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The purpose of this memo, and overall essay, is to reflect back on pivotal aspects of my life and
to understand how certain events have altered my current views of the world. In this memo, I will
address the details that my work contains, some of the problems I have faced and hope to
correct, as well as, the venues my work might be best suited for.
My essay is a reflection on key points in my life. These key points, are adversities that I have
had to fight through. Mainly, my struggles with depression and anxiety, as well as a certain
physical ailment I have had to endure. My work is centered around these very matters, which
relate to the idea of exigence. Exigence, in my eyes, is a problem that should be addressed. In
my story, I aim to eradicate the notion that life should have a specific course of action for each
person. In specific, the notion that there is only one type of path each person should follow in
there lifetime. Through the details I share in my essay, I hope people can realize that it’s ok to
My essay is timely and relevant because mental health is a huge issue in our society. Especially
so in young people, and even in professional athletes. Furthermore, mental health issues affect
everybody, no matter what your status is in life, and I feel stories like mine are important to hear.
I feel my story can fit a wide variety of venues. I would say a venue like ESPN, or Bleacher
Report, would be a great host for my essay. Both of these websites are great for disseminating
info, like scores of games and highlights, but they also post articles about people's stories. Most
of these stories revolve around overcoming some sort of adversity. My story is centered around
sports and mental health, and for that reason alone, I feel my story would be a good fit.
Jordan Gomolin
ENG 306
Dr. O.
7/26/19
Post High School Problems
Growing up, I had it pretty easy. I was relatively happy. What was their not to be happy
about? I had two great parents, parents who were very successful in their own profession. This
made it easy for them to provide me with almost anything I desired. I felt a sense of protection
from them, the type of protection a young person should feel from their parents.
I have two siblings, but growing up, I felt like an only child. My brother is thirteen years
older than me. My sister is ten years older. By the time I was able to understand the world
family members, would always tell me that I needed to start distancing myself from her and
begin doing things on my own. I never listened to them. My father is a quiet man and always
told me to do what makes me happy, and to do it to the best of my abilities. For me, that was
soccer.
Soccer was my drug. It was a way for me to get out of my head. In high school, I lacked
confidence in many areas. Soccer is what kept me afloat. It gave me a sense of belonging and
purpose. Our varsity highschool soccer team was one of the best in New England, and probably
one of the best in the country, and I made the team as a freshman. I started on this powerhouse
prep school team as a freshman. Throughout my four years playing for Beaver Country Day, we
raised several championship banners onto our gym wall, and I was the recipient of many
individual accolades. I will never forget making the New England All Star team as a junior, or
accomplishment, in my eyes, was being named captain of this team during my senior year.
What made me feel the best, however, was the interest I was getting from college
coaches. Through my high school team, and club team I also played for, my Gmail inbox was
flooded with college coaches fighting for my services. This started as early as freshman year
and continued well into my senior year. Coaches, from different parts of the country, would
come to watch me play at various tournaments. I remember looking into the stands at various
fields and seeing coaches chatting my mom up. They were easy to spot, usually wearing their
teams crest on their chest and sporting a clipboard. My mom loved the attention I got, as she
took pride in my athletic abilities. I used to tell people she was my agent. Handling the business
well.
I committed to Wheaton College in the fall of my senior year. They were the first college
to show real interest in me, and they kept on me during my four years of highschool. They were
a small New England college, with a powerhouse soccer team. A team that had produced many
professional players in the years past. I spent my senior year of highschool fantasizing.
strong during my senior year in all senses. Besides producing quality school work, I worked my
ass off, in preparation for my collegiate soccer career. My senior year of high school was a year
I will never forget. I felt like I had the world in my hands. I felt indestructible.
A lot has changed since my senior year of highschool. My mom tells me that “life hit me
in the face,” and I would agree with that statement. I didn't make it at Wheaton. A bad foot injury
suffered in preseason was the start of my demise. Not being able to play killed any confidence I
had. I was stuck on the sidelines watching my teammates play. For any athlete, they know how
depressing that can be. On top of my injury, I became severely homesick. I was only a forty
minute drive from home, but for me, it felt like I was in another world. I was a mama's boy, and
yes, I missed my mom. I missed my friends from home. I missed my childhood room. All these
different emotions struck me at once, and I lost it. I was always an anxious kid growing up, but
during my short stint at Wheaton, it escalated to new levels. Panic attacks kept me up at night,
and for someone who had never experienced one before, I was scared shittless. Not sleeping
only intensified my anxiety, to the point of no return. Intrusive thoughts took over and that was
something completely new to me. I started to think negatively. Very negatively. I was always a
I left Wheaton during the beginning of the school year. I begged my parents to get me
out of there, and they finally obliged. The dean of Wheaton was a big soccer fan, and he had
heard about me. He gave my parents all their money back for the school year, and told me he
hoped I would come back. I don’t think what he did was even allowed, but I am thankful he bent
I thought coming home would eradicate my problems. I was painfully wrong. I wasn't
even home, actually. My house was getting renovated, so I was living with my mom and dad in
a two bedroom apartment in Chestnut Hill. Things only got worse for me, as I was left alone in
this apartment all day. I had an injured foot, as well as an injured mind. The foot limited my
mobility, but the mental pain is what crushed me. My dark thoughts only got worse, as I started
to feel ashamed of myself for leaving school so soon. I thought my friends would be the answer,
but I was too embarrassed to even see them. They were all in college locally, but unlike me,
they were IN COLLEGE. They were doing what they were supposed to do. I felt like a loser. The
scariest part, for me, was feeling completely hopeless. I knew I was struggling, but I did not feel
like I could change it. My mother, a well known psychologist in Boston, set me up with a shrink.
This shrink gave me pills, and these pills made me more sad. This state of sadness lasted for
several months.
I don’t know how it happened exactly, but I started to put my life back together. It was
very tough, and for the first time in my life, I realized that their were certain things that I could
only do for myself. I internalized the notion that people could support me, but that I was going to
have to be the one to make things better. So make things better is what I did. I started to play
soccer again, in hopes of regaining the form I once had before the injury. In addition, I got a job
working for Uniqlo, a retail clothing store near my house. It was my first real job, and not being
in school, I worked real hours. At least 30 hours a week, sometimes more. For a kid from an
upper class family in Chestnut Hill, this was a reality check. However, I loved it. I didn't
necessarily love the actual work I was doing, but I loved how I was growing as a person. I made
several friends at this job, as many of the workers were in the same age bracket as me. I even
met a few girls that I liked, and they happened to like me back. It took some time, but I started to
I enrolled in a couple classes at UMass Boston in the spring, as my mom is also a part
time professor there. At this point, I was feeling close to my old self, but I was apprehensive
about taking classes at UMass. Although my mom had taught there most of my life, I had never
actually visited the campus. I did not know what I was walking into, but I had no choice in the
matter, truthfully speaking. Education is a must in my family, and as long as I was under my
parents roof, I would be pursuing that education somewhere. My life was shaping back together,
but the big elephant in the room, was what I was going to do for school. Wheaton wanted me
back for the next fall. The idea sounded nice, but as time went on during that spring semester at
UMass, my whole mindset changed. I fell in love with UMass Boston. My professors were great,
the students were great, and they even had a great soccer team I came to find out. I realized
that, much like at Uniqlo, I enjoyed being in an urban community, filled with hard working
students. Students who primarily were not handed money for an education, but rather, had to
work themselves to afford it. I came to the decision that this was going to be the best place for
me to continue my education, and I phoned everybody at Wheaton and told them that myself.
I have learned to stay level headed in life. I feel this is key for survival. By this I mean,
not ever getting to high, or to low. Life has a funny way of testing people when they least expect
it. I know this because I have gone through it. I have lived it. Better to be cautious, then not
prepared.
My time at UMass has gone on, and is on the verge of completion. I have been a good
student and have definitely met some awesome people. However, last summer was not good
for me, as I fell into another battle with bad depression and anxiety. I didn’t really have a reason
for these symptoms to come back, but as I have learned, you don’t need to have a concrete
reason to be depressed or anxious. This negative cycle lasted all summer, and almost led me to
withdraw from school this year. I was able to pull it together, barely, and attend school at UMass
this year. The fall semester was not easy, but just like during the first time this happened, time
healed my mental wounds. It still frightens me to think about those dark times, times were I lost
the desire to do anything. I don’t know who I am when I get into these bad mental states. In
addition, I forget who I was before. It really is an emotional state I can't describe. I hope nobody
I am a very shy and anxious person. People, especially girls, laugh in disbelief when I
tell them this. They think I am always joking. Girls think I am a ladies man, but I am really not. I
had dreams of going to a “traditional” college and actualizing these fantasies, but it didn't end up
happening. Instead, I lived at home for most of my time at UMass, with no great social life. It
was somewhat sad, and thinking about it now, it probably contributed to the depression I
I work at the gym Equinox, as a front desk associate. It’s a great job to have as a college
student, but that's not the point I am getting at. The point is that one of the other employees
there was gorgeous. She was a lifeguard, meaning we worked in different departments,
meaning we never really saw each other. She didn't know who I was, but I wanted her to. At our
holiday christmas party, I saw her, and subsequently, approached her. I had never approached
a girl in my life like this, but something told me I had to. I am glad I did, because she is now my
girlfriend. We hit it off that night: dancing, laughing, and maybe just a little kissing. We went on
an official date the following week, and man, I was hooked. Seven months later, and I am
hooked even more. I truly love her, and there is no better feeling than having that love
reciprocated.
Since I met her, life had been progressing well. She gave me a sense of confidence I
never had, and I loved it. She gave me such a sense of assurance in myself, that I even moved
out and got my own apartment! Things were moving in the right direction! I felt somewhat like I
Nonetheless, life had to hit me in the damn face again, harder than it ever did before.
Since graduating high school, as mentioned previously, I had dealt with two bad
instances of depression and anxiety. However, the hardest thing I had to deal with actually
happened very recently. I started to experience numbness in my legs and arms on May 24, as I
was taking my last final. It all really didn't hit me until the late afternoon, when I arrived home. I
told my father, a know it all doctor, the symptoms I was feeling. After conducting some strength
tests on my lower body, he looked at me with a worried face, and asked me if this was really all
the strength I currently possessed in my legs, or If I was just joking with him. I told him I was
serious, and he rushed me to the emergency room at the Beth Israel. He got me in there fast,
They first told me I had MS. I lost it. Tears ran down my eyes as the X Rays they took on
my body, as well as brain, were lighting up with anomalies. I told the doctors I wanted to go
home and they said no. I didn't leave the hospital for almost a week. More tests were run on me,
and steroids were being injected into me to fight the disease from spreading. The steroids were
also crucial in helping me regain the strength that I had lost in my body. It was not a fun time,
but my family was there every step of the way. That girl I mentioned earlier, the one I love, she
I remember making a prayer that awful first night in the hospital. I am not big into
religion, or god, but I felt I needed to try and connect with some higher spirit. The wish I made
was simple. I wished the doctors would tell me that they made a mistake and that I don’t have
something as serious as MS. I knew something was wrong with me, but I wanted it to be less
serious.
I don’t know what kind of god I believe in, but I am starting to believe in something. My
exact wish, as of now, came true. It turns out the doctors did make a mistake, and instead of
MS, I have Neuro Lyme. Neuro Lyme is Lyme that spread into someones neurological system.
MS and Lyme are often misdiagnosed with each other, and the doctors told me that they are 95
percent certain that I just have this form of Lyme and not MS. I will have to wait until this
upcoming December for another MRI to confirm this. Of course, I still have a disease that is
potentially dangerous, but I have been treated for it. I had a port catheter put into my arm for a
month, where heavy doses of antibiotics were pumped into me everyday. My strength in my
It’s still crazy for me to think about my life over these past four years. It didn't really go as
planned, but I am ok with that. I used to be more upset about what happened at Wheaton, but I
learned to accept it. My sister told me after my second stint with depression and anxiety, that
everything happens for a reason. I am not one for cliches, but that sentiment stuck with me.
These battles with my health, both mentally and physically, have toughened me up a whole lot.
Currently, I feel stronger than I ever have. I have withstood very tough times, and I am proud of
myself for that. My path since high school has been different from most of my peers. Almost all
of them went far away to traditional four year colleges and are now graduated. I still have some
time left in college but that is fine. I have learned to accept that everyone's path is different. Life
is a marathon, and my course has been a bit rocky since high school, but I am one year away
from graduating college. The thought of that excites me, especially knowing the things I have
had to endure.
The biggest takeaway I hope anyone can grasp from my story, is that adversity is apart
of life. Furthermore, that things don't always go as planned for any individual. No matter who
you are. However, that doesn't mean that things are tarnished for you, or for anybody. Life is
precious, and as long as I am breathing, I am going to try and make the most of it. I encourage
everybody to do that, even if they think they greatly deviated from their desired pathway.
Annotated Bibliography
Love , Kevin. “Everyone Is Going Through Something: By Kevin Love.” The Players' Tribune,
2018,www.
theplayerstribune.com/en-us/articles/kevin-love-everyone-is-going-through-something.
The Players’ Tribune is a forum that allows current professional athletes to write on various
topics. The article I chose to use is a piece written by Kevin Love, a star basketball player for
the Cleveland Cavaliers. The topic of his work centers around mental health issues, primarily his
own struggles with depression and anxiety. Love details his own first experience with panic
attacks, and it was almost identical to mine. I feel I related to this piece the most, and it is also
reassuring to see someone in Love’s position deal with the same things I have had to endure.
Obviously, I wish no one had to deal with issues like this at all, but Love’s truthfulness about his
struggles, could help the everyday person deal with their battles.
Lubarsky , Olivia. “The Invisible Competition: Mental Health Within Athletics.” Mental Health
within-athletics. A
A story of a college athlete that mirrors mine in some way. This piece is in The Mental Health
America journal, and is written by Olivia Lubarsky, a student-athlete at Towson University. She
chronicles the struggles that modern day collegiate athletes face, in terms of athletic
expectations, versus the battles that many of them face internally. She then goes into her own
story of being a college athlete and dealing with an injury, much like I did. As mentioned, her
story is very similar to mine, and was good to read before starting my own essay.
Ali, Shainna. “The Invisible Competition: Athletes and Mental Health.” Psychology Today,
competition-athletes-and-mental-health.
An article written in Psychology Today, by Shainna Ali. The piece was different, in that it was
broken down into many different topics, with each section touching on something new. One
section was focused on talking about the stigma regarding mental health. One section talked
about the need to get help if you are struggling. These were two of several sections that
“Athletes Are Admired, Idolized, and Often Distressed.” Healthline, Healthline Media,
www.healthline.com/health/athletes-and-mental-health#6.
This story, published in healthline, is also about high level athletics, and how that can lead to
struggles with one's mental health. The piece talks about the hardships many professional
athletes have to endure before reaching the top level, and how many viewers might not realize
how that affected them mentally. I never really thought about this topic in this way, and it was a
Flanagan, Linda. “Why Are So Many Teen Athletes Struggling With Depression?” The Atlantic,
athletes-mental-illness/586720/.
Another story about an athlete who was obsessed with their chosen sport and suffered a
grueling injury. Much like myself, this person did not know how to handle adversity, as they had
never really been injured before. Putting so much effort into the sport their whole life, this
woman was now faced with a hard time. It’s so interesting reading about other people's
hardships, as I am finding many of these stories are identical to mine. When I got injured, and
became very down, I thought I was the only person dealing with this issue. It can be a very