6 Osklander that their expression of anger is unacceptable, they will generally attempt to suppress expressing anger. Children attempt to determine how to be in the world to ensure that their needs, such as acceptance and approval, are met. However, the organism strives for equilibrium and health. And so the expression of anger, this expression of self that has been frustrated and thwarted, pushes on to become something else—something beyond children’s awareness and control. One child retroflects the anger energy by giving himself headaches, stomach aches, generally withdrawing, not speaking, or manifesting other self-inflicting symptoms, Another child will deflect her inner feelings by hitting, kicking, striking out. Some children become hyperactive as a way to avoid feeling anything, Others anesthetize themselves and “space out.” These are only a few of the behaviors and symptoms that mask fearful authentic expressions. These behaviors and symptoms, the very ‘ones that bring children into therapy, are actually children’s fierce attempts to cope and survive in this stressful world and the organism's striving for homeostasis—a sense of balance and peacefulness, CONTACT AND RESISTANCE Contact signifies the ability to be fully present in a particular situation with all the aspects of the organism vital and available, Healthy contact involves the use of the senses (looking, listening, touching, tasting, smelling), awareness and appropriate use of aspects of the body, the ability to express emotions healthfully, and the use of the intellect in its various forms, as learning, expressing ideas, thoughts, curiosities, wants, needs, and resentments. When any one of these modalities is inhibited, restricted, or blocked, good contact suffers. Fragmentation rather than integration occurs, and children’s sense of self is compromised. Children who have troubles, who are grieving, worried, anxious, frightened, or angry, will armor and restrict themselves, pull ‘themselves in, inhibit themselves, and block healthful expression, Healthy contact involves a feeling of security with oneself, a fearlessness of contact almost impossible. The therapist expects some resistance and recognizes it as a child's ally and is respectful of the resistance. As the child begins to feel safe in the sessions, the resistance