Travelling from the city to rural areas, I was awed by beautiful landscapes, stunning architecture and a sense of balance and symmetry that blew me away, but what brought me back to Japan to stay was the hospitality, grace and etiquette I experienced from Japanese people while I was travelling through different prefectures. After my initial exploration and subsequent decision to stay, I decided to dig a little deeper into Japanese culture. What is behind the mysterious calm, composure and sense of peace that can be seen in Japanese society? Why does etiquette and manners play such an important role in this society? The roots and foundations of any modern-day culture can be traced back through the centuries. Buddhist and Shinto beliefs were introduced to Japan from Korea and China in the mid 500’s and by the early 1000’s the Japanese Samurai Warrior class had taken Zen Buddhism and introduced the concepts, beliefs and practices of the religion bringing a strict code of conduct that was incorporated into everyday life. The idea of being at one with nature and ‘Wa’ meaning harmony are important principles behind Buddhism and the way in which people interacted with each other during that era supported positive relationships in order to maintain peace and harmony. In a hierarchical society where every action was observed and, in some cases, could mean life or death if the established code of conduct was ignored- etiquette became a foundation of that society. Fast forward a few thousand years and we can see that much of Japan’s modern day attitudes, behaviour and etiquette come from a sense of harmony, belonging, community and family which has its roots in religious practices that continue to have an influence on modern day society. In his book, Cultural Code Words, Boye Lafette De Mente refers to Japanese etiquette in a chapter called Akanukeshita which means to make clean or what is left after dirt has been removed. Lafette De Mente argues that traditional etiquette has gone too far in Japanese culture, divorcing itself from ‘moral or humane’ feeling with etiquette and manner replacing morality. Whilst this is an interesting – if not cynical perspective, the idea that etiquette and grace in Japan is a ‘façade’ or a cover that masks underlying tensions, may be a very western way of seeing things. Western culture, in the main promotes and encourages people to speak up, or say what is on one’s mind. It is less service orientated and geared towards individuality. Even in western culture, there are still varying degrees as to what is acceptable within this, but overall westerners are more individualistic. Whilst being conscious to avoid stereotypes, I would say that Americans are viewed as being confident speakers and take a more direct approach in their interactions. I am from the UK and whilst many people believe that British people are more refined in their conduct and interactions in comparison to Americans, our everyday exchanges and the way we conduct ourselves in comparison to Japanese culture is more direct and less service orientated. Western culture is individualistic and Asian culture more collectivist which focusses on community and family, so etiquette may not be a façade, but a way of keeping peace and respecting other people. The point is that from a western perspective, there are some that view Japanese culture as being suppressive and there are even arguments that the strict observance of etiquette and manners is in some way is contrary to human instinct, but surely as humans our objective as a collective race is to refine and move beyond our base instincts to something higher. Etiquette and manners sets a foundation based on acknowledging the feelings of others which is then reciprocated, keeping society functioning well and the people living in that society happy and peaceful. Japan’s service industry is unrivalled. Many tourists who visit Japan note that the service they receive goes above and beyond anything they experience at home. I think that it would be a mistake to define ‘service’ in Japan in the same way as westerners do. Service in Japan goes beyond the exchange of money or a business transaction, it’s a way of ‘being’ that influences everyday life. There are always 2 sides to every culture. Whilst the ritualistic and what some would view highly formalised way in which Japanese society operates may be viewed as containment or lack of free expression, individuality can take on many forms within a collective culture. From personal experience, I have been moved by many acts of simple kindness, whether someone has taken the time to help me understand something, shown me the way, or offered assistance with no expectation of anything in return. A gentle smile and nod is a small act, but has a big impact. I remain fascinated by Japanese etiquette and in some ways, it has shown me the importance that manners and etiquette have. We underestimate how small things can influence the way a group of people behave and how a society operates and the simplicity of etiquette, coming from philosophical and religious roots has played an important role in modern Japan. Whilst I can acknowledge that, as in all cultures, I may meet people who say one thing and mean something else, does it really matter?
Further reading http://academic.mu.edu/meissnerd/shinto.html Japan’s Cultural Code Words – 233 Key Terms that explain the attitude and behaviour of the Japanese Author Boye Lafette De Mente