Breaking Up: Teenagers in Love

A very good morning I bid to the honorable and fair judges, fellow teachers and friends. Hi. My
name is Saiyidatul Fatini Binti Kamaruzzaman and I am a proud student of class 6____?. The topic that I
would like to talk about today is ‘Breaking Up: Teenagers in Love”. Yes, we will talk about us teenagers,
who fall in love. We will go into how breaking up could affect us, and we will also look upon on how you
should handle your relationship better.

Why I choose this topic? Simple, we, as the teenagers; do fall in love at this age. Some of us here
even have experiencing a breaking up once, and some might experience it many times before! There is no
need to feel shock and I believe every one of us here agrees that breaking up is such a hurtful and
devastating experience. Everyone hates breaking up, right? It is actually a normal thing for young people
like us to undergo such experience. The difference is that, some of us may learn from the failure but some
may not, leading them in facing a very bad depression in their life. Without further ado, let me share with
you my intellectual opinion about this matter. I hope after these 5 minutes of speech, every one of you
could learn a new meaningful lesson about this love issue.

Members of the floor,

Be it boy or be it girl, breaking up does give negative impacts to all teenagers’ life. Moore et al.
(2012) stated that among a large sample of young people in their early twenties in Australia and Hong
Kong, 80 percent had experienced a break-up. I repeat, 80 percent. Hence, the probability of young
teenagers like us to have breaking up is very high. Several studies that I read also have shown romantic
break-ups associated with depression. You find it hard to believe, do you? Well, now I would like to share a
status that I found in the Facebook last night. For your information, she is a young teenager like us, who
had just facing a breaking up with her partner.

“I’m writing this because this is the only way I can REPAIR MYSELF. This is my way of mending
WOUNDS you left; my way of filling the empty holes that are slowly consuming me because the PAIN has
to stop somehow. Do you still remember? How fearful I was to get attached to you? I think that was our first
argument. I was so scared to have something so beautiful, that suddenly, I have something to lose. And
then, the inevitable came. I LOST THE ONE THING I WANTED THE MOST- I LOST YOU”. (fatini baca ni
dengan nada dramatik and sedih macam org tengah breakup ;D )

Ouch, it was so terrifying, and so pitiful. This is reality, my friend. It is actually happening around
us. Based on what she had written, we can conclude that this pity girl is experiencing a devastating stage
in her life right now. From her words, we can sense that she feels hurt, helpless, betrayed, abandoned and
rejected. Do you want the same thing happening to you? No! And how we should cope if we are facing the
same experience? Okay, listen carefully!

Ladies and Gentleman,

First of all, preventing is better than curing. The first stage in relationship is to choose the best
partner for you. Studies shows that people who take serious demand when choosing partner, experience
a better love relationship, and end up happier than people who don’t. Thus, do not rush into choosing your
partners. For me, wiser teenagers have their own ways of choosing their love ones. Beauty, fame, and
wealth do not guarantee a success in any love relationship. Sincerity, acceptance and tolerance do. It
means that the chosen partner is willing to accept all your limitations, and always find the best way to
maintain happiness in your relationship. Another thing is readiness. You are ready to enter a relationship
when you are ready to face any bad impacts of the relationship that will surely affect your life. Yes, love
does have fight, commitment, arguments, disagreements, but if you are willing to pass through all this, then
you are ready to have a matured relationship.

Secondly, once you are into a relationship, do not get too attach with your partner. It means that
do not set your hopes too high. Some of you might want an everlasting happiness in your love story,
without assuming what will happen if your partner does something that go against your expectation. Believe
me; you eventually end up heart-broken. Then, you must set a borderline between yourself and your
partner. My simple advice is to do not give everything you have to your partner until he or she become your
husband and wife. You give more, you disappoint more. You give less, you disappoint less. Keep your
relationship simple and easy until you get married. Don’t expect too much from your partners. Control your
feelings and emotions.

Members of the floor,

Thirdly, you can seek help from your family and friends if you are having a problem in your
relationship. Do not keep the entire problem by yourself. It will eventually become a heavy burden for
your chest to handle. Lift the burden away from your chest by expressing your feelings and emotions to
some else. I promise you will feel better after that. However, in some cases, some of us may go blindly in
love. We tend to put too much importance to our lover, ending up cutting our relationship with families and
friends. We lost our families and friends due to this? This is wrong! You must remember this carefully. Our
families and friends are actually the one who always be there for you every time, so learn to appreciate
them more when you are in love. Some teenagers that appreciate her friends and family better will less
likely to feel devastated when they are breaking up. This is because they know they have their friends and
family who always ready to help them in healing their wound, thus, the breaking up’s impact is less hurtful.
They know you better as a person, so they would know how to deal with your love issue.

In the nutshell, despite of the ‘breaking up’ things that I had share, having one of those experiences
may actually promote maturity in growth, boosting your confidence, and give a healthy lesson that teach
young people on how to handle their relationship better in the future. We do experience emotions of first
love, the embarrassing things we did and the mistakes we made. However, mistake will forever be a
mistake unless you are learning from it. So, we must always stay strong and never give up in our life. Yes,
failing in your love relationship knock you down badly, but always remember, there is always a silver lining
in every cloud. It means that when you face a dead end in your relationship, you should climb to the top
and keep going on with your life. There is always a better person out there, and I am sure you will finally
found your true love in the future. Always put your faith with God because everything is arranged by Him.
With that, I end my speech. Thank you.