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11 February 2019
We all are worthy of respect regardless of what society may tell us. Each individual
desires respect in different forms— for different reasons— but regardless of this, when respect is
received, it is what grants us both confidence and solidarity with ourselves. It may be upsetting
to you to when you recognize that there are so many things, so many simple choices, that you
could affect the level of respect you had once been a host of. That your friends: the ones you’ve
known your whole life, the ones you have just met; the ones that are black, the ones that are
white; the ones that are poor, the ones that are rich; all of them— they may augment the entirety
of their perception of you based on one small decision. I care about all of you so much and
encourage you to look into your own life for figures that do not respect you as I feel you deserve.
I have witnessed so many incredible people that I am personally connected to experience a sort
of social and subjective rejection within their lives. The way to counteract this is to make the
personal decision to not participate in degrading others for participating in anything that you may
not see as traditional. I think there are things that have the capability of drastically improving
confidence and overall happiness but that many stay away from because of the stigma that fellow
men create around it. One example is Self Care. It’s a trendy word right now but the roots of it
are simple and have been practiced since the beginning of humanity. Proof of this is everywhere:
ready, have fun playing with makeup on my face and help myself feel more confident for the
day, go to school, come home, socialize, clean my face, shower, go to bed. There are a few steps
that might look differently from yours which is okay. It is incredible that everyone likes such
unique sets of things and that their confidence emerges in different ways. What’s not ok is when
people only choose to participate in certain things because of a social pressure to remain
exclusively “masculine”.
Male suicide, especially in teens, is staggeringly high. It is the primary cause of death in
teens, beating out even cancer. Many suicides and depressive thoughts originate with an inability
(or feelings of the inability) to be seen and respected for who one’s self is. I’m not saying that all
men need to start up their own makeup and skincare routines, but you should be able to
participate in any sort of regiment or activity that builds your own self confidence without a fear
of rejection. The gender biases that are made under cosmetics contribute to one issue discussed
in a recent study. A study under a School of Social Sciences showed results proving that “Our
understanding, and action to prevent, suicide in men and women must take place in the context
Unfortunately, even large companies admit that “Male patients have for a long time been
the forgotten cosmetic customer” (Schlessinger, 1). I have had multiple guy friends in my life
that are affected by forms of acne that they admit affect their self confidence. I was sitting on the
floor with a guy friend recently and our conversation went something like this, “your skin looks
clear,” I said. “Really? I feel like it’s way worse than usual and it’s embarrassing.” I’m so glad
that he felt like he could share with me that it was embarrassing to him because I’m not sure how
many people feel comfortable enough to admit that. The casual statement is true for many men
(even if it’s not said out loud), especially teenagers. Women are socially allowed to use cosmetic
tools to improve their confidence in these situations and feel better about themselves because of
it. According to Richard G. Fried, “[Men have] many motivations and can achieve both
emotional and functional benefits from appropriate esthetic procedures” (2). Of course I am also
an advocate for finding self worth in things other than your physical appearance, but if cosmetic
tools are a good step towards confidence for you, I would never want any sort of stigma to play a
Even basic forms of self care that may not be so instantly noticeable, you may not feel are
accessible to you without judgement from peers. Though some aspects of this are not part of
most women’s (including my own) daily routines, procedures like exfoliating or using a face
mask are branded as inherently feminine. Even things that are nothing more than simply hygiene
related such as using face wash daily have been misperceived as abnormal for men. Though
maybe the results of it are not instantaneous, if face wash is used over periods of time it can
prevent dermal flaws and blemishes that may lower esteem in some individuals.
Aside from confidence building and skin care, cosmetics are often used as a form of self
expression. Having creative outlets available in your life is so important. Regardless of what
someone’s outlet is, many times it allows them to express emotions, evoke happiness, and even
tell their stories that might not otherwise be released. The choice to self express with the use of
cosmetics should not be something that is judged. Even if a someone’s form of creativity isn’t
suited to our personal tastes, it doesn’t make them less deserving of our respect. Witnessing the
expression of the people around us gives us a chance to learn more about them, appreciate their
in inherently feminine things, whether it is cosmetic or related to basic self care. Remember any
times that your confidence has been affected by physical appearance. You should feel free of any
restrictive society pressures and are able to do what makes you feel best about yourself. You
deserve complete respect, and so do they. This respect should not be dictated by small personal
decisions. You have the power to try and stop the stigma around male cosmetics by supporting
your friends when they try it and by allowing yourself to fearlessly experiment with cosmetics as
well.
Works Cited
Cosmetic Patients.” Dermatologic Therapy, vol. 20, no. 6, Nov. 2007, pp. 379–384.
EBSCOhost, doi:10.1111/j.1529-8019.2007.00152.x.
Schlessinger, Joel. “Skin Care for Men and Its Marketing.” Dermatologic Therapy, vol. 20, no.
Moore, Fhionna, et al. “The Gender Suicide Paradox under Gender Role Reversal during
doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0202487.