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Victoria Schlie
Christian Formation
May 2, 2017
The Four Relationships in My Life and Growing Process
Because this class has focused on being others-directed so much, I have had to remind
myself that I cannot love or serve others unless I am well (spiritually, mentally, etc.). Part of that
well-being is understanding my own spiritual and personal growth. One of my favorite points in
Whilhoit’s (2008) book was his description of God’s circular curriculum (which repeatedly
brings up the same lessons/trials) rather than a linear curriculum (non-repeating lessons that
build upon the last one) (pp. 119-120). Understanding this made me drastically less self-critical
toward not “getting” a lesson and moving on. I think my most significant battle in my
relationship with myself is hyper-self-criticism, and knowing that repeatedly facing the same
trial or lesson is not a result of my doing something wrong, but of God’s teaching process, gave
self-critical because I am not the power behind my righteousness. I honestly want to live
correctly and reflect Christ’s perfection for God’s glory, but that desire can easily cause me to
put unachievable standards on my limited ability. I have certainly viewed self-control the way
the Greeks did: self-mastery by the self (p. 224). But knowing that control and reshaping of
desires is a by-product of the Spirit’s work of harvesting the other fruit of the Spirit (p. 228)
actually frees me from the unbearable weight of perfect standards. I can be at peace with myself,
even when I see myself falling short of righteousness, because I know that my faults do not
hinder the Spirit from working in me or Christ from giving me grace. I can focus more on
rejoicing in the ways I see myself reflecting Christ and growing with the Spirit instead of on my
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Relationship with God
I really grew in my understanding of God in reading the first few chapters of Wilhoit. I
found his rejection of the common view of ‘Jesus as a bridge’ (pp. 27-28) and his explanation of
Jesus as the permanent, eternal means of knowing God very insightful. I think the modern
relationship with God means a deep understanding and connection with who Jesus was
(incarnated) and is. This is essential to the Holy Spirit’s formative process of making us a purer
reflection of Christ, who is perfect humanity (pp. 44-45). We spent significant class time near the
beginning of the semester discussing how Jesus’s humanity is our hope as Christians; God came
and lived out what we could not in order to open the door for us to one day follow suit.
Understanding what God intended humanity to be as a reflection of his own character is essential
to understanding God’s interaction with us and His invitations to follow Him (pp. 46-49).
Another concept that really impacted my relationship with God is how the Trinity is a
perfect family. This is less of something we explicitly talked about in class and more of my own
epiphany while we discussed the person and role of the Holy Spirit. Understanding the Trinity’s
perfect combinations of supreme authority and ultimate submission, justice and mercy, and
conviction and comfort gave me such a powerful image of God and what we as a Church are
supposed to be. Each person in the Trinity so loves the others and desires their edification that he
is willing to sacrifice endlessly for them. That beautifully colors my relationship with God,
giving me peace, security, and joy in knowing that my Father and maker is that ridiculously good
and loving.
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Relationship with Others
It is hard for me to narrow down what specific ways I have grown in my understanding of
others and how I am called to interact because I have learned so much! I especially feel that
Kenneson’s entire book made me sincerely think about how either my harvest or lack of the fruit
of the Spirit affects others around me. In reading each chapter on a different fruit, I saw how the
opposite of each went hand in hand with selfishness and disregard for others. Aggression to
noncommitment to keep me “free” from others are only a few of these self-centered oppositions
to others-directedness. Therefore, if the opposites all foster egotism, the fruit of the Spirit
naturally diminish the self and seek the wellbeing of others. This was a highlighted point in his
last chapter on self-control: anything to do with the self is last on Paul’s list of fruit because it is
a by-product of the other fruit (p. 227). Treating people well and forming edifying, committed
relationships starts with and is enabled by the Holy Spirit’s formative work in me.
Knowing this, I should be continually looking for the fruit of the Spirit in my
relationships and affirming people when I see it in them. A good gage for how healthy my
relationships are is to ask if the fruit of the Spirit are being produced from it. This is something I
can practice complete honesty with and use to encourage responsibility by holding others
accountable for their behavior and intentions and asking them to hold me accountable for mine.
I think the most significant point of growth in my relationship with creation from this
class has been Kenneson’s chapter on “Faithfulness in the Midst of Impermanence” (p. 179).
How our culture conditions us to treat and interact with the material world bleeds over into how
we treat others and God, usually unnoticed. I liked his push to be more aware of how I am
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treating my material possessions and encouragement of committing to long-term care of material
things to foster that mentality. I definitely think that even if I were to practice being committed to
people, simultaneously viewing the material world as disposable would hinder or taint my
efforts. That mindset and the character that is formed in me cannot be restricted to one area of
me, that character is proven true by my application of it in any situation and toward anything,
One other point that Kenneson made that struck me (although I could not find where he
said it) was through a question: Is the Orthodox Christian who uses his lips to routinely kiss a
figure of Jesus less likely to use those same lips for impure things? I really liked this point
because what we do with our physical bodies and habits greatly impacts our worldview and
thought process. If my engagements with creation are used as a means of praising God, I set
creation are used to satisfy disordered desires and promote the self, I cannot expect to fully