God’s For-BEAR-ance With Bullies

BY PATRICIA BACKORA
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Freely ye have received, freely give (Matt. 10::8)

BURNING BEAR
Painting by Patricia Backora

God will come against the wicked like a bear robbed of her cubs (Hos.13:8)

Armed with the Word of God, Patricia Backora comforts the oppressed and
beats satan’s butt all the way to hell.
 FIRST THE BAD NEWS:

Where two or more bullies are gathered together in satan’s name

to raise hell, there will satan be in the midst of them (flip side of Matt. 18:20).

NOW FOR THE GOOD NEWS:

Jesus Christ Came:

TO SET AT LIBERTY THOSE WHO ARE BRUISED (Luke 4:18)

Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the
power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you (Luke 10:19).

Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief (Luke 9:24).

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FOREWORD

I’ve walked with God long enough to discover that there are seldom snap solutions to
deeply-entrenched problems. God’s remedies are not like instant oatmeal. But they
always work.

This book is full of Scripture references. Scripture brought to life by the Spirit of God
is the best medicine for the wounded soul. We are told in Proverbs 4:22 that God’s
Word imparts life and health even to the body of those one who receives it in faith.
So please meditate upon these Scriptures at your leisure to derive maximum benefit
from my message. All quotations are taken from the King James Version of the
Bible. This is my version of choice, because I believe it more accurately portrays the
true intent of the ancient writers, and has not been biased by today’s popular
“political correctness”. A few archaic words have been paraphrased for the benefit of
those unused to this version. I have spent years in intensive study of the Word of
God, assisted by the ever-present Holy Spirit. He has given me a strong desire to
learn more about the fathomless Love of God.

Most of you would not be reading this book now if you were not being affected by
bullying, either directly or indirectly. My heart goes out to you. I’ve been there.

There has been much publicity about bullying here in the United Kingdom. I
experienced it where I grew up in America. Hatred knows no national boundaries.
At present, the whole world lies in wickedness (I John 5:19).

What is a bully? I believe he is a self-destructive sinner utterly incapable of genuine

love. He projects himself as the god of his own turf, but harbors subconscious
insecurities about himself; thus feeling the need to degrade others in order to avoid
sinking to the bottom of the societal heap.

Ironically, I was spurred on to seek God’s answers by the very one who had incited
bullies to harass me: none other than the devil himself. He kept on dredging up
memories of all those cruel bullies, just to torment me. Finally I said, “I’ve had
enough! Lord, make all this backfire on satan. Make him wish he’d never gone out
of his way to make an enemy out of me.” Then the Lord showed me it was time to
tell my story, and to share all the secrets of victory I’ve learned as a Christian
survivor of bullying.

I’ve always said, “The Lord gives the devil just enough rope to hang himself with.”

I am a spiritual freedom fighter, a rebel against satan’s status quo. Where it concerns
fighting the devil and his evil works, I’ve taken off my gloves. My words are not
always “nice”, but they are true, and they are necessary. Even bullies need to be
reached with the Love of God, but sometimes love must be firm. Jonathan Edwards,
an early American fire-and-brimstone preacher, saved more souls by scaring them
into heaven with God’s unspin-doctored truth than he could have saved by following
the politically correct route: gift-wrapping the Gospel in syrupy, no-strings-attached
“love” and glossing over God’s warning of eternal damnation upon unrepentant
sinners.

This book is very comprehensive. It details the devastating spiritual and emotional
damage I suffered from bullying, which was aggravated by observing the lives of
hypocritical nominal churchgoers. I expose the heart of the typical bully, and his
motives for wanting to hurt you. Most importantly, I reveal how to secure God’s
help, place yourself under His continual protection, and remain there. If only I’d
had access to these precious truths back in the 60’s, I could have lived under the
shelter of the Almighty (Psalms 91:1) rather than under the dark cloud of demonic
oppression.

I’m going to forewarn you: Don’t waste time reading my book if you’re not tough
enough to take the truth! I do not pander to political correctness. I answer only to
God and His Word. This book is not for the faint-hearted. I’m not a sour lemon
Christian. I love laughter and humor. I wish I could smile all the time because it
feels better than getting mad. Other things I’ve enjoyed writing because some
topics can be addressed from a light-hearted perspective. But bullying is different.
It is a foretaste of the torments of hell, a place where all hope is forever abandoned.
This project was so serious it took dogged dedication to tackle it. How could it be
otherwise when the subject matter is so grim? I was only able to soldier on with this
project because the Presence and power of the Lord was there to make my heart
bright with hope. And, admittedly, my anger against this problem helped keep me
motivated. Most kids will banter with each other and engage in light teasing from
time to time. But mean, premeditated abuse of another human being isn’t a kiddie
game. There’s nothing good that can be salvaged out of bullying. Bullying is a
profoundly destructive, damnable crime against humanity, done in the same spirit as
those awful crimes committed against vulnerable souls in Nazi Germany. The same
spirit of satan which incites murders and torture is also behind bullying.

This book is not for pantywaists who cringe from the dirt of the battlefield. It offers
comfort and joy and peace in Christ, but it is not for those looking for a soothing,
flowery devotional to help them nod off to sleep. It’s a spiritual combat manual for
those who aren’t going to be kicked around by satan any longer! I might be a
woman, but the women of God don’t get a deferment from the war against the devil
just because of their gender. I talk tough. I pull no punches about my own bullying
experience or the anger with which I attack this social evil. So if you think it’s a sin
to get mad about sin you’d better just go read some other book. I took my gloves
off a long time ago.

May you truly encounter God as you read this book. God bless you.
Patricia Backora

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OPEN LETTER TO WORMWOOD HIGH

(And Every Other Breeding Ground for Bullies!)

Wormwood High (You’re bitter like wormwood, as in Amos 5:7 and Rev. 8:10-11)
666 Lucifer Lane (Bullies are anti-love and anti-Christ)
Hometown, U.S.A. 00000 (Wimpy, worthless schools everywhere add up to a big
zero!)

Wormwood High (You are NOT dear to me!!!):

Forty-odd years ago I was too scared and downtrodden to whimper a protest, but
I’m not gonna leave this earth till I speak my piece. So here goes: “I’m hacked off at
you!”

You profess to be a fully accredited high school, teaching students a well-rounded

curriculum. How about adding Common Courtesy 101? Maybe you can’t, because of
severe underfunding. For all I know, you might be bankrupt financially as well as
morally.

True to my expectation, you issued me no apology in response to my letter. I’d

thought that after nearly half a century, you’d be surprised to get a long-overdue
complaint about the apathy you demonstrated toward all the abuse I received at
YOUR School of Hard knocks!

I wish I could travel back in time and preach that wimpy school principal a good,
scorching sermon about his CRIMINAL NEGLECT in failing to curb bullying at his
school. He said the violence I suffered on the bus “wasn’t their problem” because it
occurred “off school grounds”. Well, I wouldn’t have been on that blasted bus to
begin with if I hadn’t had to go to YOUR school! There was not one iota of
compassion or human empathy shown by that spineless wormy excuse for a human
being!

The worst of the (physical) bullying happened on the bus, but the weapon used was
made at YOUR school!!! Butch made his club in YOUR woodworking class, a class
funded by the government, like all the other cl(asses) at your nitwit school. I should
have SUED the pants off Wormwood High for the teachers’ failure to ask why a
mean-looking roughneck kid was carving a big club under his instruction, and on
school grounds. In principle, that’s no different from allowing kids to build
homemade guns to threaten other kids with. Butch probably got an “A” for that
project because the teacher couldn’t see past the end of his pointy nose and thought
Butch was inventing a new type of bowling pin.

This was your school’s comprehensive anti-bullying policy: Just ignore the weak
whimpers made by that whiny victim of bullying and maybe she’ll just slink away and
quit demanding justice! Don’t try to change the foul atmosphere here, because, as
Darwin said, it’s the survival of the fittest and the rejects at the bottom of the heap
can just go to hell! Just pass the buck and don’t make waves! I was given
absolutely NO counseling on how to get legal help to fight the bullies on the bus. No
skin off the principal’s nose that my basic human rights were DAILY being violated
and my spirit crushed by beasts on the school bus and cruel bullies AT school! I wish
I’d had the know-how and the clout to sue the bus company that took no action
against the monster who hit me with that club and threatened me with other
weapons. But back then, I was just a kid, broken in spirit, who didn’t even know
HOW to complain!

Well, now I DO know how to complain! It’s spelled S-C-R-E-A-M! Soft-spoken, gentle
people get nowhere in this shark pool of a world! Victims gain nothing but more pain
by turning the other cheek to soggy spitballs over and over and over again. Those
whose human rights have been trampled upon must make all the noise they can! I
have dedicated the rest of my life to waging war against the works of satan, and that
includes bullying!

I just found out that American schools are getting tougher with bullying. When
serious fights erupt or kids are threatened with violence, the cops are called. That
just shows that you can only hide a rotting problem under a rug for so long before its
putrid stench drives you to do something to solve it. Too bad the cops didn’t keep
order in schools (and on buses) when I was going to school! In Biology class the only
seat available faced the front, with two enemies behind my back. One day, after I
set my books down and before I was seated, they fired a fat pencil into a heavy book
so hard that it tore through it with great force. What if I’d been sitting down, or if it
had gone into my body? Think about it. Not to mention all the tacks those two sadist
creeps put in my chair.

You’re too cowardly to email or write me back. Maybe the head honchos who ran
Wormwood High in 1968 have retired or gone to that big teachers’ lounge in the sky,
but an old wrong has never been righted. I was publicly humiliated and a public
apology should have been made to me.. My theory is logical enough: You’re scared
witless that if I hear from you we’ll sue. But what could I gain by suing you? As I
said before, you possess absolutely nothing of value, materially or spiritually. I know
compensation is due me for the unjust suffering I was subjected to, but I might as
well squeeze blood out of the proverbial turnip!

I was a person who enjoyed learning, but I was forced to quit because my shredded
nerves could take no more. The very spirit of Wormwood High is repugnant to me. I
wouldn’t pay two cents for one of your dummy diplomas. To put it delicately, I
wouldn’t even use it for toilet paper. If one were to arrive in the mail from you
tomorrow, I would just toss it in the trash! Just be glad that I don’t name and shame
personal enemies in my writings.

I have to laugh when I remember the pride your school took in its “honors societies”.
What a sick joke! To me, your school was an outpost of hell, presided over by a
powderpuff principal too chicken to get tough with the pond scum trash that came to
school just to stir up trouble. You condoned criminals by looking the other way.

Even now, four decades later, you’re still as spineless as ever. You have made it
quite clear that you possess neither honor nor decency. Jesus calls things what they
are, and so do I. Jesus called evil people swine, snakes, fools and dogs. Bullies are
all four of these things. Any school which tolerates bullying and denies victims their
right to learn in peace is an abomination to a God of Love. I never want to see
Wormwood High again!
Schools never do learn, do they? Bullying ain’t kid stuff! It’s a HATE CRIME and a
VIOLATION OF BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS AND CIVIL LIBERTIES!! My civil rights were
trampled upon at YOUR school! Talk about life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness!
Bullies at YOUR school robbed me of the right to learn and work in peace. The bully
robs his victim of the ability to reach his or her fullest potential as a human being.
The bully deprives his victim of the liberty to walk the halls or ride the school bus
without fear of molestation. Bullies robbed me of the pursuit of happiness, by
destroying my ability to even BE happy. Daily bullies threatened my well-being.
They snuffed out the vitality of my soul, reducing my life to mere existence.
Memories of bullying caused me years of flashbacks and nightmares.

I’ll close on a word of wisdom: If you sow seeds of evil, they grow, even if you
repent later. America, along with many other countries, is reaping a bitter harvest in
its public schools for its earlier refusal to enforce minimal standards of discipline of
unruly students. Even your teachers tremble in fear of actual physical violence from
the offspring of those who were treated leniently (or ignored altogether) when they
were young. Armed guards patrol the corridors of America’s public schools, thanks
to the yawning indifference of school administrators and legal catch-22’s which grant
underage hellions immunity from punishment that fits the crime.

Gone is the day when bullying was done on the sly, and only a few unfortunate
students were ever subjected to it. Now the bullies are even boldly attacking
authority figures, who for many years said by standing idly by and looking the other
way: I couldn’t care less!

Patricia Backora

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GLOSSARY OF TERMINOLOGY

1. TOP DOG- The most emulated, feared, and exalted member of a societal clique.
He/she dictates the ideologies of the entire group, and will tolerate no dissenters.

2. LEADER OF THE PACK-The group member possessing the power to hold all others
under his sway. His underlings readily discard all moral scruples in order to follow
him in his dirty deeds.

3. CULT OF COOL- The self-obsessed, exclusive, slavishly conforming “in crowd”,

when considered as a quasi-religious group whose members dare not buck the
prevailing trends.

4. DESIGNATED TARGET-A bullying victim who is deliberately chosen from the very
beginning to bear the brunt of abuse from the bully or hostile clique.

5. SCAPEGOAT-The victim, viewed as a dumping ground for the gang’s pent-up

hostilities.

6. BULLY WITHDRAWAL SYNDROME-That restless urge to resume the cycle of

abuse, once the bully has been compelled to stop.
7. DOMINANT BULLY- The mastermind behind the other bullies in the pack.
Characteristically the most vicious, he calls all the shots, and is feared and deferred
to by his underlings.

8. SUBORDINATE BULLY- Usually a cowering “yes-man” who repudiates all his own
true convictions in order to gratify the whims of his despotic master. Fears to cross
him.

9. PASSIVE BULLYING-Non-aggressive co-operation with abusers of victim. Usually

a deliberate withholding of friendliness, coldness toward victim, or silent treatment.
Often motivated by fear of not conforming to the will of one’s peer group, and, thus,
risking rejection as an outcast.

10. BABYLON- The world commerce system, as controlled by money-driven multi-

national corporations which employ even societally destructive means to increase
their immense wealth.
Its credo: He who controls the wealth controls the people.
Named for the corrupt, wealth-obsessed city described and destroyed in Revelation
chapter 18.

11. TERMINAL BULLYING- Any type of bullying which inflicts fatal injury or drives its
victim to suicide.

12. SALVATION-The cleansing and bringing to life of a soul dead in sins. This is
received through repentance toward God, and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, Who
paid for our sins with His own precious Blood, shed for us on the Cross of Calvary.

13. BAPTISM OF THE HOLY SPIRIT-God’s second Work of Grace, whereby a

believer’s innermost being is filled to overflowing with His Presence. A believer is
equipped by this wonderful experience to more effectively wage spiritual warfare
against satan, and can more readily discern the Mind of Christ, Who gives
supernatural guidance and wisdom to meet the need of the hour.

14. VANISHING PRINCESS-An image-obsessed woman who feels morally bound to

continually strive for an ever-lower weight, regardless of detrimental consequences
to her own health. She never feels thin enough to stop dieting. Thinks her own self-
worth increases as weight decreases. This syndrome often stems from fear of losing
a lover to thinner women. It constitutes a desperate attempt to shore up an ego
battered by media images which oppress women.

15. THE ESTABLISHMENT-That largely invisible system which predetermines the

moral drift of society, and orchestrates its mores and trends, in order to promote the
interests of Babylon, its overlord.