PIMP Notes by Tom Broidy PDF

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Julien PIMP Notes By: Tom Broidy

1.1 Introduction
❖ If you do not understand game after watching the videos/reading these notes, just give up, everything Julien knows and
has worked hard to break down is in here.
❖ Value this, take it and apply it. Internalize it.
❖ You can do this, only excuses are ones you make. Always ask yourself “How bad do you want this?”
❖ Don’t be a victim, think abundance.
❖ Social Conditioning (mostly good but some things are wrong).
➢ Society’s expectations for sex-worthiness (these are not correct).
▪ Supplicating - not being yourself to be someone you think the other person wants you to be.
▪ Money.
▪ Looks.
▪ Impressing women (buying drinks, bragging, etc.).
▪ Trying to be super smooth.
▪ Watching yourself carefully.
▪ Thinking love is scarce.
➢ Acting the way listed above puts the woman on the pedestal and makes you seem needy.
➢ Acting this way puts you into the provider category and she will hold out on sex.
➢ Women do love sex, do not believe for 1 second they don’t. So, when they hold out on having sex, it is because
they don’t want to fuck you.
❖ Three modules to PIMP:
1. Female Psychology – make sure you go into this open minded because a lot of it is very counter-intuitive.
2. Inner Game – The foundation in which everything else relies on. This includes how your vibe is with others.
3. Outer Game – The structure on which you build to the foundation (inner game) which is how you deal with chicks.
❖ Watch the program/read these notes over and over.
❖ Get reference experiences to make this who you are.
❖ Cold approach pickup gives you the most return on your time investment. It is tough but becomes very fun.
❖ It will help you draw anybody in, not only females.
❖ It helps you grow as a person and will expand your life.
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1.2 Female Psychology – Page 1
❖ What is attraction to women?
➢ This seems to be the biggest mystery to men. You get told you need to go by societies standards, but this is
WRONG! You don’t need looks and money.
➢ Attraction is value and has 2 drives:
▪ Survival.
▪ Reproduction.
➢ Women have their youthfulness as value (Value → attraction).
➢ Good emotions help with the 2 drives but can lead you astray (think about fatty foods). Good emotions help with
creating attraction though.
❖ Attraction as it is built into us (think caveman times).
➢ The way that women are attracted isn’t something new, it is still the same as it always has been.
➢ The alpha caveman builds attraction based on his behavior cues, not his visual ones. Things like being fearless,
grounded, assertive, free, loud, dominant, and resourceful were more important than looks. Notice that all of these
are behavioral, not visual.
➢ Value was in your behaviors which caused attraction.
➢ It is all about your sub-communication.
❖ Women take longer to get attracted then men. All men need to be attracted is for the woman to be hot. Think about a
light switch vs. a volume knob.
➢ Women take time to see if you are worth being with because they must risk having a kid with you by having sex.
➢ Girls have orbiters who give them money and buy them things, so they don’t need your money.
➢ Looks don’t matter because they do not increase your chances of survival or replication. If they are good looking
but are completely socially inept how many chicks do you think they will get?
➢ You want to tap into raw attraction.
▪ Show things like dominance and decisiveness which can have you as the alpha guy.
▪ Show you social intelligence which makes you attractive also.
➢ Women look for validation from others to boost them on the social ladder.
▪ They constantly monitor their spot on the social ladder and will fuck you in order to boost their spot.
➢ Two things that you need to do to tap into raw attraction and create a need for your validation:
▪ Focus on your sub-communication.
▪ Being a naturally attractive and sex-worthy guy isn’t something you do it is something you are (or must
become).
➢ The reason things are this way is because of our evolution.
▪ In caveman times men had to be logical because of the harshness of their lives doing things like hunting and
having to deal with rough environments.
▪ Women had to create emotional bonds in order to comfort the men and deal with the children and other
members of the tribe. They were much more focused on the behavior of others.
❖ Attraction is emotional not logical.
➢ You cannot logically get a woman to be attracted to you.
➢ Bragging about how great you are will never work.
➢ What women say and truly want are different.
▪ Try asking women what kind of guy they want and look at who they choose. They will tell you they want a nice
guy who will take care of them, yet they keep dating assholes who treat them like shit.
▪ This is because their attraction is emotional and not logical, they can’t control it.
➢ “Women live in the emotion of the moment and then backwards rationalize.”
▪ All humans do this to some extent.
▪ Backwards rationalize – They tell themselves and others one thing like wanting a nice guy, but then do the other
like dating the asshole. They will even go as far as to amplify anything good about the asshole and completely
negate the nice things the other guy who isn’t as emotionally appealing (not attractive) does.
▪ “It is an excuse they tell themselves to dissipate tension between who they think they are and their biological
drive.”
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❖ What is the best way to make a chick your girlfriend?
➢ Fuck her as soon as possible.
▪ Do not listen to social conditioning and set yourself up as the ‘boyfriend’.
▪ If she is willing to fuck you and risk having a child, it is not a far stretch being your girlfriend.
▪ She will think “this guy is the shit, so his kid will be the shit.”
▪ She will backwards rationalize that she fucked you, so she must be in love with you, so making her your
girlfriend will be easy.
❖ Focus on changing her mood, not her mind.
➢ Sub-communications are more noticeable to females than logic could ever be.
▪ Think about asking her “Do you want to fuck in the bathroom?” vs. bringing her in there and just start making
out with her and then fingering her and then fucking her.
➢ Be ‘man to woman’ (M2W) not ‘friend to friend’ (F2F).
➢ Use a breaking rapport voice tone (going down in the end instead of up → think gay guys saying hi vs. James Bond
saying hi).
➢ Be physically dominant as in go for the hug or the hand grab without hesitation.
➢ Keep strong eye contact
❖ 3 best sub-communications to turn women on: These are hard-wired into ALL women.
1. Add to the fun.
• Everybody loves fun.
2. Challenge her.
• This will create male-female polarity, add to the fun and create a push/pull on her that will give you value and
add to the attraction.
3. Be commanding. (don’t go overboard)
• Break rapport which will make you stand out.
• Order her around, which will show your dominance.
• This will create raw attraction through masculine polarity.
❖ Women LOVE Sex, in most cases more than you do.
➢ Women have more sexual partners and experiences than men on average.
➢ Women have a more intense orgasm.
➢ Do not think because of these things listed that all women are sluts and will cheat on you.
➢ Women have way more self-control over who they will sleep with. They are constantly offered sex and do not fuck
the vast majority of guys that are interested.
➢ Don’t be judgmental and paranoid of this or it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy that will cause her to want to
leave you and/or cheat on you.
➢ If you are with her, she will just blow them off like she probably would anyways.
➢ Girls loving sex does not make them a slut.
➢ The fact that girls love sex means that you need to use this to your advantage and have the attitude that all women
are nymphos and you are just going to give them what they want.
❖ Women have 2 personalities that they have for different guys.
➢ The Lover – This is for the attractive, non-judgmental guys and she will act very openly with him and is likely to
fuck him fast.
➢ The Provider – This is for the judgmental guys who will buy them things and try to impress them to get with her.
She will not be as receptive, open and comfortable and will hold off on having sex. She will most likely use this guy
also.
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❖ Men and women have different social standards, which in itself is a double standard.
➢ Men who get laid a lot get congratulated and move up the social ladder because they get social proof and have
women attracted to them.
➢ Women who fuck a lot of guys get shamed and move down the social ladder because they are labeled a slut.
➢ This double standard is why women must act like they don’t like sex to most people.
➢ If a woman isn’t open sexually with you it is because you acted judgmental and made it seem like it is not fine.
➢ Think of the “My boss Michael” Analogy:
▪ You are offered your dream job and you will get everything you ever want.
▪ You go to your job party that your boss setup for you and you arrive and the 100 women that are hottest in your
eyes are there butt naked.
▪ There is one condition though. You must have fun at the party, but you can’t have sex with any of the women.
▪ You go to the party and when you get there all 100 of the women are trying to fuck you. You look up and see
Michael on the balcony watching you. This is analogous to a woman thinking “I can’t fuck you because of
everyone seeing me and judging me”.
▪ One chick comes up to you and brings you to where Michael can’t see you and she fucks you. This will make
you feel like it is OK because you won’t be spotted, and it takes accountability off your shoulders.
▪ Women want to fuck you, but they don’t want to be judged or accountable. It is up to you to take the
accountability away from the chick and not be judgmental.
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2.1 Inner Game
❖ Inner game is the foundational part of game. It is what makes you naturally attractive and sex-worthy. You can be the
“Asshole” that she fucks.
➢ This doesn’t mean to treat them like shit.
➢ He is talking about being a man in his prime.
➢ Bringing masculine polarity.
➢ Standing out from the crowd.
➢ Having the aura and vibe of “This is me. Here you go.”
➢ Being a person that knows who they are and knows what they want, and knows they have good intentions and are
on their own path.
❖ 4 Pillars of Sex-worthiness (4PS)
1. Being ‘Purposeful’ in your actions.
2. Being ‘Controlled’.
3. Being in a ‘Flowing’ state.
4. Being ‘Self-Amusing’.
❖ Using the 4PS to monitor your actions you can calibrate in the moment. All 4 of the pillars are continuums within one
another, meaning you might be overly purposeful but not controlled enough, or being overly controlling but not self-
amusing enough; they are all linked together in this way.
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2.2 The Four Pillars of Sex Worthiness – Page 1
❖ Every person has their own aura that they put off and creates their own vibes with others.
❖ The 4PS helps you to understand how you are coming off to other people. All of them are good if balanced with the
others but ‘too much of any one thing is bad’, remember this always.
1. Purposeful
❖ Half-assing is extremely common (think about a guy trying to give a girl a super weak hug)
➢ Their thoughts, words and actions are not in alignment and girls can see this easily.
➢ You must follow through when doing things.
➢ Most people just walk around with no purpose, they don’t stick out from the crowd. Girls look for guys that
stand out.
❖ You must be congruent with this though, you can’t fake it.
➢ Your ‘internal identity and external ways of acting have to align’.
➢ Most people call this “being real”.
➢ Your intentions align with your actions.
➢ A lot of guys go up and try to sneak their way into her pants by trying to become her friend.
▪ They become her little orbiter
• They are scared to show the girl that they like her because they want to get her according to social
conditioning standards (helping her with everything, spending money, etc.).
• You also used to get made fun of and that socially conditions you to not admit you like chicks.
❖ You must be M2W from the very beginning. This means that you have:
➢ Laser eye contact
➢ Full utilization of your voice by using a breaking rapport tonality. Types of rapport tonality:
▪ Trying for rapport tonality (TRT) – Voice goes up in tone as you say a sentence (usually isn’t even how you
want to be or would normally be and it shows you trying to be her friend).
▪ Neutral rapport tonality– blasé and bored sounding, unbiased.
▪ Breaking rapport tonality (BRT) – voice goes down in tone as you say a sentence (how you naturally would
talk to a close friend).
➢ Being physical
❖ What you say isn’t as important as just being direct and purposeful. You don’t have to be perfectly smooth in what
you say.
➢ Most guys try to beat around the bush and not just be direct and show purpose.
❖ Most people are fake and have different personalities for different circumstances.
➢ ‘Millionaire’s Club’ Analogy:
▪ A Millionaire (woman) is surrounded by peasants (men) that are trying to get their money (validation) by
being many ways whether it be mean or nice.
• She can see that it is all completely an act to get something from her.
➢ “People Pleasers” try to make everyone happy. It isn’t normal and is impossible to do anyways.
▪ Think about on Christmas how everyone is all happy and puts on this act for everyone else.
➢ If you go up and be real from the beginning, you will always instantly have value.
▪ You are one of the other millionaires in the club, you aren’t trying to suck money away by being fake.
❖ Ultimately you want to take on the identity of a guy who has good intentions and likes sex.
➢ Liking sex isn’t a bad thing, you are a man and it is in your biology.
➢ If you are into it, girls will be too. Liking sex is completely natural.
▪ People ping others for certainty and whoever is the most certain others will go along with it (also been
called ‘whoever has the strongest reality wins’).
• If you don’t believe it 100% why would she?
• Be purposeful and she will go along with it (think of the dominant guy asking of a girl’s ID at a club, she
will think you are a bouncer and show you immediately).
❖ Girls don’t care who you are or what you are into, they just want to know that you’re a real person.
➢ Think of the ‘Big Tits Guy’. Girls know that the guy is into big tits and they say, “that’s just who he is” and it is
not a big deal.
➢ You are allowed to be that guy who likes sex as long as you don’t half-ass it by lacking purpose.
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❖ It is either you like sex and are M2W or you don’t like sex and you are F2F.
➢ Either you get the chick, or you don’t.
➢ Be unapologetic about who you are and your actions when trying to pick up women.
➢ Pretending to be a friend is fucked up anyways and not being honest with her. Everybody prefers somebody
who is real.
➢ Girls respect a person who is being real. Think about if you slightly cross the normal social line with your
opinion of something or someone and you just tell her “I speak my mind”, there is a good chance she will
respect that.
❖ Girls want to meet a sex-worthy (SW) guy and you are creating an opportunity for them.
➢ Sometimes approach anxiety will come up from you not wanting to be impolite by interrupting them. But think
about if you and a friend are talking and some hotties roll up wanting to fuck. You aren’t going to be like “why
did you interrupt us?” (At least not seriously), you will be happy that you got to meet them.
➢ If you are SW, you immediately become a 10 because of your sub-communications.
❖ Being purposeful is in everything you do, assume it. Make it relatable though.
➢ Don’t hide it, half-ass it or be ‘half gangster’; but also, don’t go overboard.
❖ Guys have issues being purposeful because they aren’t ‘promotion oriented’ instead they are being ‘prevention
oriented’.
➢ Promotion oriented - Thinking positively and being present minded. Assuming that everything is fine. This
allows you to be able to be purposeful because you aren’t worrying.
➢ Prevention oriented – Being worried about how you are going to fuck up, it will scramble your thoughts. This
will prevent you from being purposeful.
➢ You need to know who you are and value your opinions of yourself over anybody else’s. This includes the girl
you are going for.
➢ Do not get stuck in your head worrying about people’s opinions or what you want to say next.
➢ Do not worry about the outcome, just do it. If things don’t go well it isn’t going to change you; you will just get
over it.
❖ Always focus on being congruent but try to slightly lean over the edge.
➢ ‘Fake it until you make it.’
➢ Do it even if you aren’t comfortable doing it, you will expand.
➢ If you embrace the discomfort and lean over the edge, you will become the person you are trying to be one little
step at a time.
2. Controlled
❖ In any social interaction, one person reacts more than the other. The person reacting the least is the person of higher
value. Ultimately the person with the most people reacting to them and is the least reactive, is then the most
valuable person in the environment.
❖ Reacting – who is at the cause? And who is at the effect?
➢ Be proactive not reactive.
➢ Signs of being reactive:
▪ If person does something it affects how you feel.
▪ If you have a heightened emotional response to their reaction or rely on their reaction.
▪ Analyze how you are taking up the person’s space and time.
▪ Trying to think 1 step ahead.
▪ Changing how you normally act and talk.
▪ Bragging/qualifying yourself (trying to show off your watch or saying you have a mansion).
➢ If you aren’t reacting, you will be more grounded and more controlled.
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❖ Being grounded and controlled will make you more fluid while remaining purposeful (doing things at your pace).
➢ Think ‘oak tree not squirrel’ or ‘being the buyer, not the seller’.
➢ It does not need to be a big deal; if you get rejected, who gives a fuck. Have the attitude that nothing is a big
deal.
➢ Everything is part of your plan, even if it wasn’t initially. Nothing bothers you.
➢ This must be an attitude that you have genuinely. Trying to be unreactive is being reactive.
▪ Julien mentions an exercise where you go up to women and talk to them and try to act like you don’t give a
fuck at all. This includes acting bored in everything they say (use neutral tonality).
➢ Position yourself as the chooser and look at it as if every woman has already chosen you.
➢ If you look at things the ways listed above, then approaching women is not a big deal. It will all be about your
sub-communication. You will not come off as needy immediately and you will be able to instantly communicate
value and that you are the one choosing.
➢ ‘Best Buy TV’ Analogy:
▪ You see a nice TV (hot chick) but you are not sold immediately. You need to know more before you decide
whether you want it or not. It is also not a big deal if you don’t get the TV either.
❖ Take on the frame of being the buyer and not the seller by:
1. Realizing your own value.
▪ Know that you are valuable and sex-worthy guy and not needy.
▪ Do not be sold on women immediately.
▪ Know that looks and money are not important.
▪ You are the upper echelon because you are trying to better yourself constantly. There is nothing more
attractive to women than men who are trying to better themselves constantly.
▪ If you walk up with the mindset that “I am a 10” then your reality will win.
▪ Girls want a guy who is in their prime and you bettering yourself means that you are in yours.
2. Stop placing women on a pedestal.
▪ They are human, they aren’t perfect beings.
▪ Julien gives an example where there is this model who is a perfect 10 that lives on an air mattress with no
sheets and all she has is a bag of clothes and a vision board. She sits on Facebook all day and goes to the
club at night. That is her life, she is broke, and nothing is special about it.
▪ If you want to humanize a chick, view her on Christmas morning with her family.
• Girls put on acts, just like men do.
▪ If you leave them on a pedestal you will always be reactive.
• When it comes to believing in social conditioning and being superficial, hot chicks are the pinnacle. No
matter what you do you will never be as valuable as her if you believe in that dumb shit.
▪ The best way to take women from pedestals is to get rid of the scarcity mindset and step into a mindset of
abundance.
• Being scarce gives things more value, while being abundant makes them less value.
• Only talking to the hottest chicks will make them scarcer, but if you view all girls as equal then they will
become more abundant. Have fun with every chick you encounter and only sleep with the ones you want
to.
• Julien gives an example where he was on this trip and there were only 2 chicks that weren’t very hot, but
because of their scarcity their value was through the roof as compared to a club where there is 10s
everywhere.
• Remember that what you experience with one girl you can with another one.
3. Flowing
❖ Don’t be tense and choppy.
❖ You need to be loosened up and relaxed. When you are at ease it comes naturally.
❖ When you are entitled to be relaxed (you have no reason not to be) - you will have positive assumptions.
➢ The world is a friendly place and what you do will work.
➢ Do it. You have nothing to lose.
➢ Julien gives an example where Tyler yells at some girl to not get in a taxi cab as she is leaving the club. If you
are entitled and deserve that girl there is a good chance she won’t get in it.
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➢ Getting phone numbers, you will be relaxed and not in a hurry as opposed to being jumpy and nervous to get it.
❖ If you are in a flowing state you will be free-flowing verbally, relaxed and doing things at your own pace. You will
be grounded instead of being choppy, stifled and self-monitoring.
❖ Who you are and what you have to say is good enough.
➢ Even if it is repeated information; because you are saying it, it is good enough and will be interesting.
Everybody telling their version of something will be unique.
❖ Lower your criteria for entitlement.
➢ You don’t need a checklist of everything you have done, most of the stuff people would name are superficial
and don’t matter.
▪ This kind of thing will give you situational confidence which is where you only are confident in situations
where you feel completely comfortable.
➢ Being entitled you don’t need anything to back it up. You are a man in his prime.
▪ Act like a rock star, get treated like one.
➢ Why should you feel entitled?
▪ Because you are a man, you don’t need anything more than that. You are supposed to get with women.
➢ Only you can give yourself entitlement.
▪ Your actions change who you are, not the reactions of others.
▪ Reactions are never enough, it is always your action taking that makes you feel good. If you are reaction
seeking you will always want more (think about drugs). If you are reaction seeking to give yourself
entitlement, then your entitlement is completely out of your control.
▪ You are in the top 1% that is trying to better themselves, how can the chick find someone better than you?
➢ Accept who you are.
▪ Embrace discomfort, it will help you grow.
▪ Don’t live up to other’s standards, only your own.
▪ Have the mindset “My reality, my rules”.
▪ Think “I’m the shit, I set the standards” It is all subjective (your opinion).
▪ Being a nerd doesn’t mean shit, girls will get sucked into that reality (girls even get sucked into Pickup). As
long as you embrace it, girls will get sucked into it also. There is a bunch of chicks who date a nerdy guy
and start doing nerdy shit too.
4. Self-Amused
❖ This is the key to letting go of the outcome.
❖ This is the way to getting away with putting your personality on the line.
❖ “I do it for me and anticipate it will be ok.”
❖ If you think something is funny or interesting others will find it that way too (if you are purposeful enough).
➢ This is state transference of good vibes.
➢ It doesn’t have to be cool if you can make it seem that way by being into it.
❖ Have her be the one joining your party, not you joining hers.
❖ Be the source of positive energy and good emotions, not seeking anything from them.
❖ “Internal Fulfillment” as opposed to “External Stimulus”
➢ You can get everything you want and still not be happy. You need to be happy through living by your actions.
Things like reactions and stimulus don’t help you be happy.
➢ Going up and saying “Hi” is better than her reaction.
❖ You have to game yourself.
➢ “I make myself laugh more than any girl ever could.”
➢ Be unreactive unless you did it. You have to love yourself.
➢ If you are relying on you actions to feel good you will always be in control of your nights out.
▪ Julien claims “It is impossible for me to have a bad night out” because he is in control of his nights because
his actions pump him up, not anyone’s reactions.
▪ He doesn’t always get laid and he still gets rejected but no matter what happens he still has fun.
➢ There will always be unknowns that you have no control over (reactions).
▪ If you depend on reactions you nights will always be up to luck.
❖ Your actions need to pump you up, then you will be in control. Doing this will make you more consistent with
women.
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❖ You want to reach a point where you’re so focused on yourself that you don’t even notice girls’ reactions.
➢ You will still notice them obviously, but it doesn’t affect you directly.
➢ You offer value and fun by doing this. You are just going out and being yourself. If they don’t like it or want
anything to do with you, who cares.
❖ When you are self-amusing and pump yourself up you will automatically be in a position where you want less from
the girl than she wants from you (being the less reactive one).
➢ If you get more from yourself than anyone else, this will be automatic.
➢ She will start to react to you, chasing you and emotionally investing in you.
❖ Self-Amusing is the key to putting yourself out there.
➢ If you do it to add to the fun people won’t stop you (if you aren’t being overly offensive).
▪ Do not do it to be a people pleaser either, this misses the point of being self-amusing. You become a dancing
clown and look like a dumbass.
➢ You can even get away with saying stuff that is fucked up.
➢ You can get away with a lot if you are genuinely doing it for fun.
➢ It must be genuine though.
➢ Awkward Laugh Exercise:
▪ Start asking interview style questions for the first 30 seconds you talk to a chick; the caveat is that you do an
awkward laugh to each of her answers. It must look like you’re doing it on purpose or she will think you are
a weirdo.
• This will be an inside joke with yourself if you don’t tell her, and you will be having fun no matter what
happens (with or without her). It will be all about you.
➢ Awkward Dance Exercise:
▪ Talk to a chick and say, “Let’s go dance”. When you get out there do a weird dance that is purposely shitty.
• Dancing is all about letting loose anyways, it isn’t to be cool.
➢ You don’t have to be smooth like James Bond, girls just want fun.
❖ The ‘better party’ is the guy who is having more fun and giving less of a fuck than the girl.
➢ It is addictive to be self-amusing and will draw women in.
➢ Everyone seems to be more focused on caring than having fun in general.
➢ “I don’t care about sex” frame will attract hot women.
❖ Lower your criteria for having fun.
➢ The dumber the better, go full retard on that shit.
➢ Bring back your childlike excitability.
❖ Self-amusement helps you stop caring and helps you ‘flow’ with what is happening and helps you let go of
outcomes.
➢ If bad things happen you will take it and: (not resist it)
1. Embrace it.
2. Exaggerate it.
3. Laugh.
➢ Learn to laugh at yourself and think of rejections as being humorous. Don’t be afraid to create some
awkwardness with the chick (as long as it is for the purpose of self-amusement).
➢ Awkwardness creates tension and is actually funny.
➢ It adds to the fun.
➢ If something negative happens towards you don’t take it personally, just use it as fuel and move on.
❖ You use the 4PS to monitor your sex-worthiness. Remember everything is a balance and too much of any one pillar
will be counter-productive to the others.
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2.3 The Tempo Of The Night – Page 1
❖ It is not normal for you to just transition from being logical to social instantly.
➢ This is not only for guys, it is like that for girls too.
➢ At the beginning of the night at bars everyone is a little stifled and they aren’t in full party mode yet.
➢ At the end of the night everyone is partying hardcore and things are crazy, light-hearted and fun.
➢ Throughout the night there is a buildup that happens, and everyone loosens up.
❖ The buildup is different for guys and girls.
➢ For a guy he goes and gets some drinks and lets loose.
➢ For a girl there is an emotional buildup throughout the night.
▪ They want things to be exciting and there to be an emotional tingling.
▪ They want it to be like a movie.
• They go out at the beginning of the night. Get drinks from orbiters and loosen up.
• They start dancing and getting hit on and get validation.
• More guys start hitting on them, they are building up.
• More drinks from orbiters.
• Dancing more.
• At the end of the night they want sex.
▪ Sex is the climax to the emotional buildup throughout the night for a girl.
▪ This goes along with girls being like a volume knob.
❖ Girls need time to screen the guy for attractiveness as discussed in the 4PS.
➢ Guys can pretend to be attractive at first but will slip up and the girl takes the time to screen for that.
➢ They need time for their emotions to do what they need to do.
▪ Think about if it were a movie and the ending was sex, do you want to just see the ending? No. That is how girls
see the night or interaction, they want to experience it all not just the sex.
➢ Girls aren’t like guys that just want to have sex, they know they can have sex, it is assumed in their frame.
➢ You should view it like that as well. Assume it is going to happen and enjoy the buildup.
❖ Download Bar (DB).
➢ As the night progresses the download bar goes up.
➢ At the beginning it is at the bottom and they want to get that buildup and at the end it is at the top and they want
sex.
➢ You need to understand how this works and approach the night using this. This is the Tempo of the Night (TOTN).
❖ There are three parts of the night.
1. Part One: If club closes at 2:00 AM it will be from 10:00PM to 12:30AM.
▪ During this part of the night the DB is low, and it is very rare you will fuck a girl no matter how good your
game is.
▪ Most girls will be thinking “I really like you but come see me at the end of the night when the DB is high and
I’m ready for sex. It is just too early.”
2. Part Two: If club closes at 2:00 AM it will be from 12:30AM to closing.
▪ This is when the bar is closing, and you can have longer interactions and stick to a girl and the DB will be
higher.
3. Part Three: Closing time until the morning after.
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❖ Part One of the night: Focus on yourself.
➢ Because it is early, and the DB is low for most girls, you are not going to be able to pull a girl yet.
➢ For the girl it would be boring to sit there and only talk to one guy all night. The interaction probably shouldn’t last
more than 20-30 minutes because she has a lot of emotional buildup still to happen in the night before she is ready
to fuck.
➢ She wants to still drink, dance, hang out with her friends and have other guys hit on her and build up her DB.
➢ You should just focus on yourself and grow into the 4PS.
➢ This part of the night should be from switching from a prevention-based mindset to a promotion-based mindset.
▪ Most guys are prevention based. They think that everyone is out to get them, and the environment is
overwhelming to the point they freak out. They are stifled and aren’t having fun. They are overly affected by
what happens. This is most people’s default.
• This happens inside and outside of pickup. Even your friends are like that. Most people aren’t going into the
club like “Daddy is home.”
▪ The transition you want to make is towards a promotion-based mindset where you are in the moment, enjoying
yourself, you are letting your personality flow, you are saying what is on your mind, you are not outcome
oriented, and taking things as they come. You ultimately expect positive reactions.
• This should become your new default.
▪ Negative assumptions (prevention) vs positive assumptions (promotion)
▪ The more you go out and not worry about girls in the beginning of the night, the quicker it is to make that shift.
The more you do it the longer it will last too.
• Don’t just let something like a rejection ruin your good mood.
• You will eventually get addicted to being in the promotion-based mindset and being in the zone.
▪ Some guys don’t ever even reach it.
➢ The four mantras of the beginning of the night:
1. “Nothing to win, nothing to lose” This takes all of the pressure off. Most guys go out and they are stifled and
worry about how things go initially. Just relax and not worry about outcome and get into the zone.
• In the first part of the night the girl isn’t going to fuck you, so look at everything that happens as rejection
and don’t let it bother you. No matter how good things go or how good your game is she isn’t going to fuck
you right away, so don’t put pressure on yourself.
• If you are trying to make it work in the beginning of the night you are retarded, it is still the first part of the
night and you will just be the asshole trying to fast-forward through the movie.
• A lot of guys go around scanning for chicks and think they need to go around like some pickup machine
going from one chick to the next trying to get with them rather than just relaxing and enjoying themselves.
• Do not view every interaction as separate sets, view the entire night as one big set. You either get laid at the
end of the night or you don’t, not did you make it work with every girl.
• You don’t know how well you are doing until the end of the night.
• Use self-amusement to not be bored, you won’t be getting anywhere towards sex until part two of the night
so just have fun. It is you gaming yourself to get through the first part of the night.
• “Sacrifice the lamb” Go in and fuck around until either she loves you or runs away. Go in and say
outrageous shit and not worry about the outcome. Just be doing and doing. Make it so that no matter what
happens your night will be amazing, this will also help you get into the zone. You can always go back and
fix it later if you really want.
2. “The more I do, the less the environment does to me.”
• You are either at the cause or at the effect. You are either going to overwhelm the environment or it will
overwhelm you.
• If you go into a place and you are told that you can talk to chicks but only 20 minutes from now you will get
stuck in your head. This will even happen to advanced gamers like Julien. The environment will overwhelm
you.
• You always want to be taking action, one way to do that is to minimize time between sets. Instead of
standing around waiting for next easy opportunity go up to the next chick you see and be like “What’s up?”
Just do something you don’t need to go talk to girls necessarily. Do not get shoved into your head.
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• Jack-Off Theory: If you are jacking off you aren’t going to stop half-way through and do other things. You
are going to do it until you cum.
• The more action you take the more you’re going to get proof that nothing is going to happen.
o When you go into the new environment you might assume everyone knows each other and you won’t
want to interrupt what is already going on and you think they might cast you out.
o When you start talking to chicks and nothing really bad happens it helps you get proof things will be
okay.
• Every reference experience is a good reference experience. Even if you get rejected you can take good
things away from it. If you are alive after something happens, it is a good experience.
• This forces you to get yourself into the zone. You are going to want to keep feeling what you are feeling. If
you are doing something it will help you be happier.
• You are the external force acting on the internal. Only way to snap out of being in your head is to just go
and talk to girls. You can’t just sit there and bask in the fact that you are in your head or nervous, you must
take right action and go talk to them and you will feel better no matter what happens. Remember at the
beginning of the night it is all rejection anyways.
• Most people are stuck in a rut and never grow as people and slowly die inside. They don’t have the
willpower to take right action and grow and are content with this because they just get lost in external
stimuli.
• No matter whether you take action and approach when you’re nervous or you don’t you are taking action
towards a path and you need to decide who you want to be. If you don’t take action you are going to turn
into the person you don’t want to be.
• Decide who you want to become and value that more than any form of instant gratification. If you want to
lose weight that means don’t eat the burger or take the easy way out. If you want to be good with women,
then that means you need to approach no matter how nervous you are rather than taking the easy way out
and not doing anything.
• Always ask yourself “What’s the right thing to do?” You will always know, but that doesn’t mean you will
want to do it.
• Do not fall into the illusions your mind will put into your head. When faced with the unknown it is human
tendency to always assume the worst. Your mind will make you think that you will get completely blown
out by the chick and she will spill her drink on you, when in reality that will probably never happen.
• It is never as bad as you thought it would be.
• If you take action repeatedly you will become better as you go. The Treadmill Analogy: If you must get up
from being in bed and get on the treadmill immediately you are going to be choppy at first, but after 10
minutes you will be in the groove. This is the same as the beginning of the night, at first you will be choppy,
but as you keep doing and doing you will start flowing.
• You either move up or by default you will move down. Action taking is the only way to move up.
3. “Don’t force it, let it arise.”
• When you are in the middle of trying to ‘conquer the environment’ it can be stressful, but you don’t need to
let it be. It will just naturally happen if you go at your own pace.
• Do not sit there and think “Oh if I don’t get into the zone I’m fucked.” It will be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
• Getting into the zone is something that sneaks up on you. When you just let loose and forget about it, it will
happen.
• This will help you be congruent → thoughts vs. actions always need to aligned.
• Lean over the edge a little until it becomes comfortable. If you are uncomfortable being 100% physical, just
be 50% and do something small and that will be built into your comfort zone and you can baby step it like
that.
4. “How can I make myself laugh?”
• Don’t ask yourself “how can I get the girl?” instead ask yourself “How can I make myself laugh?”
• This is the encompassing mantra, it takes the other three to do this one.
• What is one of the best ways of loosening up? Laughing. Laughing releases tension and helps you let loose.
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• Julien likes to look at himself as a video game character. At the beginning of the night you aren’t going to be
getting laid anyways, so just have fun and make yourself laugh.
• Think about if you are sitting there watching a TV show and someone is stressing out badly, it isn’t affecting
you personally because you realize it is a TV show, that is how you want to view what is going on with you.
If you are super nervous and freaking out just take a step back and think about if you were watching yourself
on TV and how you would feel, then watching from a third person perspective.
• Embrace how you are feeling. Exaggerate it to a ridiculous level. And just laugh at it.
• If you run out of things to say tell the girl “I ran out of things to say, I’m a very simple man.” Just make it
funny to you.
• “How can I make this awkward?” This will help with self-amusement. Don’t think about how I can get the
girl; that is counter-productive.
• If you get rejected don’t take it personally, find a way to make it funny. Tell her “You were my last chance
for love!”
• Some ways to make it resonate with you. One is making it awkward. Two is going full retard→”I’m a fish”
don’t be worried about running your self-image.
▪ In terms of the 4PS these mantras help you get into the zone because the more you take action and get proof that
nothing is going to happen, you have the proof you can be purposeful. There is no other way to being purposeful
than having reference experiences.
• You become controlled from calibrating based on reference experience reactions.
• You become flowing by talking to everyone, not only just hot chicks. Talk to the ugly chicks as well. At the
beginning of the night you shouldn’t even be focused on if they are hot or not, you should only be focused
on yourself.
o If you are only talking to hot chicks you are placing them on a pedestal and giving them a higher value
than yourself. This will cause you to fuck up.
o You only fuck the hot ones, if you don’t fuck a chick because you don’t deem them attractive enough
you can still use them as a reference experience.
o Julien claims that he got so good with women so fast is because he committed to every girl as if they
were a 10. This way he got a lot of references quickly.
o He doesn’t focus on the results, he only focuses on the process. Every opportunity is a good one. You
can practice all of the process on any chick. Everything is a reference.
▪ In the beginning of the night build a massive reservoir of fun and abundance that is what the 4 mantras are
geared towards. “Fuck the girls, fuck the outcome, it is all about me having too much fucking fun.” This will
help with the second part of the night because it will pretty much make it so that it is impossible to get stuck in
your head.
➢ When you are in the zone and have your fun and abundance built up you can be more practical and start building
leads by trying to get phone numbers from every girl that you talk to. Since you can’t fuck her then because the DB
is too low you can get her phone number and try to pull later when the logistics are better. You can screen her for
logistics which is covered in a later section to find out when you can try to pull again.
❖ Part Two of the night: Commit to a girl.
➢ At this point in the night her DB is high enough and she has had enough fun to where it is okay for her to talk to just
one guy.
➢ This is where you need to commit and have the mindset of gun to the head “If you don’t fuck this girl your family
dies.” You need to take it that seriously. You must be persistent and resilient.
➢ You want to stay in the set until you’re in an isolated situation where you can fuck her. It switches from going from
one interaction to another to something that is longer.
➢ Realize that a pull usually takes 45 minutes to an hour and a half.
➢ You can switch out from the fun, fun, fun to something more sustainable and stay in and drive her DB higher until
you go for the pull.
➢ Don’t get sucked into scarcity. Even if you haven’t found a girl you committed to.
▪ “There is an infinite number of women.”
▪ “There is an infinite amount of time.”
▪ Act as if it is the beginning of the night again and you have all the time you need.
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➢ Emotions always come in waves. Just because you were in the zone and lost it doesn’t mean you can’t get back into
it again. Just follow the process.
❖ Part Three of the night: Free-For-All
➢ If you didn’t commit or couldn’t pull this is your part of the night to keep trying; when everyone is leaving and
walking away.
➢ At this point of the night the girls buying temperature is very high.
➢ “Who is the last dick standing?” That is who you will want to be.
➢ As you become more advanced you might get lazy and just get up when the club is closing and go out and pull a
girl. Julien says that is what he used to do in LA. This is possible because her DB is high at that point.
➢ Ultimately it doesn’t matter who pumped her DB, it is going to transfer to whoever is in front of her. You can use
this to your advantage if you are ‘the last dick standing’.
❖ The good part of the TOTN is that you maximize the return on your emotional and time investment.
➢ The beginning of the night you focus on having fun and abundance, you will work on your social skills and being
able to just let loose and have fun and it will benefit all aspects of your life. You will become the center of attention
and bring the party.
▪ You will also build leads and expand your social circle and give you other opportunities for day 2’s and more
reference experiences. Even the fat chicks you get numbers from most likely have really hot friends.
➢ The second part of the night you learn things like following through with leads, willpower, sticking through, pulling
chicks, having sex.
➢ You ultimately get the best of both worlds.
❖ When you go out and structure your night around the TOTN you get better interactions and have fun. It is super
important to have fun and be outcome independent.
➢ Fun is the baseline.
➢ If you aren’t fun and you are negative you are never going to pull.
❖ You can always tell how good a guy is at game by how much fun he is having when he goes out.
➢ Embrace and exaggerate the fun. Always be leaning over the edge of what is congruent for you. If you would only
chuckle at something regularly with your current state of mind, do a full laugh instead. Don’t go overboard though.
➢ Bring the passion, girls will feel what you are feeling. Girls aren’t going to sit there and think “was that logically
funny.” She will get sucked into the emotion of the moment.
❖ Shock yourself into state.
➢ This goes with mantra 1, the more you do the less the environment does to you. Commit to what you do, and it will
get you into state. You will get into the zone fast.
❖ The game has very serious rules, but as you are following the process you need to have fun.
➢ Feel good, embrace it and laugh.
❖ Side Notes
➢ Organize your phone numbers so at the end of the night you know who to text to try to meet up with chicks you met
earlier. You can mass text “Where are you?” and when they respond call them, you don’t want to get caught up in
this text exchange; you just want to be there.
➢ Never trust a girl to just go see her friends or go to the bathroom and when she says she will meet you later
somewhere. If you are in the second part of the night and have committed to her and she needs to go to the
bathroom or see someone, you go with her wherever she goes.
▪ Women operate in “temporary truths” where when she says she will do something she means it but when there
is something that interrupts her emotional thought pattern she will bail on what she said before for the new
thing.
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3.1 Outer Game
❖ Being SW isn’t enough, girls are not going to fuck you just because you follow the 4PS.
❖ Outer game covers the interactions and how to make it all happen and why.
❖ You can’t bypass being SW though.
➢ Being SW is the foundation and the outer game will be the structure that we build on that foundation.
❖ Everything is not set in stone that Julien says. You must build your own social intuition by practicing and calibrating.
❖ Use Pressure On, Pressure Off (POPO)
➢ Pressure On: Pushing her verbally, eye contact, having close proximity, what you say.
▪ Gauge her reaction.
• If you cross the line → back off physically and verbally.
• If she seems bored → add more pressure.
• You want to go as far as you can, then back off – on repeat → building the volume knob up.
➢ Pressure Off: if you go too far
1. Take a step back.
2. Use a statement of empathy “I’m sorry, I was just joking”
3. Quickly change the topic, act like it didn’t happen.
▪ You may have to wash, rinse and repeat.
❖ Your tonality and what you say is part of outer game.
❖ Julien will stack it: Pressure on, on, on, off… wash, rinse, and repeat.
❖ You must adjust to make it relatable. Too much is bad.
❖ Physically: Leaning in is pressure on, leaning away is pressure off.
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3.2.1 Open – Page 1
❖ Cold Approach vs. Warm Approach.
➢ Warm Approach – When it is easy for the guy to meet the girl because something led to him being able to introduce
himself to her.
▪ This happens when she is a friend of someone you know, or she came up to you.
➢ Cold Approach – When you approach a stranger.
▪ You don’t need an invitation, you can just go up and start talking to them.
❖ Your opener does not fucking matter, it is not that big of a deal.
➢ A lot of guys get into pickup and obsess over the opener.
➢ “What is the best opener?” It doesn’t matter.
➢ No girl is going to like you and be like “Everything is good about you, but that opener…”
➢ Back in the day people in pickup thought ‘The Claw’ will get you laid if you do it right. It doesn’t matter though.
❖ Focus on the bigger picture.
➢ Girls are like a volume knob.
➢ Girls live in the emotion of the moment and backwards rationalize, so if the opener fails and you switch it up and
start being attractive the opener won’t matter.
➢ You can have the best opener ever and if you start to fail after that, the opener won’t have meant shit.
➢ Focus on what happens after the opener.
❖ Your mind is going to come up with a ton of excuses when you go to open.
➢ What-ifs. (Don’t help you at all.)
➢ Do not get stuck in your head or you will freeze. This will ruin your flowing and purposefulness.
➢ Lower your time of reaction and just jump in before excuses pop in. If you wait it is natural for excuses to be made.
▪ Even Julien having to wait to talk to a chick will get him shoved in his head.
▪ The what-ifs will pop into his head and stifle him.
➢ Just go up and execute when you see the girl.
➢ A lot of guys stumble right away when they see the girl trying to figure out the opener.
▪ Use a canned opener.
• “Hi I’m …”
• “Excuse me, are you from …”
➢ Move with purpose and do it. Do not dabble around, things aren’t going to get better with time.
▪ If someone is in your way move them out of your way.
➢ The faster you move, you get into the zone and you will be present-minded.
❖ Don’t try to calibrate before you go up, calibrate after the fact.
➢ “If she is sad, I’ll go up and be sad as well.” Wrong.
➢ Don’t try to maximize the reaction, don’t be a ‘social chameleon’.
➢ She is a human too, you can’t control how things are going to happen.
❖ There is always going to be elements of randomness. Some things are going to unpredictable and out of your control.
➢ You can go up to the nicest looking chick in the world and she can be a total bitch.
➢ It is impossible to predict what is going to happen and you shouldn’t even try.
➢ Just jump in and calibrate after.
❖ What is opening? Learning how to deal with whatever happens after you approach.
➢ If you open and she freaks out, then you calibrate and make it relatable to her.
➢ Remember pressure on, pressure off (POPO).
❖ You will ultimately reach a level where you will have seen it all when opening.
➢ If you go up super confident and not reactive you will seem as if you never get rejected because you show no
hesitation.
❖ Don’t be afraid to change your course of action.
➢ If you go in too strong, use pressure off to calibrate.
➢ Think about her download bar to see where she is at.
➢ Use POPO to move her up gradually until she is ready for sex.
➢ Change your course of action if needed to make it relatable to her.
❖ Opening is the perfect time to set the frame of the interaction, and it needs to be done here as well.
➢ Whatever frame you set right away is usually what the frame will be for the whole interaction.
➢ If you try to switch it up it will show that you are lacking purpose and not clear in your intentions
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❖ Types of frames you want to set right away.
➢ Be M2W not F2F.
▪ It is easy to go up and feel like you shouldn’t be showing your intention.
▪ You need to be like “I’m a man and I’m here to fuck you” obviously you don’t straight up verbalize that, but it
has to be present in your vibe. “This is what’s up.”
▪ If you are very purposeful and you don’t feel ashamed and you are a good guy who likes sex, she will be able to
feel it.
▪ Ways to amplify you are there M2W not F2F:
• Laser Eye Contact: Eye contact will show a lot, if you are nervous or ashamed it will show.
• Talking in a breaking rapport tonality.
• Being physical (from the moment you open is a plus).
• You don’t need all 3, but usually you will need at least 1.
▪ You need to set the frame right away that you are M2W.
▪ A way to test if you are being M2W is to think of the hypothetical situation where if you two are locked in a
room together for a week would it be normal to throw her on the bed and fuck her or will she be like what the
fuck are you doing?
• If she is like what the fuck are you doing? You aren’t being M2W enough.
▪ If you try being M2W after being F2F you are mismanaging the expectations, you can’t be wishy washy.
▪ The girl will accept who you are, or she won’t. If you go up and have the vibe “I like to fuck bitches” from the
beginning she will love it because that is just who you are. If you go up and you are like “Hey I want to be
friends and just orbit” she will love that as well. You just can’t be both, that is where you turn her off.
▪ Realize you are a good guy with good intentions and show that you want her.
➢ Assume familiarity from the start
▪ Don’t view her as something you need to win over.
▪ Assume you two are on the same team. Treat her like a longtime friend.
▪ If you go up and grab her like you know her, she will assume familiarity as well. Even her friends will as well.
It will seem like everyone knows each other already.
❖ When you open she is wanting to know “Who is this guy?”
➢ If you go up with low reaction time and calibrate after the fact and show clear purpose in your intentions she will be
like “let’s see who this sex-worthy guy is.”
➢ Girls are wanting to see the different guy’s realities and they choose whoever has the most sex-worthy reality who
will give them the best emotions (and whoever sticks through to the end if they meet the criteria).
➢ It is easy to fall into being completely logical to show who you are and do the resume read-off to show her who you
are. Girls don’t give a fuck about that superficial bullshit.
➢ Girls get to know you by emotionally experiencing you.
▪ She emotionally experiences you by reacting to you.
▪ She reacts to you by you setting the rhythm of the interaction and being at the cause and not the effect.
▪ Paul approaches well and then helps the girl with her cell phone and he got stuck in that rhythm, her rhythm. He
was not at the cause but at the effect of her rhythm. He chose to follow her rhythm instead of doing.
• When he is helping her, she doesn’t get to emotionally experience him, it could have been any other guy and
she would have felt the same.
❖ When you open you must be at the cause. You are the one who is doing and letting her experience you. You do this
until you hit the hook point, then you can back off a little.
➢ You can do this by using some breaking rapport, even cutting her threads. Impose yourself.
➢ You can walk up and be silent even, you look her in the eyes and tell her to come over with your hands. Show that
you are on your path and purpose.
➢ Do not fall into letting her take over. If things seem like they are going well because she took over that is not good.
You may feel validation because she is talking to you. You have to be doing though, if you are feeling really good
about that and let her take over she isn’t emotionally experiencing you. You have to be doing and doing at first until
you reach the sexual hook point (discussed in a later section.)
➢ Self-amusement is important here, you are doing things to pump yourself up and taking her along for the ride.
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➢ When you bring her into your awesome reality and she gets to emotionally experience you, you will become the
most sex-worthy guy around and she will want to stay and will even fuck you for it.
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3.2.2 Be Physical – Page 1
❖ Why should you be physical?
➢ You may have heard things like you got to show her you are the boss and you need to be physically dominant and
being this is how you can be M2W. You may have also heard that this is leading towards sex and helps establish a
physical connection.
▪ These are wrong answers.
▪ With these you are trying to accomplish something.
▪ This is the worst frame to come from.
➢ The right answer is that you are being physical because you want to.
▪ With a hot girl why wouldn’t you want to touch her? You don’t need to try to accomplish something.
▪ “You are not being physical to accomplish something, you are being physical because you want to.”
▪ It will accomplish being M2W, but you can’t be thinking that. You don’t need to be outcome oriented because
she will sense that.
❖ When should you be physical?
➢ From the very start of the interaction.
▪ Why? Why not.
➢ The longer you wait the more awkward it will be. Set the frame of the interaction from the beginning.
❖ If you aren’t physical from the beginning of the interaction and you need to switch the frame:
➢ Hug the girl.
➢ Ask her something like “Are you from…” → “Awesome!” then hug her.
➢ Any dumb reason works.
➢ It is friendly and a neutral way to be very physical.
❖ Make it a habit to shake every girl’s hand.
➢ Make it part of opening.
➢ The best way of opening according to Julien is to go up and tap her on the shoulder, give her laser eye contact with
your hand out and say “What’s up? How’s it going?”
❖ “Verbal game and physical game operate on simultaneous yet separate wavelengths.”
➢ A lot of guys think it is either or. You are either being physical with her or you are talking. This is wrong, you can
be doing both at the same time and at different times.
➢ It looks really dumb if you are just doing one or the other.
➢ If you are doing both at the same time on the same wavelength that would literally be you explaining how you are
touching her as you do it, which is completely outrageous as well.
➢ The right way to do it is to be physical during your normal verbal interaction.
❖ Throughout the interaction do not forget why you are there. You are there to get the girl, not to succeed in doing your
physical moves.
➢ “Shake my hand. Why aren’t you shaking my hand?” is a terrible frame to come from if she doesn’t take your hand
to shake it.
➢ Stay focused on the bigger picture.
➢ You can still pull the girl whether you accomplish the physical moves you try, or you don’t.
➢ A lot of girls won’t want to be physical or kiss you in the initial interaction but will in isolation.
➢ The kiss is not to accomplish something, it is a form of physical expression.
▪ View the kiss as a high five. It is irrelevant.
➢ You are not there to kiss her, spin her, high five her, you are there to fuck her. The rest is irrelevant so don’t get
caught up.
➢ Being M2W is about the sub-communications not about your physicality.
➢ If you do get the kiss, don’t become the “make out guy.”
▪ The “make out guys” get the kiss then just start making out with the girl for the next 3 hours over and over.
▪ This is bad, if you keep making out you are not escalating towards sex.
▪ This gives the girl all the validation she needs and at the end of the night she is going to dip the fuck out.
▪ Don’t get caught up in the validation yourself. The make out isn’t the end of the road, sex is.
❖ Never feel the need to justify your actions.
➢ You are being M2W no need to justify why you are doing it. She needs to get that vibe that is who you are, and she
will need to deal with it.
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3.2.2 Be Physical – Page 2
❖ Don’t feel the need to build up to being physical.
➢ Guys feel the need to wait to go for a kiss or whatever.
➢ Do not be afraid of going too far, calibrate after the fact if you do with POPO.
➢ If she sees that you are not phased about failing a physical move, she will think that you are not needy, and you
have had success in the past.
❖ 6 physical moves that you can practice and internalize.
➢ What is the best form of physicality? Whatever you feel like doing.
➢ You can do these moves in the order they are given or however you want.
➢ You are going to do these to learn how to calibrate what is the right amount of physicality during parts of the
interaction.
1. The Spin Handshake: You go up get the handshake and after she grabs your hand, just spin her around like a dance
move. It spices things up. Afterwards you just keep talking.
2. The Handclasp: When your hands and her hands intertwine. You can push her in, pull her out. You can do it more
smoothly by moving down her arm first.
3. The Spin Hug: You put your arms around her waist, lift her up and spin her around and set her down. You don’t
need to do a 180 or 360. This will spice things up, the girl will giggle and be like “Oh my god!”
4. The Waltz Dance: In the middle of talking you can be like “You know what?” then you put 1 hand on her waist the
other grabs her hand and you do a Waltz Dance as you talk. You can get close and whisper in her ear. You don’t
need to do it fast.
5. The Neck Bite: When you are talking, and you lean in and give her a strong kiss maybe with a little bite on the
neck. This is good if you go for the kiss and she turns away.
6. The Eyes – Close – Kiss: Tell her to close your eyes and you go for the kiss. Girls will most likely giggle and you
won’t get the full make out, but it is a good playful physical move.
➢ You can stack these and play around with them. You can also come up with your own.
➢ Going along with the TOTN you will get away with 1-4 earlier in the night and 5-6 later in the night. Don’t be
afraid of going too far you can always use POPO.
❖ Do not become agenda based and try to constantly be escalating with your physicality.
➢ The way Julien views it is that you are go up and introduce yourself, set the rhythm of the interaction and you give
her “little bursts” of escalation through your physicality.
➢ There is no need to do these in an escalating order. You don’t need to go in the order hug → kiss → finger → fuck
like most guys think. You can get the kiss, then go to the handshake. The order doesn’t matter if you’re leading.
Obviously, you can’t just finger her then fuck her, but any non-sexual physical moves you can do out of order.
➢ You need to be following the 4PS while being physical. Not being purposeful or controlled will fuck you up
because it will make you either look needy or like you are half-assing it and turn her off.
❖ Eye contact plays an important role in being physical. It shows that you are relaxed, calm, steady and on top of your
shit and she will be more likely to go along with it.
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3.3.1 Hook – Page 1
❖ Hook – It is the point where the girls likes having you around versus not having you there. Go from “Hi, I got to meet
you” to someone she wants to keep you around.
➢ It is macro level.
❖ There are 2 different types of hook points:
1. Social hook point – when she likes you for the value you bring but will not feel like she is missing out if you leave.
▪ This level of hooking will not ever get you laid.
2. Sexual hook point – When the girl starts to emotionally invest into you.
▪ When I refer took “hook” in the future it means sexual hook unless I say otherwise.
❖ You can tell the difference because of her tonality.
➢ With a social hook she will be like “whatever”.
➢ With the sexual hook point she will light up, get the big eyes and start using a trying for rapport tone.
▪ There will be a shift.
▪ For illustration purposes: Megan Fox Analogy.
• Suppose you are talking to a friend and he starts telling you how he loves math. You may be bored, but still
listening and you will just be like “whatever”. Then he mentions “Hey my sister Megan Fox and she just
messaged me and said she wants to get fucked by the first dick through the door, and she is literally 30
seconds away.” As soon as you hear this you’re going to immediately perk up and be like ‘What? Megan
Fox wants to get fucked? Where?’ You will essentially be ‘hooked’.
▪ The sexual hook point can happen instantly with some women or it can take time and go through the social hook
first.
❖ How do you get her sexually hooked?
➢ You must have the mindset that you are SW and assume attraction. You must also be M2W.
➢ Don’t assume the girls are going to have the same wavelength that you currently do going in but assume good
things.
➢ View it that you are SW but that the chick just doesn’t know it yet.
➢ You are responsible for showing her by bringing her into your reality. Being at the cause not the effect.
❖ Plowing
➢ Say “Hi, I’m …” → This will give her a sample of you immediately. Make sure you do this confidently, which you
will if you are SW and following the 4PS.
➢ Some girls will see instantly that you are SW, you are clear in your intentions, being M2W and somebody that she
would fuck. This is when she will be instantly hooked.
➢ Other times you will have to give a bigger sample, and this is where plowing comes in.
➢ You need to keep talking and talking until she sees that you are SW.
➢ Say “Where are you from?...”, “Do you like?...” and just keep talking until she can see that you are a cool guy.
When she responds use some of the value building techniques talked about later, if you are following the 4PS you
shouldn’t have issues. Just be doing, doing and doing.
➢ You set the rhythm and have her reacting to you. Use time as your ally to give her a bigger sample.
➢ Do not sit there and talk about the same thing over and over. Do not stay on the same topic forever. Do not keep the
same tonality. You are wanting to bring her through different emotions and topics. Use things like Push/Pull,
challenging, asking questions and leading/commanding.
➢ Have a ‘no way out’ mentality. Once you start talking to her you are either going to hook her or you are going to
not get with her.
➢ A lot of guys wait for reactions, you need to be the one that is at the cause not at the effect. ‘do, do, do’. Show that
you are on your path and purpose. Be like “this is me, this is me”.
➢ Do this for yourself and assume good things. Don’t come from a scarcity mentality. Plow to get pumped up.
➢ Let time do the work.
➢ If you are SW the girl is bound to be naturally attracted.
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❖ ‘Tingle her emotions’ with challenging.
➢ Go from being ‘social’ with “Hi” to ‘sexual’ with challenging like “Are you from? …” , “Yeah?”, “Hmm…
Interesting.”
▪ The “Hmm… Interesting.” Is just an example you would use after she responds to a question. It will pose a
question that will make her want to know why it relates to her.
➢ Challenging is a little provocative which causes an emotional shift which you can pair with humor.
➢ Have the ‘What are you doing to do?’ mindset.
➢ Don’t get caught up in the fluff (a lot of people do).
▪ Guys will just get caught up in the easy path of conversation because it is easier to have things seem like they
are going smoothly when they just go with the flow. This does not help you sexually hook her.
▪ Throwing out challenges helps to go against the grain → building attraction.
➢ Fucking with a chick by teasing/challenging is ‘Flirting 101’.
▪ You want to be pushing each other a little bit, it is fun.
➢ Use things like “You and I would not get along” or “I can’t talk to you”.
➢ You can challenge on almost anything. “You are too ...”.
➢ Just be playfully challenging.
➢ Have the little smirk with the laser eye contact that shows you are strongly in the ‘What you are going to do?’
mindset.
➢ If you challenge her correctly you will build attraction quickly and pass the sexual hook point quicker.
❖ Teach her something of interest.
➢ Have passion and be 100% into whatever you are talking about.
➢ Girls are usually bored and will be drawn into what you are talking about if you have passion.
➢ It doesn’t have to be the most entertaining thing in the world.
▪ An example: “Look at the fucking floor! Isn’t the floor so fucking awesome?!”
➢ Law of state transference: Whatever you fell she will feel if you are setting the frame.
➢ Share things like comments that make you laugh.
▪ “I was in the bathroom and this guy was in there also. He made a move on me and things went down. That is
when I started wearing pink.”
❖ The 90/10 Rule: Until you reach the sexual hook point you need to do 90% of the talking and being at the cause and she
will do the other 10%. Don’t ask or require her to lead the interaction or create the frame. Have it be so that she can just
use Yes or No responses or something as easy as that.
➢ You offer all of the value → creates attraction.
➢ You poke and poke and show that you are passionate and committed to what you are doing.
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3.3.2 Pass Her Tests
❖ When you go up and challenge chicks not every one of them are just going to sit there and take it. Some will challenge
you back and this is called ‘congruence tests’ or ‘shit tests’.
➢ Just because you go up there confident and seemingly SW, they will not all just sit there and believe that
immediately. They think “He seems cool, but that can be faked. Is he really that cool? Let’s find out.”
➢ She is going to test you to see if you are congruent with the way you present yourself.
➢ If you aren’t really that person you are probably going to fail. Having an initial confidence and some pickup lines
isn’t going to help when the tests start. If you are faking it the real you will come out and you will be done.
❖ Expect that it is going to happen, assume it and just be happy because it is good that it is happening.
➢ Don’t freak out, it is a good thing that she is testing you. That means that you presented yourself as SW initially and
she just wants to know if you really are.
➢ They aren’t going to shit test someone for no reason.
➢ The tests are just an opportunity for you to display your sex-worthiness.
❖ Girls love to test guys just for the sake of them passing it and it will turn them on.
➢ It is M2W.
➢ It helps crank up the volume knob when you pass them.
❖ The best way to pass a test is to remain emotionally unreactive.
➢ When they test you, they are looking to see if you emotionally flinch.
➢ She looks to see if you are uncomfortable or if you back down easily.
➢ If you freak out in reaction to a test, she will immediately lose attraction.
❖ If you are SW and, on your path, and purpose you don’t need her to react well initially. Whatever she says is not going
to change you. You are going to do what you are going to do no matter what.
➢ Just do not react. Answer the question. If you don’t flinch and show that you aren’t affected the girl will think “I
can’t get to this guy, he knows who he is and what he wants.”
❖ Remember that no matter what happens or what she says, it isn’t going to change that. You know who you are.
➢ Girls want a guy who is a pillar of strength and knows who they are.
❖ Being emotionally unreactive does not mean be unresponsive. Keep the interaction going and it has to be relatable
emotionally to her. If you do something that crosses the line do the 3 steps of Pressure Off.
❖ Verbal responses to a shit test:
1. Respond straightforward and logically. An example is answering truthfully.
▪ She isn’t looking for the verbal response, more so she is looking for the emotional response.
2. Don’t acknowledge the test or answer it at all with a response.
▪ You don’t always have to answer every little question or deal with every test. Sometimes you can just skip it all
together. Remember you are on your path and purpose and her little test isn’t shit to you, you don’t need to be a
people pleaser and react to everything.
3. Embrace the test, make it your own and challenge her back.
▪ Example: You get the test: “You’re too old.” – 2 ways of dealing with it
1. Embrace and exaggerate. You respond with “Yeah, I’m so old, I can be your father or even your
grandfather. Call me daddy, tell me you like wrinkles.”
2. Exaggerate it the other way and flip it back on her. Respond with “You are too young, you could probably
be my daughter. I love little girls, so young and fresh, come here.”
❖ The mindset you should have is that whatever tests she throws at you is just more material to add to the sculpture that is
the interaction. It isn’t a bad thing, you can just take whatever she tries to test you with and exaggerate it back in her
face. Look at it as more content for you.
❖ A default go-to is calling her out for trying to step up to you or calling out that she is trying a little too hard. You can
just be like “You don’t have to try so hard, it’s okay.” Or “Hey, you trying to step up? Don’t try to step up.”
❖ Keep in mind the laser eye contact. Your demeanor will show flinching, but a lot of it is in your eyes. Even looking to
the side, a little in a moment of hesitation might be enough to fail the test.
❖ Don’t get paranoid, not everything is a test. Some guys will get caught up and think that every question she asks you is
suddenly some sort of test and that they got to pass it. If you try to pass a test and exaggerate and make an ass out of
yourself to a regular question, that is just as bad if not worse than failing a test.
❖ The less of a deal you make out of a test, the better. Remember it isn’t a big deal, it is okay. Don’t look at it as you
versus the girl.
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3.3.3 Different Sets – Page 1
❖ In real life situations things are a lot messier than the theory discussed thus far. Usually hot chicks will have friends
with them or the situation won’t be ideal.
❖ Always open the girl that you want no matter what. It doesn’t matter what she is doing or who she is with. Always open
the girl, not the other people she is with. You need to show your intentions that you are trying to get the girl, not to join
her group of friends. After saying hi to her you can calibrate if needed.
❖ The “Two set”: A girl with her friend.
➢ Go up and talk to the target girl.
➢ If you are alone, you will have to go up and talk to both of them.
➢ When you talk to the girl you want you need to be M2W. You can still flirt with the friend. With the friend you flirt
for the sake of flirting vs. with the girl you want flirting for the sake of fucking.
➢ If you are cool enough sometimes the friend will disappear. If they are roommates, you can stick it through and go
with them and wait for the friend to go to sleep. If you are lucky and got sick game, you can make a threesome
happen.
➢ You can grab a random guy or a wingman to talk to the friend.
➢ If you have a wingman and its two girls and two guys you have the perfect scenario. Responsibility is taken off of
her shoulders because they are both being turned on. Make sure that you and your wing are raising the DB at near
the same rate and bring them home that way.
➢ Do not ignore the friend!
❖ The “Group set”: A girl with many other girls.
➢ The same thing applies, you still approach the girl you want first and then calibrate.
➢ In this type of scenario where there is a big group you don’t have to entertain the friend as much because the friend
can talk to the other friends. You don’t have to acknowledge them as much.
➢ Most of the time the other friends won’t really care you are talking to her, but at some point, you want to say hi to
the friends to show them you are a cool, trustworthy and a SW dude.
➢ Go bare minimum on how much you interact with the other friends.
➢ If the friends come up and are like “Who the fuck is this guy?” you will need to calibrate and say hi and win them
over. Flirt to flirt.
❖ The “Mixed two set”: A girl with a guy.
➢ Still go up and say hi to the girl you want first.
➢ To avoid the confrontational guy, get the girl to notice you first. When you get her attention reach your hand out.
Two things can happen, she will reach out for the handshake or high five and this is great because she complied
with you opening her and it will look like that she may already know you. If he goes against you, that is like him
going against her. The other thing that can happen is she will look at you like ‘what are you doing?’ and you can get
a feel where they are at relationship-wise.
➢ When talking to a mixed set you want to determine the relationship within the group. How do they know each
other? Ask the girl when the guy is sort of out of the way. If you ask the guy he will lie and say they are together. If
you ask her in front of him she will feel pressured into lying because she knows him better than you (possibly).
➢ There are three responses to asking how they know each other.
1. “This is my boyfriend.” In that case it is probably best to just bounce and move onto the next set. Why waste
time.
• You can roleplay and act like you have known each other a long time or that you are her gay friend if you
really want to meet her. If she role plays with that then she might be interested. In general, it is best to
bounce out.
2. “This is just a male friend.” If it is her friend, you can’t be mean to him. She has known him longer then she has
known you and she cares what he thinks, so you will blow yourself out if you are an asshole to him. In this case
you will need to win him over. Remember to do bare minimum with the friends like in any group set. Other
guys will be more against you bringing her home, but you can always get the number and see her later when he
isn’t around.
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3. “This is a guy I just met.” In this case you can straight ignore him. She doesn’t know him, and she doesn’t care
about his opinion.
• The girl is going to go for whoever reacts the least. It is about whoever’s rhythm everyone adapts onto. Do
not get sucked into his frame, make sure your frame and reality are the strongest one and that will blow him
out. Do not be confrontational or defensive, just do your own thing and hope he is reactive. If he tries to take
back over just talk in a commanding way.
• The difference between being commanding and chasing. If he gets her attention don’t chase and be like
“look at me, look at me.” Instead just lead. Be like “Hey. Over here. Blah, Blah, Blah” with a BRT. You
will get her attention and you can hope that the other guy reacts, and he will therefore lose value and she
will go for you.
• Don’t be afraid to just drag her away from the guy. You don’t need to keep him around.
❖ The “Mixed group set”: A girl with guys in her group.
➢ The same thing applies as a group set, you don’t need to give the other people in the group much attention. You will
want to say hi at some point because the guys will always feel like they are the boss of the group.
➢ If the guy is like “what are you doing talk to our girls” just be friendly but still commanding and act like you
already knew her and then move back to her.
❖ The “Dance floor set”: A girl on the dance floor.
➢ You can proceed the same as if she is standing around, but you have to go in with the same or slightly higher
intensity. It is not about the energy, it is about the intensity.
➢ You do not need to be jumping around which is high energy, you need to be able to match her intensity though
which is best seen in the video (19:15-19:55). The best way I can describe high intensity is to keep your BRT and
laser eye contact but just make sure that you can still be heard, and you are still M2W.
➢ If you are purposeful and controlled, you can talk to her and she will just stop dancing.
➢ The dance floor is loud, and you will be getting bumped into. It is impractical to try to work the whole set sitting
there. Once you get her hooked try to move her somewhere else you can get to work. “It’s too loud, come over
here.”
❖ The “Seated set”: A girl that is sitting down.
➢ The same general rule applies, open the girl you want.
➢ You can start this standing, but you need to eventually sit down because you are less comfortable than her and it
seems sort of like you are trying too hard. Talk for 5 minutes max standing but then you need to put yourself in a
position where you both are either standing up or both sitting down.
➢ The best situation is when the girl is sitting and there is a free spot next to her. You can bring a bar stool or chair
next to her.
➢ If there are no free spots, you need to get her to stand up with you.
▪ The “Hand of God” where you put your hand out. If she complies and grabs your hand just lift her up.
▪ If she doesn’t stand up initially just keep making her emotionally invest until she reaches the sexual hook and
try again. The no means not yet.
❖ The “Walking set”: A girl that is walking.
➢ There are two ways to open her. The “hard stop” vs. the “slow play.”
➢ The “hard stop” is when a girl is walking, and you stop her.
➢ The “slow play” is when a girl is walking, and you walk with her and talk to her and get her to stop later.
➢ The hard stop has a lower percentage of working but go for it first and if it doesn’t work then go for the slow play.
The reason the hard stop doesn’t work as much is because the girl doesn’t know you and has not invested into you
at all yet. When transitioning make sure you react fast and that you are either in front of her or side by side, try not
to let her pass you, if she does catch up.
➢ When you are slow playing it use the hooking tactics to get her emotionally invested into you and give her a bigger
sample so that she will be more likely to comply with stopping when you try to get her to again.
➢ You don’t have to game the girl where you open her.
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3.4.1 Vibe – Page 1
o Value-Building (used for vibing but can also be used in hooking)
❖ Once you reach the sexual hook point there is a shift that will happen in the interaction.
➢ It goes from 90/10 to 50/50.
➢ It changes from only doing and doing and setting the rhythm to where you react off of each other.
➢ You can now slow things down and give her room to chase you.
❖ What you do is stop setting the rhythm of the interaction when you reach the hook point.
➢ Too much of any one thing is bad.
➢ If you keep doing and doing you go from SW to being reactive and needy. It shows her you are insecure and can’t
slow down even though you’ve hooked her.
➢ It becomes pathetic and you show low value and takes away from you being the prize.
➢ She will straight bounce the fuck out.
❖ When you are doing and doing and getting good reactions your mind will tell you “This is awesome!”.
➢ You will also tell yourself that you need to keep going.
➢ You have to just stop.
➢ An example: ‘Drug Dealer’ Analogy
▪ Pretend that you are a drug dealer and you give some chick heroin. If you just keep giving her more and more
she will just end up overdosing. What you want to do is give her a few hits then just throw one in here and there.
She will want it and begin to chase it. Obviously, you relate the heroin to you ‘doing’.
❖ Vibing isn’t about having a logical conversation, it is about creating a good experience for you both to share.
➢ It isn’t about impressing her or having an agenda mindset.
➢ It is not about moving the interaction vertically like you do in hooking. It is about keeping the interaction horizontal
after you have reached the sexual hook point and have her emotionally investing.
➢ Assume it will happen and just relax.
➢ Build the interaction together, not just you setting the pace.
➢ Instead of “What do I do next?” just keep doing what you are doing after you reach the hook.
➢ Girls need time, don’t just keep doing, it will stifle her.
➢ More of the same isn’t for when you are hooking, it is when you are in the vibing phase and things are 50/50.
➢ Guys who are good at picking up women just do a few things over and over that keeps them entertained and
engaged.
▪ Example: ‘Walk up and start chatting → Push → Back off’ on repeat (chat, chat, chat → spike)
❖ Ask yourself “What better place to be?”
➢ Enjoy the moment and be present minded, there is no rush.
➢ Assume it is going to happen and just have fun.
➢ Look at what is going on. She is fully engaged in you which is rare for most interactions.
➢ Sex is just the bonus, enjoy the overall interaction.
➢ Think about the sex-guarantee contract: You will enjoy the moment.
❖ Building Comfort (creating togetherness)
➢ A common misconception is that the ‘resume’ exchange that most guys try to use builds togetherness and comfort.
This is incorrect and is just looking at things from a superficial level.
➢ Creating comfort is reinforcing that you and the girl are one and this is not done through logic.
➢ Hiking example.
▪ You and a stranger go hiking but you are not allowed to talk about anything except the hike. By the end of the
day you don’t even know each other’s names or anything logical about each other, but you will build comfort
and a bond after all of the bullshit that you go through after a full day hike.
❖ Steps to Build Comfort.
1. Isolate the girl.
▪ Don’t waste time with her friends, make it just you two. Literally do the minimum you need to in order to
appease her friends.
▪ You can either drag her away from her friends or just turn her away.
▪ A girl’s reality is what she sees in front of her. If you turn her away from her friends, she won’t have them on
her mind.
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❖ Steps to Build Comfort continued.
2. Move her through as many environments, topics and emotions as possible to reinforce that only you two are the
constants.
▪ “Let’s go…” all over the place. The environments may change but you two are constant. The more
environments you move her through the more comfortable she will be with you.
▪ More conversational topics but you two are still constant.
▪ Going through different emotions is powerful too. Happy, sad, push, pull, all of the turmoil but you two are still
the constants.
▪ You can literally lie verbally but still create emotional comfort.
• An example is telling her “I’m from Canada” when you aren’t. Even though everything you tell her is a lie
after that about you living in Canada, it still creates comfort. Julien claims to have had whole interactions
like this that were successful.
❖ Conspiracy Theories: You and her versus the world.
➢ You and her can have a little secret or inside joke that no one else knows.
➢ An example is “this is my sister” then you make out with her.
➢ Using these consolidates togetherness.
➢ You can act like you have known each other since you were kids, or you can even judge people by pointing them
out in a game like ‘Fuck, Marry, Kill.’
❖ Role-Playing: Take on personas and act on them without the repercussions.
➢ “This is my girlfriend” – call her your girlfriend repeatedly here and there. She knows you aren’t girlfriend and
boyfriend, but it allows her to play the role, so being physical and other things all of a sudden is okay because you
are ‘together’.
➢ “Be my girlfriend for the next 5 minutes”.
➢ Role-playing is good because it focuses only on the two of you and not on others like conspiracy theories usually
do.
➢ The “I am your boyfriend” frame is good because she can do things that she couldn’t usually do without looking
like a slut because she is your ‘girlfriend’.
➢ Another one is she is now your adopted sister/daughter.
➢ Role-playing should always be used when vibing.
❖ Future Projections: Project you and her together in the future.
➢ We are going to do this and this and this will happen.
➢ These can be serious “Let’s go get coffee tomorrow”.
➢ These can also be silly “Let’s go get married in Vegas”.
➢ You can use these to set up Day 2’s or preceding the pull.
❖ Hypothetical Scenarios: “What would you do if?” or “Would you ever?”
➢ You can make these ridiculous and introduce sexual topics without taking responsibility.
▪ An example “What if someone came up right now and called you a cunt?” even though you said ‘she is a cunt’
within a minute of meeting her you didn’t actually call her it.
➢ It helps you create togetherness by analyzing the situation.
➢ An example: “What if a guy you are going to fuck has a baby dick? You still going to fuck him? You going to tell
him he is huge?”
➢ It will help to spike her emotions.
➢ If you talk about sexual topics like “Would you fuck a guy you just met?” she will be envisioning, you.
o Qualification building (used for vibing)
❖ Qualify her: Continuum of Value ← − − − − − − − − −→ Qualification
➢ Everything talked about above in the vibing section has been about building value.
➢ You must make it relatable. Why would a SW guy like you want her?
➢ If you don’t qualify her she will think you just want to fuck her or that something is off with you.
➢ You must slow down and make yourself a real person to her. You need to open up a little and show why it is special
between you two.
➢ It will help reduce flaking and last-minute resistance (LMR). If you are being flaked on by chicks it is most likely
because you are not qualifying her enough.
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❖ Methods for qualifying:
➢ Emotionally Unexplained: “I don’t know why but I like you.”
▪ This shows that it is special between you two even though you don’t know why, you just do.
➢ Commonalities: What do you two have in common?
▪ These are what most guys look for when trying to vibe, but this can’t be the only go-to for vibing.
▪ “You like …, we have so much in common!” You can literally blow this out of proportion.
▪ These can be complex or basic.
▪ An example of a basic one. “You like the color blue! WOW! We have so much in common, blue is so great!”
➢ Future projections in a real environment.
▪ “You and I getting coffee.”
▪ It helps you become ‘real’ if you go overboard on the value building because you just become this cool emotion,
not a real person. Using future projections in a real environment will help reel you back into reality in her eyes.
➢ Show vulnerability.
▪ “I don’t tell people this often but…”
▪ “I don’t want to admit this because it is nerdy but…”
▪ “I feel like I can be real with you.”
▪ “When I was a kid this happened…”
▪ This is ‘opening up’ to her.
➢ The frame should be set that she is winning you over.
▪ Girls want to hook and tame the SW guy.
▪ You must be hooked and won over.
▪ You must seem like “I was going to keep on my purpose and path, but let’s see what she is about.”
❖ Do not over-qualify her, it kills value.
➢ It is a balance between value building and qualifying.
➢ If you go overboard you get put into the ‘provider’ category and she will hold off on fucking you.
➢ The best way to go about this is that you go in as a ‘lover’ and give her glimpses of qualification as the conversation
progresses.
➢ Girls want the ‘alpha male’ that she can transform into a ‘provider’.
➢ After you have sex with her you can take the relationship whatever direction you want.
❖ Reinforce that she is chasing you.
➢ She will react to you and chase you.
1. Give her room to chase you.
▪ As mentioned above go from 90/10 to 50/50, don’t just keep doing and doing.
▪ Give her opportunities to react, pauses work perfectly.
▪ When you pause look at her with laser eye contact and expectantly for a response.
▪ POPO.
2. Make it clear that the pace has changed from 90/10 to 50/50.
▪ Playful takeaway – Turn your back on her and act like you are leaving over something she says, it doesn’t have
to be serious.
▪ An important thing to note is, when you introduce things do it playfully.
▪ Don’t freak out if she is unreactive, just act like it was a joke. Be like “Why don’t you fight for me?” playfully
and say, “you were just going to let me leave?”
▪ “You think I’m just like every other guy?”
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3. Strip validation and stack it.
▪ Level 1: playful challenge→”You are 26? Hmm… Interesting.”
▪ Level 2: stacking challenges
• An example: Kiss a girl and tell her that she is terrible at kissing. This will strip her validation and she will
chase it.
• Don’t give her a chance to come back, just move onto the next thing. You can cut the thread with another
push. “Not only can you not kiss, you are old too.”
• As you stack the challenges she will chase the validation harder and harder and it will amplify her emotions
and turn her on.
• There are 2 caveats to stacking challenges:
1. You must be SW in order to do this in the first place. If you try to fake this, you will most like offend her
and she will freak out.
2. Once you do this you have to be careful how you transition away from it.
➢ If you just stop it immediately and you say, “I like you.” She will get her fix of validation and dip.
➢ The way you qualify her is by showing her that she is winning you over and blaming her for it. “I
can’t believe I like you, what are you doing to me? Fuck you, get away from me. (Playfully).”
❖ Make her invest.
➢ Have her think “I’m investing all of this time, energy and emotion; I better get a return.”
➢ Her compliance will be proportional to her investment.
▪ A girl you just met will say no to meeting your friends because she has not invested enough into you, not
because she doesn’t want to meet your friends.
▪ This is why in walking sets using the hard stop method won’t work sometimes.
➢ There are 5 methods of making her invest:
1. Emotional investment:
• Just be M2W, physical, clear in your intentions and give her little pushes.
• The more the better.
2. Time investment:
• She could be doing anything else in the world, but she is spending time with you. The more she chooses to
be with you the better. She will backwards rationalize why she did it and justify it to herself.
• “I spent two hours with him, he must be worth it, and so I’ll just fuck him if we end up together tonight.”
3. Forced investment:
• Make her invest, tell her to say, “Call me.” And say it again. Or make her say she loves you.
4. Windows of investment:
• Give her an opportunity to chase you.
• “OK, if you want you can go” and let her be like “No, I want to stay.” She most likely won’t use those exact
words but she will make an excuse to stay.
5. Investment hoops:
• This is what Julien considers level 3 of the challenge stacking. An example is that you go for a kiss and
when she leans in you pull back and make her do something to get it.
• You add conditions to something she wants. “You want a kiss? Call me master.”
• Make it playful at first and baby step it. Master → God → Get on your knees → wash, rinse and repeat.
• As you baby step these more and more her compliance will go up.
• As she invests more and more she will fuck you because otherwise she wasted all of those emotions and her
time.
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❖ Place yourself in a position of authority.
➢ Don’t get sucked up and let her take over.
➢ You decide where it goes, girls are not going to lead the interaction to sex because of being slut shamed.
➢ This should naturally happen if you are SW.
➢ Verbally lead the interaction
▪ Tonality and content →BRT and commanding.
▪ You can even order her around → M2W.
• Do this, I’m the boss.
▪ Don’t go overboard on this though.
▪ An exercise to practice this: Go up and approach a chick and just boss her around for 30 seconds, it will
probably not work out well for the pull, but it will be good practice if you have issues with this.
▪ Leading the interaction content-wise.
• Cut her threads.
o If it is boring or not moving things forward → cut it off.
o It is your reality → your rules.
o This will amplify you are the boss.
o This will make her chase you by trying to impress you by being good enough.
• Be the teacher.
o “Did you know…” Take the topic and expand.
o Do not overdo this.
• Tell her what she is feeling.
o “You love me.”
o “You’re adventurous, I like that” and you can make her live up to that later also.
➢ Physically lead the interaction.
▪ Being physical shows you are the boss.
• Physical moves from section 3.2.2.
• Shows you are at the cause and not the effect.
▪ Move her around the environment.
• Not only does this reinforce togetherness, but also that you are the leader of the interaction.
• This quickly helps to build compliance.
• This is important to do every time.
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3.4.2 Determine Her Logistics
❖ In every interaction you need to determine the logistics.
➢ In order to know which direction you’re going to take the interaction, you need to first know what you’re dealing
with.
➢ Being SW isn’t enough, it is the baseline of the interaction. Just because you’re SW doesn’t mean you are going to
have her jump on your dick. You still must make it happen and lead the interaction towards that.
➢ You need to know where you are going to pull her and if it is even possible to pull her at the time you are trying to.
❖ Make it a habit to determine the logistics in every interaction.
➢ This includes hers and yours as well.
➢ Two ways to find out:
1. Ask for them. Ask the following questions every time.
• Who are you here with?
• How do you know each other?
• What area do you live in?
• Do you have roommates?
• Are your friends here your roommates?
• How did you get here?
• How are you getting home?
• What are you doing tomorrow?
▪ The sooner you find out the situation the better.
• Once you hook you need to find out the logistics, just make a habit of it. Be proactive.
▪ When you do this do not go full interrogation mode and rattle the questions off one by one in order without any
breaks. Still bring the fun and value, don’t stack just sprinkle them in.
▪ Pay attention to how you are making her feel.
• Don’t ask her for her address straight up, just ask what area of town.
• You can also ask in a roundabout way like “You seem like you live in a small apartment.”
2. Baiting her for the logistics.
▪ Say things are going well and you just drop in “after party.” She will start explaining her logistics most
likely.
▪ You can tell her to move somewhere with you and she might be like “uhh… my friends.” Then you can start
asking some of the questions above.
➢ What about your logistics?
▪ A lot of guys neglect their own logistics. You need to know going in.
▪ Ask yourself “Where am I staying in relation to where I’m meeting this girl?”
▪ “How did I get there?”
▪ “How am I getting back?”
▪ “What is the deadline?” Such as when do I need to get up tomorrow or how late can I stay up.
▪ “Between where I’m staying and where I’m going out what are some of the late-night venues that are open?”
Maybe there is a late-night restaurant or an after party that you can bounce her to between the venue you met
her and where you are staying.
❖ You always need to be asking yourself “where is her DB at?”
➢ “What time of night is it?” Is it part one or two of the TOTN?
➢ This is extremely important to know this if you are trying to pull. If you are trying to get her logistics at the
beginning of the night it is nice to know, but you shouldn’t try to transition that into pulling. If you are in the second
part of the night you can use that information to try to pull.
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3.4.3 Verbal Structure
❖ Julien has a pattern that he found in his conversations which is what this covers.
❖ 5 Questions:
1. “Hey, I’m …”
2. “Are you from …?”
3. “What’s your name?”
4. “What do you do?”
5. “Who are you here with?”
➢ Memorize them to where you don’t even have to read them again.
❖ These questions seem like boring interview questions, but if you think these are boring then you are just looking at the
surface layer of things. They allow you to sub-communicate the right things.
❖ Always try to ground what you are saying in these interview mode questions. This will be the foundation of the
conversation. Make it a habit that you use these questions in your conversation.
❖ Using these questions set the rhythm of the conversation.
❖ When you are using these questions make sure that you are sub-communicating three things:
1. Adding to the fun.
• You can say it in a way where it is upbeat and fun.
2. Challenging.
• You can make it seem like you are examining or screening her. You can make it like a push.
3. Commanding.
• You order her to give you the information. Be dominant.
➢ These will help tingle her emotions.
➢ You can apply these to any of the interview mode questions.
❖ Julien likes to add to the fun to begin with for question 1. Challenging on question 2. Commanding for question 3.
Challenging for question 4. Add to the fun for question 5.
❖ It is easy to sub-communicate the three things you want to with the questions than trying to use some lame drawn-out
canned opener that looks try-hard.
❖ You can make up your own questions or wording for the questions.
❖ It is impossible to run out of interview mode questions. You can use her responses to ask more.
❖ When asking the questions, it may seem boring in terms of context, but if you are sub-communicating the right things it
will be attractive.
❖ Two ways of asking questions:
1. Ask her about herself. “How old are you?”
2. Ask her about yourself. “How old do you think I am?”
❖ To switch it up and let off of the constant pressure on you need to improvise based off of whatever answers she gives
you.
➢ Do something that might be awkward or self-amusing. Challenges are really good too.
➢ Once it starts to die, you move onto the next question.
❖ You will never run out of things to say because she provides you with more topics as you ask the questions.
❖ When improvising between questions you want to add some push/pull which is challenging her. 80% of the time Julien
will go with a pull and go with what she says, the other 20% he will go against what she says and push. Pushing adds
polarity and creates unpredictability and emotional spikes.
➢ 80% pull, 20% push. This is not dogmatic, just a baseline.
❖ As you go through this you keep doing more of the same. Questions then fluff on repeat. Using push/pull and sub-
communicating the three things. Overall you are following the 4PS. As you keep this going her DB increases towards
sex. You also find out about logistics as well.
❖ Side Note:
➢ Use times when you pull as an opportunity to be physical. “Are you from…?”→*She reponds*→”Good to hear
that, that is awesome!” and go for a hug.
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3.5.1 Close
❖ Once you are vibing, you determined logistics and the buying temperature is near a maximum where she is ready for
sex it is time to close. Closing is having sex, nothing else.
❖ Sex should be the goal of every interaction. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship you are wanting with her, you
need to have sex in order for it to become what you want.
❖ Sex is the biggest form of investment for a girl and you need to try to fuck her as soon as possible.
❖ It is your responsibility to make this happen.
❖ The way that you learn game is to repeat the entire process over and over. This means you need to repeat open to close,
not just getting a phone number or a make out.
➢ Opening → Hooking → Vibing → Closing
➢ Do not try to master only one thing at a time, you need to master the entire process.
➢ If you try to master only one part you never will, there is never a time where you are going to master any part of
game, there is always room for improvement.
➢ As you try to go from open to close you will get better at every part along the way. You will fuck up along the way
and get better at each part until you are more consistently getting the close.
❖ Take on the “killer instinct” where you take responsibility for trying to have sex and you are going to take it as far as
you can.
➢ Think of it as if you had a gun to your head. Go as far as you possibly can.
❖ One of the biggest reason guys don’t get the girl is because they eject way too early. A lot of guys leave the set as soon
as it even gets remotely bumpy at all. Stay in the set until you can’t anymore, time is your friend.
❖ There are 3 outcomes when it comes to closing.
1. Plan A: Pull her.
2. Plan B: Go with her.
3. Plan C: Get her number.
➢ These will be gone over in detail in the following sections.
❖ Always aim for Plan A where you are going to bring her to your place. It is the easiest way, you are in more control.
➢ Why make things more complicated then they need to be?
❖ If the logistics don’t allow for it, go for Plan B and go with her. Only do this if you have to.
❖ If you can’t bring her to your place and can’t go with her, go for Plan C which is to get the number.
➢ Remember don’t aim to get her number, aim to fuck her first.
❖ Because you are aiming for sex be ready.
➢ Have a condom always.
➢ Always expect something and be ready beforehand. This means clean your place and have food/drinks.
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3.5.2 Plan A - Pull Her – Page 1
❖ Assuming you have done everything correctly up to this point by following what the previous sections have laid out,
the girls DB is filled up and she is ready for sex.
❖ A good test to see if she is emotionally at a good point for sex is to think if you two were magically put into a room
with a bed alone, no one there to judge her, would it make sense for you to throw her on the bed and fuck her? Or
would she be like what the fuck are you doing?
❖ Emotionally she is ready to fuck you, but on the logical side of her brain she is slut-shaming herself. Even though she
likes you and wants to fuck you, she is thinking what everyone else would think based on social conditioning.
❖ A big part of pulling is aligning her emotional brain with her logical brain. You must make her comfortable and take
the responsibility away from her. Think of the ‘My Boss Michael’ Analogy.
❖ Pulling is giving her logical excuses to do what she emotionally wants to do.
❖ Two ways of doing this:
1. Leading:
• This was touched on previously where you lead verbally and physically.
• When it comes to pulling you have to be the one who is leading and moving it forward.
• You have to take all of the accountability from her shoulders. If you are the one who did it, she was just going
along with it.
• “It just happened.”
• Don’t wait for her permission. You just do it.
• A girl is either going to say nothing or no, but never expect her to say yes. If she says nothing interpret that as a
yes. Her saying yes will make her think she is being a slut. If she says no, wash-rinse-repeat.
• It is easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. This goes along with calibrating after the fact.
• Don’t stop if you get ‘token resistance’ where she is giggling and not serious. If you get the serious ‘no’ then
stop instantly and use POPO.
• You want to be the guy who is the first to push for it, but also the first to back off.
• Don’t feel bad about it, you must be the guy who likes sex, has good intentions and that is a go-getter.
2. Give her little bits and pieces that she can take and rationalize why it is okay to go home with you.
• Never say something like “let’s go back to my place and fuck.” That is putting her on the spot and will make her
uncomfortable you are basically asking “Are you a slut?”
• Give her a logical excuse to go back to your place.
• “Let’s go to this after party!” There is no real definition of ‘after party’ it could be anything.
• Some other ones are “come and watch this movie.” “I got something at my apartment you got to see.”
• These give her a logical reason to go and think “I’m not going to have sex with him” even though she will know
what’s up emotionally.
• “After Party” and “Adventure” reframe it from being this serious thing that “I’m going home with him” to
something more fun.
• “You’ve never done anything like this before. You can go back to living your little routine boring life whenever
you want, but for now… ‘Adventure!’ Let’s be fucking crazy! I thought you were adventurous, that is
something I like about you.”
• Not being straight up about going home and fucking is not incongruent emotionally, all of the sub-
communications she is looking at point directly towards sex. Being verbal about it is irresponsible because it is
your job to make her feel comfortable.
• You have to make it relatable to the girl.
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❖ When trying to pull a girl it is very rare she is going to just be like “Okay! Let’s go to the after party right now!” Most
of the time she is going to give you little objections.
➢ She will tell you things like “I’m not going to sleep with you, nothing is going to happen” or “I can’t go” or other
things along that line.
➢ When she says this, it is not bad. A girl has to say that, they have to do it to logically feel like they aren’t being a
slut. When you say ‘after party’ some girls will be like “Yes, Let’s go” because you gave them the excuse to not
look like a slut, but other girls will think they need to put up more resistance to logically not feel slutty.
➢ When she comes up with those objections it is you job to find the solutions.
➢ The most common objection is “oh, my friends are here though.” And what you can do is tell her “tell your friends
you are going to the bathroom” or “tell them you are coming over here real quick to talk to me and we will be right
back” or “text them and tell them you are tired and went home” or “we will be right back we are just going to the
after party real quick, your friends won’t even know you are gone.”
▪ Other good ones are telling her “let’s go outside” and when she is worried about getting back in tell her “trust
me, I know the owner” or “trust me, you can get back in”
➢ If she asks where the after party is, just tell her “it is around the corner, don’t even worry about it.”
➢ Obviously, everything you are saying isn’t the complete truth, but it is the easiest way to soothe her objections.
➢ Come from the frame of mind that you need to say whatever it takes to find the solutions to her objections.
➢ If you are thinking this maybe pushing it a little too far think “Am I sex-worthy? Yes. Then the girl obviously
knows what’s up.” This is because your sub-communications are telling her what’s up.
➢ Next you can ask yourself “What is the worst that can happen?” Nothing bad is going to happen, if she can’t get
back in the club then all you have to do is pay for her to get back in, or she can get in because she is a chick, or she
may have to leave early, it isn’t a big deal either way.
▪ If you get back to your place and she is like “where is the after party?” you can just be like “oh, I thought you
knew” or flip it around on her and be like “oh shit, we were late and missed it.” But Julien says this has only
happened to him once. It should be clear to her what is going on from the sub-communication, if not she is just
oblivious. The worst that can happen in this case though is that she just leaves.
➢ You will know when you are approaching the end of her objections when she starts making up bullshit objections
like “I am cold” when she is already outside in the cold.
❖ Something else you can do between saying ‘after party’ or ‘adventure’ and finding solutions to her objections is to add
humor.
➢ If she is like “I’m not sure if that is a good idea” then you can respond with “that is what makes it better, it will be
fun” just make it seem like the ‘better party’ is wherever you are going.
➢ “It’s all good” mentality.
➢ “We get along so well, I thought it would be cool if we could just go and talk.”
➢ You can throw pushes in there like “why do you hate me?” or “I’ll be sad.” Or “Fine, go back to your boring life.”
❖ Wash-Rinse-Repeat the whole process
➢ ‘”After Party, let’s go!” → “You don’t have to if you don’t want to.” → “Adventure!” → “Look it will be fun.” →
“Better Party! This party here is like the 1960s, the after party is the 2014 party.”
➢ You just keep repeating “Party → why → solve objections” just lead, lead, lead.
➢ Be persistent, the more you keep doing it the more you wear down her resistance and you turn it into a more
realistic thing for her to do.
▪ Think about if a friend comes up to you and says “Let’s go to Vegas and party it up” you will be like “fuck
yeah!” but it won’t be a realistic thing that can happen, but once he starts looking up where to party, and he gets
the plane tickets and hotel and all that it takes to get there and do it, it then becomes realistic because it has more
context and he took care of everything for you. This is analogous to you taking the responsibility off the girl and
hyping it up.
❖ What you ultimately want to reach when doing this is a “You have nothing to lose” type of scenario.
➢ You have to make it seem like “you are going to fuck me, or you aren’t but either way you have nothing to lose.”
There won’t be anyone to judge her and she won’t lose any social value. It is the same either way.
➢ Because girls are bored and love sex and they have nothing to lose, they will always opt to fuck you.
❖ Once you give her the logical excuses to do what she emotionally wants to do and take care of all of their objections
and show her she has nothing to lose and you lead that is when you make things happen.
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❖ When you are trying to take responsibility off of her shoulders and leading the interaction you need to create a sense of
urgency.
➢ You need to make it happen this second.
➢ When you are telling her after party or adventure you need to throw in the word “now” repeatedly.
➢ You must command that it happens now.
➢ Hammer in that it has to happen now, this second.
➢ Also, you can throw in that you are going to leave if it doesn’t happen this second.
❖ There are other factors you have to consider when pulling other than aligning the emotional side of her brain with the
logical side of her brain and solving her objections.
➢ The first other factor is baby-stepping the pull.
▪ Be aware of how much compliance you are asking from her.
• Some girls will comply with leaving the venue and going all the way back to your place, others won’t have
invested enough yet. This is asking a lot from them.
• No matter how SW you are, her compliance will only match her level of investment.
▪ If you haven’t gotten her to invest enough to go straight home with you, you can baby-step it. “How can I get
her one step closer?”
• If she says no to the after party, then you need to baby-step. Always go for the most efficient pull which is
telling her pretty much to go straight home, but if that doesn’t work baby-step it.
• “Let’s go to the bar for water” → “Let’s go outside” → “Let’s go get food here” → “After Party” →
“Awesome video on my TV in my room” → Fuck her.
▪ Any time a girl says no, just think about a way to baby-step it.
▪ Every step that she takes is another form of investment, therefore she will comply with more.
▪ She will ultimately reach that “point of no return” where she will tell herself “I’ve already went this far, might
as well go all the way.”
▪ This ties in with finding solutions to her objections, you can baby step the solutions to her objections as well.
• “What can I say to get her one step closer?” Say whatever it takes.
➢ Master the art of changing your mind “Fuck that, let’s do this instead.”
▪ This goes along with baby stepping, say you are going to do something that helps her with getting one step
closer and you say “let’s go do this” then when you get her to that one step closer you change it up.
• An example is you pretend you got a text about a badass after party, when you get her in the taxi or
whatever you say, “fuck that, let’s go to my apartment instead.”
▪ Because she has already invested she will go with wherever you want.
➢ Don’t take any breaks, you have to be ready to go all out.
▪ Once you start the pulling process and she starts complying, any pauses will cause you to lose some of the
momentum you built up.
▪ This will give her time to feel remorseful and get into her head and think she might be potentially being a slut.
▪ If you are about to pull go take care of other shit first, go take a piss, go say bye to your friends, whatever you
got to do take care of it. Once you start the pull that is all you are going to be doing from there on out.
❖ A lot of this is more advanced pulling if there is a lot of objections, but if you have followed the blueprint laid out and
everything has gone pretty well then there shouldn’t be more than a few objections and she should be ready to go.
➢ It should look like you two are getting pulled together, not you sitting there like “Let’s go, let’s go, let’s go.”
➢ Some pulls are very messy though especially if you don’t have time to qualify. Just embrace it but still go for it.
❖ Even though pulling is a skill you need to master, it isn’t the solution to getting girls. Ultimately you need to be sex-
worthy. You can’t bypass the foundation, all pulling does is help her do what she wants to do anyways.
❖ What is pulling? It is facilitating the transition into sex.
➢ In order to facilitate that transition she has to want to have sex with you in the first place.
❖ Side Note: Always have things ready like condoms, food and drinks. Drinks are perfect because it takes responsibility
off of her for whatever she does. “It was the alcohol.”
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3.5.3 Plan B - Go With Her – Page 1
❖ If you can’t pull her and go with Plan A. Try to go with Plan B.
➢ There will be times where the logistics won’t allow you to go with Plan A, it is going to happen, and no one is
above that.
➢ Think about the situation where the girl is with her completely inebriated roommate and she is the designated
driver, she can’t just leave her roommate, in that case you need to go with Plan B.
➢ Always try for the pull, but accept that sometimes you will have to go for Plan B. Don’t give up.
❖ With Plan B you aren’t as in control but know that it can still happen. At some point you will get her alone. You just
want to be there with the girl isolated to where you can make something happen.
❖ If logistics don’t allow for Plan A, go with Plan B and have the frame that you are going to stay in set with her until you
are isolated, and you can make something happen.
❖ A breakdown of Julien’s example:
➢ You are with this girl who has a completely drunk roommate whom she can’t split away from. You have been in set
with her long enough that she emotionally wants to fuck you and her download bar is high and she is ready for sex.
You have determined from logistics she lives 10 minutes away from the venue.
➢ The same principles apply you have to take responsibility to make her not feel like a slut, you still have to find
solutions to her objections as you baby-step it back to her place.
➢ What are you going to want to do?
1. “How can I get in the car with her?”
• You may want to say when you know you are going to pull her and find out the logistics “Oh I live there as
well.” Or “Oh my friend lives there and I’m going over there. Can I catch a ride with you?”
• You want to get into her car to be side by side with her the entire time.
• Doing this is baby-stepping and you need to say whatever it takes to get one step closer.
• Once you get in the car you need to precede the pull, you don’t want to wait until you get there and be like
“Can I go into your apartment with you” that is too out of the blue and putting her on the spot.
o In the car you want to plant the seed by asking if she has some alcohol. You can also say you need to
use the bathroom. When you get to her apartment you can call back to the seed you planted.
• When you arrive, you need to say whatever it takes to get into the apartment. Things like “I need to use the
bathroom” or “let’s do a shot” or “I’m thinking of getting a place around here, can I see what it looks like”
or “I’ll only go up for a minute.” If you said you were going to see a friend, you can say he isn’t responding
now.
• When you get in there say whatever it takes until the roommate passes out.
• Drinks are Julien’s favorite because it takes responsibility off of her and she can blame it on alcohol.
2. If she is walking home, walk with her. Just stay in set.
❖ Just stay in set no matter what happens even if it is awkward. Eventually you will get her isolated. It may seem kind of
weird to get in the car with her or walk her home, but just do it. You need to embrace the discomfort, you need to have
that killer instinct and stay in set no matter what for the pull. If it gets a little awkward it is fine, it adds some
unpredictability to the pull.
➢ You want to be the “last dick standing.”
❖ When you two finally get the isolation that you are seeking there will be a shift in the girl that will make her more
compliant to fuck you.
➢ Think about if you have been gaming all night and at the end of the night you are alone at home. Then magically
out of nowhere this girl who you saw earlier that isn’t as attractive as you would normally go for just appears out of
nowhere in your bedroom and she wants to fuck you and she assures you that no one will find out. You are going to
fuck her.
➢ The same thing happens with girls, they want sex because their DB is high, and they don’t have to worry about
social repercussions, so they are going to fuck you.
➢ Even if it wasn’t super “on” before you reach isolation with her in the spot you are going to fuck her at the end of
the night and her DB is high, she will reach that shift and fuck you.
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3.5.3 Plan B - Go With Her – Page 2
❖ “Pull Talk” – don’t make her feel self-conscious in terms of what you are saying.
➢ Your goal is to stay in set until you reach that isolation.
➢ Don’t say things like “where are we going?” or things like “I see we are going to your house together” or other
things that will make her think you are trying to get her home to fuck her. Just keep the self-amusement chat going
and keep things light. Find out more about her, you can give her little pushes and keep the DB high.
➢ At this point you aren’t trying to game her anymore, you are just trying to stay in set no matter what.
➢ Try to keep things as vague as possible. Only give more details if she tries to pry them out of you.
➢ Keep it lighthearted, stay in your little bubble of self-amusement and she is just next to you.
➢ You don’t need to do anything to pull her anymore.
❖ When you go with her it doesn’t necessarily have to be to her apartment, it can be anywhere.
➢ If you can’t go back to her apartment you can make something happen in her car, alley, bathroom, wherever you
can.
➢ Just go wherever she goes until you are isolated.
❖ Sometimes even this won’t work, and you won’t get anywhere. Even in these situations you still had really good
practice because you got to try to go for the close all the way from the open and you stuck in there no matter what until
you couldn’t anymore. You also got practice with logistics as well.
➢ Going with Plan B you are putting yourself in more situations where sex can happen that wouldn’t have been
possible if you just gave up after Plan A wasn’t an option.
❖ Go for Plan A and if that doesn’t work go with her until you can get her isolated and make something happen.
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3.5.4 Last Minute Resistance – Page 1
❖ The last objection you are going to face is transitioning from the ‘sex location’ to having sex.
➢ Now that you have baby stepped her all the way from the venue to where you two are isolated and she feels
comfortable, now it is time to go for sex.
❖ When you are about to fuck her there will usually be some objection which is called last minute resistance (LMR).
➢ You won’t always get massive LMR, but sometimes it will be tough.
❖ The biggest mistake most guys make is that as soon as they enter the ‘sex location’ they just stop.
➢ They think that it is just going to magically happen and take all of the pressure off.
➢ Once you start pulling you can’t stop until you are fucking her otherwise her DB will drop, and you have just
fucked up.
➢ Don’t even take a break to just sit down and relax or start chatting. This will let her DB drop off and she might
become self-conscious and want to back out.
❖ You always want to be moving things forward.
➢ This doesn’t mean you have to jump on her as soon as you get her to the sex location. But it means that you need to
keep the foot on the gas pedal.
❖ First step is to engage physically.
1. You can try just grabbing her and making out with her and calibrate if needed with POPO if she seems a little
freaked out.
2. You can slow play it by getting her a drink and physically escalating from there.
➢ You will learn which method is better based on the way the interaction went, if things were more physical earlier on
you can probably just slam her on the wall and make out with her. If not, you may need to slow play it.
❖ When you try to engage physically this is when you will meet LMR.
➢ Things will be a little awkward since you two are there, but they will be going pretty smoothly since you made it
there where it is just you two isolated.
➢ When you go to engage physically that is when things will change, and she will give you LMR. She will say things
like “Wow! I just met you, I can’t do this” or things along that line.
❖ Julien’s two go-tos for solving LMR are:
1. “It doesn’t count as sex.”
▪ When you are making out with her and go to finger her, and she puts up LMR you can say “it doesn’t count as
sex.”
▪ It makes it easy for her to rationalize because it is true.
2. “It makes it sexier.”
▪ This one is a play on being overwhelmed by emotions.
▪ This is important because it goes along with being self-amused. When you are having genuine fun, no one is
going to stop you. This applies to you being sexually turned on by what you are doing.
▪ This is also a key thing to getting away with doing crazier things in bed. Like in the middle of sex you pull out a
camera and be like “it makes it sexier, don’t worry I’m just holding it, I’m not filming.” Then you can be like “I
just want to take a picture, it makes it sexier! It’s okay.”
❖ When you are physically escalating your main focus should be trying to change her mood, not her mind.
➢ A girl’s mind will always follow her emotions. You are not going to be able to logically convince her to fuck you.
➢ When you start making out and get emotionally overwhelmed it will transfer onto her. This will get her wet and
turned on, not you explaining why she should do it.
➢ You can use this to get her into the sex location if she doesn’t want to go. Slam her against the wall and start
making out and rubbing her crotch and make her horny, then just grab her and be like “let’s go.”
❖ Be discrete with the condom.
➢ This will help with taking the responsibility off of her and not making her feel like a slut.
➢ Don’t wave it around and be like “we are about to fuck” the only thing this will do is make her feel like a slut and
end up fucking you over. A lot of guys have fucked up by doing this.
➢ If she notices and is like “What are you doing?” just say “I’m just putting it on, I want to be safe just in case.”
❖ You don’t have to get her naked to fuck her.
➢ If you run into LMR about taking her clothes off, get past it, you don’t need to get her naked to put your dick in her.
❖ As soon as you get real resistance… STOP!
➢ If you are unsure if it is real or token resistance, just stop.
➢
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3.5.4 Last Minute Resistance – Page 2
➢ If she is giggling and like “no, no, no!” and you roll off and she still kisses you, it just means not yet. She just wants
you to make her feel more comfortable before she will let you fuck her.
❖ Another thing to do if you keep getting “no” is to just stop all together and roll off and just start jerking off.
➢ This may sound weird, but it will turn you on and she will feel left out and want to be a part of it as well.
➢ She will also feel like “he doesn’t need me” if she is thinking “oh, he wants to fuck me, he needs me” and she will
let you fuck her.
❖ Another thing you can do earlier in the interaction to precede the sex which is similar to preceding the pull. Have her
pull her hair back and you grab it and give it a little yank. This will show her that you are going to be physical later on
and that it is going to happen.
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3.5.5 Plan C - Get Her Number – Page 1
❖ If Plan A and Plan B do not work because logistics just don’t allow for it, go for Plan C which is getting her phone
number so that you can go for a Day 2 where logistics will be better.
➢ The phone number should be a last resort, you should try everything you can to pull her or going with her first.
➢ Always aim for sex, the phone number is just the backup of the backup.
➢ Never aim for the phone number.
❖ Sometimes getting the phone number before going for Plan A and Plan B works against you because she can rationalize
not going with you because she knows you exchanged numbers and she can see you later. If she doesn’t go with you
there is a chance she will never see you again because she doesn’t have your number.
❖ A phone number shouldn’t be looked at as some great thing that you got, it should be looked at as a bridge toward the
second part of the interaction where you can isolate her which had to be split up because Plan A and Plan B aren’t
possible.
❖ The most common situation you are to find yourself going for the phone number is the first part of the night when the
DB is lower, and they aren’t ready to be pulled. Plan A and Plan B are mostly not an option, so get the number.
➢ You can use this part of the night to build leads for later by getting a bunch of numbers.
❖ If you build leads in the beginning of the night and the chick you decide to stick on and go through with pulling or
going with her doesn’t work out, you can text or call the other chicks and try to make something happen still.
❖ You can still try to get numbers in the second part of the night such as in the case of the logistics not justifying her
attractiveness. If you feel like the logistics are too terrible to stick to her then go for the number.
❖ When going for the number you need to:
1. Make sure that you are clear in your intentions.
➢ It is so you can see her again. Make sure that she knows that as well.
➢ Phone numbers to chicks aren’t a big deal, she will give pretty much anyone her number. They will do it to be polite
or to get rid of them.
➢ Don’t straight tell her you are getting the number to fuck her, but sub-communicate that is why.
➢ Be M2W when getting the number.
➢ If you aren’t confident in going for phone numbers, make it a habit that every girl you talk to for more than 2
minutes that you ask for the number. Go as far as you can, but when you leave go for it. You never know who will
give you it. Make it a habit, it is not a big deal.
▪ Also make a habit of organizing the numbers.
▪ If you can’t remember her name flip it around on her and be like “what is my name?” and she most likely won’t
remember and you can be like “I forgot yours too.” If she does remember your name, don’t worry just say that
you aren’t good at remembering names. You can kind of turn it into a challenge if you want also and be like
“Yeah I forgot your fucking name.”
2. Set up and determine the logistics for the second half of the interaction.
➢ When you can’t pull there will be a split in the interaction as discussed before.
➢ The more you do in person the less you have to do on the phone and the easier it is. Setting up logistics for the next
part of the interaction is much better to do in person while you are getting the phone number.
➢ Ultimately you want to minimize the amount of work you have to do on the phone.
➢ When you are getting the number throw in things like “Let’s hang out later tonight” or “let’s hang out tomorrow.”
➢ You want to talk about the second part of the interaction then and there and how you are going to make it happen so
that you don’t have to do it on the phone.
➢ If you meet a girl in the first part of the night the next opportunity to go for Plan A or Plan B is at the end of the
night.
▪ You can say something like “you got to go back to your friends, I got to go back to mine, let’s hang out later,
give me your phone number.”
▪ Try to talk about later that night and try to make plans for the second part of the night when her DB is high, and
she is ready to be pulled.
▪ After you mention meeting up again later that night talk about the logistics to see if it is possible.
▪ You want to plant that seed in person.
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3.5.5 Plan C - Get Her Number – Page 2
➢ If the logistics aren’t going to work out for that night, then try to make plans for the next day.
▪ Julien’s go to for the next day is “Have coffee with me tomorrow.”
• Saying “let’s meet up tomorrow and have coffee” also cements you as a real person in her mind, not just
some good emotion from the venue that she came across. It also reinforces that you are getting the number
to see her again.
• You can always change plans if you are already busy the next day, just make sure you are making plans that
cement that you are trying to see her again and that is why you are getting the number.
▪ She might come up with some objections to the plans you are trying to make with her to see her again, in this
case the more you discuss details the better because it makes it seem more realistic that it is going to happen.
• Don’t do it too much to where you seem needy. Just hammer it in enough to make it a realistic option.
➢ It is very important when setting up the second part of the interaction that you make it happen as soon as possible.
▪ The longer it takes between getting the number and seeing her again the more chance that she will flake and that
you will never see her again.
▪ “The bridge between getting the phone number and the second part of the interaction needs to be as short as
possible.”
➢ Girls are getting hit on constantly, so you want to make something happen fast while you are still in her mind.
▪ The longer you wait the faster you will disappear in her mind.
▪ All of the investment you got her to do and all of the qualification you did will be gone.
3. Amp up the investment and qualification.
➢ When you are making plans for the next possible time you can ask things like “Do you want to? Or are you just
saying that?” which create a window of investment. And you can say “you don’t have to if you don’t want to.”
▪ You can do this when getting the number and you ask her to hang out as well “Are you just saying that? Or do
you really want to hang out?”
➢ Make it a little challenge when you say it, make sure you don’t sound insecure or needy. You can be like “Or we
don’t even have to see each other again” with the vibe that you don’t really care.
➢ When you get the number tell her to say, “Call me.” And make her say it and then “Say it again, convincingly.”
This will be forced investment.
➢ Command her again with something like “When are we hanging?” and have her answer.
➢ Just amp up her investment with windows of investment and forced investment as described above. This will reduce
flaking.
➢ Also, you can qualify her by saying things like “I really like you.” Or “I’m curious about you now.”
4. Be discrete when getting her phone number.
➢ This is similar to the condom in LMR.
➢ Don’t just pull out the phone and make it a big deal that you are getting her number.
➢ If you pull out your phone and make it obvious all of the eyes will immediately be on the girl and it will put her on
the spot and everyone will be judging her.
➢ This will make her more likely to not give you the number.
➢ Hide your phone when you get the number. Turn away from her friends if you can.
5. Don’t leave as soon as you get the phone number.
➢ Stay in for another 10-30 seconds minimum otherwise it will look like you were there just to get the number and
that you are there just for sex and therefore you are low value. Just stay a little longer to make it seem like it was not
a big deal.
➢ It might even make her feel used as well if you just get the number and bounce.
➢ It might also communicate that it was a big deal to you if you just get the number and leave immediately.
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3.5.6 Phone Game
❖ Once you have gotten her phone number remember the only purpose of it is to see her again.
➢ Keep this in mind, it isn’t a victory to get her number. You can’t fuck her number.
➢ Don’t text or call her only for the sake of talking to her. This is the biggest mistake a lot of guys make.
➢ The only reason you should be texting or calling her is to set up when you are going to see her again.
➢ If you and her do talk back and forth for the sake of talking, you will just become this little ‘virtual entity’ and she
will forget about how you were in person. She will also not want to ruin your little texting relationship by seeing
you in person because it may be awkward, you will become her virtual pen pal.
➢ Rule #1: you got the phone number to see her again and everything you do on the phone should always be aligned
with that purpose in mind.
➢ Ask yourself when texting her if that is what you are doing.
❖ Don’t make things more complicated then they need to be.
➢ When you text her right after you get her number, just keep it simple and send your name.
➢ When thinking about what is easier texting or calling, most of the time it will be texting.
❖ If you get her number in the first part of the night and you are texting her in the second part of the night you can try to
move forward with Plan A or Plan B, ask “what you are doing right now” Or “where are you”.
➢ Notice there isn’t any fluff, it is a straight call to action and purposeful.
➢ If you can’t get ahold of her or the logistics didn’t work the night before, then the next day text her “What are you
doing tonight” trying to move to the second part of the interaction.
➢ Do not worry about sounding needy or messaging her too soon because when you got the number you framed it as
if you were going to be meeting up again very soon. She should expect it because that is what you said you were
going to do.
➢ Sometimes Julien doesn’t even use a question mark at the end because he is coming from the frame that he already
has too many girls to deal with, and it isn’t a big deal to him.
❖ The reason to say “let’s get coffee” is to ground the interaction and cement yourself as a real person to her. You can hit
them with “what are you doing tonight” even if you said “let’s get coffee tomorrow” because you decided to change
your mind. This goes along with the ‘fuck that, let’s do this instead.’
❖ When you keep things simple and move it forward it helps her to invest. Sometimes it won’t be enough, and you will
have to complicate it some.
➢ If she says “I’m hanging out with friends” which is her logistics and you can tell her to invite you.
➢ If she says “I’m staying in, I’m tired” then you can tell her to hang out with you.
➢ If she doesn’t text back or doesn’t move things forward, you can complicate it.
▪ You can chit chat some and show her more of your personality and use the techniques in the earlier sections.
▪ Only do this if you have to, you are doing this to move things towards meeting her, so it is okay.
▪ An example is Julien meets a girl and makes plans for coffee for the next day and he texts to see if she is still
meeting him. When she responds she says, “I saw your Facebook, where is the person I met last night?” Julien
responds with some vibing and fluff and says it is for marketing and says, “hang out with me at 5 or 6PM.”
▪ The formula in these scenarios is Fluff → call to action. “hahaha okay, let’s meet here”
❖ Your texts should be blasé if possible but if you have to do more than do the fluff → call to action.
❖ You can take it a little further by calling back to some of the ways you qualified her.
➢ If you said, “you are adventurous, I like that about you” you can be like “I thought you were adventurous.” Or
“since you are adventurous, let’s do …”
➢ If you do this, you will remind her of the vibe you had in person.
❖ If the fluff → call to action and reminding her of the initial reaction doesn’t work, call her and get her on the phone.
You can convey a lot more personality this way and change her mood.
➢ A huge part of flaking is because her mood has changed. The next day her DB isn’t going to be high and she won’t
be feeling adventurous. Women operate in temporary truths.
➢ If you call and she doesn’t answer, call again directly after.
➢ In some instances, calling is the best way to do it. Like in the second part of the night when you got her number
earlier in the night, if you text her and she responds just call.
❖ Text her an hour before you are going to meet her and move it back 10-15 minutes.
➢ This reminds her that you are going to meet and gives her a chance to flake if she is going to.
➢ If she flakes, don’t get mad or take it personally. Don’t call her out on it. If you do that it will make it look like it is
a big deal. Just try again for the next day. If she flakes twice no big deal. Third time call her out.
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3.5.7 Day 2
❖ “Day 2” is the second part of the interaction where you meet with her again because you couldn’t go with Plan A or
Plan B and you had to go with Plan C and got her number.
❖ Day 2 isn’t having some boring date; the only purpose of a Day 2 is to have better logistics so that you can go for Plan
A or Plan B so you can ultimately fuck her.
❖ Think “Where can I meet her that is as close as possible to the sex location?” now that logistics are in your control.
➢ This means if you are going to try to fuck her at your place, find places to meet her that are close to it.
➢ If you can’t do it at your place you can go with Plan B and find somewhere near where she lives if you find out her
logistics. Don’t be creepy and start asking for her address and pick a place right across the street from her, but just
find out what area she lives in and pick somewhere interesting around there. Picking somewhere near her also
lowers the level of compliance she will have to have because it will be right near her.
❖ Try to avoid going for dinner there is always an awkward moment where you have to find out who pays.
➢ If you try to split the bill it makes you look cheap and she will be like fuck this. If you pay it will put you into the
provider category and want to hold off on sex in hopes of more free shit.
➢ The best times to meet girls for Day 2s are in the afternoon for coffee or later at night for drinks. Preferably drinks
because it takes the responsibility off of her.
➢ Julien tries to go for drinks at 8PM because it is past dinner time and gives you plenty of time to make something
happen.
➢ With drinks or coffee, it isn’t expensive, and it won’t make her want to hold out on sex with you.
➢ If you don’t want to buy her drinks, you can show up before her and get your own, so you don’t have to have the
little awkward talk about how it is going to work.
❖ Never assume you are going to pick up where you left off.
➢ If her DB was high when you two met before you can’t assume it will still be like that when you see her again. She
has had time to sleep and relax and she will probably be more chill and stifled.
➢ View it as a brand new open and calibrate after, find out where her buying temperature is. Do the usual gaming
assuming that you already have her hooked. Determine the new logistics and go for Plan A or Plan B.
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Bonus: Day Game – Page 1
❖ A lot of the principles of game are the same during the day.
➢ Some of the differences in terms of situations from the crowd’s perspective:
▪ Instead of fun, fun, fun they are thinking about their life.
▪ Building momentum is tougher.
▪ Everyone sees you get blown out.
▪ It is not as socially acceptable.
▪ Not as much anonymity.
▪ The girls are busy usually and you might be as well.
➢ Julien’s perspective:
▪ There is no difference at all.
▪ “Everything that the crowd said is wrong and bullshit. There is no difference.”
▪ The above statement is not 100% true. Of course, there is going to be differences. But you can have a selective
blind spot that tells you “there is no difference.” It is the same thing as ‘every girl in the world is thinking about
dick 24/7’, of course it isn’t true, but you can still view it as such because it helps.
▪ If you start thinking about the differences it is going to shove you in your head and end up fucking, you over.
▪ Just think it is the same everywhere.
❖ One of the problems guys have in day game is that they are not drinking.
➢ When you drink you develop your “drunk personality” which you rely on in order to pick up women.
➢ Your “sober personality” is going to suck and not be charismatic and your drunk personality you will be your best
self.
➢ You want to create a scenario that wherever you go there “you” are. You want your sober self to be your best self.
When you go out at night stay sober, when you are out during the day you can be sober and not have to rely on your
“drunk personality”.
➢ If you can game at night in clubs while sober without being overwhelmed, day game is going to be easy in
comparison.
❖ Day time is different in many ways:
➢ You don’t have to yell or be loud to cut through the music and other noise going on.
➢ Unlike at night, the girl may have shit to do. Because of that your interactions will be shorter.
➢ A lot of girls have nothing to do as well. You can stay in set until the pull.
➢ You can go out at around 5PM – 6PM when girls are getting off of work and game and it can be optimal.
➢ There will be shorter sets, so try to get the number and Day 2 her for later that night.
❖ The more you go out at night sober and the more you hit your ‘peak state’, the more your ‘default starting point’ will
rise.
➢ Your ‘default starting point’ is where you are when you wake up in the morning. Some people will be ready to go,
others will be like “fuck, another day.”
➢ You want to get your state built up to where your ‘default starting point’ is what most people’s ‘peak state’ will
look like. That comes with time and hitting on chicks and desensitizing yourself to hectic environments.
➢ Get addicted to being in the zone, fast.
❖ For a lot of guys, it is hard for them to put themselves out there and being loud and extreme because it is not congruent
for them.
➢ If it is not congruent for you then don’t do it. Do not try to force it, you will seem try-hard and blow yourself out.
➢ Try to push yourself over the edge a little bit at a time and make it congruent for you by seeing nothing will happen.
➢ If you feel comfortable doing it and can put yourself out there in an extreme way, make sure it is relatable to the
girls. Focus on POPO and the subtleties.
❖ If you have trouble going out and putting yourself out there during the day an exercise you can do is to just go out and
open everyone you see. Instead of just waiting for hot girls to open, talk to everyone.
➢ Say something like “Nice…”→”Nice shirt”, “Nice hat”, “Nice whatever”
➢ This helps you put yourself out there and gives you proof that nothing is going to happen. No one is going to die or
freak out, even if you get stared at who gives a fuck.
➢ On boot camp Julien makes the students go out and yell people down with “Nice …” to demonstrate that nothing
will happen.
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❖ During the day you will have to embrace the social pressure. When you open a girl, everyone is going to stare and be
like “what the fuck is this?”
➢ Realize that no one really gives a shit, they don’t care about you and they aren’t going to remember you. So, when
you get the stares, you shouldn’t give a fuck about them either.
➢ They will be interested in what is going on, but they won’t care.
➢ They are probably sitting there wishing they could have the balls to go and do that themselves, instead they are
going back to their fat unattractive wife.
➢ You want to embrace it and just laugh at yourself. You are the guy going up and saying hi to girls.
➢ The more you desensitize yourself to that social pressure, the more the girls will be attracted.
❖ Be aware where the girl is at emotionally, what she is thinking and feeling, and if she is about to relate to you.
➢ Being physical during the day she can tense up even if you are trying to reach your hand towards her.
➢ Lower your time of reaction, if you are reaching and she tenses up, back off.
❖ Judging where she is at emotionally is where POPO comes in.
➢ It is the definition of social intuition.
➢ Pressure on:
▪ Can be viewed in terms of closing proximity between you and the girl, as you get closer the pressure builds.
▪ Laser eye contact will also put pressure on.
▪ BRT.
▪ Saying something like “I hate you.”
➢ Pressure off:
▪ Looking away
▪ Moving away
▪ Saying something like “I love you.”
➢ Everything you do is either going to be pressure on or pressure off and you need to be constantly balancing the two
to where she is and can relate to while trying to build up her DB.
➢ You want to reach the point where you can put enough pressure on until you are about to reach the tipping point
then take pressure off (on wash-rinse-repeat). This is how you amp up her buying temperature. That is how you get
a girl ready for sex during the day.
➢ During the day it is similar to the approaching during first part of the night for the TOTN.
▪ It is like when you go to the bar at the beginning of the night and the DB is low.
▪ When you go in and use POPO you build the DB up until she is ready for sex.
➢ The way you get better at having social intuition is through your successes and failures and calibrating.
▪ ‘Golf ball’ Analogy:
• You go up and hit the golf ball. It was way too fucking hard. This is like going up too strong on the
approach.
• Second hit. Way too soft. This is like going up and being shy.
• Eventually you will get it down if you keep doing day time approaches to where you know what level you
should usually go in at.
➢ You can only learn from references, it is like learning to balance.
➢ To notice where she is at look how she reacts after the fact. If you have too much pressure on the girl might tense
up, she might glance away nervously, might have the awkward laugh, or she might step away.
▪ When this happens take pressure off, don’t keep doing what you’re doing. You might want to keep doing it but
see how she is reacting and adjust accordingly.
➢ If you want to be physical right away during the day that is fine but be sure that if you are putting too much pressure
on and you can see that then you need to change course of action and take pressure off and make it relatable to her.
➢ Always calibrate after the fact, don’t stifle yourself by thinking “oh is this going to put too much pressure.” Just
start to do it and if you see it is too much, then take the pressure off.
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❖ During the day it is important to set the rhythm of the interaction.
➢ Get the girl to react to you, be at the cause not at the effect. This way you get her mind off of the environment and
onto you and you suck her into your reality.
➢ If you are setting the rhythm of the interaction she will forget about the environment. You have probably had this
happen when you are vibing with a girl really well.
➢ Julien likes to say “Pink Shirt. Pink Bike. How does it feel?” because that puts pressure on, pressure on, pressure off
and it gets her thinking.
❖ During the day you will always get the look like “What is happening?” no matter how smoothly you approach.
➢ If you are going to get that look no matter what, you might as well go all out.
❖ During the day there is no tempo.
➢ When you go out at night there is the TOTN. In the first part you can’t go for Plan A or Plan B to close because she
isn’t ready yet.
➢ During the day there is no part one or part two. You can go for Plan A or Plan B with the first girl you talk to.
➢ The way to look at day game is there is something to accomplish which is getting whatever girl you talk to and you
should view day game as if you were starting in part two of the night (but need to build them up like it is part one).
➢ At night clubs it would be boring for her to spend the whole night with you when she is wanting to go and build up
the night with many different interactions until the second part when her DB is high, and she is ready for sex.
During the day it isn’t boring for her to spend the whole day with one guy. Think about action movie at night vs. an
Indy movie for the day.
➢ You don’t need to warm up and don’t block off the possibility of the first girl you talk to. You can go for Plan A or
Plan B with the first girl you talk to if everything is going well.
➢ Do not let this stifle you either, you don’t have to build up your fun and abundance. You can make a conscious
decision to warm-up and then persist, but it isn’t necessary, and you can make it happen without it.
❖ No girl is going to sit in the same spot and talk to you for hours and hours.
➢ It is the same as talking to a girl in the dance floor set.
➢ If you don’t move somewhere else she will talk to you for a few minutes, but after that she is going to leave.
➢ You need to move her somewhere more comfortable and go for an instant date.
➢ An important thing to remember is that you don’t have to game her where you open her.
➢ Go where the women are to approach but you don’t have to stay there.
➢ The way you want to view it as the whole city is your space, you don’t need to be confined.
❖ If time allows go for the 45 to hour and a half set and commit. If she is walking around that is perfect.
➢ Stay in set until you are isolated, just be committed and have that killer instinct from the start.
❖ Because girls are busy and won’t be staying in the same area very long in most cases you have limited time to
determine the logistics.
➢ You will want to get in the habit of getting the logistics fast and make sure you don’t get stuck in the opener.
➢ Move the interaction fast.
1. Get the girls attention. Ask for directions or some sort of question, or even just say hi. You can even yell out
some random line like “Don’t do it!”
2. Once you get her attention, switch out of what you previously said.
3. Introduce yourself.
4. Shake her hand.
5. Chat a little bit and quickly determine the logistics.
❖ Once you have the logistics take on the killer instinct and try to go all the way.
➢ It may feel a little strange at times but just embrace it, exaggerate it and laugh at it. You can use it as material to
self-amuse.
➢ Stay in until you get real resistance, remember you are the first guy to go for it and the first to back off.
❖ Follow the same process. Open → POPO → amp up the buying temperature with hooking and vibing → go for instant
date “coffee” and keep vibing → baby-step the pull
➢ You can’t really go for the ‘after party’ during the day so Julien’s favorite go-to is ‘have coffee with me.’
➢ Just baby-step your way to your place or hers and say whatever you have to in order to get there. Remember “fuck
that, let’s do this instead.”
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4.1 Conclusion
❖ Everything in terms of cold approach pickup is laid out in the previous sections.
❖ The only way to become advanced is to get reference experiences.
❖ Step one moving forward: Do a 30-day challenge.
➢ For the next 30 days starting now you are going to go out and talk to women.
➢ That doesn’t mean go out 7 hours a night and burn yourself out. It means to go out a minimum of 30 minutes a day.
➢ There is no excuse you can’t do it 30 minutes a day. When you have more time on your days off go out for longer.
➢ Make this a habit and part of your life.
➢ If there is no urgency to get good, then you won’t.
❖ Step two: Realize there is no other way to get good at this.
➢ Learning it is not as tough as going out and doing it.
➢ No one is above the process.
➢ The only way to get good with women is to go out and do it.
➢ Nothing else will substitute going out and doing cold approach pickup.
➢ Most people want to stay who they are and don’t want to go against their emotions. It isn’t going to be easy and it
will suck at times, but that is the only way to grow.
➢ Your emotions are going to want to hold you back, but you have to go against them and act through the identity you
want to have.
➢ This type of right action taking will make you feel better than you ever have.
➢ There is no magic pill and no finish line. You will never master anything 100% but you can enjoy the journey trying
to master it.
➢ Look at yourself as enough now as long as you are trying to grow as a person.
➢ People who are really good with women are constantly positive and outgoing.
➢ Your actions will always make you feel better than the girl’s reaction.
➢ Keep reinforcing the new reality that you can go out and do this, you don’t need to buy into social conditioning.
Keep reinforcing to yourself that cold approach pickup is something normal.
➢ You can try to get wingmen who have similar goals as well and help reinforce your new reality. Do not depend on
him. 80% of the time go out with a wing, 20% go out alone.
➢ Watching videos online about pickup will help you reinforce the reality as well.
➢ Link the videos and pickup material to your reference experiences.
➢ When you go out, commit 100% and don’t waste your time.
➢ When you go out, write down your experiences and link it back to the content and theory.
➢ Every time you go out write down the 3 most memorable interactions. If you have trouble remembering things, train
yourself to be able to.
▪ Also write down 3 lessons you learned. This way you can learn where your sticking point is and work on it then
move onto the next sticking point.
➢ Assume it is going to happen, if you don’t slack off and you get references there is no way that you won’t get good.
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Appendices of Abbreviated Terms
❖ 4PS - 4 Pillars of Sex-worthiness
❖ SW – Sex-worthy
❖ TRT - Trying for rapport tonality
❖ BRT – Breaking rapport tonality
❖ M2W – Man to Woman
❖ FTF – Friend to Friend
❖ TOTN - Tempo of the Night
❖ DB – Download Bar
❖ POPO – Pressure on, Pressure off → commonly referred to for the 3 steps of pressure off in situations
❖ Plan A – Pull her or bring her to your place so you can have sex
❖ Plan B – Go to her place so you can have sex
❖ Plan C – Get her phone number so you can meet up later
❖ Day 2 – The second half of the interaction that should be as soon as possible because you couldn’t stay in set until close
❖ LMR – Last minute resistance
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