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Darnell Boulware
Professor Hellmers
English 1201
26 April 2019
Toxic Masculinity
Men and women go through many personal struggles daily. Both have to find ways to
some of these struggles by talking to their friends about them, maybe seeing a therapist and even
just crying about their whole day. This is a norm, s omething that is typical, that is okay with
o one would laugh or even joke about a woman emotionally dealing with a bad day,
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most would even try to comfort the women. Men’s way of dealing with their struggles are a little
bit different. They tend to take it out on others, g et depressed, keep all of their emotions inside
self esteem and relationships whether that be with a lover or loved ones. If not taken seriously a
man could take his own life or ruin many others including his own.
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Emotions are both felt by men and women. Even though people think females have more
emotions than males researchers have found that this statement isn’t true. “This study suggests
men feel emotion just as much as women, sometimes more strongly, but are less willing to
express these emotions openly due to expectations put in them by society”(Rasmussen 230).
This another form of toxic masculinity formed by society because growing up everyone is taught
ho is full of emotion,
the man is supposed to be strong and emotionless to counter the women, w
in the relationship. I nstead of relationships being a balance of emotions and care between
partners , sometimes men neglect their own emotions because society says they have to, to
sustain a healthy relationship. This actually does the opposite making the man into a volcano of
emotions, ready to erupt at the smallest of disagreements between partners or the man will
distance himself from his partner seeming completely emotionless and unable to understand
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Figure 1 Shows all the effects on Men’s mental health in the diagram ( Hawkeye 1)
en aren’t encouraged by
All feelings should be expressed whether it be tears or words. M
society do either. One college professor “describes it as a pattern of concealing emotions amid
confusion and insecurities about conforming to a cultural script of masculinity that, ironically,
encourages the manly act of holding your emotions in check even if in the process you are
they should deal with the things they feel by watching older role models like their dad. If they
don’t have a dad they tend to pick the first older man they stay in steady contact with. Like they
he Fight Against “Toxic Masculinity”, “masculinity is made toxic when boys don’t
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have proper males communicating and talking to them regularly.”(Monaghan 3) So even if a
boy has a father or father figure if they don’t speak to them regularly about their emotions or
troubles the boy goes through, then boys learns those things aren’t communicated by men. O
nce
oung men
this lesson is learned it tends to mess up the emotional development of the boy. Y
learn what not to do with their emotions and feelings but never learn what to do. Adolescent men
his translates to
then find things like anger and separation as ways to deal with their problems. T
when they get older they use the same coping methods they used in their youth but this time in
Fathers and older men tend not to share their problems because they see “their distress as
shameful and tend to hide their symptoms”.(Van 4)This isn’t good for people that see them as
role models but more importantly it is not good for a man’s mental health. M
en will hesitate
before seeking help for their mental issues because society norms have told them to be tough,
like a man. Instead of seeking help from others for their problems they hold on to these problems
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same issues which they do, but they don’t have to go against social standards to get help like
Judged by society, j udged by their friends most importantly judged by their own mental
standard of how a man should react to emotion and feelings. Take crying for an example, m
en
just aren’t supposed to do it. Of course some situations are excused like death or laughter but
most are not. From a young age boys are taught to not to cry when they get hurt or are feeling
ike in,
boys that once they become men it is not okay to show others you are having problems. L
,they say “In this new cultural milieu, male tears represented an embarrassing loss of self
to show emotion can lead to suicide, violent crime, antisocial behavior, and abuse.
Suicide can be caused by many things but researchers have linked all of the reasons back
competent to live and worthy of living.”(Rasmussen 220) Men tend to set goals for themselves
fathers,society norms and role models. When they don’t achieve or feel like they aren’t going in
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en sometimes
the right path for these goals many men take a heavy blow to their self esteem. M
try to find a path to life through education or work because that is what most are taught at a
ot by being told but by examples like “ no matter what happens in your day you
young age. N
always have to go to work the next day is the main thing my dad taught me”(Mattila 5 ). T
his is
important because this lesson is taught by just following a father figure into what an ideal man is
hen young men learn that they are supposed to live life through work or
supposed to do in life. T
school to get better work. So if a young man fails at both their self esteem takes another major
hit while they also become confused and lost on what they are supposed to do in life.
In the research of 10 suicides in Pennsylvania of young adult men aging between 22-35
each victim had a major problem occur close to their suicide. Loved ones of the deceased almost
all had the same story about the deceased trying to either devote their lives to work or into the
self esteems and in the end were main reasons why they each took their own life.
The relationship with school and the young adult man has decreased over the past 20
ne of the main reasons a college student gave for dropping out was he was
years. O
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“uncomfortable with conforming with the social norms of peers”(Duffel 31). These norms
included drinking or smoking all the time, which are the “normal” college things males have to
either accept or separate themselves from other entirely. Also when a male hits an academic wall
it’s harder to talk or speak about it because all boys were raised to be “tough like a man” and
Society has made men to believe they are supposed to be big and strong and be able to
protect their women. Even the show Big Bang theory has shown that geeks take longer to get
females attention because they don’t have the typical male look. “ The show demonstrates that
people who are gifted in science and math also love comic books, h ave no social skills and no
sense of humor, and cannot get a girl no matter what”(Salter 2). This is showing men that if they
aren’t society's idea of a man it will take them forever to find a female partner because society
fit this version of society males and if unsuccessful feel like they have no chance of being apart
of a good relationship or they find it hard to communicate with women if they aren’t the big
Once men are society versions of males they believe they are deserved the time of any
nce they are denied they feel anger because the believe they
commit sexual assault to females. O
have done all they have needed to fulfill any females dreams.This is another form of toxic
masculinity because you don’t deserve anyone's times just based off of your looks.The White
Ribbon Campaign was created just for that reason to focus violence against women around the
is what society tells them they need to be. In an article the author says “in the most primitive
way possible, violence is how men can express how “dominant” and “strong” they are”.(Burke
iolence in relationships are also mentioned in popular music and books, showing how
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mainstream violence has become. I n music respect for women is to a minimum showing that
women don’t deserve much. This causes unhealthy relationships by men not respecting their
Women are scolded for having too many sexual partners. Men are praised like gods in
society for absurd amounts of sexual partners. This is toxic for relationships because men won’t
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even date women they know have a had a lot of sex even if they have had more. This leaves
certain women as undesirable to males which is toxic because men are pressured to have as many
sexual partners as possible. If men don’t strive for this goal set by society they are seen as not
In conclusion toxic masculinity doesn’t just hurt males mental health/emotions and self
esteem. I t also hurts all men’s relationships whether that be with a lover or anyone they come
into contact with. If society and men take the time to learn and understand what toxic
masculinity harms on a day to day basis they will be able to reach out to men worldwide and
give them all a chance to vent their issues. Once all men feel comfortable to reach out and talk
about their emotions rather than using harmful methods to deal with them, that is when toxic
masculinity will slowly start to be erased. Without all of society’s views changing what a man is
“supposed” to be men will always feel trapped in a box of how they are supposed to act and if
this continues men will continue to have lower graduation rates, higher suicide rates, and divorce
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