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BRIDGING THE COMMUNICATION
GA P BETWEEN T H E DE PR E SSE D
AND THOSE WHO LOVE THEM
written by noch noch li
illustrated by dai cameron
Anonymous
I would like to thank everyone who devoted their I would like to express my utmost gratitude to
time and energy to making this book a reality. my husband for his input, ideas, constructive
criticisms (especially when I kept rebutting
I would like to thank Dai Cameron and Casey them), and emotional support while I was
Hynes for their willingness to take up this working on this project. He endured days of
project on a pro bono basis. I am most grateful tantrum throwing when I was frustrated by
to them for taking the time to help me with this my own writing and lack of inspiration, and
book. They continue to inspire me. his patience was more appreciated than he
knows.
My readers have also given me suggestions
and encouragement to take up this project, Most of all, I would like to thank each and
even as I procrastinated on it for almost a every person who downloaded this book,
year. Many of them have left messages and especially if you help spread the word about
comments on my blog cheering me on. A few coping with depression. And a special thanks
have contributed their stories to this book, to my readers and supporters for taking the
and for that, I am grateful. Particular thanks time to read my humble ramblings, and for
go to (in no particular order) Richard Hawkes, never forsaking me.
J, Giles, Lily, and Paul Brook.
Acknowledgements 4
INTRODUCTION 6
I. If You’re Depressed 14
Take Care of Yourself – in Your Own Time 14
i. Some Suggestions for Taking Care of Yourself 14
ii. Ways to Express Your Thoughts to Your Family and Friends 16
ONLINE RESOURCES 33
Please note that I draw a line between those who are diagnosed as
being clinically depressed and those who experience brief bouts of
depressed moods, which is common.
To the outside world, a depressed person seems “weird” -- at work they are lazy or
emotional, or get angry easily. With family and friends, they seem distinerested and
negative, always the “party pooper”. The depressed crave care and concern, and yet, not
in the way sometimes given.
Those around us find us ungrateful when they try to help. We feel rejected when they
dismiss our depressive thoughts. Hence the vicious cycle of misunderstandings and
miscommunications begin...
A Stone for the Bag A few years ago, when someone close to
By J: J is 31 years old. He graduated with a me was going through depression, another
degree in English and a focus on Professional acquaintance remarked: “Oh no, but I did
and Creative Writing. He has suffered from not think she was that sort of person.”
depression since the age of 10 and the battle Another phrase I’ve heard, and even thought
still continues, one day at a time. about people myself before I understood
depression, is “What have they got to be
If depression could be likened to anything, depressed about?”
it is like carrying a backpack filled with
heavy stones. Every judgmental or unhelpful I often see this in response to stories about
comment from others adds another stone. well-off celebrities who have depression.
With each stone, they cause the wearer›s They’re rich, famous, probably very
knees to buckle and crush them under the attractive… So why are they so miserable?
weight of their words.
And then there’s that old notion that you can
Once upon a Christmas, my brother said this just snap out of depression, as if it is
about my depression, “Just man up and deal an inconvenient stint of grumpiness and
with it.” And then, “Grow a pair,” after many self-pity that you can be roused from
rounds of rum and coke. He even went so because it’s making someone else
far as saying, “You’re 30 years old. Still living uncomfortable. If you’re a woman, you should
with Mom and you’re getting a degree in a ‘be strong and keep going. If you’re a bloke,
useless area. If things do not change in five you should just ‘man up’ and get on with
years, you may as well kill yourself.” being stoic and manly.
Another stone for the bag. I do not think any of these statements or
beliefs are malicious. I think they were made
Someone else told me, “Be a man for once in out of ignorance and lack of awareness of
your life instead of crying about it, pussy.” what depression is.
Another stone for the bag. They were also the result of confusion
about the difference between feeling
If only the people had the knowledge and depressed – a short-lived spell of low
Family Influence
By Giles
ON BEARAPY:
Noch Noch is the creator of Bearapy,
which was developed through her collection
of Gund Snuffles bears. Her aim is to
help others in transition from depression
to recovery become the persons they
want to be.
- Dr. Seuss -