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Well Being for Body, Mind & Spirit
LESSON 11
SEX LIFE
In any particular body, the right side is masculine and the left side is
feminine.
This makes a very sexual situation which the yogis recognised at least
seven thousand years ago. Where the two meet is right at the central
line, the central energy channel. Here again the sexual situation, which
is the meeting of the male and the female, is central in the body. It is
this plane which goes right down through the middle of the body. In
Sanskrit it is called the sushumna. Yoga has a lot to do with this central
energy channel, but the point is that it is central. It is the middle of the
body. It is at the heart of the body.
When the central energy rises up above the eyebrows, then one goes
in samadhi, or the state of union with the Absolute, which is
indescribable. When the energy is operational in the central channel
then you experience these high levels. If the energy is moving in the
central energy channel above the eyebrows you have the Ultimate.
When you have a thought it is either to the right or the left. Sexual or
central energy moves in the central channel. Sexual energy is the most
important thing in your life. Physiologically it is central, and it is central
to the ultimates in life.
If you take the Ultimate, God if you like, and split it in two, you get
female and male. From one you get two. When these two are brought
into union, which is what the word yoga means, then you have the
Ultimate. The Ultimate has returned. As long as you have male and
female, there is separation. The central energy is the same as the
Absolute, or the Ultimate. Sexuality is the central aspect of life. It is
important.
In the Self Development mandala the being is the centre. The central
energy channel goes through the centre of the mandala. The centre is
the core of the being. Sexuality is the central energy of life and your
basic beingness, who you really are, is in the centre. They are not
different. That is why you cannot just push aside sexuality and live your
life. You will end up with a fake personality. You will think that you are a
fake personality, your life will be a fake life; it will seem like everything
is fake, and you will be right. It will be fake, artificial, hollow, unreal, and
no matter what happens you will never feel satisfied because that core,
who you really are, is not satisfied. Therefore, you must deal with the
subject of sexuality.
Part of life involves sexual expression. This cannot, and should not be
avoided. The question is, how is it going to be channelled; how is it
going to be used? How are you going to use this so that it does not just
dissipate? If you misuse sexuality you will dissipate your energy. The
yogis of ancient time realised the following principle: Sex is neither
good nor bad. Sex is sex. The question is, how are you going to use it?
Are you just going to fritter it away? The yogis have recommended
three things: that it be used for success, for family and for liberation.
That is the proper use of sexual energy.
If you use sexual energy for selfish purposes, that is, if you try to satisfy
your ego self and your own desires, then you will dissipate your energy
and create disorder in your life. If you use the sexual energy for
success and your creative powers are properly channelled and
directed, then your life will get better. if you use it for your family, then
the energy is channelled into your relationship with your spouse, and
having and raising children.
The third use for sexuality, known by the yogis is to achieve liberation.
In all three of these cases the sexual energy must be restrained. Even
when you raise children and are successful, if you only try to satisfy
your desires, your sexual energy will be dissipated and you will have
no success. You will soon get bored with your spouse and will only see
all his or her negative qualities. Your spouse will seem uninteresting
and dull. Everything he or she does will irritate you. What began as a
romance went down the drain.
It is not a matter of morals. Sex is neither good nor bad in itself. The
yogic view is that sex is the central energy of life. If you master it and
use it properly, your life will be happy. If you want to be successful and
have a fulfilling life, you are going to have to deal with this energy in a
way that works.
Therefore, in the first place, you should not blame yourself for having it,
and second, you should not try to satisfy your sexual urges. You have
sexual urges, and they should be satisfied, but they are not yours. They
are running around in your mud, brain, body, and genitals, but they are
not yours. This is the truth. It is this truth that will liberate you from the
error of trying to act from ego in terms of sexuality. It is not your desire.
Whose desire is it? It is God's. It is the energy of God, or Absolute Truth
itself.
You may think that you do not feel guilty. You may think that you are a
liberated person. There are layers of guilt. There is intellectual guilt. If
you involve yourself in sexual activity and mentally feel that it is wrong,
you will have mental guilt. If you are part of the California liberated
social culture you may have an intellectual view that sex is all right
between any two consenting adults. It is even the law in the State of
California. So intellectually you will not feel guilty. Unfortunately you
were brought up in a society, a Christian-Judaic society, that has an
emotional guilt with regard to sex outside of sanctified situations. This
could be called a religious guilt, or philosophical guilt, but it is actually
more of an emotional guilt, as a result of having been brought up in a
society. Later on we have an intellectual overlay that sex is all right.
Still, especially if somebody has hurt feelings from something that has
happened, you will feel guilty about your involvement in sexual
activities. The same practicality applies to masturbation. You may have
read in a psychology book that masturbation is all right and so you
have this intellectual view that masturbation is all right. However,
underneath, on an emotional level, below the level of thought, the
society and culture that we are grown up with has the religious view
that it is wrong.
If you are trying to satisfy your own sexual desires, it is wrong because
of the inherent untruth in it. On a religious basis it is also wrong
because it defeats spiritual growth, whether that growth be in a
successful life where you're going to be rich, ambitious, and creative,
or in family life, or in the isolant life of a monk seeking liberation. But it
is only wrong because the ego has inaccurately assumed that sexual
desire is the ego's desire, not because sex, itself is wrong. The ego is
connected in, and the ego is saying, "This is my desire and I'm trying to
satisfy it."
ASSIGNMENT
1. Record your thoughts and feelings in your spiritual journal.
2. Do the following relating dyads or record your reflections in your
spiritual diary.
a) Tell me what sex is.
b) Tell me what you’ve done with regards to sex that you think you
should not have done.
c) Tell me how you have abused another in the name of sex.