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Bailey Stephenson
UWRT 1104
In high school, I met my best friends in theatre. There were five of us. We were called the
Fab Five. All five of us were inseparable. In this group was Sabrina. Sabrina was a 17-year-old
bubbly, goofy, amazing, weird person. She was the type of person that when she walked into a
room, she brightened it. Sabrina worked at Golden Carrol; we all hated the food, but she loved it
and seemed to always bring us some of it. She was the type of person that didn’t care about what
people thought of her. She was just her goofy self all the time. Sabrina had always struggled with
her mental health but from what I knew she was going to see a therapist to help. The start of
senior year, we were so excited for everything that was supposed to happen that year. Prom, the
musical, our theatre competition, graduation. This was going to be the best year of our lives, and
The beginning of October, we all get a text from Sabrina’s mother saying that Sabrina
had taken some pills and tried to kill herself. Waking up to the text was heartbreaking. We
immediately found out where she was and drove to the hospital. Once we got there, we were told
that Sabrina was on life-support. The doctors weren’t sure what exactly was going to happen
because they didn’t know how the pills were going to affect her system until she woke up.
Seeing someone you love hooked up to all of these tubes, is the hardest thing I have ever had to
see. We continued to visit her that week. We hung pictures up around her room so that when she
woke up, she would know how much we loved her. We weren’t sure when she was going to
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wake up or if she was even going to wake up. We got a call saying she woke up that week. We
immediately started texting her and calling her. We planned to go see her that Sunday. I was in
school that Friday when I got a frantic text from one of my friends saying that I needed to go to
the office. I immediately knew what happened. She died that Friday October 20th, 2017. I was so
numb. I wasn’t sure what to do or what to say. I didn’t know how to feel. I couldn’t believe that
she was gone. I never got to see her again. After she passed away, we tried our best to stay
positive because we knew that was exactly what she would have wanted us to do. Her parents
asked us to speak at her funeral, it was really hard but to get up and share all of the memories of
her, felt good. We were continuing to stay positive and try to keep it together until we saw
Sabrina laying in the casket. That’s when it became real to all of us. We said our final goodbyes.
After Sabrina passed, we had another teenager commit suicide from my school. This was
a very tough year for my community. When someone passes away from suicide, you can’t help
but question what you could have done differently. That’s what we struggled with for months
after her death. I kept thinking if I just called her, she would still be here. If I would have listened
for a little longer, she would still be here. Sabrina’s mom told us that Sabrina regretted it. When
she woke up, she apologized to her mom and us because she didn’t want to die. I wish that I
could have talked to her right before she took the pills and told her that I was there for her and
that taking those pills wasn’t the solution. I wish I could have hugged her so tight. Both of these
suicides had a huge impact on my community. It opened all of our eyes on how common suicide
is and how important it is to help those around us and to raise awareness for it.
“Suicide is the second leading cause of death for college age youth and age 12-18” states
The Jason Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to preventing youth suicide. Suicide is extremely
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common and most people don’t realize it. The reason most people don’t realize it is because we
don’t know much about it and people don’t talk about it. It’s obviously not a conversation for
family dinner but is something that needs to be talked about so people can become more aware.
There are multiple suicide attempts in our nation a day. The Jason Foundation found that, “Each
day in our nation, there are an average of over 3,041 attempts by young people grades 9-12. If
these percentages are additionally applied to grades 7 & 8, the numbers would be higher.” This
statistic should get people to talk about it more. This shows that it happens more than people
think it does.
There are multiple reasons that youth commit suicide. There are emotional causes and
environmental causes to suicide. Suicidal teens usually feel like they are in a situation that can’t
be fixed unless they commit suicide. Natasha Tracy, an award-winning writer on mental health,
states that “Most teens who have been interviewed after a suicide attempt say that what causes
teen suicide are feelings of hopelessness or helplessness”. Teens have a lot of expectations to live
up to. They need to get good grades, do extracurricular activities, be social, be healthy. All of the
pressure from parents, teachers, and coaches can be a lot for one person to handle, especially a
teenager. Not living up to all of the expectations can cause them to feel hopeless or helpless. This
can lead them to think that committing suicide is the only way to make it all go away.
University, focused on hospitals seeing growing numbers of kids and teens at risk for suicide.
Tara Haelle, a freelance science and multimedia journalist who specializes in reporting pediatric
and mental health, wrote about the most shocking find during this study which was a seasonal
trend in hospital visits. Throughout the years, there were more visits in midfall and spring and
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less visits during the summer. This suggests that there is a link to the stress of school. School
should absolutely be teen’s top priority; however, schools and parents are putting too much
pressure on students to be perfect. Another cause of suicide is social media. In this day and age,
social media is a huge part of teens lives. “It is one that offers not only the potential for help
seeking and support, but also hazards, such as those from cyber-bullying and self-harm bulletin
boards that heighten risks for suicidal behavior” says George Patton, a group leader at the
Murdoch Children’s Research Institute whose research is based at the Centre for Adolescent
Health. That is where they communicate with their friends and family. Social media also leads to
cyberbullying. Social media makes it very easy for other people to bully their peers because they
are hiding behind a screen. Repeated bullying can cause teens to feel hopeless and commit
suicide
Depression is a leading cause of suicide. Teen depression is a serious thing; it causes the
constant feeling of sadness. It can cause teens to not care about activities or school. “It affects
how your teenager thinks, feels and behaves, and it can cause emotional, functional and physical
problems.” (“Teen Depression”). Depression can be caused in many different ways. Some causes
can be early child trauma, hormones, brain chemistry and inherited traits. (“Teen Depression”)
Being depressed can cause a teen to feel alone especially when no one is helping them.
Depression can cause teens to feel that there is no way out of the way they are feeling.
Preventing suicide is not an exact science. There are ways to pay better attention to those
struggling and help them. There are warning signs to watch out for and tips for what to do when
you find a teen struggling. The following are some tips to helping a teen that is struggling: be
there for them, talk them through their feelings and help them understand and just show them
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that you are there. Don’t treat their feelings like they are nothing or they don’t matter. Show
them that you know their pain is real and you want to help them. If you make them feel heard
and loved, it will make them feel better. It will help them open up to you and accept your help.
Warning signs are something that can be hard to see or not there at all. It is still helpful to
know the warning signs so that if see them you can help that person. Some warning signs are:
lack of energy, risky behavior, increased irritability, decrease in school performances, giving
away possessions, intense sadness and/or hopelessness and substance abuse. ("Suicide in Teens
and Children Symptoms & Causes") Most of the symptoms can be seen by parents or teachers.
These are not the only warning signs. The best way to know what’s going on with your child or
student, is to talk to them. Be open about conversation. Ask them why they are feeling the way
If you are concerned about a student, teen or friend, there are tips on how to handle the
situation. Here are a few: express your concern, really listen, maintain connection, be
compassionate, trust your judgement and prioritize safety. (“Talk to Teens: Suicide Prevention”)
The APA article “Talking to Teens: Suicide Prevention” broke down each tip to help you better
understand. Expressing your concern shows the teen that you care and understand. When you
really listen to what they are saying, don’t interrupt them because what they are saying is hurting
you. Listening to a teen say these types of things can be really hard but you have to be strong and
listen to what they are saying. Maintaining connection is very important; make sure that the teen
is staying in contact with friends and family and try to hang out with that teen more. Be more
compassionate, remind the teen how much they are cared for and how much you love them. You
need to trust your judgement, if the teen says he is fine but you doubt if they are being honest,
trust your gut. The most important one is to prioritize safety; if you are the parent of the teen and
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have weapons in the house remove them, remove medication, remove all harmful thing and if
you think that they are in danger call a mental health professional right away.
Parents are not the only ones that can help, the youth can too. D’Arcy Lyness, a licensed
child and adolescent psychologists, says “If you have a friend who is talking about suicide or
showing other warning signs, don't wait to see if he or she starts to feel better. Talk about it.”
Talk to your friend about how they are feeling and why they are feeling that. Be there for them.
Support them through this time. As a friend, you can help them in a different way than a parent
can. They will be more comfortable talking to you then they will an adult. Lyness stated, “Even
if you're sworn to secrecy and you feel like you'll be betraying your friend if you tell, you should
still get help.” Let an adult know what is going on. This will get your friend the help they need so
Even if support and love is given to a teen struggling, sadly sometimes that’s just not
enough. Coping with the loss of a loved one who committed suicide is very hard. You tend to
blame yourself and go through the situation over and over again. Coping is not easy so here are a
few things to try to remember. Accept your emotions, don’t worry about what you “should” feel,
care for yourself, talk to someone or talk to a professional ("Coping After Suicide Loss").
Dealing with your emotions can be very difficult. You have to accept your feelings and make
sure to deal with them properly. You have to accept that it happened. Don’t worry about what
everyone is expecting you to feel. Don’t worry about how your “supposed” to be acting. Handle
your feelings the way you need to. Act the way you need to. Everyone grieves in a different way;
you are allowed to do it your way. Make sure you are taking care of yourself; it is hard to focus
on yourself when other people are hurting; however, if you push your feelings aside to deal with
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someone else’s yours will never get resolved. Talk to someone, talk to someone who is going
through the same thing or an adult. Talking through your feelings can help you better cope with
them. If talking to someone else doesn’t work, try talking to a professional who can break down
As a parent it can be hard to talk to your child about the loss of a loved one by suicide. It
can be hard to help them cope. Here are a few things that you should do; deal with your own
feelings first, be honest, validate feelings, avoid rumors and tailor your support ("Coping After
Suicide Loss"). You can’t help a child deal with their feelings if you haven’t dealt with your
own. Make sure that you talk to your child calmly. You need to be honest. Don’t talk about the
details of exactly how they died but don’t hide the facts. Talk to your child about the death but
don’t give the gruesome details. You need to validate their feelings, help the child acknowledge
and know what they are feeling. Talk them through it. Don’t tell them rumors, don’t tell them all
the speculations of the suicide. The American Psychological Association, the leading scientific
and professional organization representing psychology in the United States, said “Instead, when
talking to a child or teen, emphasize that the person who died was struggling and thinking
differently from most people.” Tailor your support, let your child know that you are there and
they can talk to you but let them grieve in their own way. Talking to your child about suicide is
difficult and sad but it is best to talk to them about it rather than leave them confused.
If a student commits suicide there are some things that the school as a whole can do.
They need to handle the announcement with care, identify students that need additional help,
prevent imitation and keep the lines of communication open ("Coping After Suicide Loss").
When announcing the death, don’t do it over the intercom, you should have teachers announce it
in class. This is a sensitive topic that needs to be handled with care. Some students may have
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been closer to the person than others. Try to identify these students and get them the support they
need. This is definitely something that helps. This is what they did in my school. They let us
grieve however we needed and helped us through it. Try to prevent imitation, avoid the vivid
details or any details at all. Just let them know what happened. While discussing it, choose your
words carefully, talk about positive thing about the person’s life and don’t use the term
“committed suicide”. Instead, use death by suicide. This term has less of a negative connotation
then the other. Keep the lines of communication open, have counselors around for the first
couple weeks to let students get help if they feel they need it.
In Conclusion
Youth suicide is an extremely difficult thing to handle. It is a topic that most people don’t
talk about or know its severity. We need to talk about it. We need to raise awareness. People
can’t argue that youth suicide is something that’s happening. Youth suicide may not have
affected you personally but it affects people around you every day. We can make people aware
by knowing the signs and actually talking about it. We can’t be afraid to talk about something
that is happening every day. It’s a sensitive subject but you never know who you could help by
talking about and making people more aware. My experience with youth suicide opened my eyes
more than I can explain. I look at the world differently. I live my life differently. I treat people’s
emotions differently. I am aware. I don’t want more kids to die to make people aware. I want
people to make themselves aware. Adults can make kids aware. Teachers can make students
aware. So many people have such a big impact on their community. They need to use that to
raise awareness.
Whether you knew about youth suicide before reading this or not, ask yourself these
questions. Do I have someone in my life struggling? Have I tried to help? What can I do to help?
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What can I do to raise awareness? What can I do to help my community? How can I make
people know they aren’t alone? One person can spread awareness. All we need is one person.
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