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What are the things that come up to your mind if you think of positive life
changes? Getting married, moving to a bigger house, Win the lottery… People
normally think these as positive life changes. Therefore, when someone is getting
married, not only his/her family members and friends but also strangers give
applause and wish luck. The same thing happens to the lottery. Lots of people are
desperate to win the lottery so that their miserable life could be changed
completely. The lottery is like a key for them. When people see an article about the
lottery winner, the comment section is full of jealous people’s comments. Likewise,
people think positive life changes bring only positive things. But that’s not true.
They only see one side of a coin. Bad life changes cause stress of course. Everybody
is aware of that. However, only do bad changes cause stress? These are three
The common belief that people will eventually get married to somebody
makes people think marriage as an easy step. But the cost is huge. Not only in
financial issue but also in keeping each other’s space, it needs huge effort to keep
the marriage in a good way. It is said that this generation is facing this situation,
you have to give up three things; relationship, marriage and having a kid. Likewise,
society is changing. Yet some people still believe that marriage is a common
mission for everybody. But marriage brings huge stress. Two different people are
living in one house. They become each others’ legal family. It brings the
saying in Korea. “You never know this is the one you’ve been waiting for until you
get married.” It implies that there is more unhappy marriage than a happy marriage.
Furthermore, marriage itself is not only a good thing for everyone. A marriage with
a bad start could end into a bad result. He/she could be forced to get married in
When a child grows up to the age of university student, they leave their
home. Before that time, they were together with their parents. Going to university
means more than just ‘living alone’. It’s a huge step for people going through in
their life. It is generally considered a good life change. You get an opportunity to
see various aspects of the world. But it causes stress to both of a child and its
parents. Emptiness syndrome and New semester blues are examples. Parents feel
isolated from their own child, knowing that they are not the same person they’ve
been raised anymore. Parents find it hard to admit that their child doesn’t need
help from them anymore. And for a child, going to university would be not
become an adult. Being an adult means that they take responsibility for their action.
That thing is enough to burden a child. And the university problem comes up. The
feeling of being protected by parents is gone. Likewise, both parents and child will
Many people dream about having a baby with their loved ones, or they just
these days, when childbirth ratio has been decreasing. Government promotes the
profits they’re going to supply to those who gave birth to a baby. Watching a tv
program that shows celeb and its kid, people say ‘I wish I have a baby like that kid'
easily. Even though there is a positive image of having a baby, the reality is a bit
different than the expectation. Having a baby means you need to spend money on
the baby. More money, more time and more patients are required. Plus, there is a
possibility that your kid born with a disability like down syndrome or autism. It cost
even more money, time and patience in case of a disabled baby. What if the poor
couple gave birth to a baby and it turns out their baby has a disability? Whether
they give up to raise a baby or not, they will force lots of problems. You'll never
know your baby will be born healthy or disabled. Also, having a baby cause an
argument between the couples or a person who is responsible for the baby.
Just as these three examples, even positive life changes cause stress. ‘Do
not judge a book by its cover.’ This sentence exactly defines my opinion. Something
might be seen as a positive thing to you. But it doesn't count as a positive thing
even negative life changes cause happiness too. For example, a victim of a crime
will be happy if a person who hurt the victim dies. To become a person who is not
seeing a thing in one particular perspective, you need to have these attitudes. First,
be open minded. Even the same action does not cause the same result. And second,
be ready for unexpected things. You need to be aware that everything can happen.
Positive things can cause stress. Negative things can cause happiness.