Real Answers To The Meaning of Life and Finding Happiness

Real answers to The
Meaning of Life and finding

Happiness
Real answers to The
Meaning of Life and
finding Happiness
Timothy Tang
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Contents
Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . vii
What is The Meaning of Life question really asking?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
What is Reality and Balance?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2
What is Meaning or Purpose? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5
What is Human Life? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Formulating the answer to The Meaning of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
What can be achieved by seeking The Meaning of Life? . . . . . . . . . . . . 10
What is the meaning of one’s life? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Why do people mess up their lives? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
Hints of The Meaning of Life from Religion. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Can Morality exist without Religion? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Asking the ‘What if?’ guilt question. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
Having the will to live vs. Death . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25
Positive and Negative people. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27
Negativity in bullies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30
Stalking and preserving Positivity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32
How are people good or evil? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34
Positive Emotions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
What is Fear? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
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What is Anger and Hatred? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38

What is Happiness and how to find it? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40
What is Beauty? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44
What is Love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45
What is Perversion? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46
What is Addiction? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48
Temptation and Greed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51
Positivity and Negativity in Learning . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53
Positivity and Negativity in the family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54
Hiding of identities in Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56
How to deal with Negativity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58
References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
Introduction
The topic of the meaning of life is undoubtedly the most discussed as well as the
most profound that has left countless people puzzled and troubled across the
ages. Man has been searching for an answer to this mystery in the hope of finding
direction in his life and to understand the ultimate purpose of his existence. The
quest to answer this ultimate question is still very much alive today. Browse
through bookstores and do a search on the internet and one can find many peo-
ple discussing this topic.
Many people, including philosophers, book authors, as well as bloggers have

stated views that such an ultimate question as well as its answer, is open to inter-
pretation that makes it very subjective. The most common answers to the mean-
ing of life include finding happiness, love or doing tasks that gives one a great
sense of fulfillment upon completion.
Some people even feel that the answer to the meaning of life is too profound to
be known and understood. Some even feel that life or human existence has no
real meaning or purpose because they think that human existence occurred out of
a random chance in nature, and that anything that exists by chance has no
intended purpose.
Such a mass of subjective and conflicting views about the most important ques-
tion of human existence would no doubt continue to leave people confused, trou-
bled and frustrated at finding purpose and motivation to lead their lives. As I go
along with my explanation of the meaning of life in this book, I will explain how
anything that exists in reality has a crucial, fundamental purpose that gave rise to
its creation.
This book is the result of an extraordinary attempt to discover what the meaning
of life question is really asking, and goes to formulate the real objective answer to
such an ultimate question of existence.
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The topic of my first book was intended to be on consciousness and its enhance-
ment. I researched on consciousness so that I could help people enhance their
consciousness, better navigate through their lives and avoid many of life’s prob-
lems. I theorized there is a consciousness mechanism in the mind that I named as
‘CMech’, which is crucial for the interpretation and awareness of Reality. I theo-
rize that it is this consciousness mechanism that gets affected when we realize
people are staring at us. Before I could finish my manuscript on the topic, the
many books dealing with the meaning of life and happiness topics in the book-
stores I visited overwhelmed me. The interest of people to understand the mean-
ing of life and to find happiness in these books were so great I felt I had to
provide my own contribution towards their understanding.
I have spent the last few years of my life researching and understanding the
mind’s consciousness, also called awareness. The intention of my consciousness
research was to discover methods of enhancing consciousness so that people can
use them to enhance their understanding of the world, improve life’s navigation
and overcome many of its obstacles. Since enhancing consciousness has similar
results towards helping people finding their direction in life as well as happiness, I
was able to integrate the findings of my consciousness research into this book.
My thoughts on the meaning of life and happiness were influenced by many reli-
gions and cultures. In this book, the reader can expect to find many references
from religion such as Buddhism, Zen Buddhism, Taoism and the Bible. Exam-
ples from American and Japanese cultures are also used for explanations.
The audience focus of this book is directed towards youth such as children and
teenagers besides adults. Therefore, I have tried my best to present my ideas in
clear and simple English as far as possible. I would like to remind readers that my
understanding of the meaning of life and happiness does not represent the abso-
lute fact on the matter. They are strongly encouraged to keep an open and critical
mind and question everything written. Younger readers are encouraged to
increase their understanding of various terms and topics in this book by doing
their own research and coming up with their own deliberated views.
I hope readers can find helpful answers towards finding their meaning of life and
happiness from reading this book, good luck.
What is The Meaning of Life
question really asking?
Before an objective answer to the meaning of life question can be formulated, an

objective definition to the ultimate question has to be formulated. We must
firstly understand what the meaning of life question is really asking.
The English language is very rich in meanings and words often mean differently
in different contexts. To understand what the meaning of life question is really
asking, we have to find out what the individual words of the question would
accurately mean in their context.
What is the meaning of life? What is meaning in the first place? What does it
mean for something to mean anything?
The word meaning is used interchangeably with the word purpose in the context
of the meaning of life question. To ask what is the meaning of life is also to ask
what the purpose of life is.
What is the explanation of meaning or purpose, and human life? To find their
explanation, certain aspects of reality have to be re-examined in the next chapter.
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What is Reality and Balance?
Reality and Nature are made of positive and negative energies. To interpret real-
ity and be conscious requires us to realize these two opposing forces.
We live in a reality that goes by the natural flow of motion. Causes lead to their
effects. Matter is slower dormant forms of energy. Energy has both positive free-
flowing and negative opposing qualities.
Positive flow of the mind promotes freedom of self-identity and negative flow
restricts one’s real identity. Positivity promotes the flow of knowledge and nega-
tivity causes ignorance. Negativity in the flow of thoughts restricts the flow of
thoughts in the mind and causes the famed writer’s block. People do not like neg-
ative qualities because it restricts them in many ways. Negativity in the form of
restrictions in punishments is often used to dissuade people from committing
certain actions.
We can sense positive and negative flow in the environment and objects. Some-
times we feel that the atmosphere of some places have a positive free-flowing
quality while other places can feel heavy with tension that can be cut with a knife.
Foods such as beautiful Japanese sweets and attractive art forms display many
positive aesthetic qualities that make people feel positive by interpreting their
qualities. Positivity in taste is felt in sweetness and negativity is felt in bitterness.
Since reality contains both positive and negative qualities, we can describe life
like a box of bittersweet chocolates. We are more comfortable and can think and
function better in positive places than negative ones. Positive and negative flow
can be felt in people. We usually prefer the company of positive people to nega-
tive ones.
Reality is the manifestation of positive and negative energies. Interpreting our

reality and anything real therefore requires us to realize both the positive and neg-
ative qualities in the fast and dormant forms of energy that we see.
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When we touch an object in our hands, it feels real to us because of the opposing
reaction of the force we exert on it, which provides us with the feedback of its
properties. We daydream and fantasize when we think of a scenario in our minds
made up mostly of positive qualities where we can express great freedom of iden-
tity in the absence of restricting negative qualities. When we walk on the street,
we experience the cause and effect of motion and the opposing friction on the
ground. When we taste a piece of tasty food in our mouths, we interpret and
experience its positive and negative qualities to get its real taste. The true charac-
ter of a person is known from his positive and negative qualities, from how he
reacts to both positive and negative situations. We require these crucial feedbacks
from interpreting both positive and negative forces in order to distinguish reality
from illusion.
People do high-risk sports because they can bring one lots of intense positive flow
that is felt as excitement. Have you ever experienced a dream where you were in
some place indistinguishable from actual reality and the objects around you felt
very real? The main reason why we feel some dreams can be real is due to the
brain’s mental representation that re-creates our interpretation of reality as we
sleep.
Negativity disturbances in the flow of our mind are what we subconsciously use
to keep track of time as it passes. Since an experience of a negative situation
would contain many disturbances to the mind, we would perceive the movement
of time in negative experiences as moving very slow as compared to those in posi-
tive experiences. Time passes very slow when we are experiencing something we
deem as negative and threatening and time is forgotten when we experience
something very pleasant and unthreatening.
Change is constant as energy travels or changes form. Forms of energy in the nat-
ural system have their unique positive and negative qualities to affect other forms
of energy as well as to be affected by them in different magnitudes. This gives
them their qualities to balance or imbalance other forms of energy.
The dual opposing forces of Positivity and Negativity have manifested into many
forms in reality. The human mind is one of the forms of energy in reality that
often clearly displays the rich characteristics of the positive and negative forces.
Much of the dual forces and reality is understood by understanding the mind and
its emotions.
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Balance
To gain balance is to gain positive and negative energies in the right amounts.
Since nature requires balance to sustain itself, we can observe balance in many
areas in reality.
We practice balance in our lives by doing our favorite activities such as listening
to music and singing to remove tension and restore balance to our emotions.
Since pleasant music is made of positive flow, it is very effective to countering
negative tension. We like to listen to uplifting music when we are depressed and
feeling negative. The positive flow of our favorite songs provides balance by
resolving the negative blockages in our minds. Sports are popular activities that
give the individual the chance to restore the positive flow in his body and mind.
Food preparation or cooking are said to have therapeutic effects because it helps
the person to focus on enhancing a positive flow of thought by focusing on the
instructions in recipes (My recipe on vegan pancakes can be found online).
Even the need for balance is present in the person asking the meaning of life
question, he hopes to seek balance from his curiosity by finding answers to gain
closure. People sometimes feel that resolving whichever personal imbalances is
their main direction in life. Maintaining balance in our lives is very important. If
we disregard the balance of our bodily requirements such a, hunger and thirst, we
would lose our existence very quickly.
What is Meaning or Purpose?
The dynamics of nature through cause and effect work to instill balance in the
universe. When we question the characteristics of any specific active or dormant
form of energy in the universe, we are actually asking how it can affect or be
affected by other energies, in playing its role for nature's need for balance in the
universe.
Balance is crucial in nature and for Man. Without good balance in body and
mind, a person would quickly lose his life and mind. Balance is crucial for sur-
vival.
The meaning or purpose of a form of energy can be discovered by examining how

it’s positive and negative qualities work together to balance or imbalance other
energies. And finding out what other forms of energies it can affect or be affected
by, will give it its real-life meaning or purpose.
Meaning or purpose have subjective qualities to them. This is because the mind’s
perception of meaning or purpose is affected positively and negatively. A person
with a positive perception would recognize more of an object’s positive purposes
while a person with a negative perception would recognize more of an object’s
negative purposes.
People often feel that tasks are meaningless if they do not lead to positivity. They
often steer away from meaningless tasks as they do not promote the freedom of
their identity. People give us more respect when we wear functional clothes that
makes us seem to have more purpose and importance. We thus feel more confi-
dent.
Any form of fast or dormant forms of energy has its own crucial role for balance
in the universe. The living and non-living things on our planet’s ecosystem pro-
vide us with the balance that we require to sustain our existence. We built tools to
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assist us in survival, to give us the balance between comfort and suffering. Man is
a balancing agent.
Many objects in our world have their own designated purpose when they were
created to assist us. However, the purpose of man’s existence in this reality has
been the mystery that plagued the minds of countless people throughout human-
ity. If dormant forms of energy that is matter have their own role in balance in
the physical universe, then what is the balancing role of man and his existence?
What is the real meaning and purpose of his life?
To understand the meaning of life question, we have to understand what human

life is.
What is Human Life?
Any form of matter is but a dormant form of energy. The body of man is also a
dormant form of energy. It renews its body through cell renewal. A living body
replenishes itself with energy through the consumption of food in order to sus-
tain its own dormant energy state. It does this to prevent its own disintegration of
bodily cells that can change and reduce its dormant energy state into more basic
energy states such as water and carbon, thereby destroying its created purpose it
had when it was still alive.
The life of Man is different from lower forms of life such as plants. Man has the
ability to be self-aware, to be conscious of his reality. Man’s high-level conscious-
ness ability to interpret his reality makes him very different from lower life forms.
It allows him the intelligence to adapt to changes in his environment and to over-
come threats to his survival.
Consciousness is therefore the core of human life and distinguishes him from
other lower life forms.
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Formulating the answer to The
Meaning of Life
Now that the explanations of meaning, purpose and human life have been cov-
ered, the answer to the question of what is the meaning of life can be formulated
by re-examining individual word meanings of the meaning of life question.
What is the meaning of life?

The inclusion of ‘the’ in the ultimate question implies an ultimate value. Mean-
ing or purpose of something is known from how it can affect or be affected by
other energies in playing its role for nature's need for balance in the universe. Life
as in human life has the fundamental ability of high-level consciousness, which
allows a person to interpret reality and adapt to it.
Therefore, when we ask what is the meaning or purpose of life, we are asking
what is the fundamental, ultimate balance or imbalance that would lie in a living
being with the ability to interpret Reality.
The fundamental, ultimate imbalance that lies in a human being comes from his
consciousness ability that is the core of human life. The crucial innate desire of
his consciousness ability to interpret and understand the nature of reality con-
tains the fundamental and ultimate imbalance of his life.
Although meanings or purposes is subjected to the positive and negative percep-

tion of people to hold positive and negative meanings or purposes, the conscious-
ness mechanism has an objective purpose, which is to interpret reality from its
positive and negative qualities.
Fundamental and ultimate desires or tasks require similarly fundamental and ulti-
mate knowledge and understanding to fulfill them. Resolving a fundamental and
ultimate imbalance from such a crucial innate desire to interpret and understand
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the nature of reality would give him the fundamental and ultimate meaning or
purpose of his existence.
Suffering is to experience many blockages in the flow of the mind and body that
restricts a person to live his life. Sufferings are often caused by ignorance of the
nature of reality. It results in the mind seeking out ways to restore balance and
peace of mind, which is the basis for desire, motivation and temptation to occur.
The most effective ways for a person to find balance and peace would be to
understand the nature of reality. The more one understands something, the more
he would be able to understand how it works and use such knowledge to his ben-
efit.
Fulfilling the meaning of life by understanding the nature of reality would pre-
vent a person from facing many problems of life. It would also reduce a lot of suf-
fering and bring great peace. As a person gains the understanding of the nature of
reality, he would be able to understand much of how it works and he would be in
more control of how it affects him as well as how he affects it. Positive people
who naturally bring positivity to people would naturally assist others in such
understanding. The ultimate motivation for fulfilling the meaning of life would
therefore come from reducing ignorance and suffering for oneself as well as for
others.
Is the answer to the meaning of life so simple?

Perhaps you would doubt whether the meaning of life can be known so easily,
with an answer that does not provide the kind of dramatic effect anticipated for
knowing such an ultimate question of life. Sometimes the mystery to an ultimate
question can carry a very fundamental answer. It is ultimately up to one’s positive
or negative perception to believe anything. Knowing the answer to a greatly
desired question is not the end, the real difficulty of the answer lies in giving up
unnecessary complexity and taking up simplicity for an ultimate purpose of life.
What can be achieved by seeking
The Meaning of Life?
Very much of human suffering is caused by Man’s ignorance of the nature of

reality. The ignorance of how nature and reality function causes him to be kept in
mystery of why things happen the way they are. The lack of reason and under-
standing causes him to be too affected emotionally. In addition, he displaces such
negative emotions into the world and causes suffering to others as well as to him-
self.
If the fundamental and ultimate purpose of Man’s existence is seek for the goal of
its fulfillment, much suffering that is caused by the ignorance of the nature of
reality can be resolved and prevented from occurring. The world would be a
much more understanding and peaceful place. Through the understanding of
how nature and reality function, Man would be able to better navigate through
reality and avoid many of the obstacles that plague him.
Having a deep understanding of the nature of reality would give a person resolu-
tion of many of life’s mysteries. He would also not be so affected and disturbed
by many of the Unknowns that arise from his consciousness. His negative percep-
tions would be straighter. Mundane desires and their resolutions would then be
perceived as superficial and simplistic ways to resolve imbalances that comes from
the ignorance of the nature of reality. The person would then be able to detach
and separate himself from the mundane desires of life.
Seeking and fulfilling the meaning of life at a very deep level may give one a sense
of a spiritual or religious experience. The existence in the present reality may
seem too mundane and superficial for one’s state of understanding or enlighten-
ment and one seeks to attain to a higher reality for a more fulfilling existence.
This makes life similar to being a game. If one can understand the nature of real-
ity, he would be able to overcome or ‘win’ over many of the obstacles.
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The ultimate understanding of the nature of reality would lead to many possibili-
ties. The ultimate achievement that one can gain from life is ultimately limited by
his beliefs. If he believes in an existence after his current one, then he may believe
that his ‘soul’ can leave this dimension and ascend to a higher dimension by gain-
ing an ultimate understanding of reality and detaching himself from it. However,
this view is not totally influenced by religion. Science has already stated the possi-
bility of many other dimensions possible for existence. Therefore, views that used
to seem spiritual and supernatural to us may after all be more natural than we
think.
There are many paths in the journey of life. Which path a person chooses to take
is ultimately up to his own specific need for balance, and what he believes to be
possible.
What is the meaning of one’s life?
Many people who ask about the meaning of life often got confused by asking the
meaning of life with the meaning of their own personal life.
One question is asking about the ultimate purpose of human existence while the
other question is asking about the specific role of balance a human being plays in
his real-life environment.
Many people feel that what they want in life is to be happy, comfortable, and do
enjoyable and fulfilling tasks. Therefore, people desire to find love, obtain mate-
rial wealth, seek pleasure and get their dream jobs. However, these basic and
somewhat mundane desires do not carry the ultimate meaning or purpose of life.
They usually require immediate and not ultimate resolution as fulfilling the
meaning of life does.
The meaning of one’s life is the specific kind of balance or imbalance that one can
play in real-life, based on abilities or disabilities. A person can find or give his life
meaning and purpose by studying reality and understanding the specific kinds of
personal or social imbalances he feels inclined to resolve. Tasks that seem mun-
dane or meaningless can have new meaning or purpose if they are perceived as
contributing towards fulfilling greater meaning or purpose in one’s life.
When we encounter a situation of disaster where the victims are experiencing

great negativity in suffering, we could feel instinctively motivated to correct the
negative imbalance in people’s suffering by providing positive actions to alleviate
it. People who do volunteer or charity work feel the need to correct the negativity
felt in disabled or needy people. They get a sense of happiness or fulfillment
doing it. We care for people because we want to preserve their positivity and pre-
vent them from experiencing negative experiences. Many people feel that the
sense of loving others and preserving their positivity gives them the motivation
and meaning to life.
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People can choose to resolve imbalances from their own capacity or from the
choice of occupations, and seek to resolve them. Doing so allows the person to
discover the identity and the self. If a person seeks to understand the nature of
reality, it would assist him in resolving his own personal meanings of life, or may
even allow him to recognize their superficial mundane quality and give up desir-
ing after them.
Many people feel that life is meaningless or purposeless if they are forced to con-
form to other people’s expectations of them. This constricts their personal free-
dom to express their own life’s purpose, causes their desires to be unfulfilled and
brings great conflict, frustration and sadness.
Many people quickly lose their meaning of life upon fulfilling certain goals they
have set for themselves. They then ask what else is there to life after they have
accomplished them. They feel lost of what to do because they have resolved an
imbalance that also fulfilled their desire and motivation. They then feel that life is
empty and meaningless when they could not find other imbalances to resolve.
Since people are affected differently and in different degrees by different types of
negativity, their manifested desires from resolving imbalance are also different.
This is the reason why people have vastly different tastes in songs, food or hob-
bies. Some people are easily contented with resolving simple things in life while
others are contented by resolving complex imbalances.
Personal imbalances affect occupation choice

Every person is exposed to different types of imbalances in their own lives. Some-
times such experience of encountering imbalances provides the inspiration for a
person to select what he wants to do in his occupation later on in life. We look up
to certain famous role models in our lives because of the great contribution they
have brought to society, which resulted in resolving many imbalances. People
who have won Nobel prizes are those who have made such great contributions.
Many people hope to model such great people by accomplishing something posi-
tively great in their lives that can resolve some great kind of imbalance to them-
selves or to others.
What do people hope to be when they grow up from their childhood? Some peo-
ple want to be doctors to heal others because they have experienced the negative
effects of health problems and they hope to correct such negative imbalances in
their future. Some people hope to become law enforcers so that they can resolve
injustice. Different occupations require different kinds of balance to be resolved.
When I was young, I wanted to be a great psychologist so that I could resolve
many of the world’s greatest problems.
Those who have fulfilled their own need for balance would naturally help others
gain theirs. If we are affected by the imbalance faced by needy people, we may
choose to do volunteer work in our free time. Sometimes the kind of balance we
wish to restore conflicts with our limitations such as time or money, or people’s
expectations of us. Therefore, the path to restoring balance is faced with many
obstacles to overcome.
Why do people mess up their
lives?
The lack of a good answer to the meaning of life question left many people feel
that life has little or no meaning. Such a lack of direction in people’s lives made
them feel confused and hopeless. Some people chose to end their lives due to
their accumulated misery, others chose to continue leading their lives as comfort-
ably or as freely as they can. Sometimes such freedom of behavior can lead to neg-
ative consequences.
Nowadays, many teenagers do not feel that conforming to their parents’ expecta-
tions of them gives them great fulfillment in their lives. They try to seek outlets
they can escape to gaining their own freedom of identity and to discover more of
themselves and the world. Many teenagers are often quite clueless about their
own purpose in life therefore the common alternative of not being lost in their
life’s direction is to follow popular social norms of what people their age often do
in terms of behavior, fashion and lifestyle.
Since pleasure and happiness feelings takes a person away from negative emo-
tions, pleasure and happiness has become one of the most popular and sought
after goals in life. Personal desires of pleasure and happiness have become so
important to people that they have sometimes been mistaken as the fundamental
ultimate meaning or purpose of life.
Since many people did not know what direction to take or what to do with their
lives, they feel that their lives’ direction come from doing things that feel natural
to them, which is to seek pleasure and happiness in whichever positive or negative
ways they are accustomed or influenced to.
Some people feel that volunteering their time for good social causes gives them
great satisfaction and fulfillment. Others feel that seeking bodily pleasure in the
form of alcohol, drug or sex abuse takes away their negative feelings and makes
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them feel better. Some even feel that doing bad things gives them the release of
negativity that they so needed.
In the lack of knowing the meaning or purpose of life, people do what they know
in order to seek some sort of a direction in their lives, whether it may lead to pos-
itive or negative consequences.
People often mess up their lives out of frustration in understanding their lives’
direction. They are caught in releasing their negativity instead of resolving them
and these usually get them caught up in endless self-destructive cycles of addic-
tions that can ruin their lives.
Hints of The Meaning of Life
from Religion
Many religious people believe that the meaning of life comes from religion. Bud-
dhism preaches to do good and minimize suffering, overcome our karma of nega-
tivity, gain nirvana and end the need for reincarnations. It teaches concepts of
losing desires of material obsession to gain happiness. It teaches detachment of
false happiness from lavish materials. It is also taught that holding onto the nega-
tive flow of desires brings suffering. To have many unneeded desires is to hold
onto pain and suffering.
Christianity teaches similar ideas of doing good so that a person can enter the
kingdom of heaven. It teaches that man is born out of sin, sin being another term
for negativity. Both religions have great emphasis on the concept of duality, yin
and yang, the male and female, light and darkness, good and evil. They are simi-
lar in the sense that both of them list positivity as the necessary value in the path
of life.
Wide interpretation of religion

Since the interpretation of religious teachings is open to positive and negative
interpretations by positive and negative people, religion can be used to promote
positive good will or twisted to promote negative hatred. People can have a good
picture of religion if they view it positively with an open mind or view it nega-
tively if they associate it with negativity. The teachings of religion can be inter-
preted based on people’s varying levels of understanding. Therefore, religious
teachings are interpreted literally or metaphorically. I personally do not believe in
any religion that truly promotes negativity. Any religion which does this is not
worthy of being a religion.
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Why do bad things happen to good people?

Many people do not follow religion and believe in a higher intelligence because
they question why bad things can happen to good people. They also find no pur-
pose in their lives and they have experienced “unfair” negativity in the form of
suffering. The reason bad things can happen to good people is due to the pres-
ence of negativity in the world that affects people. Many good people can be
affected by bad circumstance if the amount of negativity in the world becomes
too rampant and too much for them to handle. However, the presence of nega-
tivity presents the opportunity for people to resolve them, and understand the
nature of reality and fulfill the meaning of life. Perhaps a higher intelligence does
not intervene in negative situations that require man himself to face and resolve.
A well-known example of how negativity could co-exist with positivity in religion

is the many cases where priests physically take advantage of young children. Their
negative distorted perception of gaining positivity from children is not resolved.
In the Bible, taking out the plank in one’s eye refers to the removal of negativity
that clouds a person’s judgment.
Positivity and Negativity in the Bible

Christian theology uses the method of typology for the interpretation of the
Bible. Various forms of negativity are mentioned in the Bible as sin, and we are
said to be born out of sin by the Bible. Since every person has committed some
form of negative actions, it is accurate to say that we have all sinned and we
should repent from negative ways into positive ones. In the Bible, having faith is
to perceive positively.
Various allegories are present in the Bible. For example in the book of Genesis,
there is a Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. Good and evil corresponds to
the values of positivity and negativity. When Eve was tempted by Satan to eat the
fruit from the tree, she gained the ability to perceive positivity and negativity.
This gave her the ability of consciousness, to interpret reality. People who per-
ceive very negatively in the Bible are described as being blind and having hard-
ened hearts.
Also in the book of Genesis, Lot’s wife turned into a pillar of salt because she
turned back to look at the sinful cities of Sodom and Gomorrah as they were
being destroyed. In Chinese Feng Shui, salt is used to absorb the negative vibra-
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tions in the house. Sin that is mentioned in the Bible are actions done with nega-
tivity, therefore for a person to have sinned is to have fallen into negativity. Based
on my understanding, I think Lot’s wife turning into a pillar of salt was an alle-
gory for representing the absorption of negativity that prevents a person from
moving away from it. The people of the two cities wanted to have sex with the
visiting angels in Lot’s home as a perverted way to gain their positivity.
The narrow perception of negative people is shown by how Jesus was accused of
being a glutton and drunkard in addition to being evil. Jesus described the nega-
tivity of the Pharisees that can spread like yeast in bread. Good and evil deeds of
man are represented as the good fruits borne of good trees and bad fruits borne of
corrupted trees. Jesus is the symbol of positivity in the Bible.
In the Book of Romans in the Bible, the characteristics of temptation are clearly
explained. It is written that the person is dragged away and enticed by his own
evil desire. Evil desire is the person’s negative form of resolving his mind’s imbal-
ance caused by negativity. Desire then leads to sin, sin representing negative
actions. The distorting ability of temptation does not come from external source
but from the person’s own weakness to allow negativity to affect him.
The Bible mentions the purpose of life

From the New Testament of the Bible, the Christian’s purpose of life is quite
clearly stated. Jesus said that unless Man change and become like children, he
would not be able to enter the kingdom of heaven. Children are the symbol of
great positivity as Jesus also is. This is why corrupting children with negativity is
strongly warned against. Unless people can adopt a positive nature of perception
like children do, they would not be able to go to heaven carrying great negativity.
Heaven and hell in the Bible represents places of positivity and negativity. It is
therefore logical to say that only positive people are suitable to go to heaven and
negative people to hell.
In the book of Romans, people are instructed to put away darkness and to put on
an armor of light, light representing positivity. People are also instructed not to
take revenge that is to overcome evil with evil, but to overcome the caging nega-
tivity of evil with positive freedom. People feel angry enough to take revenge
because they get affected by negativity and they desire to resolve the imbalance by
performing their own sense of justice in revenge.
We all seek balance in the different things we do. If there is a higher intelligence
that judges our actions, then it would be based on how we seek balance in our
different ways, whether they are seeked positively or negatively.
Jesus also said that it would be difficult for a rich man to enter the kingdom of
heaven. My interpretation of this is not that all rich people with lots of money
would find it difficult to enter heaven rather it is the obsession of finding happi-
ness in materials or from pleasure that distorts a person with negativity and pre-
vents him from realizing the true immaterial nature of positivity. If a person
mistakes the nature of happiness and does not recognize positivity as an immate-
rial form, his perception would not lead him to a place of positivity. Therefore,
Jesus was not actually asking the man with many materials to give them up but to
change his perception of where to seek positivity.
The Bible tells its listeners to purify themselves, of what I believe is the negativity
in a person’s mind.
In the book of Revelation, people are reminded to remember their first love, their
first state of mind when they were younger perhaps as a child, when they were
experiencing the world in a positive light. Almost every child has been asked the
question of what he wishes to be when he grows up. The usual answer is the dif-
ferent kind of well-meaning occupations that can satisfy the child’s need to
restore the necessary balance in his own life or in the world of negativity.
I believe the path to salvation as mentioned in the bible refers to the saving of
people from the negativities in the world. If there is a second coming of a messiah
who is the savior, then he should possess such ability.
Can Morality exist without
Religion?
Philosophy has wide-ranging discussions on morals and ethics. One of its discus-
sions is why should a person choose to be good rather than being evil. To be good
or to be evil depends on a person’s perception and respective embodiment of pos-
itivity and negativity qualities. A person is good or evil based on the positive or
negative flow of his mind, whether it promotes positivity or negativity.
A positive person who practices positivity would get positive effects in return. A
negative person who practices negativity would get negative results in return. The
positive person would be able to resolve his own imbalances and gain happiness.
The negative person would be distorted by his own negativity and be led in cir-
cles to seek the balance he desires. Therefore being good or evil would clearly
have its respective benefits and disbenefits.
People may think that if they commit something negative, they can get away with
the effects. However, every cause has an effect. The putting out of negativity by a
negative person is caused by the negativity in his mind and further practices of
unresolved negativity would eventually lead to deeper falseness. The balance and
peace he desires will be further from his grasp. The negative person is also con-
stantly living in mental pain and suffering caused by the negativity plaguing his
mind. The continual practice of negativity would eventually result in fatal nega-
tive repercussions. People who hold onto lots of negativity may eventually lose
control of their minds and identity due to the immense negative blockages.
Why should a person choose good over evil and be moral? It is because the person
who chooses positivity would be able to gain the peace and balance that he seeks.
Is it right to do something just because it feels natural doing it? Negativity and
positivity are both equally natural forces present in reality. Therefore, it is not
entirely justifiable to say that a person can do any negative action to correct the
imbalance of his urge. Sometimes people do things to remove their emotional
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imbalance instead of resolving the real cause of their desires. An action done
based on gaining personal balance has to be carefully considered whether it would
bring positive or negative re-enforcements towards gaining true positivity of the
mind.
We do not need to base the definition of what is good or evil from Religion; it is
possible to realize it ourselves.
The dynamics of positivity and negativity are present in reality. Every religious or
atheist person seeks peace and balance and he can choose to practice positive
goodness to fulfill his meaning of life whether or not a higher intelligence exists
to him.
Asking the ‘What if?’ guilt
question
Asking the dreaded “what if” guilt question has been one of the most powerful
obstructions for a person to move on from negativity. The “what if” question has
often been used in self-blaming to question the self of why a person or someone
else did something that caused a negative consequence or did not do something
in another way that could have avoided a negative consequence.
Some self-blamers even wish that they could go back in time and change a past
event to alter their present circumstance. They hope to use the knowledge and
understanding that they possess in the present, which they did not possess in the
past, to go back in time and avoid the negative event in their past, so that their
present circumstance could be in a better state.
The person experiences guilt when he realizes in the present that he has done
some past action based on previous wrong judgment. He feels guilt and performs
self-destructing cycles of self-blame because he does not understand why he did
something that is so clearly negative in his present perception?
Guilt is an emotion that is caused if one does not realize that bad judgment is
caused by the negativity that was distorting and clouding one’s judgment in the
time of error but since has been cleared by present positivity. We commit mis-
takes from time to time because of the negativity that clouds and distorts our
consciousness.
People often ask why a past event did not go the way that they desire, or ask,
“Why did I do something like that?” Events that resulted in negative conse-
quences already contain negativity that affected a person from making the right
judgment, or obstructing him from receiving the knowledge to avoid a negative
consequence.
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Past realities cannot be changed. Therefore, it is only reasonable if the person

would stop trapping himself in the negativity of guilt and self-blame. He should
learn from his mistake and move on with the purpose of his life. He should cou-
rageously face and overcome new negativities with the understanding he has
gained from experiences.
Just as being trapped in past negativity is not enough for a person to handle, there
is also the possibility of being trapped from the future. A person who is trying to
move on from experiences of negativity may doubt his worthiness in receiving
positivity from new positive experiences. He would doubt whether he is “good”
or positively capable enough to integrate and blend into a new positive life full of
positive people. The doubt comes from a negative perception. This is the reason
why negative experiences present great challenges to overcome.
I am sure many of us have wished that our lives could have been perfect and neg-
ativity was kept away from affecting us. We wish that we were not deceived by
negative people or practiced negativity on others. However, this is again going
back to fantasizing of a “what if” scenario that prevents one from facing up to
reality in the present. The world is not perfect and neither are the people living in
it. What we did in the past was based on what we thought could provide us with
happiness at the time, however we now know better. The imbalance in the world
is not going to get any better if we keep on wishing for things to change without
putting in effort. We cannot change the past but we can change the future by
resolving negativity with positivity.
Having the will to live vs. Death
Many people commit suicide when they feel that their life circumstance or just
life in general has become too miserable for them to continue living. They get
disappointed at Reality because they do not understand it well. Many of them
become depressed and feel that there is no more meaning or purpose in existing
in such heavy negativity when they can take the easy way out by ending their
experiencing of life. There are many reasons why people commit suicide. A few of
these reasons include victims of bullies, poverty, relationship failures, depression,
lack of living purpose etc
Many suicide victims are often too affected by their negatively distorted percep-
tion to consider the meaning of life. They do not consider the positive contribu-
tions they can still offer to others but are too trapped in their feelings of negative
emotions.
Overcoming negativity to achieve positivity is crucial to achieving balance. How-

ever, if people who intend to take their lives are too caught up in their feelings of
negativity, they would not find the strength to understand the negativity they are
facing to realize that there is still meaning to life. We have heard of folklores that
people who take their own lives cannot ascend to Heaven. The reason might
be that they carry great negativity from their intended self-destruction. The same
goes for people who curse others and wish them harm.
The person who wants to take his own life has to carefully consider whether he
wants to continue fulfilling his meaning of life or to put an end to such a pur-
pose.
We should not determine the continuity of our lives just because we have experi-
enced something of great negativity that has fallen upon us. Sometimes it is the
presence of negativity in a person’s life that offers him the chance to resolve it and
allow him to better understand the nature of reality and fulfill the meaning of life.
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Every person faces his own type of negativity and seeks the required balance.
Since we live in a world of duality, negativity can be resolved by its opposite pos-
itivity. Every person facing great negativity would always be able to find the posi-
tivity needed for balance, as long as there is the patience and will to find it.
The reason we all choose to continue our living existence is because we have pos-
itive hope in life. I don’t think there is much meaning in life if there is only nega-
tivity in store for every person’s future. If a person has such positivity in the form
of faith or hope as encouragement to continue living, then the negativity he faces
will not be strong enough to distort his perception enough for him to take his
own life.
A person has to be facing lots of negativity, lack of positivity or meaninglessness

in his life in order to be considering suicide. If a person successfully commits sui-
cide, it would prove that he has been influenced by the negativity around him
and unable to resolve them with a positive perception. If a person chooses not to
commit suicide, it would mean that he still holds on to positivity and it has neu-
tralized the thought of committing a negative action.
Positivity in the form of faith or hope is the value that prevents us from giving up
our lives every time we face a negative situation. Why continue to live on and face
negativity when we can simply escape and give up our lives? We continue to live
on because positivity gives us the hope and motivational strength to live on and
the courage to face future negativity. Loving people can be a great motivation for
living because we gain positivity from loving others that can overcome our nega-
tivity and bring us happiness. And the need to preserve their positivity gives us
the reason to continue living. We also choose to live our lives in our quest to
understand the nature of our reality and to fulfill life’s ultimate imbalance that
would give us ultimate meaning or purpose.
Positive and Negative people
Great understanding of nature and reality is required for people to remain posi-
tive in their thinking. A positive person is able to resolve negative unknowns that
can lead to negative emotions. Negative people do not understand nature and
reality as well as positive people do, their great confusion about it often leads to
their negative and erratic emotions.
People can be separated into two groups based on the positive and negative qual-
ities they possess in order to be seen as being overly positive or overly negative.
Positive people are logical, reasonable, optimistic and respectful of others, since
they follow the laws of reality and recognize people’s good qualities in order to
respect them. It is in their positive nature to be kind and generous. Respectful
behavior and sensitivity towards others can be observed especially in many Japa-
nese people who possess great positivity. The qualities of positive people bring
out the positive qualities of others and attract the making of friends. This is also
the reason why we usually look for people with positive qualities when we need
help. A person who can resolve many of society's imbalances is well respected for
his strong positive qualities.
Negative people are often illogical, unreasonable and disrespectful of others. And
they often assume negatively of people's intentions, whether or not that would be
the case. They often disregard the laws of nature and reality, disregard people’s
good qualities to respect and make up their own rules to follow. They are nega-
tive because they were affected by others’ negativity but did not know how to
handle it, thus they become negative. They are also easily affected by negativity.
They are too restricted by their own negativity in order to help others; they are
the ones who need the help to resolve their own negativity. Whereas positive peo-
ple liberate others from negativity, it is in the nature of negative people to restrict
the freedom of people by getting in their way such as jumping queues, gaining
resources from others and in other uncivilized anti-social behaviors. They do so
in their desperation to regain a positive flow in their identity. This makes them
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self-conscious and selfish. They feel natural to emit negativity from their identity
and gain control over people by restricting their identities with negativity. They
also feel natural to gain negativity from the foods or drinks they consume, or
from negative activities. They often treat others as dumping ground to release
their negativity. These thus give them the qualities of being evil. These qualities
of negative people bring out negative qualities of people and cause others to avoid
them like the plague.
The force of negativity can cloud and distort judgment and cause people to dis-
place logic and original meaning. The flow of positivity is not a trapping force as
negativity is. Negativity is clearly observed in negative emotions such as sadness,
depression, anger, hatred, which traps the flow of positivity in a person. Too
much negativity in the mind and body causes pain.
Negativity causes one to feel stress. Since people do not like to feel negative or be
trapped by such emotions in order to feel freedom of their identity, negativity
have often been used by negative people to intimidate others to get what they
want. This is the reason negative people often appear fierce and intimidating.
Negative people do not understand negativity enough to resolve it. They often
displace their negativity in the form of negative emotions onto other people.
Laughter releases negativity, which is why negative people often like to laugh as
they gain pleasure at others’ misfortunes. While displacing such negative block-
ages in their system onto other people such as bullies may feel positively “good”
to them, the people who receive such negativity would feel “bad” and suffer for it.
Many negative people often hold great negativity in their speech and behavior.
Having freedom of speech does not justify a person to shower others with nega-
tivity such as rudeness or sarcasm in speech. Even if what a person says is true, the
way it is brought out is an important factor whether people would listen or shun
away. Views can be positively constructive or being overly negative and fault-
finding. If there is the intention is to bring out people’s negative qualities and to
denigrate them, then such views can be seen as being negatively personal.
There are proper ways of doing or saying things in people interactions and
nobody likes to be faced with other people’s negative attitude. It is therefore
important for people to express themselves in a positive manner and not be
deemed difficult or negative.
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There can be times when negative people temporarily fake the appearance of
being positive such as being kind, generous or cheerful. Very often, these are false
appearances staged to manipulate other people to get things that they selfishly
want, often at the expense of others. These negative hypocrites can appear differ-
ently to different people, based on their specific agendas they want to achieve at
different times. These are the reasons why we do not like the qualities of negative
people and why we avoid them like the plague. However, we should be under-
standing by putting ourselves in their shoes.
Negativity in bullies
I feel the reason why bullying is such a big problem is because the act of trauma-
tizing fellow classmates has been used as a outlet to release the negativity stored
up in young bullies. Bullies often make fun of their victims in order to gain more
control of reality and to boost the freedom of their identity. They do so by
restricting their victims’ freedom of identity by inflicting negativity onto them.
Bullies with negative perception usually find faults with people in order to use
such reasons as justification to ‘punish’ others.
Japan has such serious problems of bullying in schools that many victims of bul-
lies end up taking their own lives. Victims of bullies often internalize the negativ-
ity put out by bullies and suffer from the strong negativity. Resolving the
problem of bullies has to start by helping bullies resolve their negativity instead of
releasing it. Bullies who do not resolve their negative behavior continue their neg-
ative release onto others when they leave school.
Due to differences of self-expression in cultures, there are distinct ways in how

victims of bullies handle their situation in the countries of Japan and the United
States. Many bully victims in Japan seek escapism from suicide because they
could not handle such negativity from bullies whereas the victims of bullies in the
United States have killed their tormentors to physically remove the negativity
source.
Such negative aggression of bullies could have been accumulated from the nega-
tivity they experienced from home, from parents who torment their children with
negativity. The home is where children are heavily influenced. If parents displace
the negativity they received from work or from marital stress onto their child, the
child would be conditioned into releasing negativity from his behavior in school.
Negative people such as bullies would often pick on people who are suited to
receiving their outpouring of negativity, they feel that if their victim is more
affected by their negativity, it would seem like they have released more of their
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negativity and feel more in control of people and reality. They often choose peo-
ple who do not display negative behavior or would retaliate by returning back
more negativity. Naturally, bullies would pick on easy targets that could facilitate
their release of negativity easily.
Negative people are full of negativity and their emotions are erratic. They are sen-
sitive to receiving negativity and would find any opportunity to release their
heavy burden of negativity unto others.
Bullies are among the negative people who displace their negativity onto others
because they seek to release negativity they stored in their minds to restore bal-
ance. Even negative people are seeking the peace of a positive flow of mind. They
release their negativity onto others because it is the only way they know how to
deal with negativity. And they only know how to deal with their own negativity
by releasing it to others through negative behavior.
Positive people know how to deal with negativity by not being affected by the
negative flow displayed in negative people’s behavior towards them. They recog-
nize other people’s negativity and do not allow the peaceful flow of their mind to
be disordered by it. They use positive reasoning to understand negative people’s
bad behavior and steer clear away from them as much as possible. Teaching
young kids to handle bullies would be a challenge because negative flow is not
something that can be easily dealt with by a young inexperienced mind. It
requires cooperation from school psychologists, parents, older senior schoolmates
and the classmates of bullies to correct the behavior of a bully.
Stalking and preserving Positivity
Stalking positivity
The stalker problem is a problem in society. Stalking after a person is to be
obsessed after the positive qualities of a person. We usually look up to positive
people who display positive qualities that we could want for ourselves.
Positivity is a quality that people value and is something many people are always
searching to gain. This act of looking for positivity is obvious in people who
admire attractive people. Stalkers personify the qualities of positivity onto a per-
son, and think that being in close proximity with someone positive would bring
them the positive qualities they desire, in order to experience positive feelings of
identity and happiness. Sometimes they mimic what their idols do in order to
have a sense of his or her identity.
Stalking is the more extreme form of people-watching, where people are observed
for their positive qualities. Like all other people, stalkers value positivity, however
they are usually too caught up in their obsession to gain positive flow of identity
and fail to recognize how they are displacing the real sources of positivity. People
who molest others’ bodies do so in order to gain their positivity through touch.
It is a great error to mistake positivity as something that can be readily taken or

received like a gift. Positivity is found in the flow of the mind and obstructing
that flow would result in a negative flow. In order to truly gain positivity, a per-
son must resolve his own negative blockages in his mind to create his own posi-
tivity in his identity.
The preservation of positivity in society

Positivity is not a quality that can be given or taken by demand. Children are the
symbol of great positivity in any society. We usually feel disturbed when we hear
in the news that children have been mistreated, because we find the restriction of
positivity by great negativity to be an injustice. Many societies in the world con-
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demn child violence and child sex abuse. The strong reaction of the public
towards such acts is based on viewing the corruption of positivity with negativity
to be unjustified and unethical.
In societies around the world, underage people such as adolescents and children
are prohibited to be exposed to adult-oriented material such as films, bad lan-
guage, drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. Such negativity that adults can handle phys-
ically and psychologically is deemed unsuitable for young innocent and positive
minds. Preservation of children’s innocent positive minds are of utmost concern
seriously enough to warrant the flouting of the rule to be punished with legal
action in many parts of the world. Children are the symbol of positivity in inter-
national cultures and adults do not wish them to be overexposed to negativity.
How are people good or evil?
How much positivity or negativity that is within a person’s consciousness

depends on how well he balances negativity with his innate positivity by resolving
them through understanding, which would determine whether he promotes pos-
itive or negative flow. This would determine whether he is good or evil.
If a person balances negativity and positivity well, he would achieve a peacefully

balanced and pleasant personality. Such a positive personality would also pro-
mote positive flow of freedom in others. Otherwise, he would have a personality
overflowing with unresolved negativity that promotes conflict and negativity in
others.
A person who traumatizes others with too much negativity that traps the freedom
of their identity would be deemed evil. A person who helps others by liberating
them from their negativity would be deemed as good.
Change is constant in the universe so are people. Some people are seemingly neg-
ative because they have been affected by little positivity in their lives. There are
also seemingly good people who seem positive because they have yet to be
affected by negativity. There is a possibility of negative people turning good as
they learn to overcome their negativity by thinking positively. Similarly, positive
people can become negative if they cannot handle negativity in bad situations.
Sometimes the true nature of a person is yet to be realized until they are tested by
reality.
A person’s identity or character changes through time as he is affected by new

kinds of imbalances. His identity would then react to such new imbalances and
adapt to deal with the new kinds of negative and positive qualities. As people
overcome new types of challenges in their lives, their perception of reality also
widens and changes.
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Positive Emotions
Positive emotions are caused by positive flow and negative emotions are caused
by the blockages of negativity, due to blockages in logic and reasoning. Negative
emotions are caused by negative blockages leading to an imbalance in the under-
standing of reality. Lots of negative blockages in the flow of mind cause physical
pain and suffering.
People can also be influenced to feel positive or negative emotions if they allow
other people’s positive or negative flow of thought to affect their own. Emotions
can change with the increase of positivity and negativity. Fear can turn to pho-
bias, joy can turn to ecstasy.
Whether positive or negative emotions would emerge in our consciousness

depends on how our minds balance positive and negative influences. Our emo-
tions are what spurs and motivates our actions. If we hold on to great negativity
in our thoughts, it would manifest into negative actions and behavior. If the neg-
ative thoughts are resolved, we would gain understanding of it.
To experience positive emotions and the positive flow of identity is important

because it is the basis of good mental health. Just as the body requires positive
flow, the mind also requires it. Here are some explanations of positive emotions
based from the perspective of positivity and negativity.
Smiling
Smiling is a common positive emotion. We smile because of the overflow of pos-
itive freedom in our identity that stimulates the Central Nervous System of our
body that makes us smile.
Laughing
The act of laughing is to release the sudden surge of positivity in one’s mind. In
comedies, actors can be seen as funny if they display over-exaggerated positive
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flow of their identity in the dealing with seemingly small and mundane negative
problems. We can also laugh at others if we feel great boost of positivity and free-
dom to our identity in light of others’ misfortune with negativity that restricts the
freedom of their identity. Such evil laughter is usually done by negative people
who feel heightened in the suffering of others. Sometimes people laugh for no
reason as the body’s reaction to remove negativity in their system.
Hope
To have hope is to have a positive perception towards the future, whatever might
be in store for us. It is to dwell in the positive strength of understanding that can
help us overcome any negative situation we might face in the future.
Trust
We trust people with hope because we understand that they would not commit
negative actions. Trust is not possible with negative people, their negativity
affects proper reasoning and behavior, therefore distrust and doubts about behav-
ior would be plentiful.
What is Fear?
Fear is an emotion that consists of having a negative quality. To fear something is

to recognize how a certain form of energy would be able to restrict and trap the
flow of one’s identity. People’s fears vary as they recognize differently the negativ-
ity that can trap their identity in varying dormant energies. Intense negativity in
fear blocks the positive flow of the mind and traps it within mental blockages like
barriers, restricting mental and physical freedom. People do not like to fear
because they value the positivity of mental freedom that brings out their own
identity.
If a person allows the trapping quality of negativity to affect him, he would be

immensely trapped by his fears. As we become more conscious of negativity, their
positivity-restricting strength increases. To fear is to be very conscious of negativ-
ity’s restricting effects on our positive flow of identity. Being too conscious of the
effects will allow negativity to grip one’s positive flow of identity very tightly.
Phobias and worries are formed when sufferers become overly conscious of their
fears. If fear is to be overcome, courage in the form of positivity through reason-
ing and understanding of the specific form of negativity is needed to overcome it
and restore positive flow of mind. We have to re-examine our fears and phobias
to question whether or not they are legitimate or reasonable for us to be so fearful
of them.
Feeling the sensation of shock is a much shorter version of feeling fear. Shock is
caused by the sudden exposure to the trappings of negativity. The flow of a per-
son’s identity would temporarily freeze as it is temporarily blocked and trapped
by large amounts of negativity and his mind would not be able to function in that
short period of time.
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What is Anger and Hatred?
When a person’s positive flow of identity is trapped by negativity, he feels caged

by such negative forces and cannot exert his freedom of identity and control. This
causes the person to feel negative and experience suffering.
If the person is able to understand the nature of his circumstance, he would be

able to free himself from such suffering. If he continues to be affected by his mis-
ery and ignorance of his circumstance, he would feel lots of frustration as the neg-
ativity closes up his mind from clearly understanding reality and the reason for
his circumstance. If the negativity causes him to displace his frustration onto the
causes of his circumstance such as people or even a higher intelligence as a form
of negativity release, the frustration in his close-up mind would turn into anger
and hatred of others. He may seek revenge as a way to release his negativity by
trapping other’s freedom of identity in order to punish them. He feels the justifi-
cation in trapping others with negativity that has also trapped him in the past. He
may also have very negative denigrating thoughts of them that can be expressed
with words of swearing.
Since anger consists of a negative quality, it is usually people with negative per-
ception who often get angry. They become unreasonable when they overly per-
ceived the negativity in situations or in people instead of looking at the bigger
positive picture. They personify the negativity received and target a person for
such a cause.
We may get angry when people take advantage of our positive nature and bully
us, because we feel we have become targeted outlets of people’s need for negativ-
ity release. When our freedom is threatened, we may become angry if we get
affected by negativity and we might use the motivation from anger to resolve the
cause of the threat to our freedom by returning negativity to the source as
revenge, to regain the balance to our freedom.
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Negativity in the form of intimidation in anger is used to frighten and threaten

people to give in to one’s way. Anger can be a great driving force because it is
caused by the built-up of a person’s repressed desire for identity freedom. If the
built-up negativity gets released into physical actions, it becomes actions of vio-
lence.
Violent people are often the ones who personify negativity onto people. Physical
violence such as murder is an act to physically remove negativity by targeting
physical sources of negativity and ending the lives of people. The perception that
negativity in people can be resolved by killing them is the main justification for
War. However in such instances, negativity is only further displaced onto others
and is not resolved.
Hatred
Hatred is the opposite of liking people. People who are able to like others are
being positive in their perception to recognize the positive qualities in others. A
person, who hates someone, has a negative closed perception and he only recog-
nizes the negative qualities in the person he hates and overlooks all other possible
positive qualities. Hatred would involve anger, which is the blaming of a hated
person for the release of negativity.
To resolve anger and hatred, one must be less affected by emotions and think
more to understand cause and effect in Reality.
What is Happiness and how to
find it?
Before we can understand ways to find happiness, we have to understand the

meaning of happiness. Happiness involves positivity; the opposite of happiness is
sadness that involves negativity.
When we are happy, the Central Nervous System (CNS) of our body is positively
stimulated and we have the feel-good feelings of being happy. We also receive the
same feel-good feelings when we have exercised that cleared away the toxins and
energy blockages in our body. We feel happy whenever we eat our favorite foods
or do our favorite activities. People also display tears of joy when they release neg-
ativity, which gives them great feelings of ease and contentment. However, is
being happy all about positively stimulating the CNS in our body?
Some people feel that happiness is the feelings of satisfaction or fulfillment in the
completion of a task. The real-life imbalance that affects the mind is resolved,
leading to the feelings of satisfaction or fulfillment.
To be happy, a certain condition has to be continuously present, which is positiv-

ity. A positive flow of identities has to be present in any situation in order for the
people involved to feel the positive feelings of happiness. Therefore, the effect of
the happiness feeling in people is the result of having a positive flow of identities.
For positive flow of identities to exist in any situation, negativities have to be
resolved.
The positive feelings of happiness are gained while the negativity in the flow of
the mind is being removed or resolved. To experience happiness is to also experi-
ence a feeling that is continuous. The feelings would end when the imbalance in
the mind is fully resolved. To experience continuous happiness requires continual
positivity to be achieved.
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Material happiness
A person’s desire for happiness may stem from expressing his freedom of identity
by having what he feels he needs to fully express himself, whether it is money, a
big house or a fast car. After a long while that his feelings of positivity has suffi-
ciently boost his freedom of identity, he may lose the happiness feeling of using
the objects. Such occurrences happen when people seek happiness from the pos-
session of objects or people. They would then have to search for other negativities
to resolve to experience feelings of happiness again.
A person, who overly places the source of happiness in materials, may find such
material sources of happiness moving from material to material as he gains them
and then loses their interests. The desires of objects can move from one to
another as we realize how one object can provide one with more positive freedom
of identity than the others. It is not happiness that moves within materials,
rather, it is our flawed perception that sees happiness as being storable in objects.
Negativity in perception prevents happiness

Whether a person is able to experience the feelings of happiness also depends on
his perception to perceive the flow of positivity. This is similar to the idea of pos-
itive and negative thinking. If he thinks positively, he can perceive positive flow.
If he is very negative in his perception, he would be full of negative thoughts.
Negative people with lots of negativity obstructing their perception would find it
difficult to find real happiness. This is because happiness is gained by overcoming
negativity and restoring balance and flow to the mind. How do you change the
perception of a negative person into a positive one? Negative people are generally
very stubborn to expand their point of view since their negative ego would always
negatively perceive that other people’s points of view are wrong. The only way for
negative people to change their perception into a positive one is to allow their
minds’ perception to be affected positively.
How to find true happiness

The key to finding true happiness is simple; the key is to resolve the real sources
of negativity that we encounter in our daily lives. Once most of the negativity in
our environment is resolved with positive understanding, we would experience
the positive flow that is the basis of feeling happiness.
What is fun?
The positive feelings gained from people’s favorite activities are the reason why
they like doing them frequently. Anything deemed as ‘fun’ must be able to pro-
mote and strengthen the positive flow of the identity. Anything that is not fun
restricts the flow of the identity. Hobbies bring out people’s flow of identity. This
is why we ask people about their hobbies or interests in order to get to know
them better.
Displacing true happiness

Many people concentrate on gaining the feelings of happiness and pleasure in
their lives. However, feelings and emotions of the mind are like indicators of the
quality of flow that is present. If we are too caught up in regulating the kind of
flow that we desire in our feelings, we may neglect and overlook the real source of
the imbalances. In the long term of such neglect, the true sources of our perceived
negativity would remain unresolved and would keep coming back to affect us.
People who displace the source of true happiness displace it to other sources such
as money, materials and people. If a person experiences negativity and tries to
resolve his negative imbalance from other areas such as gaining materials or
money, he may become materialistic and money-hungry. People who are too
extreme in seeking the comfort of people to balance out their negativity and feel
happy may turn sexually promiscuous.
A person who thinks that a certain material or person can bring him happiness
would be devastated if such material or person is no longer available to provide
positive feelings. The person would then feel lost at finding happiness.
People who practice negativity displacing would continually experience negativ-

ity while they drift further away from the real source. Their perception would be
influenced by negativity and distorted to perceive sources of happiness superfi-
cially. Physical or mental insecurities would be covered up by lavish and expen-
sive materials. Such people who are obsessed in their escapism from negativity to
seek happiness may go broke as they desperately spend every single cent they have
to gain positivity.
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Why being rich is not the sure way to happiness

Many people think that money is the gateway to happiness. Money can indeed
resolve many negativities present in poverty that restricts freedom of identity.
Money can prevent hunger, increase physical freedom, and buy beautiful clothes.
It can buy materials that have the meaning of positivity associated with them that
can bring the buyer some form of happiness. Many people focus on getting good
grades so as to find ideal jobs that can earn lots of money. However, occupations
that can earn one lots of money may not necessarily go hand-in-hand in resolving
the negative imbalances that is crucial for the positive flow of the identity. While
some people in high-paying jobs may not feel happy and fulfilled, others in less
well-paying and prestigious jobs may find lots of meaning and fulfillment,
because their jobs offer them lots of opportunity to resolve their desired negative
imbalances.
The rich man may feel happy with the materials he own but he still feels
unhappy. Money is just like any other physical tools, it can assist a person to
resolve negativity but it is definitely not something that can automatically resolve
negativity. Although the rich man may not fear for the sustainability of his life, he
still feel negative imbalances manifested from the negativity in his environment.
If the rich man wishes to be happier, he could help resolve some of the negativity
that affects him. Resolving negativity and restoring balance is the key to happi-
ness.
The way to provide happiness for another person is to share positivity by promot-
ing the flow of their identity. If providing positivity is the goal of gift-giving, then
getting or making things that can provide great flow of identity to the receiver
would make a great gift.
What is Beauty?
Beauty and ugliness are two opposite values similar to the concept of duality. Pos-
itive flow would therefore be found in beauty and negativity be found in ugliness.
A beautiful face can possess positive flow in its features and an ugly face can pos-
sess lots of negative ones. The mind can also contain similar positive and negative
qualities, therefore the mind can also be deemed beautiful.
A person can use make-up to mask the negative flaws on her face or undergo sur-
gery to look beautiful but she may not be able to change her negative character
that easily. Changing a person’s identity or personality requires changing a per-
son’s perception. Superficial positivity from physical beauty may be able to hide
superficial negativity, but it cannot hide internal negativity. Many people who
overly value superficial positivity overlook the nurturing of internal positivity.
This may also cause their perception to be superficial. They may then use superfi-
cial positivity to make up for their lack of internal positivity. People can be rich
and very good-looking but still ugly on the insides.
A person with a beautiful exterior may behave in a negative manner towards oth-
ers. And a person with less beautiful appearances may behave more positively.
The positive flow of beauty is present physically as well as mentally. So it is really
up to the individual for which type of beauty he or she would perceive and relate
to. The positive flow that deems things or people to be beautiful is ultimately up
to the observer to perceive.
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What is Love?
The real meanings of Love is said to be a mystery. However, from the under-
standing of positivity and negativity, Love’s meaning can be better understood.
To hate a person, one has to have a negatively distorted perception of the person
to only consider his negative qualities. Since Hate is usually deemed the opposite
of Love, to love someone is to hold his positive qualities even with the presence of
negative qualities. This is what I feel is the real meaning of Love.
To overly consider a person’s positive qualities and to ignore his negative ones is
often the cause of Blind Love.
The Bible advises people to love others, even their enemies. I feel that the defini-
tion of love explained from recognizing a person’s positivity gives it a universal
quality and allows such an instance to be possible. If we consider the positive
qualities of our enemies, hate can lessen and turn into love and understanding.
Love often has the association with heterosexual relationships. However, to think
that real Love would only exist in sexual relationships is for a person to perceive
with negative understanding. Love is not necessary to co-exist with sexual desires
or lust for a person.
The universal quality of Love by recognizing and holding a person’s positivity

allows it to be possible with any human relationship. Love is based on positivity
perception, not physical desire such as lust.
When we recognize a person’s positive qualities, the positivity can affect us and
enhances our own flow of identity. People want to protect the ones they love
because their loved ones are a great source of positivity. This is why Love is often
said to give people great motivation and desire to live their lives and for others.
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What is Perversion?
Forms of energy in reality have their meaning or purpose in exerting balance in

the universe. When people misuse the purpose of a specific dormant form of
energy, they distort and pervert its purpose and meaning. The word perversion is
not only used for describing sexual perversion, it also carries the meaning of
meaning or purpose distortion.
Just as our eyesight can be distorted, our perception can also be distorted. Nega-
tivity can cloud or distort judgment and cause people to displace logic and mean-
ing. People clouded by negativity often fail to recognize the correct purpose of a
dormant form of energy, or a task. People clouded by much negativity often
commit crimes of perversion that disgusts people who can recognize the negative
distortion of purpose. Sometimes when we experience great negativity such as in
the perversions people commit, we may feel like vomiting to expel the negativity
felt in the body.
As people get used to their mind’s distortion by negativity, they fall deeper and
deeper into displacing logic and meaning and commit greater perversions. Their
heavily distorted perception of reality continues to let them think that their acts
of perversion seem logical and natural to commit. If we allow our minds to be
distorted by perversions, our minds’ perception would be distorted. Either we
reject negative perversions or we would get affected by them.
A good example of perversion is seen in people with much negativity who seeks
positivity from people without respect for their well-being. Many adults sexually
abuse young children to ‘gain’ their positive and free childlike qualities as a way
to balance the great negativity that clouds their minds. Their minds were dis-
torted or perverted by negativity in order to perceive their crimes as legitimate
ways to effectively gain positivity. The rest of us who can clearly recognize how
meaning and purpose of young children were distorted in the minds of the child
sexual abusers would no doubt express condemnation at such acts.
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Subtle forms of distorting meaning and purpose of dormant energies can be seen
in how people abuse drugs, alcohol, gambling, gaming, food, money, music,
opposite and same gender sex and even pleasure.
Drugs and alcohol can distort the mind’s perception from experiencing negativ-
ity. Gambling and gaming gives one the freedom to express the flow of the self
identity in the casino and at the gaming arcade. The arcade is where people often
seek their identity flow in countering obstacles in car racing or displacing their
aggression by beating up another gaming character. People worship, good food,
gaming, music, opposite and same gender sex and pleasure allows one to experi-
ence the flow of positivity by doing what one feels natural towards identity
expression.
People turn to being materialistic to seek material happiness in the lack of know-
ing what to do with their lives, and use dormant forms of energy to help release
their feelings of negativity instead of resolving them. As people allow the distor-
tion or perversion of recognizing meaning and purpose to cloud their perception,
they get used to such perversion and become somewhat more “perverted” in
interpreting meaning and purpose of objects or tasks.
Pornography negatively distorts the meaning or purpose of the reproductive

organs. As people condition their minds into such negative usage of the repro-
ductive organs, the negativity would distort their minds into thinking that casual
promiscuous sex is normal. The dangers in negative mind distortion is why we
should not allow ourselves to be affected and conformed or pressured into shar-
ing people’s distorted sense of purpose and reality.
What is Addiction?
Addictions have negative qualities to them as they are seemed as ‘unhealthy’ hab-
its. This is because they are the habits of negativity release instead of resolution.
Addictions therefore are perversions; they are the resultant actions of people
whose minds are distorted by negativity. Such negativity release in addictions
traps people in endless self-destructive cycles of negative behaviors.
An addict is addicted to the comfort gained from fulfilling his addiction. He

would release negativity and feel positively better with less negativity in him.
Addictions are almost impossible to stop because it is difficult to motivate a per-
son out of the positive feelings gained from releasing negativity, and addicts are
usually in dire need of positivity. The outlets of negativity release in addictions
are difficult to stop but they can be channeled into other proper forms of seeking
positivity.
Many people are addicted to the releasing of negativity through masturbation.

Although the feelings of orgasm release negativity such as tension or stress, it does
not resolve the root of their causes. This gives masturbation the distorted negative
quality. Since masturbation is a distorted usage of the reproductive organs, it is
often seen to be negative.
A person may initially feel guilt when he started practicing masturbation in his
early childhood. His negativity distorts his mind to seek masturbation as a form
of negativity release. But after the negativity that distorted his mind is released
from orgasm, he gains the required balance and he loses interest in it. His mind
gains a wider positive perception and he may realize the improper misuse of his
reproductive organs. Thus, he may experience the guilt emotion. If he gradually
conditions himself to the idea that masturbation is a natural and normal way to
release stress or tension, he may lose the guilt feeling and it becomes a form of
addiction.
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Resolving addictions
People become addicted to addictions because they feel that specific tasks or
objects would lessen their negativity and bring them positive feelings. People ful-
fill their addictions to resolve their feelings of discomfort, but it does not resolve
the real causes of problems that led to their feelings of discomfort. Our emotions
or feelings are the reflection of the presence of positivity of negativity in our Cen-
tral Nervous System. Resolving negative feelings from addictions do not neces-
sary resolve their real causes. As an addict’s feelings of negativity increases, so does
his need for stronger abuse in addictions.
To resolve an addiction, a person has to rely less on feelings and think more to
interpret more logic and reason to make judgments. Thinking is vastly different
from feeling. Feelings of the Central Nervous System in the body can be condi-
tioned and even displaced from time to time therefore making it unreliable to
reflect truth and falseness in real-life situations. Many objects in reality can also
be imitated from the real copies and deceive our emotional judgment of their
genuine properties. What we eat or drink can cause emotions that also emerge
from other real-life situations. The presence of negativity in the mind can also
distort the emergence of accurate emotions. People can even experience erratic
emotions or hallucinate because they have psychological disorders or brain dam-
age. People can also feel vastly differently in the same situation. A person with a
phobia of an object can feel more fear than a person without. Therefore we
should not based our judgment totally on what we feel all the time but also use
our thinking abilities such as reasoning and logic to get accurate information of
our reality.
People who are too caught up or desperate in feeling better from the heavy nega-
tivity in their minds would often neglect being well-conscious of reality and its
proper sources of gaining positivity. The obsession in interpreting feelings keeps
them distracted from interpreting the facts in reality. They are often too focused
in releasing negativity and neglect resolving their real-life causes. It is the great
need in releasing negativity and experiencing the great feelings of positive com-
fort from the release that keeps addicts addicted to their addictions.
People who are too trapped by their negativity find many ways to resolve the
unease feelings of imbalance and discomfort and to gain the positive feelings of
closure. The usual addictions are of alcohol and drug abuse, the uncommon
addictions are seen in Obsessive Compulsive Disorders (OCDs), where people

perform rituals with their body such as repeated hand-washing to feel better.
OCDs often require repetition because a single act is not effective in releasing all
the negativity felt by the sufferer. Actions in OCDs can be seen by others to be
strange and have little real purpose in actual reality. Some OCDs can be very
extreme because sufferers desire perfect balance.
Interpreting too much of feelings and emotions in reality would not provide a
person with the positive wide perception to help him find the logical or reason-
able ways to resolve negative feelings from their real causes and put an end to
their recurrence. He may then desperately displace and release them through out-
lets such as cycles of negativity release through addictions. Negativity distortions
such as from fear or trauma in OCD sufferers’ perceptions detaches them from
reality, prevents them from being properly conscious to find and experience the
feelings of closure. A person must gain the right balance of thinking and feeling
by using more of logic and reasoning to resolve imbalances rather than relying
too much on what he feels from his emotions or feelings.
Temptation and Greed
Temptation
A person is tempted by certain materials or tasks when his perception is nega-
tively distorted and influenced to the idea that possessing or fulfilling them could
resolve the negative imbalances in the mind to bring him happiness. We often
find ourselves tempted by social norms to follow them. Our temptations will
always come back to tempt us if we cannot positively resolve such a distorted per-
ception. If we think that gaining more of a certain object or fulfilling some task
would fulfill our intense need for happiness, it is possible that we would become
greedy, materialistic or even lusty.
When one feels excited of a specific way that can very effectively release one’s neg-
ativity, one experiences the feelings of temptation such as cravings for objects and
sexual desire. The appearance of negativity release outlets would tempt us to pur-
sue them to release our negativity.
Greed
We are satisfied when our desires have been fulfilled. Greedy people have a lot of
negativity that blocks them from sufficiently appreciating what they gain from
their desired objects. When a person is unable to utilize the qualities of the
desired object to resolve the flow of imbalance that caused the desire in his mind,
he would be obsessed with desiring more of it. This is the main reason why many
people end up broke, they try to find the happiness in lavish material goods and
allow their desperation to take over.
There can also be obsession in the need to save money in order to prevent losing
it. Many people with lots of negativity are distracted by advertisements of great
savings in sales from realizing what they really need or don’t need to buy. Their
over-compensating obsession to save money may cloud their judgment from real-
izing that something of great value is not suitable for them to buy, but they buy it
anyway because it fulfills their obsession to save money. If such items come with a
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big price, then they would lose a lot of money instead of saving it. Such describes
the saying ‘penny wise pound foolish’.
Since appreciation requires positivity, people who are overly negative cannot
appreciate the qualities in fine objects or people. Sometimes it is not the volume
of music that needs to be raised in order for us to better appreciate the music but
the amount of background noise that needs to be removed.
Positivity and Negativity in
Learning
The best learning experience for students has always been ‘fun’. Making learning
fun is to fill the learning environment with positivity that opens up the students’
minds that is to encourage the true flow of students’ identity. This allows their
real identities to emerge and allows their minds to absorb the various meanings
from information.
Many teachers use negativity in the form of intimidation and in the error correc-
tion of their students, instead of using reason and being positively constructive.
Perhaps they think that using a fearsome approach would help their students
score good grades. Since learning is to be influenced in some way and no one likes
to be influenced by negativity, using great negative emotions in a learning envi-
ronment only puts off students. Since negativity causes barriers in a person's
interpretation of reality, it seriously restricts interpretation and assimilation of
information in learning. It closes up the minds of inquisitive students, stuns
learning, hampers creativity and self-expression and puts them off from seeing
education as a positive experience.
It is often the positive students that do well in their studies and the negative stu-
dents who do badly in class. Students who do well in their studies are often less
affected by negativity than those who are. Students who do badly in their studies
have a lot of negativity that clouds their minds, which prevents them from having
a good learning experience.
The balance of positivity and negativity is a crucial factor towards optimal learn-
ing in the classroom. The kind of positive or negative learning experience educa-
tors choose to provide their students would determine the kind of results they
get.
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Positivity and Negativity in the
family
Young children are very easily influenced by their parents’ behavior. Children
would be affected by the influence of their parents, whether it is positive or nega-
tive. Stress from the workplace and at home is one of the most common forms of
negativity.
If parents use physical punishment and verbal abuse in their parenting, their
heavy negativity would be absorbed by the child and he will grow up to hold the
negative behavior instilled by his parents. If the child makes a mistake, the nega-
tive parents would release negativity onto the child and this will affect the child’s
mind. Nobody likes to be faced with negativity and we all tuned out from it. So if
a parent uses a very negative manner to instruct his child to do something, the
child would tune out and not listen to his parent’s instructions because it con-
tains negativity that can close up his mind, even if it contains positive instruc-
tions to correct bad behavior. As the child grows up, he would practice closing his
mind from his parents’ negativity along with what they say. This reduces parent
and child communication and both child and parent would drift further apart
from each other.
If parents use a positive approach towards teaching their child, the child would be
in the optimal positive environment to learn life skills from his parents. He
would listen with an open mind to instructions given in a positive form. The
child would enter a fun friendship-like relationship with his parents and learn all
that his parents can teach him about life. Parent and child communication would
be free-flowing and each would understand the other well. Each could recognize
the positivity in the other. Both sides would enhance and assist each other’s life
learning experience.
It is very important to instill the positive influence in a child right from the start.
Sometimes parents can be very negative in their parenting because they are
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merely conforming to what their parents did and they see no other positive ways
to parent their child.
Why parents divorce

Divorce is very common in marriages. Sometimes spouses cannot tolerate living
with their partner and both choose to end their relationship. I would like to think
that divorces are caused by the heavy negativity in marriage that prevents harmo-
nious living from being possible. Unresolved negativity can accumulate through-
out the years and if it becomes serious, it can affect the relationship between
couples and their children. If marriage life eventually becomes less tolerable to
live, it can easily lead to divorce.
The husband who returns home from work probably has faced negativity from
his work and releases it onto his wife and children. The people on the receiving
end of the husband’s negativity don’t know how to properly deal with the nega-
tive situation and choose to shut their minds and distant themselves away from
him. Family communication would thus suffer because of the presence of nega-
tivity. Children who dislike their negative parents may eventually lead them to
mistreat or abandon their old parents.
The negative situation would intensify if the wife responses with similar levels of
negativity and engage in a verbal abuse with her spouse. The wife distance herself
away from her spouse. The loud husband-wife arguments would thus affect their
children. This sort of negative family relationship is a common basis for many
marital problems leading to divorce. The husband, who is not getting the love
and affection from his wife, decides to start an affair and cheats on his wife. The
wife, who stops having a loving relationship with her husband, takes out her frus-
tration on her children. When her kids grow up with all the negativity in the
family and do not receive the love, support and communication skills they
require, they will always be ‘going out’ from the negativity they face at home to
seek positivity outside.
Children of negative families may resort to many ways to receive the positivity
they want, with little consideration for their negative effects. Then they might get
into many kinds of trouble. The negativity affecting the family unit would work
its way into the social level leading to various social problems.
Hiding of identities in
Relationships
People choose their friends and relationship partners based on the compatible
positive and also negative qualities they can detect in others. However, people are
sometimes too caught up with hiding their negative qualities and would only dis-
play positive ones. Some people go to the extent of faking positive qualities to get
people to like them.
Many dating couples are often obsessed with hiding their flaws from their part-
ners, they are afraid that the display of their flaws will put them in a negative light
that can risk their chance for happiness. When such couples get married, their
attempts to hide their negative side are hindered by the challenges of marital life.
Their character flaws are then revealed to their spouses. Many couples divorce
because couples feel that their partners have changed too much.
I feel that divorce in marriages would not be so rampant if dating couples would
not hide so much of their character flaws, so that the compatibility of couples can
be better recognized.
Many vibes that are sent between people take place very subtly on the subcon-
scious level. Negative people are not very good at balancing their emotional state
and hiding their negative qualities from people. It is therefore quite easy to deter-
mine whether a person is faking his positive personality.
Good friends can turn into enemies as soon as real negative qualities are realized.
Sometimes friendships and relationships become unstable because the people
involved begin losing their positive cover. They then start to view others with
negativity and they become irritable, fault-finding, blame-shifting, impatient and
easily angered. Such a situation would then spur the friendship to end.
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Even though many people have the habit of tidying their house and hiding nega-
tive traits from guests, we should not overdo the hiding of negativity by deceiving
others and ourselves of our true identity.
How to deal with Negativity
Negativity can distort the mind’s perception from recognizing a dormant

energy’s purpose or meaning. It can even close the mind’s perception well enough
to cause the person to experience feelings of meaninglessness of tasks and of life.
It can also cause the mind’s perception to be superficial by restricting its learning
and understanding of the nature of reality. Doubt is experienced when our per-
ception of reality is clouded by negativity and we cannot be sure of what we
know. Too much negativity can restrict the mind’s understanding of reality and
cause a person to feel so miserable and meaningless that he takes his own life, to
prevent himself from experiencing more suffering.
Too much negativity causes great disturbances to the mind and body and can
affect the health. Negativity can cause a range of negative emotions to emerge
simultaneously. A person can feel mixed emotions of embarrassment, fear, worry,
doubt and anger all at the same time. We have to resolve our mind’s negativity in
order to better understand the nature of reality and to fulfill the meaning of life.
To resolve negativity and straighten perception, one must firstly find and return
to one’s positive flow of mind and identity through meditation.
Clearing the mind’s negativity with meditation

We cannot accept the outcome of things because we cannot see the links between
causes and their effects. Such a lack of understanding causes great ignorance in
the mind. Meditation can help us in deep understanding of why things happen as
they are.
Meditation can help the person achieve peace. However, I feel that many people
are not meditating in the right way to achieve balance and peace of mind. Many
people’s idea of meditating is simply to clear the mind of any thoughts and main-
tain a stable flow of breath for as long as possible. However, such a method is to
chaste away negativity from the mind which is similar to escapism. It only pro-
vides short term peace of mind and does not allow the mind to resolve negativity
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and prevent them from coming back in future to affect the mind. Clearing the
mind of any disturbing negative thoughts is more associated with the method to
sleep.
The proper way to achieve long term peace and balance is to resolve negativity.
Negativity has to be recognized for what it is. The mind can only separate and
deny negativity if it can recognize the conflicts and negative influences it poses to
the mind’s positive flow. Therefore detachment is also part of meditation. If the
person meditating can recognize the true nature of negativity that is clouding his
mind, he can choose to detach himself from it. Peace and balance would then be
achieved from such meditation. The reason why people hold onto bad habits is
because the negativity in them is too infused into their identity; they cannot dis-
tinguish and separate the negativity from their own identity. They get too
affected and controlled by its erratic effects.
Buddhists monks who meditate practice abstaining from eating meat or spicy
foods. For those who believe that negativity can result in the killing and suffering
of animals may also believe that negativity is a form of energy vibration that can
be stored in matter such as meat. The stored negativity in meat could affect the
balance in a person’s mind and thus its consumption is avoided.
Many emotional people with a lot of negativity in their minds would find sitting
still and having a peaceful mind to be quite impossible. The reason is because a
lasting peaceful, balanced mind is not the effect of shutting out the mind’s
thoughts. A true balanced and peaceful mind can only result from properly
resolving and clearing the mind of unresolved negativity that manifests into
erratic emotions. A proper meditation would include having the person thinking
in a quiet setting about his accumulated negativity and resolving them with
proper knowledge and logic. If the negativity that prevents the mind from having
a peaceful and balanced flow can be cleared to a certain level, the mind would be
peacefully still and balanced as the water of a pond. Negative dreams can be
reduced and sleep is improved. Meditation is an important practice as it prevents
negativity from clouding one’s perception in judgment.
People with a lot of negativity in them would find it difficult to be disciplined,

because the negativity distracts the mind from focusing on a task, making con-
centration difficult. A person facing a lot of negativity would have to suppress the
erratic emotional disturbances in his mind continually and it can be an exhaust-
ing process. This is why tasks which require deep concentration such as medita-
tion would be given up easily by such people, they give up suppressing negativity
as well as the original task.
A person has to detach from negativity

As a person grows from a child into an adult and ventures into the world, his
mind is affected by accumulated negativity that he absorbed into his identity. His
consciousness would be affected with the flow of negativity that manifests into
imbalances that give rise to the need for balance through various desires. If one
can effectively recognize negativity around him and practice separation from
them, he would be able to prevent desires from attaching to his consciousness. In
order to deal and overcome negativity, we must recognize and understand how
and where negativity is restricting our identity. Then we should resolve the weak
points in our identity vulnerable to negativity’s grip in order to free ourselves
from its restrictions.
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