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Blueprint
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A Student’s Guide to Success
Life Skills Development
Dipankar Biswas
Life Coach & Corporate Trainer
Published by
Life Management Academy
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Preface
Acknowledgement
This book is the result of encouragement and inspiration from the
readers of my first book, ‘9 Secrets, the Ultimate Success Strategies’.
I am grateful to them for their support.
Introduction
Whatever I have mentioned in this book is nothing new. As we feed
our body, we need to feed our mind to remind us the task to be
carried on- to be a successful student. It’s not what is presented in
this book, but how it is presented that’s very important. Some of the
topics need deeper understanding. Please go through those topics
twice for more clarity.
mind “I will get up early in the morning/ I will exercise for my health
and fitness/ I will study to do well in my examination.” You will
change your acts as your thoughts become stronger and stronger.
Do you want to control yourself or you want to be controlled by
others?
It’s very important how we communicate to ourselves, because
first we communicate to ourselves, and then we communicate to
individual or address a group. We communicate and act on the basis
of our values, beliefs, thoughts and knowledge on the subject. Every
student will be imparted the same knowledge. But few of them will
be successful. Why?
When you say, “I want to become”; you rarely become. If you notice
when you say, “I will become”, you become that person, as there
is affirmation and belief in your communication. Our mind is a
superb instrument or you can say super computer if we know how
to use it rightly. But in most of the cases we don’t use the mind,
in other words the mind uses us. Everything is a consequence of
our thoughts. We become what we think about ourselves more
often. The values we carry give us our character. Commitment,
character and intelligence are far more important than your
formal education.
Every student has a dream and dreams turn
into fantasy if we don’t get the proper
guidance at the appropriate time to take the
appropriate action. Now the question is:
What is the difference between a dream
and a fantasy?
The dream is a goal or blueprint with a due
date. If you work towards your dream, you
will be able to realise it. The fantasy is a dream with no due date
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Let’s take an example that we face daily in our life, traffic jams. You
want to reach your destination in time but got stuck in a traffic jam.
Most of us feel frustrated and angry, as
we are not able to reach in time. It’s the
truth that you cannot be in time to
your destination. Suppose you are to
make a presentation when you reach
your school. Will you be able to make
a good presentation? You will be
carrying all the anger and frustration
with you. It’s going to affect your
presentation. Instead of being reactive
you can be observant. You can call your institute or friend to let
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them know that you will be late and apologise for the delay. Promise
yourself and to other members that next time you will start earlier
to be in time. That’s under your control. Otherwise you will be out
of the team.
Now, you can observe what’s happening in you and around you at
the traffic signal. You can observe the situation and other people
around you, how they are reacting to the situation. We go to watch
movies like ‘Traffic Signal’* by paying for the ticket; now you
are watching a live movie with out a ticket. Next time when you
get stuck in a traffic signal if you can practise what is mentioned
above, you have already got more than enough value of this
book. “Can you be more observant than reactive from today?”
(*“Traffic Signal” is a Bollywood Hindi movie directed by Madhur Bhandarkar)
If you want to score good marks in the examination and pass out
with flying colours, all the facilities are available to you if you look
around. But usually we blame teachers, parents, friends and others
for our mistakes and in the long run we become victim to our own
justifications.
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Q. How often have you been reactive rather than observant? Please
describe a situation.
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Instruction to yourself:
me not to disturb for next 15 minutes and put a reminder alarm for
15 minutes. (Meditation)
Some people cannot accept silence. When you are in silence, your
conscience takes over. The cloud of compulsive thoughts start
clearing for the conscience to come up. We see our true self. We
can see our egoic self. To face our true self we need strong courage.
Very few people have got that courage and avoid facing true self
by diverting mind in other activities like watching TV, addiction
to alcohol or tobacco or excess eating and many other activities.
You ask yourself, which activity you take up to avoid silence and to
avoid your true self?
BLAME GAME:
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Have you ever noticed that some students pass through life blaming
everyone else for why their life is the way it is? If they don’t get a
desired result, they will blame situation, circumstances or other
person.
His own parents, ‘I can’t get a job because I was not sent to a good
English Medium Public School.”
I said, nothing wrong, even one day I was also playing the same game
till I opened my eyes. You can also play the same game if you think
that you are right. Everyone is right according to his perception.
Even a mad person is right.
Then you get another kind of students who justify their failures. As
we grow up, we develop ego unconsciously. We have difficulties to
acknowledge our failure. Most of us try to prove that ‘I am right”
by hook or by crook. If a student comes late, he will justify his late
coming due to traffic jams or a late bus. If you question him, he will
get aggressive to prove he is right. To make up for one lie, there will
be another five lies. I call them aggressors. But who is missing the
classes and who has to write the exams?
Some of our current time creators are Dr. Shah Faesal, IAS topper,
Mohammed Gouse Jani from Visakhapatnam, 2010 Eamcet topper;
Dr. Manmohan Singh, Hritik Roshan , Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam and
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Dr. Shah Faesal is the IAS topper 2010. His family moved to
Srinagar from Sogam village in Kupwara after
brutal murder of his father in 2003. His father
Ghulam Rasool was a schoolteacher and well-
known personality in the village. He fell prey
to militants’ bullets without any reason. Fasal’s
mother is also a schoolteacher and she said, “I
am happy that he achieved his dream.”
Mohammed Gouse Jani from Visakhapatnam, topper of this
year’s Eamcet lost his elder brother just months before the
Eamcet exams. His father earns a couple of hundred rupees
driving an auto and his mother works in neighbourhood houses.
He scored a staggering 159 marks out of 160, the highest marks
in the engineering stream. He thanked his teacher Mr. Narayana
for giving him free education to complete his studies. He studied
10 hours a day for the exams. The lack of basic amenities in life
did not deter him from dreaming of becoming an engineer. He
dedicates his success to his parents.
If you are playing cricket, when the tough ball comes, do you
leave the crease or ask your team mate to play the game? If you
leave the tough ball, you can’t think of going to a higher level in
your team.
Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam the 11th President of India was born on 15th
October 1931 at Rameswaram in Tamil Nadu,
India. Dr. Kalam is one of the most distinguished
scientists of India with the unique honour of
receiving honorary doctorates from 30
universities and institutions. He has been
awarded the coveted civilian awards - Padma
Bhushan (1981) and Padma Vibhushan (1990)
and the highest civilian award Bharat Ratna (1997). He is recipient
of several other awards and Fellow of many professional institutions.
Dr. Shah Faesal and Gouse Jani had all the excuse to perform low in
their examinations. Dr.Kalam could have told “I can’t go to school
as my parents could not afford to educate us.” Dr.Manmohan Singh
was a refugee from Pakistan. He had all the ingredients to be failure.
But it’s the determination of every successful person to continue
persist in spite of every obstacles.
TOP ACHIEVERS are the students who won’t and can’t settle for
the status quo. They continually look for ways to stretch themselves,
to get better, to do better and to be better! They set their sights on
goals that others have never even thought of.
High, lofty goals usually take a while to get there so there will always
be plenty of time to be tempted to stray away from the road that is
taking you to those goals. Develop the ability to say no to the good
things in order to get to the best things. The will power to prioritize
and the sincerity and consistency to move ahead are crucial to be
successful in life.
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We all have played all the roles and still now also we are playing.
Sometime you played the role of a victim by blaming someone
for whatever happened to you or sometime you justified your
failure. And you have taken responsibility also. What you are
today is result of the responsibility you have taken in your life.
Below there are few pie chart. Rate yourself how often you are
blaming some one, how often you are justifying your failure
and how often you are taking responsibility. Then set a target
for three month where you want to be. What percentages of
responsibility you want take in the next three months? Your
target will be to get to 100% responsibility in this lifetime.
Responsibility Responsibility
Examples
You rate
Responsibility
yourself
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Every incident has a positive side and negative aspect. How we take
the incident depends on our awareness and attitude. If a teacher
is scolding, he is giving feedback to improve in our studies. Some
teacher may not be good in giving feedback in appropriate method
and we may get upset. It is our duty to study well and pass out all the
exam papers with flying colours. Sometime we focus so much on
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Analyze yourself
The master key to our growth is awareness about ourselves
Most common question you are bound to face during your student
life, “What do you want to become in life?” Most of the answers
would be “I want to become so and so...” How many students
become what they wanted to become as a student?
Some of the answers I get – ‘one of the classmates better than him’,
‘my elder brother’; even some answers are their father. But how
can ‘others’ be your main competitor? Their circumstances are
different, their capabilities and capacities are different, and their
inspirations are different. They can be your competitors but not
main competitor.
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There are maps to determine where you are standing. In the same
way I have created a Student Life Map to analyse yourself where you
are standing in your life right now. All the areas of our life have been
described in the map. They are ‘Performance in your Studies’,
Health, Emotional states (Happiness, Sadness, Frustration etc),
Finance (Managing your pocket money), Relationship (with
Teacher, Classmates, Parents) and Core values (Commitment,
Trustworthy, Responsibility).
You need to rate yourself where do you stand in all these areas
according to your perception. Not what your teacher, classmates or
parents think about you, but what you think about yourself.
you are at 6; and if you think you are doing very good, then you are
at 7. If you think you are excellent at your studies then you are at
8, and if you think your performance is outstanding then you are
at 9. If you think there is no more room for improvement in your
studies; you are doing the best what you can do then you are at 10.
The next domain is your health. If you think you are totally happy
about your health in terms of your energy level, your vitality, your
weight according to your height and age then you are at 10. But if
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you think there is a room for improvement then rate yourself where
do you stand right now according to your perception.
Emotion: The next field is your emotional state right now. There
are positive and negative emotions: happiness, joy, satisfaction
are some of the positive emotions. Whereas sadness, frustration,
depression and, worries are some of the negative emotions.
Core Values: There are personal values and core values. Personal
values can change from person to person, place to place, community
to community and country to country. But core/universal values are
same everywhere in the world. We play different role at different
time. Are you keeping your commitment with the role you are
playing? There are many core values, I have mentioned only three
core values here (Commitment, Trustworthy, Responsibility).
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If you think you are keeping your commitment all the time, then
you are at 10; otherwise you are at 5, 6, 7, 8 or 9. Rate yourself,
where do you stand according to your perception.
Once you have rated yourself in every area, join all the points in a
circular manner.
You must get another circle within the circle. Is the circle uniform
in shape?
You will find you are doing well in some areas and some areas are
getting neglected.
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• Health: 8
• Emotion: 6
• Finance: 5
• Relationship: 7
• Core Values: 6
In this life map 8 is the highest point and 5 is the lowest point. Some
participants ask, ‘what about making everything to be 5, then we
can get a smooth ride!’
I agree with the statement, if you can accept from your heart that
you want to go down. But as human our urge is to improve from
where we are right now. Therefore our endeavour should be to
make all the areas to 8 and then expand in uniformity.
Now you know where you are standing. You must design your career
according to your capability, circumstances and inspiration. What
inspire others may not inspire you. You must ask yourself what
inspires you. Then you must assess your strength and resources
available to reach your destination.
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including myself, if I keep myself busy with all the fun and
entertainment activities only. At school if my teachers and
classmates don’t like me I will not feel like going to school. At my
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What is luck?
Luck is when opportunity meets preparation. Are you preparing for
the opportunity which is going to come to you at the end of your
course in the form of exams and interviews? If you are preparing
then you will be a lucky student.
“A Blueprint”
At this stage of your life as a student you got everything in your side.
What you require is a blue print.
In the same way all of us have 365 bricks in a year and 366 in leap
years. Where do you place your daily action if there is no blueprint?
R: Realistic
T: Time Bound
I: Inspiration
E: Emotional attachment
S: Success
There was a survey in 2002 among the MBAs who were working in
multinational companies in high position to find out if they were
happy with their jobs. 82% responses were negative.
• More than all the above points, you should have inspiration to
achieve your goal. What inspires you, you need to ask yourself.
She cleared all the entrances test. She studied all the five years and
finished her internship. It’s been 7 years she joined the M.B.B.S and
now she is a full fledged doctor. Whereas ‘B’ wanted to be a doctor
and she is a doctor. ‘B’ is also talented as ‘A’. ‘B’ also cleared all the
entrance tests and finished all her studies. Now she is also a fully
qualified doctor. If both of them are sitting in front of us, what we
think about them, that both of them are successful as doctors.
thoughts.
Where as if ‘B’ get delayed to reach her clinic she starts worrying by
thinking, “People come to hospital
with so much pain, I bring smile
to their faces, how come still I am
here, I am supposed to be in the
hospital.” She gets satisfaction
and sense of fulfilment, when the
patients thank her for the service
she renders to them. If she gets an
emergency call at 10pm after coming back home from work, she
will attend to the patient.
We may assume both the doctors are successful as they are well
qualified doctors and earning enough to take care of themselves.
You tell me, is ‘A’ successful? – NO.
Is ‘B’ successful? Yes, because she enjoys what she does. Both of
them may be effective but not successful.
a) Patience
b) Punctuality
d) Initiative
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Unless we have clear written goals and plans for, what we want to
do or achieve; we rarely achieve. Again it’s to be written everyday to
remind us. As we feed our body, we need to feed our mind.
next four years he was financially broke. But he didn’t give up and
from the 5th year the business started to pick up. As he was very
clear about his long term goal or you can say vision; he didn’t give
up when he was having tough time. Another important point to be
noted, he didn’t say “I want to become.” He wrote “I will become.”
It was Specific and time bound.
There is a saying “If you can visualise, you can actualise.” We will
go one step ahead. We will write our goal in present tense, as if we
have achieved our goal. Feelings are very important to achieve a
goal. When we visualise, we are inspired with the success of our
goal. It helps us to keep in right track with right actions towards our
goal.
If it’s not true for you and if you don’t believe you can achieve,
please don’t write. Belief in yourself is the most important aspect
in achieving any goal. If you don’t believe and there is a doubt you
will not act whole heartedly. Doubts are traitors, they destroy you;
destroy your confidence in carrying out the task to be carried out.
Let’s assume today is beginning of your semester/ year and you are
writing your goal for achieving high marks in your examination. We
will write our goal in present tense.
Today our final examination results are out. I have scored more than
90% (if your goal is 70% or 80%, then write that figure) in the exam. I
am happy and excited as I have achieved my goal of scoring more than
90%. My parents, teachers and classmates are proud of my achievement.
My friends are also proud of my new found confidence and sometime
they come to take advice from me.
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Please close your eyes. Now assume that have achieved your goal?
How the other people are reacting to your achievement? If you are
confident that you can achieve, you will achieve. If you are confident
and have got belief in yourself, then you will act to achieve your
goal. If you take action, then definitely you will achieve your goal.
That’s law of the nature.
There is another exercise to be carried out every day and it may take
another 5 minutes, writing your daily activities in a diary called ‘My
24 Hrs’. We will discuss in detail in the next chapter.
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Affirmation:
I will write my goal everyday.
I will engage myself in physical Exercise for 15 minute every
day to improve my health
I will carry on breathing Exercise (Meditation) for 15 minute
every day
I will be more observant than reactive.
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Everyone has got 24 hrs in a day; no one can get a single second
more than you. Every morning your purse is magically
filled with 24 hrs of time. You can compare time with
a plain bar of iron, which is worth Rs.100. Now you
can convert this iron bar into nails that may fetch Rs.
1000. And that same identical bar of iron can be
turned into balance spring for watches, which is
worth Rs. 1000000. The same is true with time. Only
a few of us have learned to turn a golden hour into
true-tempered watch springs. You need to prioritise
yourself where you want to use your valuable time.
Time is the most valuable asset you have got. To get
the maximum benefit out of your time you must organise yourself.
Otherwise someone will take away your time.
If you are serious about your time and focus most of your time
towards studies from now onwards, you will be so much valuable
that most of the companies will come forward to pay you in lakhs
for your knowledge during campus interviews. Most of us crave for
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more time and keep on telling “I don’t have time”. But everyone
in this world has got 24hrs in a day. Whether you are a rich man
or poor, whether a student or Principal; God has been equal to
everyone on this aspect.
24 Hours
There are so many techniques and procedures to organise yourself.
To organise yourself you must analyze yourself and to analyze
yourself writing daily activities is one of the best systems I have
experienced. Most people will plan their day but rarely the plan is
followed. I am asking you to write your daily activities at the end
of the day before going to bed. Or carry a small note book or the
exercise book with you and note down the activities you have done
during that time. You will analyze your time and you can make the
changes on the basis of your priority.
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Timing Activities
5:30 am- 6:30 am Got up, Freshen up,Yoga, Exercise,
6:30 am – 8:00 am Yoga, Exercise, Newspapers reading,
8:00 am – 8:30 am shower, B/F
8:30 am – 9:00 am Travelling to School/ College
9:00 am – 1:15 pm Attending Classes
1:15 pm – 2:00 pm Lunch Break
2:00 pm – 4:00 pm Attending Classes
4:00 pm – 5:00 pm Back home
5:00 pm – 6:30 pm Sport/ Exercise & Freshen up
6:30 pm – 8:30 pm Study
8:30 pm – 9:30 pm Dinner & Watching TV
9:30 pm – 10:30 pm Study
10:30 pm – 5:30 am Sleeping
Every day, writing your daily activities will give you a clear picture
where are you spending your 24 hours.
As if you are seeing yourself in the mirror of your time. Now you can
prioritise yourself, which are necessary and which are unnecessary.
You can make the changes according to your requirement. As
mentioned again and again no one can change you except you;
but this system can change you. If you are spending your time in the
areas which are not important to you, you will give your best effort
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Watching the movie was urgent not important as you can see the
movie later on but you have to pay for it. To save money for a movie
tickets and give company to your friend you lost good placement.
Once again let’s take the same above example, you have decided to
complete an assignment on Sunday in between 2pm – 5 pm. but
suddenly you switched on the television at 2:30 pm and you saw
one of your favourite movies was running, which you saw twice
before. Some of us would be watching the movie again thinking
that he would complete the assignment after 5pm. After 5 pm one
of relatives came to your house, what would you do? You treated
your relative with dinner and by the time your relative left your
house, it was 10 pm. then you sat to complete the assignment on
your computer. You were very tired but completed the assignment
in half-sleep as it was urgent (It has moved to ‘Important-Urgent’,
which was in ‘Important – non-urgent’ section at 2pm). What kind
of assignment it’s going to be? How will be your grading?
Watching the movie was neither urgent nor important as you saw
the movie before. If you want to watch the movie you can watch
that later in your video.
In the above exercise also you will be able to analyse yourself well,
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Can we expand glass jar or can we squeeze the glass jar? What does
the glass jar represent? It represents our 24 hours in a day. No one
can expand a day nor shorten a day by squeezing. Big stone is your
top priority that to be accomplished in that day.
Let me ask you, “If I place sand first in the jar, will I have space for
big stones, or pebbles?” We form the pattern of filling our day with
unnecessary tasks like sand and left with no space for the big stone
i.e. our top priority. Now your task is to form the pattern placing
the big stone first (top priority), and then next priority, and then
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next important task to be carried out. Once you form the habit of
prioritising your task and working according to their importance,
the less important task will take its space wherever time is left; you
don’t need to take any extra effort for that. As a student, your top
priority is to focus on studies; next priority is your health and next
is your entertainment. Some students do the opposite. Their top
priority is their entertainment, next is attending to gym and if any
time left then only they study.
The outer circle around ‘area of control’ is the ‘area of concern’. The
area of concern is the whole world other than you and your area of
influence (area of control). Anything happens in this world affects
our life directly or indirectly i.e. it bothers us. But we don’t have
any control on those areas. Let’s take an example. Suppose there is
match between India and Pakistan, and India wins the match. How
do you feel? We feel happy. And if India loses the match, how do
you feel? Sad & depressed! Can you do anything about it? But we
keep on gossiping and commenting on the match even though the
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In this world every one of us has got 24 hours. If you are spending
more time on the area of concern, where you don’t have any control
or influence, then you are spending less time on yourself and on
the area of influence. If you are not spending time for your growth,
you will be left behind. The more time you spend on yourself for
your studies, your area of influence will increase as you will be able
to contribute more to people. The more time you spend on your
‘area of concern’, your area of influence decreases. For example,
our former president Dr.Abdul Kalam has spent more time on his
growth to improve his intellectual. Therefore from a student now
he has got influence on everyone of us.
In the past someone used to be at home all the time. Situation has
changed as both husband and wife are working. Therefore I asked
him to inform his relative to intimate in advance next time so that
they can be prepared to receive him. If you don’t give importance
to yourself, no one will give importance to you. We train people
how we want to be treated by others. When you request relative
to intimate in advance, you are conveying the importance of
your time, you are not sitting idle at home. Your relative will give
importance of your time. Next time he will intimate you in advance
to check your availability.
Same way, as a student you plan to complete your home task or
assignment or preparation for your exam; suddenly friend or
relative will come and want to spend time with you. How do you
handle such situation?
Attend to your friend or relative for five minutes and inform them
politely, “I would like to spend time with you; unfortunately I am
in a hurry to finish my assignment. Please excuse me for not giving
time to you all.”
Fear of losing relationship hinders us to take such actions.
Immediately your friend or relative may feel offended but in the
long run they will respect you and your intention as you become
successful in your examination and in your life.
Affirmation:
I will write my goal and my 24 Hrs activities everyday.
I will engage myself in physical Exercise for 15 minute
every day to improve my health
I will carry on breathing Exercise (Meditation) for 15
minute every day
I will be more observant than reactive.
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My 24 Hours Activities
6 am - 7 am
7 am - 8 am
8 am - 9 am
10 am-11am
11 am-12 pm
12 pm- 1 pm
1 pm - 2 pm
2 pm - 3 pm
3 pm - 4 pm
4 pm - 5 pm
5 pm - 6 pm
6 pm - 7 pm
7 pm - 8 pm
8 pm - 9 pm
9 pm - 10pm
10 pm -11pm
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1. When was the last time you were late to your class and what
was the reason?
5. What are the steps you are going take to improve time man-
agement?
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Now the question is, “Are you training yourself in positive attitude?”
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SUCCESS PYRAMID
“You are a product of your environment.” W. Clement Stone
The base of the success pyramid is Environment. We are not talking
about natural environment with beautiful view of sea or hills with
lots of greenery, but the kind of people you interact or surrounded
by. That is your family background, cultural background and the
religions you have been brought up, the schools and colleges where
you study and your friend circle creates a certain belief system in
you. When we believe something then only we act; otherwise we
hesitate to take action. If you take an action, definitely you will get
result. The result is positive or negative will depend on the goal you
have set. If your actions are towards your goal then it is positive
or otherwise it may be negative. If we achieve our goal we become
happy. Happiness is one of the common purposes in our life.
Everyone has got a unique purpose in their life. Goals are the mile
stones toward our purpose in life.
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Are you spending most of your time in the class, library, with
teachers and among the classmates who are serious about their
studies or in the canteen and theatre halls?
You can only visualise your long-term goal and vision. To achieve
your long-term goal you will be taking different steps and people
around may think you are a fool. Because they are not aware of your
long-term vision and neither you have time to explain to them.
progressing towards your goal and you will definitely achieve your
goal.
If you can align your environment with your goal, then you can
reach your destination faster. Otherwise like a car, if the wheels are
not aligned you will have difficulties in driving. In the same way
if your environment is not aligned with your goal, you will have
difficulties to achieve your goal.
The reason you have good relationship with them as you are
contributing to their life in some way. Contribution can be done in
three different ways. They are through Physical (Money, Book, Car)
resource, Intellectual resource (Knowledge) and Emotional (Love,
respect) resource. Emotional resource plays the vital role in our
lives but it’s the most neglected area; as we have been emotionally
beaten in the past in some course of our life. Therefore maintaining
core values play a vital role in long-term relationship.
Cotrbutions can be in 3 Different ways
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If you are performing well in the examination, then you can help
your classmates through your intellectual resource and emotional
resource.
If any of your relation which you feel important, is not working well
with you ask yourself, “Am I contributing to other person’s life in
any way?”
Listening
Listening builds trust and creates better emotional bond. The most
precious asset which you can contribute to other is by listening.
Listen patiently and attentively to your teachers and parents though
you may have heard it before. Resist the urge to jump to a conclusion
and start playing your ‘I’ tape recorder. The most important aspect
in emotional contribution is the art of asking right questions and
listening patiently to understand.
Appreciation
Patience,
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Our values form our character and values can’t be taught, they
are imbibed and inherited. Values also determine one’s attitude.
During recruitment importance is given to intelligence but after
recruitment importance is on the character to sustain your job.
Values play a vital role for a long-term relationship. The most
common reason why people have disagreements is because they
have differences in values. The environments in which we have
been brought up play vital role in the creation of our values such as
our parents, friend circle and educational institutes where we have
studied.
The core values are like roots covered under the soil and cannot be
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seen with naked eyes but benefits can be experienced in the long
run. As these can’t be seen with ordinary eyes, unless the other
people around us have a long-term vision they may term you as fool
and ignore you. This is the time to again remember the four traits to
achieve your ultimate success: Patience, Positive Attitude,
Punctuality (Persistence) and Initiative.
Our character is the sum total of values that we posses. Values can’t
be taught; they are imbibed and inherited from our parents. We
inherit character or values from our parents through genes, which
scientists have already proved; and through observation. During
childhood our parents are our role model. Whatever they do, we
tend to follow and whatever we do, if we get approval from our
parents we tend to accept as right action. If a child watches parents
to lie, the child will pick up lying unconsciously. If a child watches
parents to put on revealing dresses, the child will think, it’s Ok to
expose our body to get attention from others.
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The father could have told his child, “It’s not right to spit on anyone.
Don’t do such nuisance in the future.” And he could have given a
rupee to hand over to the beggar; in the process the child would
have learned kindness.
There is a saying “Marry the right person. This one decision will
determine 90% of your happiness or misery.” The same thing is
applicable in terms of the relationship between employee and
employer to determine happiness or misery in our life. It’s that vital
to have a cordial relationship in between employee and employer.
Out of the 24 hours of our day we spend 6 to 8 hours in sleeping
and 2 to 3 hours in travelling, so left with approximately 14 hours
time when we are awake and our brain is working fully. How much
time will you spend at the work place? You will be spending 8 to 12
hours at your work place. So major time of your professional life will
be spent at work place, therefore if you will not enjoy the company
of your colleagues while at work, your life would be miserable.
The two main components to build any kind of strong and happy
relationships are trust and contribution from both sides; let it be
husband–wife relationship, employee-employer relationship or
friendships. When one of the components is missing the relationship
breaks down. In the case of employee-employer relationship,
marriage takes place with the recruitment. The employee
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applied for.
As a candidate in your mind you will also think, “Will I gain any
intellectual from this organisation, will my experience be valuable
for my career growth?” Let’s
assume you are fresh out from
college and you got options: to
work for Microsoft as junior
engineer where you will get less
salary and another very small
organisation of 15 employees but
with higher salary than Microsoft. Where will you work? Most of
the candidate will opt for Microsoft with less salary to gain
intellectuals.
during recruitment, then also the interviewer will take note, how
do you answer the questions during personal interview and group
discussion sessions as you have to work in a team. When you are
working in a team, you will be dealing with human computers
and these human computers have got emotions. In the beginning
to fulfil your basic needs you may give more importance to salary
(physical asset). But as your basic needs are fulfilled you will give
more importance to Emotion and Core values. As a human being,
we take decisions emotionally and justify them rationally.
Core values are also called Spiritual Asset. In western world core
values are known by SQ. To recruit top management position most
importance is given to SQ or core values of the individuals whoever
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applies for the post. The top management position holder is already
having IQ and EQ otherwise he will not be in that position. But
if he is not having SQ, he will siphon the company fund to his
personal account.
The people whoever achieved extraordinary results in their life
took defeats, momentary failures and depression in their stride,
never lost courage or compromised with their values. Each and
every one of us possesses extraordinary capabilities and immense
potentials. But can you sustain your core values or give up to the
immediate pressure?
The stronger is your core values you can achieve more success
and happiness in your life. The ultimate leadership is all about
maintaining core values such as commitment, responsibility,
trustworthy, punctuality, persistence, integrity, gratitude and
forgiveness.
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Intellectual Link - 3%
Emotional Link - 6%
First three are the part of our Personality and last one forms
our character.
Be an effective communicator
You can have the greatest ideas in the world, but they are of no
good to you and your career, if you can’t express them clearly
and confidently. Barrack Obama though from an ordinary family
background has become the 44th President of United States on
the power of his communication. We communicate on the basis
of our values, beliefs, thoughts and knowledge on the subject. As
a student you need to communicate your ideas in front of your
teachers, parents, classmates and later on in front of interviewer
to get selected for a good job or manage your own business. It’s
not what you communicate but how you communicate plays the
major role in every relationship.
EGO BARRIERS
Building positivity in
communication
present generation.
Please place your pen or pencil on your left palm and try to lift
the pen by your right hand. I repeat, please try to lift, don’t lift. I
will hit if you don’t try and if you lift also. You must keep trying
to lift your pen. What happened? Is it
coming up? No.
Let’s go back to the example. You know whether you can lift the
pen or not, then where is the question of ‘try’ comes in the picture.
You can say, “I will lift or I will not lift.” There can be a situation,
when your teacher said to remove a box or an object weighing 200
pounds and you can lift only 100 pounds. What will you do? Most
of us say “I will try to remove’ though you know it is beyond your
capability. After an hour your teacher comes back and sees the same
object is lying there itself and shouts at you, “I told you to remove
that object.” Your response will be, “I tried but could not remove as
it’s too heavy”. The teacher replies, “You could have told me at that
time only to give you another person.” In this process we prolong
our communication and deadlines are not met.
The same communication could have been better if you had said, “I
will remove but I need someone’s help. It’s too heavy for me. Can
you ask someone to give me a helping hand?”
If we can avoid using ‘I will try’, this one statement will improve
your effectiveness in your communication to a greater extent.
Wherever you go what you carry with you? It’s yourself. People
first see your dressing (packaging) and then what comes out
from your mouth. Again it’s not what comes out from your
mouth but how it comes out is more important. It is not what
you speak but how you speak make you an effective speaker.
Suppose you are thirsty and you went to super market to buy
a drink. There are two drinks of same price. One is nicely
packaged and the other is ordinarily packaged. Which one will
you pick up? Obviously the nicely packaged one
You have purchased the drink. Now you want to drink, but
having difficulty to open the bottle. After long struggle you
opened the drink bottle, but it spilled your dress. Will feel like
buying the drink again? NO.
“Dress Right. You can’t afford not to!” You may be having all
knowledge but how you dress and how you deliver matters.
Otherwise you miss opportunities; especially job interviews.
Only the top 5% students don’t waste time. They use the same 24
hours they have each day to get things done. They don’t waste hours
watching TV. These students are more likely to be part of the TV
entertainment than brooding on all problems.
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Please write down the people you need to forgive on the space
provided (one of them may even be you) and the reasons you need
to forgive them.
You have joined a course and took money from your parents
for the course. You promised and committed to your parents
that you will do everything to pass out with flying colours.
We are living in a society and mistake may happen with our parents,
teachers, classmates, friends and seniors. If you can’t forgive them,
then every time you see them, read their name, hear their name or
any thought comes in your mind about them, you get disturbed
and not able to focus on the task to be carried out at that moment.
You are harming yourself. The control switch of your happiness is
outside, not within you. If you can’t forgive them, you get disturbed
and not able to focus on the task to be carried out and it will affect
your performance in examination and in turn your career.
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The people who hurt you are ignorant of your good intention about
them; they lose a good person like you. You may feel pity on them.
No one does mistake consciously. Either they are ignorant or their
ego makes them to commit mistakes. If you can practise forgiveness
you will be free of tension, your mind will be clean, and you will lead
a happy life. Practising forgiveness shows that you give importance
to yourself. Forgiveness does not mean that you will have to go
and embrace the person or tell him that you have forgiven him.
You need to do it in your mind and you can write in a piece of paper
and throw it.
I,...my name…forgive myself for all the mistake I did because I was
ignorant and unconscious of the consequence of my actions.
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If you don’t react, your friend may say, “Are you really an idiot?”
To prove you are not an idiot, you replied and that turned into
altercation. The altercation turned into physical fight and both
landed in hospital. Will you be able to accomplish your mission in
life, if you react in such small provocation?
My question, “If dog barks at you do you bark back?” Why not?
Because you know the dog is ignorant. You will come across dogs
around you in everyday life to provoke you. Why are you barking at
them? If you are barking back, then you also come to their level. You
are reading this book to come above that level. Fire of knowledge
i.e. awareness can take away your suffering.
When the same dog comes to bite you what you do? You hit back.
In the same way if any human dog comes to bite you, you also hit
back. Therefore one of our ancestors said, “If you want peace, be
ready for war”.
When you know the other person is ignorant of his mistake, then
why are you making the same mistake? Fighting is never a solution,
imparting the right knowledge and the awareness is the solution.
If you can fulfill his ego for that moment, you can make a long-term
relationship with him. Later on you get an opportunity to rectify
his mistake.
Let’s take the same incident. The other person said, “You idiot, you
don’t know how to drive.” And you replied, “Sorry”. Would he come
to hit you? In 99.99 cases he would go away and you could have
also reached your destination in time, because his ego was fulfilled.
People around you including your friend might have criticized
you by saying, “You are a fool.” Regarding this criticism I have
discussed in detail in the next strategy. Dealing with criticism is a
very important obstacle to be crossed on the path of success.
Let’s go back to the above example where you fought with the other
person in that day. After three months of the incident one night your
brother met with an accident at 11pm. You have been informed to
come and pick him up. To pick up your brother you have to pass
through certain areas which are not safe during night and police
advised to avoid that area during night or move in a group. You
could not get any one and you didn’t have alternative. And you were
travelling alone in your bike at 11:30 pm to pick up your brother.
In the same route and towards the same direction, the same person
was travelling along with 4 friends and he could recognise that you
are the same person who broke his 5 bones. That day as you were
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two persons you broke his five bones. How many bones of yours
would they break now?
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Some students blame their failure on the fate and some blame on
their near and dear ones for not getting the expected support from
them. Initially people will not support rather they will criticize;
that’s the law of the nature. Very few can overcome these criticisms
and stops taking any further action towards their goal. Only your
actions can take you to your destination.
You focus on your task; you will get what you deserve. It may take
some time, therefore I have discussed again and again- Patience,
Punctuality, Positive Attitude and Initiative are essential to be
successful.
You are the ‘parascender’ and you have gone up in the air almost
100 meters above water level. Suddenly the parachute snapped and
you fell down in the water. You never knew swimming, but as you
were splashing water to survive, you realised you are floating very
easily and swam 200 meters to come to the shore. What would be
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your reaction?
Every incident has got a positive aspect and negative aspect, how
do we take it depends on how we think about ourselves. You can
take the incident as failure or learning. You went for adventure and
you had real adventure in the trip. You learned swimming due to the
incident; you came to know your capability that you can fall down
from 100meter above water level and still you can swim more than
200meters. What a great adventure!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
Nelson Mandela
You had the true experience of the Nelson
Mandela’s above statement that you are
powerful beyond measures. If you could
think that way, you could have thanked the
organiser from the heart. Organiser was
terrified and nervous due to the accident
and was expecting that you would shout at
him. But what you did? You thanked him.
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What would be his reaction, “Sir, are you human or God. I gave you
so much pain and you are thanking me. Please forgive me and if I
can be of any help please let me know. Please allow me to pay any
medical expenses.” You gave him opportunity to acknowledge his
mistake and built long-term relationship for ever. You have increased
your family. If you want to come back for parasailing, you will
always be welcomed like their family members
Some people may criticise your act of thanking the organiser. But
you followed your conscience. If you are practising the previous act,
you will never be welcomed and create enemies everywhere.
It is not what others do but our own mistakes that hurt us the most;
it is our response to those provocations. What people will say or do
is under their control. But how you will react is under your control.
If anyone criticise you to be fool, you agree and say “Yes, I am fool
or mad” and carry on your task. In the long run people will come
to know who fool is. You can have control on your thoughts, and
thoughts are generated from mind. You can achieve mastery over
your mind through conscious and continuous practise; otherwise
compulsive thinking will take you over. By controlling your mind
you can control your destiny. Your mind & conscience is your
spiritual asset. Protect and use it with the care. God has given us
the will power to protect it from evil purpose. Mind control is the
result of self-discipline and habits. You either control your mind
or it controls you. There is no half-way compromise. The most
practical of all methods for controlling the mind is the habit of
keeping our mind busy with a definite purpose and definite goal in
our life, not 10 different goals.
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