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Presented by David Tian, Ph.D., and Aura Transformation

https://www.auratransformation.org/
Overview

Attraction in Brief

Humour in Conversation

Connecting in Conversation

Attraction in Conversation

Authentic Expression of an Attractive Identity

ATTRACTION
Attraction is a Feeling

Often unconscious

Danger of conversation is that it’s verbal

The verbal is processed in the Prefrontal Cortex

Whereas attraction occurs in the other parts of the

brain (unconscious, emotional response)
Attraction from Conversation

Emotions over Logic

Watch what she says, NOT what she does

Be Opinionated (“Live in your reality”)

Be Interested

Be Gone
Here Are Some Quick Wins
Humour: NEVER take yourself too seriously. Be ready to laugh at yourself.

Agree and Joke: “Yes And…”

Positive Misinterpretation

Pink Elephant

Drop and Go. Reversal.

Future Projections (calibrate with takeaways)

Role Playing (husband-wife, exes, boss-secretary, etc.)

Best to a 3rd party

Train Your Spontaneity

Stream of Consciousness exercises

Notice “what everyone else is thinking and feeling but is

not saying out loud”

Say “what everyone else is thinking and feeling but is

not saying out loud”

CALIBRATION
True Social Freedom

The more POWERFUL you are, the more SOCIALLY

FREE you are

Power is the strongest attraction trigger to women

It is in the best interests of the top 1% to keep the

bottom 99% socially shackled and hence, powerless
Social Freedom Reflection
Reflect on the areas and times in your life when you’re NOT
socially free

Brainstorm and list those down with specific examples.

(Note: Whatever you’ve written is not enough. Keep forcing
yourself to write until the time is up.)

Go through your list and analyse whether each item is

rational

Observe your level of Social Freedom as you go about your

daily life
Conversation Techniques

Opening

Investment

Threading

Screening & Qualifying

Frames
Openers

Situational

Default Openers

Dramatic Direct

Implicit Direct
What REALLY Opens

Mindset

Intent

Value Exchange

Making other people’s lives better

Right After the Opener…

You need her to INVEST

Cost-Worth Connection

What happens if you don’t let her Invest

Conversation Structure
Basic Structure

Your Question/Statement

Her Response

Your Response to Her Response

PAUSE (hold the tension, feel the vacuum)

She Reinitiates
Conversation Hook Point

Minimum Investment Required for Key Escalations

What happens if you don’t Pause

The more she talks, the better (increase her

Investment)
Screening & Qualifying
Basic technique that mimics naturally attractive conversation patterns

Done effectively:

Increases Investment

Demonstrates Value

Creates Believability

High status people do this naturally, ALL THE TIME

Habituate yourself to THINK this way and talk this way as a default
conversational style
Screening
BE INTERESTED

Be Open-Minded, Humble, Ready to Learn From Others

Requires an Attractive Identity (more on that later)

Not an Interrogation or Interview

Be Casual About It. Start Small and Build.

Real vs. False

Screen with your Non-Verbals (more on that later)

Focus on Non-Physical
Screening Groundwork

Brainstorm 5 non-physical traits of your Ideal Woman

Brainstorm 5 non-physical traits characterising you

Brainstorm 5 topics you are knowledgeable about and

enjoy talking about

Circle items on more than one of those lists

Stock Screens
“I like X.”

“Being X is really important to me. It’s something I really like

about so-and-so friend.”

“All my friends are X. Hmm, you seem X. Am I right?”

“You strike me as an X person. You’re X, aren’t you?”

“I can tell you’re really X. But are you Y, as well?”

“Are you more X or Y? You’re not Y, right?”

Allow Her To Open Up

Make room for Investment

“Why”

“How did it feel to [xyz]?”

Sprinkle in Humour
Qualification

Need to Qualify to lock in your Value and Believability

gains

Use the word “friend” in your qualification

Qualify with your Non-Verbals (more on that later)

Stock Qualifications
“I like how you’re so X.”

“Wow, you really are X. I like that about you.”

“Wow, you’re so X. Cool.”

“You’re so X. I love it.”

“Ok, ok, you’re X. You can be my friend now.”

“I love having such an X friend.”

“Man, you ARE X. It’s great to be friends with you.”

“Geez, you’re just like my friend, Jennifer.”

“You remind me a lot of my friends. You’re so X, too!”

Qualification as Technique

Calibrate using Takeaways (“Too bad you’re such an

X”)

Always reward the effort

Advanced: Variable Reinforcement

Dolphins and Slot Machines

Transitioning from Opener
Observational

“You seem…”

“That’s a…”

Backstory

“I just got back from…”

Tacit
Threading
How to continue conversations forever

How to control the conversations to go wherever you want them to

Good vs. Bad Threads

Logical/Rational vs. Emotions/Feelings

Good: Any authentic expression of your personality, thoughts, opinions,

passions, preferences, etc.

Threads: Words, Phrases, Themes

Thread Amplification

Thread Reversal
Framing
Frame: The interpretive assumptions underlying an interaction

“Own the Frame, Win the Game”

Everyone uses Frames, whether they like it or not

Every social encounter brings different Frames together

Conflicting Frames do not coexist in the same time and place for
long. They crash into each other, and one of the gains control

Only one Frame survives. The others break and are absorbed.
Stronger frames always absorb weaker frames.
Typical Flirting Frames

Her: “I’m the prize.”

Her: “I’m of higher value. You’re of lower value.”

Her: “You have to win me over.”

Her: “You are supplicating to me.”

Her: “You should try harder.”

Optimal Flirting Frames
“It’s always on. She wants me.”

“I can make a girl’s dreams come true.”

“I can make hot women wet.”

“I don’t ever need permission to talk to anyone.”

“Everything I say is great, and everything is going according

to plan.”

“I discover her boundaries; I don’t prejudge them for her.”

Natural Attraction Frames
“You’re good-looking, but looks aren’t everything. What else
do you have going for you?”

“I like meeting new, interesting people. It’s something I do all

the time because I’m a social person, which makes the world
a happier place.”

“People want to hear my ideas.”

“I’m equally important to the people I look up to.”

“Once she gets to know me, she’ll love me.”

From Platonic to Sexual
Platonic -> Personal

From objective, external “thing”… to personal topics

about “you” and “me”

Moving to “we”

Personal ->Sexual

Sexual qualifications (Not only are you [sexy], but

you’re X, too)
Talking About SEX
Education

Health and Medical

Experience

Conversations about sexual topics

Clinical

Personal opinions and experiences (“Is there one guy you’d break all your rules
with?” Good vs. Exciting)

Threading to Sex

Pink Elephants
Plausible Deniability
NEW Pink Elephant

“Just kidding”

Dual Channel Obfuscation Escalation

Blame-it-on-her Escalation

Verbal vs. Physical

“Behind the back”

Energy and Vibe
James Bond Laconic Vibe

High Energy Vibe

Bring the Fun. You’re the Party.

Facial Expressiveness. Body Language. Eye Contact. Tonality.

Roll with the Mistakes

Overpower your socially programmed self-censoring

Biochemical

Sleep. Meditation. Diet. Exercise.

Boldness

Boldness in Conversation: “I say out loud what

everybody else is too afraid or inhibited to say.”

Err on the side of Decisive Action

Boldness in everything
Deep Connections

Sharing Secrets

Childhood Regression

Shared Adrenaline Rush

Singapore Specific
Conversation Strategies
TRAVEL! Get out of your socially programmed comfort zone!

“Talk cock”

Language Skills

Vocabulary

Word Smart series, etc.

Read

Listen to great speeches

Public Speaking, Toastmasters

Acting Studios and Classes

Improv Comedy
Identity
“Game”: Authentic Expression of an Attractive Identity

Have women loving you for WHO YOU ARE

Be INTERESTING

Leadership, Assertiveness, Easygoing, Adventurous, Sexual

Self-Esteem

Self Acceptance

Self-Efficacy

Long-Term Progress

Dream Big!

Visualizations and Affirmations

Conversation Vortex
Reloaded
Authentic Expression of an Attractive Identity

Humour, Connection, Attraction in Conversation

Opening. Transitioning. Threading. Screening & Qualifying

Frames

Energy, Vibe, Boldness

Identity

Next step: APPLICATION