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Paul Sarsfield
City University -EGC 504
Spring 2018
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As I was completing my career in the military as a leader, I worked with dozens of young
Sailors and became counsel for their personal and professional struggles. Without studying any
theories, I based my counsel on what I had experienced and was taught coming up from an
educational family (my parents were both school teachers), from Boy Scouts and the military. I
simply analyzed what was going on, helped them break it down into a series of objective areas
and was then able to help the Sailors make sense of them. I never made choices for them but
allowed them to work through their questions or situations. I feel in today’s society, there are
countless numbers of academic, social and mental obstacles that students must overcome in
order to achieve and ultimately reach their full potential, as there are as adults. Most students
need to establish positive relationships with the adults and peers in the school environment in
order to overcome these obstacles and keep them from becoming inert and unable to move
forward with their lives. Bridging what I learned in the military, with the different theories we
are learning about, one type of therapy that clearly stood out to me that recognizes the need
for positive quality relationships in the educational environment is William Glasser’s reality
therapy.
Reality therapy is an approach that we can use to help people develop a true
understanding of who they are by analyzing their chosen behaviors in relation to their basic
needs and wants. "One of the core principles of reality therapy is that, whether people are
aware of it or not, they are always trying to meet these essential human needs. These needs
must all be balanced and met for a person to function most effectively. However, people don't
necessarily act effectively in achieving these goals. Socializing with others is one effective way
of meeting the need to belong. But how a person chooses to interact with and gain attention
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and love from others is most often at the root of their psychological dismay. (Wikipedia, 2018,
‘Approach’ paragraph). Thus, our behaviors are produced both consciously and unconsciously,
by our continuous attempts to fulfill our biological needs. It is an instinct that drives us ‘to live
in a way that will best satisfy one or more of these needs" (Glasser, 1990, p. 43). We can use
this technique to help students see this and, in turn, learn from themselves rather than being
In order to understand the core ideas of reality therapy, one must understand its
theoretical basis. The theoretical foundation of reality therapy is a concept known as choice
theory. Glasser states “Choice theory explains that, for all practical purposes, we choose
everything we do, including the misery we feel”. (Glasser, 1999, p 3). And from the time of birth
“our behavior is always our best attempt at the time to do what we believe will best satisfy one
or more of our needs”. (Glasser, 1990, p. 44). Utilizing this in a school setting, where time is
limited, we are not only allowing students to make their own choices, we are also teaching
These needs occur on different levels; the most basic need must be achieved first before
the individual can move on to higher levels and more complex needs. The first and most basic
need is survival; this need is characterized by the individual's need to fulfill the body's primary
needs in order to function. These include having food to eat, having shelter to sleep, and
clothing to protect oneself from the elements or to meet hygiene and social needs. The military
provided each member with a housing allowance and food stipends to ensure our core needs
were met. At the second level, is the ability to connect with other people so that an individual
feel as though they belong and are loved. This can occur in the biological family or in groups of
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people who are unrelated, which was a factor in the military we often utilized and made
trusting each other vital. The third is the need for power which may include the ability to learn
and achieve in one's surroundings. In doing so, the individual gains a sense of self-worth and
value. I strove to show the accomplishments of my younger Sailors, through verbal praise in
public, time off or awards for their achievements. The fourth need is freedom; this is where the
individual is able to distinguish themselves as separate and unique from other people and their
surrounding environment. In doing this, the individual has a sense of independence and self-
empowerment. With the most basic needs met, the individual is able to relax and let down
their guard so that they can engage in interactions and activities that they enjoy.
The basic human needs are fulfilled through behavior interactions with the individual's
surroundings. These interactions are initiated by behaviors that we choose to engage in order
to complete a task or communicate with another person. If an individual chooses behaviors that
effectively completes a task or communicates with another person, then most likely whatever
need they are focused on will be fulfilled. However, if an individual engages in behaviors that do
not effectively complete a task or communicate their desires, then the need will go unfulfilled.
According to Glasser, this is the reason why human beings encounter setbacks and obstacles,
which result in unhappiness and discontent. “Choice theory posits most mental illness is, in fact,
provides people with a way to define the causes of their unhappiness and discontent and
provides them with a paradigm for analyzing past behaviors =so that they are able to choose
present and future behaviors that will fulfill their needs and eliminate feelings of discontent
and unhappiness.
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Counselors need to apply the tenants of choice theory through the process of reality
therapy once the foundation of involvement is built. To engage in reality therapy, an individual
must first observe and evaluate their current behavior and its effectiveness in fulfilling their
needs. The student must “make a value judgment about his or her current behavior (which
presumably is not beneficial, otherwise the client may not have negative consequences from
behavior motivating enough to seek therapy)” (Glasser, 1984, as cited by Wikipedia, 2018,
Process: Evaluating current behavior paragraph). Once the student recognizes the ineffective
behaviors, they create a plan to exchange this behavior with an attainable goal. The student
then commits to the plan that they have created for themselves. In making this commitment,
the student agrees to follow through with carrying out the plan until they achieve the result
The major concepts of reality therapy include emphasizing choice and responsibility in
the student, rejecting transference, keeping the therapy in the present time and avoiding
focusing on symptoms (Corey, 2113, p 318-319). In emphasizing choice and responsibility, the
student is ultimately responsible for the choices they make. Concentrating on the choices
people have and the fact that they are responsible for their actions helps to empower the
individual. The student should come to the realization that choice and the responsibility to
choose gives them the power to create change and strive for the outcomes they are looking for.
Rejecting transference is the ability to maintain the student’s authentic definition and
understanding of themselves as an individual. If the student does not reject transference, "both
therapist and client avoid being who they are and owning what they are doing" (Corey, 2013, p.
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309). Thus, they are unable to engage in an effective counseling relationship that wills them to
examine the realities of their own personal situations and ultimately affect change in their lives.
Keeping the therapy in the present keeps our students from focusing on their past
actions and behaviors and forces them to focus on what they are doing now that may be
causing the breakdown of relationships in their lives. Glasser believes that “whatever mistakes
were made in the past are not pertinent now. We can only satisfy our needs in the present”.
(Corey, 2013, p. 309). Through focusing solely on the present, our students are able to meet the
needs that are going unfulfilled in their pasts. Thus, focusing on the past may not bring our
We, as counselors, and our students must avoid focusing on symptoms of problems and
discontent. Examining symptoms and problems are the result of behaviors, which must be
changed in order to avoid the symptoms. If our students are focusing on symptoms, they may
be “reluctant to accept the reality that their sufferings are due to the total behavior they are
choosing” (Corey, 2013, p. 309). With both of the therapy and theory used, we open our
students up to seeing the behavior as the root, and then recognizing how to change it, to move
forward.
In the application of reality therapy, we act as a facilitator and the support person. In
order to do this effectively, we must establish a healthy and effective relationship with our
students. This relationship will help to ease any fears or anxiety that our students may have in
sharing their inner feelings and experiences with us. It will also establish a line of
communication that allows our students to share and discuss painful and undesirable feelings
with us. This relationship also provides a way for us to connect with them and examine their
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needs so that we may help them aspire to a better existence and motivate change (Glasser,
1990, p. 40). It is imperative as a counselor to gain trust and spending time learning, listening
On a general level, we facilitate and oversee our students journey through the process
of reality therapy. We work to keep them focused on their present feelings and behaviors
rather than what they experience in the past and those factors that are beyond the control of
them. We also engage our students in examining the true effects of their behavior in order to
help them see the true effect of their actions that the student is trying to circumvent or cannot
see for themselves. We cannot chastise or blame them and will work to keep our students from
doing this as well. We support our students in creating an effective and feasible plan for
changing their behaviors. Most importantly, we must be patient and supportive towards our
students in allowing them to struggle with and draw their own conclusions about their
The main goal of reality therapy is to help our students improve their lives through
reflective analysis of their current life situation and behavior. There are a number of objectives
that care ensure our students can reach this ultimate goal. One of the most important
objectives is for them to connect or reconnect with people who can support them through the
therapy process and fulfill their needs (Corey, 2013, P 310). These individuals can help the
student in the ability to listen, provide more insight, and display appropriate behaviors in
situations that have been difficult for the student. Another important goal of this therapy and
theory is to aid our students in learning ‘better ways of fulfilling all of their needs’. (Corey,
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2013, p 310). Through the help and ideas of other people, students can expand their knowledge
of behaviors that can help them over through the process of change.
Reality therapy has a number of strong points in regard to its ability to effectively and
positively impact one’s life. First, this type of therapy works to empower the student to change
their lives for the better. Students do not have to have a counselor to tell them what is wrong;
they can learn the reality therapy process and makes choices that can their lives. Thus, the
control and power to change lies within the student. Second, students develop an awareness of
how their actions affect them and the people around them. IN doing this, they gain social
insight and are able to begin interpreting and navigating the realities of their social
environment that they may not have been able to see or recognize before. On a deeper level,
"the existence underpinnings of choice theory are a major strength of this approach. People are
not viewed as being hopelessly and helplessly depressed. Instead, people are viewed as doing
the best they can, or making the choices they hope will result in fulfilling their needs." (Corey,
2013, p 324).
Though reality therapy has a number of strong points that I saw used in the military, one
that was identified early on with working with therapists was also one that will be difficult in
the schools as well. “One of the main limitations of reality therapy is that it does not give
adequate emphasis to the role of these aspects of the counseling process: the unconscious and
the power of the past and the effect of traumatic experiences in early childhood” (Corey, 2013,
p 325). Reality therapy focuses on conscious experiences and behaviors and does not take into
account any effects the subconscious repressions from childhood experiences and traumatic
events may have on the individual. (Corey, 2013, p 325). Thus, there may be a whole other
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aspect of affecting the life of the individual that is not addressed in this therapy. Another
limitation is that the counseling experience can be compromised by the beliefs and agendas of
the counselor. If the counselor does not allow the student to feel through their feelings and
behaviors to find their own answers because they are pushing their agenda on the student, the
There are three key techniques that are vital to successfully implementing reality
therapy. The first technique is to develop a counseling environment and relationship that
allows our students to speak freely, examine their behaviors, and enact change in their lives. “It
is from this mildly confrontive yet always non-criticizing, non-blaming, non-complaining, caring
environment that students learn to create the satisfying environment that leads to successful
plan that addresses the behavior in our students need to change and how they will go about
changing these behaviors that are keeping people from achieving their needs. Role-playing can
be an effective technique that helps the student to explore and experience in an authentic
situation, how different behaviors can elicit a range of reactions from the people around them.
The act of role-playing helps our students to experiment with and examine new behaviors that
There is an old adage that claims if you can give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, but if
you teach him how to fish, he will eat forever. This is exactly what a great counseling program
strives for’ it provides our population with strategies that they can use to improve their
everyday lives. Effective counseling empowers the student to reflect on their own behaviors
and experiences so that they are able to make changes that will improve their situations.
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This therapy and its techniques are ideal for the school-counseling environment. The
structure of this process is straightforward and allows both us and our peers to work with
students and accomplish a plan to resolve behaviors in a relatively short period of time. It is not
considered a brief therapy though, as it does take time to build up the involvement. This will be
helpful in the fact that there is not enough time in the day to address the needs of every
student, but the shorter and more effective process, the more students a counselor can
address.
Reality therapy is ideal for high school counselors because it addresses the authentic
needs of the students. Today, there are a large number of students whose needs are not being
fulfilled at home and in the classroom. In theory, if teachers and administrators are able to
make “school a place that meets students’ basic needs” it will motivate students to strive for
success, which is the ultimate goal of schools across the nation (Greene & Uroff, 1989).
Reality therapy also helps people working and interacting in the school environment to
focus on what they are doing behaviorally. Focusing only on the problem is a major setback for
many people because doing this does not help establish an effective resolution and bring about
the changes needed to overcome this obstacle. In many cases focusing on the problem
perpetuates the situation and allows people to remain stagnant and unable to change their
situation.
perception, bodily feelings, emotion and behavior, in the present moment. This relationship is
highlighted, along with contact between the self, their environment and the other. Gestalt
focuses more on feelings, uses dreams and focused on making oneself into a whole person
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(incorporating all aspects of the self). This is a great approach, but in the school setting, there
just is not time to dive into this and we, as counselors, do not have the training to become
experts at it as well.
Reality therapy works to resolve any conflict resulting from a student’s inability to
control their anger or emotions, which often occur when working with teens. Through the use
of reality therapy, students can reflect on their behaviors and actions that may cause their
feelings of anger or range, which, ultimately, have affected their ability to truly connect with
the people in their environment. Through reflection on the student can identify how other
people reacted to the behaviors they displayed and how other behaviors might bring out the
reaction they really want from other people or the reaction that will get them closer to their
goal.
I encountered many scenarios like this, throughout my military career. Younger Sailors
who had conflicts with older Sailors, which happens across multiple generational gaps. In these
situations, the older Sailors had to take special care not to automatically assume that one party
is in the wrong. They had to keep in mind that the younger Sailors’ perceptions of their actions
and the reasons for the older Sailors actions could both be valid. Granted, this is not the
purpose of reality therapy, as the true goal is to aid each in reflecting on their relationships with
each other and examining why each may react to each other in this way.
As I became one of those older Sailors, I found more and more younger ones would
have behavior outbursts because they were not used to being personally confronted (as
compared to being confronted vis social media). I would always shift the conversation back on
them to what they really wanted or needed vs their complaint about something and let them
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work the situation out rather than telling them, which I now know was based on the reality
therapy and choice theory. Once I gave these options, many of the younger Sailors understood
the empathy piece of their behavior and were able to decode what they were frustrated about
and how to communicate. I started noticing this as a trend though and felt some kind of action
needed to be taken.
We (my peers) began designing a plan of action for our younger Sailors so that they
could effectively change their behavior and not fall back into negative or old behaviors.
Adjusting how they talked and acted on social media (without empathy or knowing the
reactions they were causing) and the willingness to take a step back, re-evaluate how they were
acting and then make positive choices in their communication, we found progress, albeit slow,
in how the Sailors acted overall. We gave them opportunities to make their choices, and simply
had discussions that they led to make the ultimate choices. This helped both sides learn more
about each other and for the younger ones to mature and come up with positive decisions. This
allowed both sides to be able to explore their quality world and allow them to generate areas of
relearning that were interfering with their attainment of that world. I really liked how it
worked, never knowing the theories or therapies behind it, and now will be able to bring that
into my role as an older counselor that has worked with 5 generations of people.
Reality therapy is an invaluable tool for us as counselors. It addresses the behaviors that
cause personal and social ills and helps the individual understand reasons why they choose
behaviors that are potentially destructive to themselves and other people. The understanding
of the motivation behind destructive behaviors through the exploration of the individual's
biological needs helps to clarify the origin and reason for behaviors that might otherwise be
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empowers the individual to understand themselves on a much deeper level. Thus, on a societal
level, reality therapy is an effective strategy that teaches people how to cope with issues and
problems they encounter daily. And, on a personal level, seeks to help the individual develop an
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