxious, which
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led him to attempt suicide. During his recovery, wondering what to wear.” The philosopher
he struggled with panic attacks, which could Soren Kierkegaard once referred to anxiety as
be triggered by something as small as a walk ‘the dizziness of freedom’, and it does seem
to the shops. that having too much choice can make us tense,
“I used to be really bad at supermarkets even if our mental health is generally good.
when I irst had anxiety. The irst diagnosis Keeping calm in modern life is difficult and
I ever got was panic disorder, which basically even our sleep is under threat from a surprising
means you’re having panic attacks a lot, and source. “I love watching Netlix and streaming
when you’re not having them, you’re just TV shows, but that’s having an impact on our
anticipating the next one. Even when I got sleep. Recently the head of Netlix said that his
over that, I would have the occasional panic main competitor isn’t another TV company –
attack, often in supermarkets,” he says. “We it’s sleep,” says Matt. “Sleep is where they can
were living in Leeds at the time. We would make their money. If people aren’t going to bed
go to the local Morrisons and I’d be OK and until 2am because they’re watching the latest
feeling quite strong, but within ive minutes of show, that will boost their business model.”
being inside, I would panic and get stressed. Gadgets can also stop us from falling asleep –
There were lots of things that could trigger it the blue light emitted by our screens disrupts
– there’s the artiicial lighting, for one. A lot our circadian rhythms and makes it harder to
of supermarkets don’t have any natural light.” nod of. If you’re in the habit of giving your
Supermarkets are a common anxiety trigger phone one last check before bed, it might be
because the environment is overstimulating. a good idea to give yourself a phone curfew.
Everywhere you look, branding competes “The World Health Organisation – which has
for your attention. “You’re in the ultimate declared a sleep loss epidemic in industrialised
consumer environment, being presented with nations – recommends that we sleep for seven
everything that you could be buying,” explains to nine hours a night. But not that many of us
Matt. “Our consumer choices aren’t just about do,” Matt says. And this lack of sleep inevitably
what we need to eat, they’re choices about who afects our mental and physical health. “In
we are. We’re basically surrounded by a million another 150,000 generations humans might
life choices when we go into a supermarket.” evolve and adapt to unnatural light, but right
Too much choice can be another trigger now our bodies and minds are still the same
for anxiety. Matt recalls that when his mental bodies and minds of those humans who existed
health was poor, even choosing what to wear before Edison patented his lightbulb. In other
in the morning was a stressful experience. words, we need our sleep.”
“I can remember when I was really depressed, When Matt became aware of how badly his
all those daily decisions were so hard. You phone was disrupting his sleep, he realised
can just sit there staring at your sock drawer he had to make some changes in his life and
learn to disconnect. He admits that he hasn’t
found this easy. He used to get separation
anxiety when he couldn’t get hold of his
MATT HAIG
Matt is a novelist and non-fiction author. His deeply
moving memoir about his journey back from the
brink of severe depression, Reasons to Stay Alive,
is a number one bestseller. www.matthaig.com
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using gadgets before MATT HAIG
bed can hinder sleep;
Matt reminds himself to
disconnect with a witty
poem; have we become too
attached to technology?
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SIMPLIFY THINGS
Declutter your mind. Panic is
CHECK IN the product of overload. In an SOOTHING SOUNDS
Keep an eye on yourself. Be your overloaded world, we need to Listen to calm noise; things
own friend. Be your own parent. have a ilter. We need to simplify that aren’t as stimulating
Be kind to yourself. Check on things. We need to disconnect as music. Think waves,
what you are doing. Do you need sometimes. We need to stop your own breath, a breeze
to watch the last episode of the staring at our phones. To have through the leaves,
series when it is after midnight? moments of not thinking about the purr of a cat, and
Do you need that third or fourth work. A kind of mental feng shui. best of all: rain.
glass of wine? Is that really in
your best interests?
FIND ACCEPTANCE
Accept feelings. And MAKE PANIC YOUR PAL
INHALE, EXHALE accept that they are If you feel panic rising, the instinctive
Breathe. Breathe deep and pure just that: feelings. reaction is to panic some more; to
and smooth. Concentrate on it. panic about the panic. The trick is to
Breathing is the pace you set your try to feel panic without panicking
life at. It’s the rhythm of the song about it. This is nearly – but not quite
of you. It’s how to get back to the – impossible. My panic disorder was
centre of things. The centre of deined by frequent panic attacks and
yourself. When the world wants the continuous hellish fear of the next
to take you in every other one. By the time I’d had hundreds of
direction. It was the irst thing panic attacks, I began to tell myself
you learned to do. The most I wanted them. I didn’t, obviously.
essential and simple thing you But I used to work hard at trying to
do. To be aware of breath is to invite the panic – as a test, to see how
remember you are alive. I could cope. The more I invited it,
the less it wanted to stay around.
MOVE IT
GENTLY DOES IT Stretch and exercise.
Don’t grab life by Panic is physical as well
the throat. As the writer as mental. For me,
Ray Bradbury said: “Life running and yoga
should be touched, help more than
not strangled“. anything else.
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She’s not wrong. A 60-minute class saw us choreographer Christopher Harrison – that
low from one inverted pose to the next – the draws on dance, pilates and calisthenics.
‘Banana Man’, the ‘Flying Double Diamond’, “I sufer from excessive joint mobility and
even press-ups – giving us not so much a yoga it’s been great for me to have the support of
class as a HIIT workout for the whole body. the hammock during training,” she says.
That said, like a traditional yoga class, aerial “I also love the fact that it’s playful and fun,
yoga is still very much about breath and focus, and is an inclusive activity,” she adds.
and can be very relaxing. The exhilarating Samantha’s student Andrew Gregory agrees,
feeling of blood low to my head kept thoughts having recently had his leg amputated after
at bay, and not since I was a child have I been many years of pain following a motorcycle
allowed to ‘play’ in this way. Our inal blissful accident. “The support of the hammock has
posture, the Cocoon, where we wrapped our allowed me to be able to take part in something
prostrate bodies in the hammock and let alongside everyone else,” he says. “The challenge
gravity do the rest, felt deeply meditative. for me was working around my disability, but
“Hanging upside down – what’s not to like?” everything can be modiied to make it easier or
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affirmed a fellow classmate Sarah Higgins, 47, harder, so I never get bored. My level of itness
when we were inally upright again. Sarah, and strength has increased massively, but it’s
who’s been coming to Sam’s class for four also helped manage my long-term depression.”
months, says she fell in love with it from her Sam Dignan feels the same. “Although I do
irst session. “I’m an accountant and my job is still feel ‘broken’ after my operation, I’m able
very sedentary, so this is a fantastic chance to to do something wonderful with my life,” she
do something diferent,” says Sarah. “I like that tells me. “In my teens, I was a dancer, and for
it doesn’t involve running or jumping, like a eight years I wasn’t able to dance. Now, I can
conventional gym class does. It stretches every dance in the air.”
part of the body, but you also get up a sweat.
It’s a great next step from a traditional yoga
class and a chance to push your practice –
I always leave feeling energised.”
While aerial yoga isn’t for everyone (it
is not recommended if you are pregnant
or breastfeeding, have glaucoma, high or
low blood pressure, or a heart condition),
anecdotally at least, it appears to provide a
multitude of beneits. Evidence suggests that
regular practice can help with cardiovascular
conditioning; help to align the vertebrae;
increase body awareness (or ‘kinesthetic
awareness’); improve self esteem; refresh the
lymphatic, digestive and circulatory systems;
and boost our ‘happy hormones’ serotonin
and oxytocin. It’s also particularly good
for those with back or joint problems, for
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ESTHER EKHART
2 Esther’s mindful approach to yoga is inluenced
by her dedicated personal meditation practice and her
background as a therapist. The emphasis in her teaching
is very much on slowing down and being present in
the moment. Esther hosts workshops, teacher training
and retreats internationally – the latest one was held
in Australia – and ofers online classes for her global
following online (www.ekhartyoga.com). There’s a class
for everyone, from stronger styles such as hatha and
vinyasa low to slower practices like yin and yoga nidra.
@estherekhart.yoga
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hen a client of mine, Amanda*, got in touch with Catch 22 situation: we struggle to listen to and trust ourselves,
me, she’d been experiencing anxiety in her year- but also don’t feel entirely safe in trusting the other party.
long relationship pretty much since it began. At irst, One of the handiest things I’ve learned through listening to
she put it down to new relationship jitters and not being used myself and teaching others to do the same, is that intuition is
to dating such a nice guy. After a while, she blamed it on her only concerned with what is. Unlike ego, fear and criticism, it’s
‘baggage’; intolerance and being ‘too sensitive’. But, as is the not trying to prepare you for what will happen in 2099, nor
way when we dismiss our feelings, the anxiety kept niggling is it concerned with the past or power trips like winning and
and building. Next thing, it was keeping her awake at night. being right. Intuition is about now.
Whether we realise it or not, many of us feel anxiety every When we fail to listen to our intuition, or to act in a particular
day and in many diferent contexts. But in order to react to it area, anxiety is the body’s way of telling us. The best thing
correctly, we need to know whether the anxiety is due to past that anxiety ever did for me came in the form of a panic attack.
issues, our insecurities, or our intuition trying to alert us to As horrendous as it was, it forced me to acknowledge the
something. It’s one of life’s ongoing challenges, and Amanda accumulation of missed messages from my intuition. It was
did what we often do in these situations: she rationalised her a massive wake-up call, and inally got me to take action.
anxiety so much that she missed the wood for the trees. Throughout our lives we’ll experience getting what we want
We tend to see anxiety as a negative trait, believing that (or what others want for us) and having to act on the realisation
the fact we’re anxious makes us that it’s not right for us. This is why I hear
wrong or our thinking faulty. from so many people who inally land the
But what we should be doing is “We have to ‘perfect job’ or achieve what they thought
acknowledging that our body is was their dream, only to be besieged by
trying to communicate something. take care of unexpected emotions that convey that this
It’s letting us know that we need to isn’t the path for them. They feel like they
be careful, based on past pain, fear
and guilt – or that we don’t have
ourselves, so that should be happy, that they should be able
to make it work.
faith in ourselves. Or both.
The reason Amanda was anxious
anxiety can do That’s not to say we should always take
anxiety purely at face value, but we do need
for the entire relationship is that
she told herself that she shouldn’t
a better job of to see it as an ally doing its best to alert us
to something about an aspect of our life.
feel anxious; that her partner was
‘nice’, educated and fun and that,
alerting us” Hating ourselves for experiencing anxiety
will only tighten its grip, not least because
relative to past relationships, this we will respond in less-than-supportive
one was ‘better’. She talked herself out of her feelings because ways. By irst accepting that this is how we feel, we have an
the relationship looked good on paper. It was as if there had opportunity to assess why. We can address underlying causes
to be something drastic to pin her feelings on for them to be so we can talk and act ourselves out of the wave of emotions,
justiied. In the absence of that, she overlooked the obvious: or come to understand the current nature of our life. It might
her anxiety was communicating that she was in the wrong require us to get uncomfortable, to make changes that ly in the
relationship. Her emotional state was the evidence she needed face of the ‘shoulds’, but inner peace is on the other side.
to take action. She didn’t understand it, but her body did. Our intuition won’t always tell us what we want to hear, but
Anxiety wants our reassurance, and where needed, our it always has our back. When we cultivate a more mindful
action. This means that we’ve either got to do something that relationship with it, we gather the intelligence we need to
demonstrates to it that we are OK, or we’ve got to remedy the understand our emotions. By basing ourselves in the present,
situation. We also have to take care of ourselves, so that anxiety we can acknowledge insecurities and past experiences – and
can do a better job of alerting us. respond in the now. The more we do this, the less we will be
What often happens instead is that we freeze. Analysis held hostage by it or be confused by its presence. We’re never
paralysis sets in. We want to think everything out to the nth going to be best friends with anxiety, but we can treat it as
degree because we’re afraid of getting things wrong. It creates a a friendly nudge to take care of us.
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e book in check-ups to make sure says relationship coach Wendy Capewell. She
our bodies are functioning well, says that genuinely feeling comfortable with
we exercise to keep our physical your partner is key in a healthy relationship,
stamina at its peak and we have appraisals rather than convincing yourself that you are
to ensure our work is up to scratch. So why, comfortable because the relationship sounds
when relationships are perhaps the biggest good on paper. “We can’t always share the
connections we can make in life, don’t we same interests as our partners, and these
consider a relationship health-check? often change with time anyway. Building a
The fact is, relationships can be complicated, relationship on shared beliefs and values is
and facing up to potential problems can be better, and creates a more permanent bond,”
daunting. But being willing to ask yourself she explains.
tough questions doesn’t mean that you are Another important factor when addressing
pre-empting a failure. Instead, see it as an your relationship health is understanding
honest way to be sure that you aren’t going to that a partner should be an addition to your
end up in a painful situation further down the life, rather than that one thing you need to be
line. After all, if you are hoping to spend the happy. “We should have our own goals, dreams
rest of your life with someone, surely it’s best and aspirations and be able to pursue those
to know that they are right for you? within a relationship,” says Wendy. “Each
The most important thing when considering person should be able to cheer the other on,
the healthiness of a relationship is both your acting supportively and being there if things
and your partner’s everyday wellbeing. And don’t work out as planned,” she adds. Realising
if something doesn’t feel right for either of this will mean that you won’t pile all of your
you, it’s essential to determine what that is as expectations unfairly onto a partner, which can
early as possible. “At times like this, it is also lead to unhealthy behaviours developing.
worth asking why things might not be right,” Unfortunately, despite our best hopes and
eforts, there are times when this does happen.
Dependence, a need for control and other
negative behaviours can all grow within a
relationship, especially when situations beyond
our control are happening in other aspects of
our lives, or when we’ve had bad experiences
WENDY CAPEWELL
Wendy is a trained counsellor and
relationship coach. She was inspired
by her own experiences to help others.
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NATALIE LUE
Natalie is a relationship expert who
specialises in helping people deal with
emotional baggage and toxic situations.
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BECOMES SOMETHING WE DREAD, IS IT TIME TO MOVE ON?
“Dear Aunt Josephine, I moved to a new city particularly if all you want to do is hang out with a friend
a few years ago and quickly met a new crowd of and have some downtime.
people. My new circle is very sociable, which So, how can you ind friendships that suit you? You’ve
was great at the start, but it has started to feel been there long enough now to establish your own base –
exhausting keeping up with them. I’m actually quite an what other avenues or interests can you explore to ind
introvert and I prefer meeting up one-on-one, or with like-minded people? Lots of leisure activities involve
small groups of people. I’ve also put on some weight keeping it, so they’re a really great way to feel healthier
recently and I feel really self-conscious meeting up with and meet kindred spirits.
my friends, because I know they’re all quite glamorous and It’s also worth bearing in mind that some people probably
they can be quite judgemental about people’s appearances. drink because they sufer from social anxiety. Rather than
Everything seems to involve drinking as well and I don’t seeing all your friends as massively extroverted, can you
want my entire social life to be based around alcohol. identify any fellow introverts? If so, you could contact them
I don’t want to risk losing my friends because they are and suggest new things like meeting up for a walk, or going
fun, but I’m starting to dread meeting up for cofee rather than a drink. You don’t
with them. One of them made a pointed have to form a splinter group or drop
comment the other day about how I “GENUINE FRIENDS them completely, but have a proactive
always make excuses. What’s the answer?” ARE ONES YOU look at things to make them work for you.
Self-Conscious and Stressed, Bournemouth Taking alcohol out of the equation is also
CAN TRULY BE a brutal but brilliant way to ind out if you
YOURSELF WITH” actually have anything in common with
“Dear Self-Conscious and people! If you have nothing to talk about
Stressed, I think we can be a bit without the wine, maybe you’re just not
like magpies when it comes to making new friends: right for each other.
we gravitate towards the shiny, glittery people because they One thing I will say, is that the sign of a real, genuine
seem like the most fun. It sounds like you hit the ground friend is someone you can truly be yourself with, through
running when you moved and threw yourself into a new both good times and bad. Real friends don’t judge or
social scene, for which I applaud you. The downside is criticise you for who you are, or what you look like. They
that now the dust (or glitter) has settled, it sounds like have your best interests at heart. They ask what’s going on
you’ve found yourself in a friendship group that isn’t with you, rather than sniping at you. It doesn’t matter how
really for you. glamorous someone looks if they act in a toxic manner
Alcohol is a tricky one. In British or Western culture (which, coincidentally, is also a sure-ire sign of an unhappy
especially, it’s often the glue of our social lives. While person). You need a social life that nurtures and enriches
there is no doubting the enjoyment factor of meeting up you. If some people fall by the wayside, so be it. It will
for drinks, or bonding with people over a glass of wine (or only open up the space for new, better friends to come in.
four), it can mean that a lot of our socialising can actually Ultimately, spending time with real friends should leave
be quite supericial – and exhausting, as you mention, you feeling better about yourself, not worse.
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e’ve all been there – the 3pm slump would generally do a run to the newsagents
hits and before you know it, you’re and I’d enjoy a mid-afternoon chocolate ix.
mindlessly munching on a treat from You get the picture.
the office biscuit stash. But being back at our What I woefully misunderstood for all those
desks after the summer break presents us with years was that I was subjecting my body to
a golden opportunity: rather than sliding back a vertiginous ride that saw my blood sugar
into unhelpful habits, we can eat smarter at soaring and then rapidly plummeting, leaving
work for better focus, drive and concentration. me ravenous for my next carb ix. I had no idea
Switching to healthy, energy-sustaining snacks that the toast I was woling down was rapidly
can help you to cruise through the day – being converted by my body into sugar – giving
something I’d never actually experienced until me the same hike and crash as a chocolate
I retrained as a health coach. bar. I didn’t realise that the careless mistakes
Before that, the 22 years I spent in PR were I was making at work were actually strongly
a rollercoaster… though not in the sense you’d connected to what I was eating. Every time
imagine. Yes, there were the inevitable highs, I experienced a blood sugar crash, I’d switch
lows and a fair few tears that came with the from a competent PR executive to a shaky,
nature of the job. But I was also strapped into a cranky, green-faced, distracted liability.
rollercoaster of my own making – and the irony So, what was going on with me – and with
was, I never even knew I was on it. most other people eating in a similar fashion at
Although I was a cast-iron grafter, the truth work? When our blood sugar level crashes, our
I have to acknowledge now is that I limped pre-frontal cortex (the executive bit of our brain
through my career. Why? Because I hadn’t responsible for making wise decisions) can’t
the slightest notion of how to fuel myself. All work properly. It’s no wonder, then, that so
the qualiications and kick-ass trouser suits many of us are hit with brain freeze. Coupled
in the world count for nought if your brain with the drop in cognitive function, our mood
isn’t functioning properly. And mine was most is strongly afected too. So, instead of feeling
certainly not operating at its optimum level for emotionally resilient and speaking calmly and
a good portion of the day – every single day. constructively to our colleagues and clients, we
My typical food day would go something explode and bark things we later regret.
like this. I’d have toast or cereal for breakfast, The good news, though, is that this is easily
then feel absolutely starving by 9:30am, when and quickly remedied once we make some
I’d embark on the irst of several rounds of small changes to our diet. The irst thing to
crumpets or malt bread. Lunch would be at remember is that we need protein with each
12.30pm (soup and a baguette), after which I’d meal. Perhaps one reason for office snacking
feel OK for a while – until 3pm, when someone reaching such epic proportions is that we are
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WHAT TO INCLUDE IN
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Organic eggs are a fantastic
source of protein and Omega 3
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Ingredients
SERVES 6-8
Flavourful dehydration of only 1-2 percent
of body water can affect your
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* ½ red onion
* 1 clove garlic
gazpacho WHAT NOT TO INCLUDE
* 4 large, ripe tomatoes IN YOUR DIET
SIP ON THE RUN FOR A
* ½ red pepper, yellow * Low-fat yoghurts: they’re often
pepper and cucumber BRILLIANT VEGETABLE BOOST full of sugar to make them
* Small handful flat-leaf taste better.
parsley METHOD * Diet drinks: while they’re lower
* 400ml (2 cups) tomato Place all the ingredients in in sugar, they include other
juice a high-powered blender and ingredients that have been linked
* 2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil blitz until they form a thick, soup-like with a long-term risk of dementia.
* 3 tbsp apple cider vinegar consistency. Leave in the fridge to * Posh coffees: usually served with
* Salt and pepper to taste chill for an hour or two. lavoured syrups.
* 'Artisan' popcorns: they often
Finely chop some more have sugary ingredients added
cucumber and pepper and for lavour.
sprinkle on top of the gazpacho.
Add a drizzle of olive oil to serve.
SUZY GLASKIE
Suzy is a Functional Medicine Certified Health
Coach whose mission is to empower people to
reclaim their health and vitality. Read more from
Suzy at www.peppermintwellness.co.uk
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* 150g (1 cup) frozen or fresh blueberries
* 10 tbsp coconut oil
* 10 tbsp maple syrup
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* 150g (1¼ cups) hazelnuts, chopped
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s summer fades, it can be easy to start berating trees in autumn, ask yourself, ‘What is falling away within
ourselves. In the past I have found that I emerge me?’ or, ‘What am I carrying that I am ready to release?’.
from long, lazy days convinced that I must make When we take a moment to notice the changes within
up for the time spent relaxing. Surely after lots of relaxing nature, we also acknowledge the changes within ourselves.
over the summer, it’s time to galvanise myself into a proper Louise Allen is a holistic healer who believes that
itness programme and embark on a healthy eating regime seasonal shifts should be part of everything that we do
(while there have been plenty of summer salads, there (www.rhythmofbeauty.co.uk). She infuses natural products
have also been lots of ice creams). I’ve often let lots of with lower essences and works with the cycles of Mother
things slip over the summer months, and feel that now Nature to make seasonal beauty products – I adore her day
everyone is back at work, it’s time to inish projects, pitch cream. She shares her relections on the changing of the
to publishers, start a new online course, set aside more seasons on her blog – I recommend reading it to tune in
time to help my kids with homework... the list goes on. to what’s happening during these shifts.
But, having had the chance to actually relax and enjoy my So, rather than putting pressure on yourself to make
time, all of this resolve and running around trying to catch up for lost time this autumn, I recommend prioritising
up usually just ends up making me feel exhausted – and as your self-care instead. It’s easy to feel guilty about this,
though I am setting myself up to fail. having spent all summer relaxing and enjoying our
There’s no doubt that the changing of the seasons is holidays, but it’s just as important now as it was then.
important, and it is worth thinking about how you can Focus on setting aside a small amount of time for yourself,
best shift your energy to suit the season. That being said, perhaps ive minutes of meditation, and schedule that
racing around frantically, trying to make up for lost time irst. Once you’ve made this commitment, you’ll ind it
won’t cut it. I’ve come to realise it’s all about self-care. I’m easier to then take more time to retreat and rest. This can
lucky enough to be a Hay House radio presenter, and get be anything that works for you; it might be taking time
to interview some amazing spiritual and wellbeing authors. out to walk, or having a lovely bath with a scented candle
Recently, there has been an eclectic mix of guests, and the and some aromatherapy oils. I like to nod to nature with
changing of the seasons and how we take care of ourselves the Aromatherapy Reed Difuser from Shui Me (www.
often comes up in conversation. shui-me.com). Unlike many petrochemical candles and
Rebecca Campbell, author of Rise Sister Rise and the difusers, this is an eco-friendly, non toxic product made
new Work Your Light Oracle card deck, says that it’s easy with 100 percent organic essential oils – try ‘Relax’ with
for us to become disconnected from the rhythmic pulse lavender, ylang ylang and pettigrain.
of nature. We are cyclic, connected beings. As the seasons However you honour the changing of the seasons,
change, so do we. The more disconnected we become make sure that you’re putting yourself irst – and not the
from nature, the more out of whack we can feel. One of expectations of anyone else. By doing so, you’ll inish the
the easiest ways to get back into low is to notice the summer feeling refreshed, rather than stressed, and ready
season. When the leaves are beginning to fall from the to tackle your to-do list with a sense of calm.
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mployers loved my creativity I read everything there was to read working at that unsavoury hour. In
and that I always went ‘the about burnouts, about stress, about her emails, I found new requests for
extra mile’, so to speak. But wellbeing. At that time, 15 years ago, the next day, ruining my head start.
the annual feedback pointers were that wasn’t a lot. But being a journalist, That was when it hit me: this doesn’t
invariably the same: I was a sparkling I could investigate it for a living and make any sense. If even well-organised
personality, very dedicated and write about it. After a couple of years people like my colleague have to work
creative, but a little bit too emotional, of freelancing, I became the managing at night to get things done, where does
too sensitive, and should learn to be editor of a successful magazine about that leave me?
more structured. But nevertheless, I’d creativity and mindfulness. Again, It was a wake-up call. I realised that
get a “well done” and a raise. I gave it my all, but this time I would I had slowly tricked myself again into
I compensated for my ‘laws’ by just not burn myself out. If only one day working at moments when I should
working really hard. But somewhere I could master my emotional side and have been winding down. What had
in my early career, that went wrong. be more structured, I thought, the sky started as an innocent ‘I don’t mind
My creativity got lost, my stress levels would be the limit. working late sometimes, you get so
were high 24/7, I was exhausted, I had I was doing ine for a long time. But much done’, had become a one-way
panic attacks. At the age of 25, I was one night, I found myself sitting in the ticket to burning out again. And it’s
diagnosed with emotional, physical dark with only the blue light of my not just me – we’re all behaving like
and cognitive exhaustion – also known computer screen, working through little mice on a treadmill.
as burnout. It took me seven months my emails to get a head start the next In the 2016 US General Social
to get back on my feet. During those day – something I had started to do Survey, a study carried out every year
months, I took long walks, slept a lot, more often, because I just couldn’t get since 1972, 50 percent of people
rediscovered drawing and crafting, around to doing everything during answered yes to the question: “Are
and had hours of therapy. working hours. But that particular you consistently exhausted because of
When I was ready to go back to work, night, I started to receive immediate work?” By comparison, two decades
I decided to never let it happen again. replies from one of my colleagues, also ago, only 18 percent answered yes.
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The Terrible
EVERY ISSUE WE’LL PICK OUT A BRILLIANT BOOK THAT
WE THINK YOU’LL LOVE TO READ. THIS ISSUE, WE TALK TO
YRSA DALEY-WARD ABOUT HER CAPTIVATING MEMOIR
rsa Daley-Ward is an actor and a model, but she made her literary
name as a poet. Her breakthrough collection, Bone, (self-published
in 2014, reissued by Penguin last year) is by turns funny and raw,
confessional-feeling and character driven, as natural as speaking and
as rich as Bible verses. It makes sense that she would follow up such
a personal collection with a memoir. Playful down to the typesetting
(certain words are printed teeny-tiny and even upside down to underline
her meaning), the voice of The Terrible is always warm but never glib.
This is key to the book’s success, because much of what Daley-Ward
has to write about is heavy; violence, substance abuse, bereavement
and sexual exploitation. Born to a Jamaican mother and an absent
Nigerian father, she was raised largely by her grandparents in Chorley,
Lancashire while her mum worked nights. Those grandparents were strict
adherents to the Seventh Day Adventist Church, meaning that Daley-
Ward and her siblings were set apart from their peers at school, not only
by race and culture (she was the only black person at her school until her
brother joined), but also by religion.
The book’s mix of incantatory lyricism and northern bathos is
reminiscent of Jeanette Winterson’s autobiographical novel Oranges
Are Not the Only Fruit, and, like Winterson, Daley-Ward is interested
in how one becomes an artist. The title, ‘The Terrible’, is both a
personiication of bleakness and trauma, and a strange kind of gift
through which poetry becomes possible. “What luck. What terriic
magic,” she writes at the end of a story that could have been nothing
but misery memoir, and you truly believe that luck and magic is exactly
what you’ve encountered with her.
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Q How did it feel moving from writing poetry You see your friends backchat, and they can be
Actor, model and to writing a memoir? out on the street at night, but you can’t do any
author Yrsa Daley- A I don’t think there was a movement actually. of that. We always ate West Indian food, and our
Ward encourages us I’ve always been writing, and writing is this house was that of a typical Jamaican house – we
to turn negative huge thing – it shouldn’t be sectioned of. still had the plastic on the chairs and lots of
experiences Really, we’re all storytellers anyway, whether plastic igurines of Jesus and a lot of china.
into something we write or not. Some days I feel like making it My grandparents liked to keep things beautiful.
beautiful. succinct and four lines long, and some days
I want to write continuously.
Q What is the ‘Terrible’?
A The ‘Terrible’ is a euphemism for lots of
Q But this particular story touches a lot of things. It’s grief, it’s loneliness, it’s addiction,
nerves, and in poetry you have a certain artiice. it’s thoughts of suicide, it’s depression, it’s
If you’re writing a memoir, you’re saying, “this anxiety, it’s any of those things that sit with
happened to me”… you constantly. Those things that you feel like
A Well yes; you can’t lie in a memoir. I was able you can’t run away from, you feel are almost part
to tell lots of lies with Bone. I was like, “No, that’s of you. And the personiication of the ‘Terrible’
not about you!”. Obviously I can’t do that with was just to illustrate the fact that you can’t
The Terrible. But when you get your ego out escape something you haven’t dealt with.
of the way and you forget this is a book about You might think you have, but it’s just going
you, you treat it like you would any other story to appear next to you. It’ll come into your bed,
– because we’re all going through similar things. come out drinking with you, or whatever it is
I’m not saying everybody’s been through a lot of that you like to do. It’ll be the third person in
the stuf in there because I’ve lived a bit of a life, your marriage. So it was important for me to
but I think that the joy and the beauty in it comes personify that, because when you feel depressed,
in that I’m giving a voice to things that happen when you feel anxious, they are not light feelings.
to people all the time. And maybe by reading it, They’re the diference for some people between
somebody will realise that it’s not just them that’s life and death.
had this experience.
(@yrsadaleyward). This
living it, but of course we were raised in Chorley interview took place with
in the north west of England so there were no the support of Bristol
other black people and we could see that. And Festival of Ideas year-
because my grandparents were strict Seventh round programme (www.
Day Adventists, everything was diferent. ideasfestival.co.uk).
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y ive-year-old, Orla, has started to insist we sit internal world – among My Little Ponies and Elsa from
in silence in the car. No radio, music, podcasts Frozen, where her class teacher is her mum (!) – needs
or audiobooks. My husband and I are not even more time and silence, so she lies awake and plays out the
allowed to talk. Her reasoning? “I need to concentrate stories in her head.
on my imaginations, Mama.” It’s adorable and a little Meditation teacher Andrew Johnson told me the same
frustrating, but I can’t help thinking she’s onto something. when I interviewed him for my podcast. He attributes
How often do we, as adults, make time for silence? the rise in adult insomnia to this non-stop information
Not so long ago, we had to do it by default. Waiting at the treadmill we’re all on, and said he sees people who can’t
bus stop, riding the tube, the long line at the post office or sleep because when their head hits the pillow, a day’s worth
cofee shop – all of it dead time with only the thoughts in of thinking loods into their mind. I can relate to that. I’m
our head for company. With the advent of iPods, and then rarely more creative than in the half hour after I put my
smart phones, we suddenly have a world of information and phone down at night, picking it up time and again to hastily
entertainment at our ingertips. When we can always be make notes. I even bought a waterproof notepad for my
learning, doing and making headway on our goals, sitting shower, because so many of my best ideas come to me then.
in mental silence can feel wasteful, lazy or indulgent. Even So, with all this in mind, I’m trying to make more time to
our chores are conducted to this soundtrack of information do nothing each day. I’ve put up a fabric teepee with Orla,
now. The only times when I’m not taking things in are in where we go and sit and make time for our imaginations
the shower, or after I put down my phone or book at night. together. I would like some music to help me with this, but
But if we spend all our time absorbing other people’s Orla insists she inds it distracting. “You just need to choose
creations, when do we create things for ourselves? When one and get started,” she tells me. So that’s what we do.
do we hear our own thoughts, and sort through the jumble Out on walks, I’ve started to turn of my music and let the
of our daily life? Now, this isn’t a rant against the dangers of birdsong in for ive minutes or so. There are meditation
smart phones – they represent choice and communication, apps that help you to introduce this relective time into
and those are wonderful things. And as someone who’s your day. But if, like me, you ind it hard to do nothing,
sufered with lifelong anxiety, I often welcome the ability to turn to the activities that humans have been doing in
distract my whirring, supercomputer brain from intrusive silence for generations. Sweeping the loor with a big straw
or unhelpful thoughts. But when, like Orla, do we get to broom, painting, drawing, sewing or craft. I’ve dug out my
concentrate on our imaginations? old calligraphy pen and ink and spend half an hour here
Despite the quiet car rides, my daughter’s bedtime has and there just illing the pages with long, looping strokes.
been slipping later each night. We put her in pyjamas and I’m happier this way. I’m having diferent ideas, feeling
tuck her in at the same hour, but she’s started to lie there creative again. I’m writing those furtive iPhone notes all
awake, blinking in the midsummer dusk for an hour or through the day now. Try doing an Orla sometimes and
so. When I asked her why, her answer was ierce: “It’s the give your own imaginations some space. “You can be
only time I get to have my imaginations!” Those short anything you want there,” she tells me, but I’m increasingly
car journeys home are not enough for her any more. Her happy to just be myself.
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EMMA
BLOCK
Illustrator and author Emma
shares how her work-life balance fuels
her creativity – and where she
inds her inspiration…
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mma is an illustrator and author down when I need to send orders I produce are originally hand-painted.
who inds inspiration in vintage out. Sometimes I end up taking on I like to inspire others to be creative
photos and travel. She tells us too much work at once, which can too and try their hand at drawing and
about her artistic career and how she be quite challenging! I do yoga every painting. People always assume that
inds a sense of calm in order to create. week, which I ind really helps me if they can’t draw one thing they’re
“As long as I can remember, I’ve to relax. My favourite way to unwind never going to be good at art generally
loved drawing and painting. I had at home is to have a bath and put – but that’s just not true! I’m useless
a ‘making cupboard’ when I was little, a podcast on. at drawing cars and other vehicles,
which was full of glitter, pipe cleaners “Having balance in my life is for example.
and poster paint, and I was always important to me, to make sure I don’t “If you want to learn to draw,
creating something. Instead of sitting get burned out creatively. My ideal I would advise starting with
traditional A-levels, I did a national day of from work would be a visit to something simple. Spend time looking
diploma in art and design, then went an exhibition at the National Gallery at your subject before you begin
on to study illustration at Middlesex with my husband; cofee at Notes (my drawing, then take it slowly, and
University. I’m so happy that I got favourite cofee shop in London); then don’t put any pressure on yourself.
to do art for ive whole years. I’m heading up Charing Cross Road to Learning to draw isn’t easy and it
also very glad that my parents trusted browse the books in Foyles. We always takes a little while. I consider drawing
that I knew what I was doing, and end up buying something in there! and painting to be a visual language.
didn’t make me take more academic “When I’m not painting, I love No one would expect to learn to speak
subjects just in case the art career reading to relax, and this year I’ve a language instantly, it takes a lot of
didn’t work out. made an efort to read and inish more practice. The main thing is to enjoy
“I started working professionally books. I’ve got a big stack of them on the experience and not put too much
as an illustrator when I was 17, my bedside table because after I inish pressure on yourself.
slowly building up my client base reading I forget to put them back on “You can ind inspiration for
and portfolio while I was studying. the shelf. Most recently I read The your art anywhere. Travel is very
This meant that I could be a freelance Stories of Eva Luna by Isabel Allende, stimulating for me. Whenever I go on
illustrator as soon as I graduated, The Summer Book by Tove Jansson holiday, I come back bursting with
though it was deinitely tricky at the and The Pursuit of Love by Nancy ideas. But you don’t have to go away
beginning to ind work! I’ve learnt Mitford. Right now I am reading to ind something that sparks your
a whole lot since then about business Prospero’s Cell by Lawrence Durrell. creativity; I’m always looking out
and making good business choices. I’d recommend them all! for colour and pattern in every-day
“Despite doing something I love “When it comes to my work now, life and if I see something lovely
for a living, it can still be stressful. I’d describe myself as a multi- I have to record it in my sketchbook.”
Sometimes things go wrong and disciplinary illustrator, but I still Turn the page to ind Emma’s tutorial
supplies don’t arrive in time for love painting as much as I did when I on how to paint your own watercolour
a workshop, or my printer breaks was small, and all of the illustrations potted plant piece.
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First, lightly sketch out the plants While the background is drying, start
and their pots with a pencil. I have mixing up some different shades of green.
sketched three overlapping potted plants, I like to use both blue-toned and yellow-toned
but you could keep it simple with just one greens in the same painting. Here, I mixed
to start. You want the sketch to be as light phthalo green, ultramarine blue and a touch
as possible, so you can only just see it. Mix of permanent carmine to make a turquoise-green
a little bit of cadmium red pale with lots colour for the plant in the middle. I mixed
KBS=PAN=J@HHEJPDA>=?GCNKQJ@QOEJCUKQN some sap green with a little bit of ultramarine
large brush, making sure to avoid the areas blue and Venetian red to paint the plant on
where the pots and leaves will be. Let the the left. For the plant on the right, I added
background dry completely. more Venetian red and ultramarine blue to the
sap green mixture. Experiment and play around
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green you like.
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Before you start to paint the leaves, and I painted the pots with the three shades
once the background is dry, rub out the of red using a medium brush. While they
pencil lines with your eraser. The painted were still wet, I sprinkled them with salt,
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for an interesting textured effect. Brush the
which means you don’t need the pencil lines salt off once they’re dry. Using a small
anymore. When you paint the leaves, apply the brush, I added a wooden stand to the pot in
colour using your medium brush in light washes the middle in yellow ochre and burnt umber.
in some areas, and allow the paint to pool Once the leaves are dry, add stems and veins
in denser areas of pigment in others where the using a darker shade of green with your small
leaves would naturally be in shadow or darker. brush. I added veins to the middle plant using
This gives a sense of natural variation and a mixture of permanent carmine and phthalo
the impression that light is catching the CNAAJ2KJEOD
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different angles of the leaves. the side of the pots by painting a thin line
of the same colour used for each pot.
This is an edited
extract from
The Joy of Watercolor:
40 Happy Lessons for
Painting the World
Around You by Emma
Block (Running
Press, £13.99).
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A literature festival
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just come along and
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SARAH-JANE ROBERTS
Sarah-Jane has worked as co-director of the
Manchester Literature Festival for the past three
years. Before this, she was the artistic director of
the Budleigh Salterton Literary Festival. Among
other things, her role involves commissioning new
work, looking after authors – and a lot of reading.
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EMMA KAVANAGH
Crime writer Emma lives in South Wales with her
husband and young sons. She spent many years
Photography Adrian White
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Top festival
tips for novices
MAKE THE MOST OF EACH EVENT
AND COME AWAY FEELING INSPIRED
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Clockwise from top: free
escaping your creative spirit at a
literature festival; Shami
Chakrabarti in conversation
with Rachel Holmes at the
Manchester event; relaxing
with a good book at Hay.
CLAIRE FULLER
A novelist and short-fiction author, Claire began
writing at the age of 40, having worked for many
Photography Adrian Harvey
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festival to visit
DISCOVER YOUR NEAREST EVENT
OR PLAN A LITERATURE TRIP
LITERARY FOOTPRINTS
Throughout October 2018
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literaryfestival/
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STORYTELLING FESTIVAL
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ON THE ROAD
Embracing life on four wheels can ofer a new perspective and sense of freedom like no other
Words: Sian Lewis / Illustration: Amelia Flower
“ oad trippin’ with my two favourite allies…” The grow bigger on the horizon. We parked up whenever we
Red Hot Chili Peppers had it right, heading of on fancied – to hike into the hills, to wild camp by streams or
a road trip is the ultimate way to get away from it all. to investigate the ruins of once-proud castles. We camped
There’s something very freeing about packing a car with a each night, which made our car feel a bit like our home as
tent, sleeping gear, snacks and supplies and seeing where well as our vehicle for the week. We used it to dry towels
the road takes you, with none of the restrictions of public on, eat lunch in, even to sit on top of for better views
transport and the freedom to stop on a whim when you across to far-of Hebridean islands. By the end of the
drive past a jaw-dropping view, or an empty beach, or even week our poor car was a smelly, sand-covered mess, and
just a café with appealing-looking cakes. we were very tanned, very midge-bitten and very happy.
Road trips remind me of the ‘Choose your own Adventure’ Road trips are also a bonding experience. Long hours
books that were around when I was little – do you want in the car lead to weird and wonderful conversations and
to take the highway or the quiet lane? Pick left or right? shared stories – there’s something about sitting next to
Choosing one path over another will alter your journey someone that invites conidence and allows you to share
forever. Or if you’re more of a planner, there’s a lot of joy secrets. I also love swapping playlists and listening to other
to be had in spending cosy nights before your trip with people’s favourite podcasts – it’s not often these days that
a marker pen and a map, dreaming of roads less travelled we get to just sit and listen as beautiful landscapes slide by,
and highlighting the amazing places you want to visit. not worrying about emails and work deadlines.
Your dream road trip can be as long or as short as you Now for the practical stuf: road tripping well is all
want. You could plan a huge trip along an iconic route about packing the right kit and feeling comfortable. Pack
– you can still drive some of Route 66 from Arizona to a tent and camping kit in the boot (even if you’re booking
Missouri across the belly of America, or try the gorgeous some places to stay, it’s nice to mix some camping in –
Garden Route along South Africa’s coast – or it could and it’s a good backup in case of breakdown), plus plenty
simply be a weekend away in the next county or a day’s of snacks, a supply of water, a spare can of petrol and a
jaunt to the coast. Road trips big and small are brilliant spare tyre. You’ll need a good mapping system – a SatNav
ways to escape, and I think exploring Britain by car is is great, but it’s worth having proper paper maps of your
the best of all. My trips have opened up my eyes to just route too, as technology has a way of failing just when
how much wild, wide open space there is on our island, you need it most. I ind making a real efort to keep the
something that’s easy to forget if you live in a busy city. car as clean and tidy as possible makes life much easier!
A few weeks ago, two friends and I drove from Inverness To keep your trip carbon footprint-friendly, you could
in the Scottish Highlands all the way to Cape Wrath at the consider bringing bikes with you so that you can use your
very tip of western Scotland. We kept to the tiniest roads car as a base while you bike about to explore your
and lanes and drove past deep lochs and through dark surroundings. Another option is to head to We Now
forests of pines, stocking up on food in tiny white-walled (www.wenow.com) to work out your carbon footprint and
villages and watching huge emerald-green mountains ofset it by donating money to environmental causes.
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Fresh air, invigorating walks and scenery to make your soul soar
– the Dolomites are the perfect place to rejuvenate, says Kirstie Duhig
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spanning Italy, Austria and Slovenia. The to learn more about the region, the hotel can
Dolomites have been a UNESCO World organise a guided walk or you can join a local
Heritage Site since 2009, and arriving in tour via the tourist board (www.suedtirol.info/en).
Verona, the closest airport, I soon discover On my irst morning, I join a group with a
that the two-hour drive to my mountain local guide, Veronika, for a 2-hour hike. It’s
retreat is a wonder in itself. a 300m ascent from the Passo delle Erbe to
As we wind our way nearly 1000 metres up Maurerberg lodge (www.maurerberg.com),
through the foothills, we pass apple orchards with spectacular views across the valley to the
and vineyards stepped into the slopes. Our Dolomites’ snow-topped Geisler peaks. The
journey is accompanied by the twin rivers of sky is a painterly mix of cerulean blue and
Eisack and Rienz, indistinguishable as they white, with brushstrokes of cloud that provide
criss-cross our path like braids, their glacial welcome respite from the summer sun. Our
waters a milky blue grey. We are heading to hike takes us along shady forest paths and
the picturesque town of Brixen/Bressanone, through valleys populated by leisurely-looking
the oldest town in South Tyrol, and the Tyrolean cows, their bells jangling as they
point where the rivers meet. Like the rivers, amble along.
everything in this region has a twin: a German As we walk, the air is an earthy mix of scents
and an Italian name, an indication of a past and sounds – birds call raucously across the
Photography My Arbor
less harmonious but now healed. aromatic pines, and bees hum as they lit
Once part of Austria, South Tyrol (or Südtirol) between blush-pink Alpine Roses, which
was annexed in 1919 and the region underwent lourish alongside the sunnier lengths of the
‘Italianisation’ during the Fascist period. In path. I can feel a gentle burn in my legs as we
1923, Italian was made the official language, ascend the steeper sections of the trail and
places were renamed and German (spoken by I reassure myself inwardly that my body will
the majority of the population) was banned, thank me for this afterwards. At the top of each
along with the regional language, Ladin. Today, ascent we make a ‘photo stop’ for those of us
South Tyrol has reclaimed its heritage, and the who need a breather, and I am pleased to note
region is a multi-lingual melting pot that draws that my ankles are holding up.
together the culture, food and traditions of When the mountain lodge comes into view,
both Tyrol and Italy. its gingerbread-house exterior makes me feel
My destination is My Arbor (www.my-arbor.
com), a new wellness hotel built on the slopes
of the Plose mountain. We round a hairpin
bend and the building appears, majestic,
resting on a series of tree-like stilts. My room,
a ‘Nest’, is cool and airy with a large balcony
and comfy daybed with a panoramic
view of the valley and the town below. It’s
sophisticated and luxurious without being
pretentious; the perfect place to wind down
and allow yourself a little TLC.
While my usual form of recuperation involves
doing a lot of very little, being in the mountains
means hiking is de rigueur. There are plenty of
Photography Kirstie Duhig
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Where to stay
ESCAPE TO A WELLNESS
HOTEL SET IN THE MOUNTAINS
MY ARBOR, PLOSE
Nest suite from €139 per person/half
board per night based on 2 people
sharing. This package includes the use
of the hotel's two saunas and pool,
breakfast and 5-course dinner.
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in less than 10 minutes the car walk, we pause and Marco leads us through
BREATHE climbs 1000 metres. The view a short meditation. I try to absorb as many of
IT ALL IN from the top station, which the scents and sounds of the forest as I can
Pine trees are acts as a ski lift in winter, is before I return to city living. “Trees are like
often found at high a heart-soaring panorama people – they care for each other,” Marco
altitudes – enjoy their across Bressanone, with the says. “They can identify their ofspring and
fresh scent and reap beautiful Pusteria valley in they look after them. Some of their roots are
the beneits of the north and Isarco valley kilometres long and they send nutrients by
reduced stress and in the south. joining their roots underground.” I think about
clearer sinuses. My guide this morning is this, and seeing my own family when I get back,
Bettina, who takes our group and it makes me smile. I’m already planning
along the ‘Woody walk’ – an easy my return with them to these soul-soothing
hour-long trail that follows the Plose mountains, so that they can experience the
mountain on one side with spectacular views mountain air for themselves.
across the Dolomites on the other. As I start my journey home, I’m reminded
Half way along the walk we come to a Kneipp of the quote from Scottish-American naturalist
Garten. ‘Kneipping’ is a form of naturopathic and author John Muir: “You are not in the
water healing, based on the efects of cold mountains, the mountains are in you.” Feeling
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Things to do in
South Tyrol
MAKE THE MOST OF THIS
MOUNTAINOUS REGION
MOUNTAINCARTS
Clockwise from top left: If you fancy an adrenaline rush, try
Bettina (right) leads the riding a mountaincart down the 9km
hike along the 'Woody Walk'; run from the top of Plose cable car
spectacular views; Lake station to the bottom. Similar to a
Kaltern is the warmest in go-kart, there are no engines or
the Alps; walk through pedals, just brakes. The descent
the Kneipp Garten for a takes around 30 minutes!
natural energy boost. www.plose.org/en/mountaincarts
LAKE SWIMMING
There are a number of beautiful
freshwater mountain lakes in South
Tyrol which are suitable for swimming.
Lake Kaltern is the warmest lake in
the Alps and you can also take a dip
in Lake Göller and Fennberg lake –
all of which are a short drive from
Brixen/Bressanone.
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Natalia Bojanic teaches mindfulness via her meditation app, Sexy Mind. She is also the co-founder
of plant-based nutrition brand Form (www.formnutrition.com). She believes that feeling good is
a necessity, and that we all have the ability to realise the greatest version of ourselves.
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She looked out at the wing. “This is the irst time I’ve
lown in many, many years. I haven’t been able to, with my
sickness. But if I make it this time, it’s a sign I’ll be able to
make it to Switzerland, where my son lives. This is my test
light, you see.” She gave the open-mouthed smile again.
“I’m meeting my sister in Wellington. First time I’ve seen
her in ive years. We were born in Invercargill. I had to leave
because of the mould.” Then she told me about the irst time
she’d been up in a plane, when she was sixteen. Her friend’s
father was a pilot, and he had a small plane. They all went
up together in the small plane and did acrobatics for half an
hour. “Straight after the light, my friend and I went of to
a dance. All dressed up in our miniskirts. I was feeling so
sick. My very irst dance, I vomited all over my partner!
He was very annoyed with me.”
We were still on the tarmac, and I was already feeling tired,
because even though I’d enjoyed listening to the woman’s
stories, I’d had to react with surprise and delight at them.
My energy for talking to strangers gets depleted quickly.
Maybe sitting next to window-seat woman would be too
much. But she was quiet now, and soon we were in the air,
and Brisbane, with its pale sky and all its evenly tanned
people in sunglasses and sleeveless tops, was dropping away.
I had been up since quarter to ive because I’d had to walk
to the train station with my friend James, who was lying
back to Darwin. I closed my eyes and fell into a blank doze.
When I opened them again I felt heavy and sad. I always feel
a bit sad on lights between countries. I can’t help thinking
about the past and the future and where I will end up. The
geographical limbo seems to emphasize a limbo I feel in
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and said: “About forty years ago my brother – not the cross-
dresser one, the other one – was lying over Saudi Arabia,
and the plane got hijacked. It was in the days when it was
easy to hijack a plane. The hijackers made the pilots land
in a desert.” The thought crossed my mind then that the
woman could be lying, at least exaggerating. “They had to
stay there for two days until they were rescued. My brother
was ine in the end, and no one was killed. But he came back
to us very much older.” She gave a strange, sad laugh. “And
later on, he ended up dying of AIDS. What a mystery.”
A toilet door inally opened and she went in while I stayed
waiting in the aisle. I thought about the woman’s brother,
and about the young man lying silently on the couch in the
psychoanalyst’s office. It had taken Grosz a long time to
understand that all Anthony needed was not to feel alone.
He didn’t need to talk, but he wanted to fall asleep without
fear, knowing that when he was gone he stayed present and
alive in the mind of another.
Back in our seats, the woman told me that she’d once been
a bikie in the Hells Angels – had probably been one of
New Zealand’s irst female bikies – but got in trouble with
the police so had to give it up; that she’d been thrown out of
numerous nightclubs as a youngster because her skirt was
too short; that once she went to an auction at Lyall Bay and
her young daughter had tripped over in front of her, and
when she reached out to pick her up she made a particular
motion that made the auctioneer think she was bidding, and
she ended up buying a big oak table. She told me that it was
in Lower Hutt when her real life began, because it was here
that she realised she was a healer.
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“Sometimes what
you’re looking for
comes when you’re not
looking at all.”
Simple ways to feel calm & cared for
By Harriet Griffey
Author of “I Want To Be Happy”
Illustrated by
Becki Clark
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“Being able to focus or ‘switch off’ from
distractions is an important way to manage the
many stressful demands of daily life. Whether
mindfulness is a totally new idea to you or it’s a
practice you want to strengthen or renew, take
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living. The beauty of mindfulness is in its simplicity;
it’s a practice you can easily bring into your day to
day routine. Just a few minutes of regular practise
can help you to reduce stress and face the
challenges of daily life feeling calm and cared for.“
Haiet Griffey
In The Moment columnist and wellbeing author
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What is mindfulness?
Mindfulness is a process of bringing conscious
attention to what you’re doing. It is about
being ‘in the moment’ and can be used
whether you are reading a book, taking a
yoga class, walking to work or having a bath.
In addition, we can use these activities to
promote a practice of mindfulness, because
when we consciously engage with an activity,
it helps us to focus our thoughts. When done
consistently, mindfulness becomes a way of
being in the moment that reduces stress and
brings a sense of calm purpose into our lives.
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way to practise mindfulness. What is useful
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practise it regularly, even when you feel you
don’t need it – by doing this, it will be more
accessible to you when you do. The more
we practise, the more this strengthens the
neural connections that support our ability
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one at play. They absorb every last drop of
experience and their concentration can be
total, from watching a ladybird slowly walk
along a twig to playing with a much-loved toy
or dropping a pebble into a puddle to see the
water ripple. They are absolutely present in
that moment, and you, too, can regain
that feeling through mindfulness.
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Mindfulness helps restore feelings of calm and
focus. It resettles our internal physical self,
lowering our heart rate and blood pressure, which
in turn makes us feel calmer. When our body is
calmer, this sends a message to our mind that tells
us we are calmer. The body-mind connection is
very real, and this is something we can use to help
us in our practice through mindful breathing.
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“An important part of mindfulness is
reconnecting with our bodies, as well
as the sensations they experience. This
means waking up to the sights, sounds,
smells and tastes of the present moment.
That might be something as simple as the
feel of a banister as we walk upstairs.”
Professor Mark Williams, former director
of the Oxford Mindfulness Centre
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Mindful breathing
In all mindfulness or meditative practice, the
breath is key and learning breathing techniques
will help facilitate this. Introducing a mindful
breathing practice, starting at 10 minutes twice
a day and building on it, will make the ability to
take some restorative ‘time out’ always available
to you, whenever you need it. Breathing mindfully
also helps stimulate the vagal nerve that runs
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manage the body to manage the mind and vice
versa. We all have the tools we need, we just need
to know how to use them. Here’s how...
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scattered, use your breath
as the means to take hold
of your mind again.”
Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese
Buddhist monk and peace activist
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Mindfulness meditation
Once you’ve learned how to calm the breath, the
next step is meditation. Our mind likes to wander;
it always will, even when you’re trying to quieten
it. The point of this meditation is not to stop this,
but to be aware of its wandering and consciously
return to its focus point. Over and over again,
like doing reps in the gym to build physical
muscle memory, this process of constantly
bringing your attention back to a focal point
works to train your mind. You can use your
breathing practice, in conjunction with counting
or the repetition of a word (a ‘mantra’), to do so.
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Throughout your day
Remind yourself to do just one thing at a time.
Don’t multi-task. Give whatever it is that you’re
doing your undivided attention, whether this is
eating, walking, reading or talking to a friend.
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Take a moment and turn everything off.
Phone alerts, computers, iPads, television,
radio. Just sit in silence and listen to your breath.
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thoughts to come and go in the quiet.
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“Meditation is not a way of making
your mind quiet. It’s a way of entering
into the quiet that’s already there –
buried under the 50,000 thoughts the
average person thinks every day.”
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Carry a notebook with you and write
down all the small things that inspire and
connect with you. A quote that resonates,
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“Practice presence.
Embrace the place
where life happens.”
Eckhart Tolle, spiritual teacher
and author of The Power of Now
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Exercise mindfully
Concentrating on the physical processes of your
body, whether this is kicking a football in a team,
playing tennis with a partner, doing yoga or Pilates
alone or in a group, focuses your attention. Being
mindful about this increases the two-way process
that beds it in. Some exercise, like Tai Chi, is a
form of meditation in movement and a literal
embodiment of mindfulness. Factor in a
period of mindful exercise every day.
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“Do something every day that is loving
toward your body and gives you the
opportunity to enjoy its sensations.”
Golda Poretsky, holistic health counsellor
and founder of Body Love Wellness
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Self massage
Reconnect your physical and mental self by
giving yourself a hand massage. You can use
a delicious smelling hand cream or lotion, or
just some almond oil with a few drops of your
favourite essential oil, but concentrate on
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minutes. Appreciate the amazing work they do
and restore their strength and suppleness.
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Walking
If you can, walk. The act of walking even a
short distance can reconnect you to your body,
break cycles of repetitive thought, regulate
your breathing, energise you, open up your
immediate view of life and help you to bring
your mind back into focus, harmonising body
and brain as you walk. Be mindful of your body,
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notice the rhythm of your steps, the contact
that your feet make with the ground, and your
posture. Engage your abdominal muscles, relax
your shoulders, power up your legs and walk
briskly. Lift your gaze and deepen your breath.
Five minutes mindful grace in a busy day.
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“In every walk with nature
one receives far more
than they seek.”
John Muir, Scottish-American
naturalist, activist and author
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“The feeling that any task is
a nuisance will soon disappear
if it is done in mindfulness.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
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Household chores
No one likes housework and often chores have to
be crammed in between other tasks. Given there’s
not much choice about cleaning the bath or doing
the laundry, turn these tasks into a moment of
contemplation, rather than irritation. Notice the
sensory pleasure of smoothing the fabric of just
washed sheets and enjoy the anticipation of a newly
made bed. Appreciate the sparkle of freshly washed
glassware or the order of folded towels. These
small meditations can refresh our thoughts.
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Cooking
This is something in which pleasure really can
be taken: in preparation, presentation and
anticipation. Taking time to follow a recipe, chop
and peel, can become a restorative process
leading to something pleasurable and shared,
rather than a tedious task to be endured.
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Before you sleep
Allow yourself time to prepare for sleep. Turn
off electronic devices. Do one thing – bathe,
read, listen to music – in preparation. Do it with
your full attention. Pause. Practise gratitude and
take a moment to note the good things in
your day, then trust the rest to tomorrow.
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“Mindfulness brings us
home to the present.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
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About the author
HARRIET GRIFFEY
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“If you want to conquer the
anxiety of life, live in the
moment, live in the breath.”
Amit Ray, Indian author and teacher of
meditation, yoga, peace and compassion