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Understanding the High-Functioning Sociopath


So, the bare minimum definition:

A person who has a significantly reduced ability to experience empathy, as the result of
psychological trauma.

To get into more detail, sociopathy arises when a deep bond shared with someone is
broken by the person with whom it is shared. It's a betrayal that can never be rectified.
The trauma said person caused is one that can't be rationalized or justified. We can't
make sense of it, but we know we are not the ones to blame. A personal conflict arises.
We are the victim of someone who we had such trust in. We can't recover from that, so
we change. We adapt to expect this behavior from anyone - after all, if the person we
bonded with can cause such a thing, what the fuck will stop anyone else in the world? It
becomes a game to us - the world, life, people. We've seen how ugly it can be, so we're
prepared to be just as ugly if and when we need to. We don't feel sorry because there
was no one to feel sorry for us. Fuck your feelings.

Now, there are two types - high functioning and low functioning. Each type generally
operates in the opposite way.

Here's a basic High Functioning Sociopaths (HFS) vs Low Functioning Sociopaths (LFS)

• Controlled vs uncontrolled behavior.

• Skillful deception vs obvious lying.

• Automatic (don't need to think before acting) vs manual (has to think about every
step) actions.

• I would include great planners vs poor planners, but I'm an INTJ so it's hard to tell
where the planning skill ends for one and starts for the other.

HF and LF can also be applied to psychopaths and Machiavellians. The natures of the
function system, from what I've seen, are the same across the board and don't actually
differ between personality types. It took arguing with people like Athena Walker to actually
realize that. Most studies claim the differences between HF and LF as the differences
between psychos and socios but that's bullshit, and I don't know how or why
Machiavellianism isn't characterized as “Antisocial Personality Disorder” (ASPD or APD)
but I suppose the ability to empathize makes them "acceptable".

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Things both High Functioning Sociopaths (HFS) and Low Functioning Sociopaths (LFS)

• Extreme rage when triggered.

• Compulsions to complete an objective when set.

• Lack of interest in others' problems.

• Prioritizing of self-interests.

• Ego - more than a normal person, less than a narcissist.

• Desire for power - not usually over people but over situations, which often involves
the manipulation of people. We control situations.

• We let you in to gain your trust. We'll tell you a lot of things about us - LFSs will
usually include lies, HFSs will usually masterfully tell you the truth - because it gets
you to open up.

• Make no mistake, we have trust issues and we generally won't trust you - for a
good while, at least, if ever. We may give you a chance to prove yourself and we
may just take a risk, whether we care about your trustworthiness or not, but don't
have any high expectations.

• Disregard for rules and social norms. We march to the beat of our own drum and
create our own "code" that we live our lives by. I can't begin to tell you how
annoying this code can be at times, but it saves us from so much additional bullshit.
(I can personally testify that every time I have broken my own rules, it has taken
me down a road that could have easily been avoided.)

• We are not rebels. We don't go against the system because a system is there to
go against, we just do what we want, regardless of the side of the fence upon which
it sits.

• We can (and will) rationalize absolutely anything we want to do.

• We are obsessive.

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• We are efficient. We don't like to do things that will take longer than necessary.
This is why we are seen as "lazy". We just don't like wasting time on shit we have
no interest in.

• We plan - it helps with our efficiency.

• We don't "practice" fitting in. It's not like we are forever feeling compelled to do
crazy and horrific shit. We just do what we know as best we can. Psychopaths are
the actors, not us.

• To elaborate on being an “actor”: Most people mistake acting for appropriate

behavior or social convention. Smiling and all of that is fine, it doesn't change who
you are. That's simply you getting by in the world. This is completely different to
the genuine acting of psychopaths, just like actors in real life, who develop entire
personas to base an identity around. That type of acting is way too much effort to
keep up.

• We have the ability to not care about a great many things - this does not mean that
we don't care about anything. That is a myth. What we care about depends on the
nature of an individual, as well as their personality. What you do need to realize is
that we tend to have a low to no level of care for the things society expects people
to care about, such as death (in general), maliciousness, greed and so on.

• We feel empathy over the weirdest shit. I can empathize with a character in a TV
show for a reason I wouldn't give a shit about in real life. I've never actually
understood why, but I have a theory that I explain later on in this answer.

• We feel emotions. What we can also do is significantly suppress emotion in a given


• We can emulate emotional responses to a degree if we feel the need to, but we
don't usually see the need to. What does happen, however, is that regardless of
outward appearance, we absolutely never believe that shit ourselves. The feeling
inside is so hollow it's hilarious; you know just how much bullshit you are slinging
in that very moment.

• Sociopaths are not sadistic. Sadistic sociopaths, however, are.

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• We give objective advice to help you fix problems so you can stop telling us about
it. It usually isn't sugar-coated and may not be what you want to hear, but such is
life. Unless we need to keep you in a specific state, that is.

• Serious issues maintaining relationships. People have to accept us as we are.

Most relationships are on borrowed time the moment they begin because, unlike
psychopaths, we can't act like we give a shit.

• It is possible for us to not be sociopathic with the few people we are able to bond
with. The happening of a bond is never within our control, which is a bloody pain.
You just feel different about the person and it can happen the moment you meet
someone. Again, something I can't fully explain.

• We CAN love in a romantic way. We can love very hard, in fact, due to obsession,
but our love is not expressed in the same way as most people. It's more accurate
to measure whether or not we love you by assessing how we treat you compared
to other people. We can also do romantic things because we know what is
considered romantic. Some sociopaths just don't make the effort, just like some
"normal" people.

• Following on from the above point, when rationalization/justification has been

established but we wonder if it what we did was the best course of action to take,
we experience something that can appear similar to guilt but it's not guilt; more
“indeterminable retrospective conflict”. It can be a bitch on the mind, too.

• We do anything to get what we want.

• We are scarily consistent.

• We are loners and exist in our own world. Whether we are isolated or in a crowd,
we just look at you through the window of our own invisible room.

• We don't necessarily hate the world; thinking we do is a common misconception.

In fact, we don't hate the world at all. That would bear too much emotion in us,
which isn't possible. I, for one, can like people individually but don't like people in
general - that's because I'm misanthropic. We accept the world for what it is -
however one may view it - and we just move through it however we feel is
necessary for satisfaction.

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• No, we aren't empty inside. If you meet one who is, that's them as a person, not
them as a sociopath.

• We are neither good or bad, but we are both. Just like normal people. It all depends
on the nature of an individual in question.

• Lastly, a sociopath will deny, ignore or accept the fact that they are one. No
sociopath will ever sit around bitching and moaning and crying about the fact that
we are one. We won’t wish to change. We won’t seek ways to raise empathy levels.
We won’t hope a psychologist/psychiatrist/therapist can find a way to change our
personality. And, for Christ’s sake, we definitely won’t start (multiple) Quora
threads about it, begging random people of the world to help us find a “cure”.

We share many characteristics and traits with psychopaths, but the perspectives are
different. The desire for power, as an example. Sociopaths want to control a situation
while psychopaths, from what I've seen, want to control the people. They can both lead
to the same place, but the approach is different. Machiavellians, well they just aim to
control everything because manipulation is their ball game above the other dark triad

Sociopathy isn't one of the dark triad personalities as it's classed as a subset of
psychopathy but, in my opinion, it places somewhere between psychopathy and
Machiavellianism, but within the psychopath half. Thinking about it, the distance between
psychopathy and machiavellianism may actually be the scale of sociopathy, based on the
amount of empathy one can express, since sociopathy is not absolute. I guess the nature
of our creation allows experience prior to our change to have some bearing on the degree
to which sociopathy changes us - I do know that the later in life you become one, the
easier it is to fit in. One can assume that's based on you spending X amount of years
following social norms.

Sociopathy is not a coping mechanism, nor one of defense:

• A coping mechanism implies that the cause is still being experienced and would
mean we use sociopathy to reduce the feeling, like when you are experiencing
physical pain and tense up. When the pain is gone, you relax. This is not what is
happening. The event that changed us is gone. We don't relive the experience
constantly, so there's nothing to "cope" with.

• A defense mechanism is one that we use as a shield. Sociopathy isn't a shield. We

aren't guarded against the world. We don't feel that the world is a threat. If we did,

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we wouldn't so freely walk through it without apprehension. We don't feel like we
are being attacked by the world, at all.

Both of the above imply that sociopathy can come and go - either when the causal event
has subsided or when we no longer feel threatened. Sociopathy is a result; a fixed state.
It can't be turned on and off, not even when with someone with whom we have a bond.

Many people are misdiagnosed as sociopaths because they do shit like go on killing
sprees. Society really needs to understand that some people just do crazy shit without a
mental disorder. Some people are desensitized to certain things and therefore do not see
anything wrong with doing it. Some people just don't like the world. All these people have
sociopathic traits, but that doesn't actually make them sociopaths. Technically, everyone
has and expresses sociopathic traits to varying degrees, but that doesn't make them a
sociopath at all.

Regarding my theory on the empathy situation. I saw something and it must have been
during one of my slower moments because it was the only way I was able to realise what
was actually happening in my head. I was watching either a TV show or movie - I can't
remember exactly because I watch so much shit in a day - that was showing scenes of
war. I wasn't initially looking at the screen during this particular scene, so when I looked
up, it caught me by surprise. There were children lying dead on the floor. It was enough
to make non-ASPD individuals cry or, at least, feel a deep sense of sorrow. For me,
however, I saw it differently. Body, body, dust, broken buildings. After a couple seconds,
I thought to myself "this is sad". It was only then that it dawned upon me what exactly
happens - I see the objects, I see the event and then I see the actual situation at hand. It
was all processed in 3 distinct parts. Most people see the situation first and then see the
objects and the event. I can only speculate that the order in which one processes these
things is what determines the ability to have an empathetic response, but it all usually
happens too fast to notice. It was an interesting moment, I must admit.

Now, as for why we can feel empathy for TV characters more than real people (and I
know it isn't just me because I laughed about this with another sociopath who thought it
was just him). The way I see it, we know TV characters are part of a fantasy land. It's not
real, so we don't need to apply the same rules as we do to the real world. There's no harm
that can come from empathizing with a TV character because it has no bearing on actual
life, so there's no chance of it hindering us. It's one of the few experiences in life where
we are able to get lost in another world without worry. This can probably hold true for
books, too, but I can't testify to that because you wouldn't catch me reading a novel for
love nor money.

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Sociopaths in love. This, for some reason, is such a hot topic, so I'll explain it. As I
previously stated, yes, we can love. It can be deep, obsessive and with a singular-focus
on the one person. We are possessive. We are territorial. However, this only happens
with people we bond with. We don't (intentionally) hurt people if a bond exists, so when
the bond is there, the relationship can be just as awesome as a relationship with a normal
person. So, why are sociopaths known for destructive relationships? Simple - because
many (especially LFSs) get into a relationship just for sex or to have someone there, for
whatever reason. There's no bond created, so it's essentially just two people fucking and
whatever else. Again, we see this in everyday life with most types of people. Obviously,
with no bond, a sociopath doesn't give a shit about you, and you are just another object
to them, so it's to be expected. The preconceived notion that a sociopath can never and
will never love a person is idiotic, at best, and go-cremate-yourself stupid, at worst. If you
are in a relationship with a sociopath and they are actively being sociopathic towards you,
leave. They don't love you; probably never will; don't waste any more of your time. If they
threaten to kill themselves, just laugh (to yourself, at least). No sociopath is going to
commit suicide over that trivial shit. If they threaten to kill you, laugh harder (again, to
yourself). They'll want to, but it's a lot of hassle, so unless you are in a perfect situation
that will allow the murder to go unnoticed, the chances are slim. Unless you have done
something that they see as betrayal, there's an almost certain chance they are bluffing. If
you are dealing with a low-functioning sociopath, just inform the police or people like
family members and employers immediately, in case they try any of that “destroy your
life” shit. If you are dealing with a high functioning one, we won't go out of our way for
you. If you stay and hope any sociopath will change, then you likely deserve whatever it
is they do to you. Stupidity receives no sympathy. I also wrote a specific answer on
sociopaths in relationships, which you can find here:

Corey Reaux-Savonte's answer to Could a sociopath stay loyal in a relationship?

We aren't very different from normal people, but we're more capable of acting on the
thoughts and wants of normal people than they are because we don't have the general
morals and ethics of society restraining us.

So, what exactly is the definition of Sociopathy?

One big trust issue and a giant fuck you.

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Welcome to the world of sociopaths in relationships. I'll do a Q&A. Let's begin:

Can a sociopath stay loyal?

Yes, but one must first gauge the type of sociopath being dealt with. You aren't likely
going to find a loyal low-functioning sociopath due to the lack of self-control when it comes
to sociopathic behaviour. Any high-functioning sociopath, however, can be loyal if they so

What will determine whether or not they are loyal?

The bond is the basis of all loyalty. It's rare and, from what I've been able to gather so far,
out of our control, but if the bond is there then the loyalty is there.

How do you know if the bond exists?

They won't actively be sociopathic towards you. They'll make even more effort towards
you than empaths generally would because they'll be willing to inconvenience themselves
for your benefit in (sometimes) the strangest of ways, and sometimes by doing things you
may prefer they didn't do and in ways empaths would rather not risk, but, you know, c’est
la vie.

What about their self-serving ways?

It's true that sociopaths always look out for number 1, but not intentionally at the expense
of people they've bonded with, and sometimes the relationship is what they want being
served to them, so don't assume that a relationship is just another situation they find
themselves having to deal with. If they view the relationship as what they want, they'll
make all the effort in the world to keep it. Sure, sometimes they may cross a line or five
in an attempt to keep it together, but what's love without a bit of drama here and there?

How do you interact with a sociopath?

This is the part most of the world gets so inconceivably wrong that I don't know whether
to laugh or to look at them with contempt. I'll only cover a few key points here:

• Be bold; brazen; honest. Do you know how hard it is to offend a sociopath? As

long as you don't push a trigger button, most things will just be taken as it is.
Sensitivity levels are extremely low.

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• Expect the same honesty in return and be able to handle it. Things aren’t always
said in the most tactful way, and it may come flying at you thick and fast, but you
need to be able to handle that. It's not even intentional; it's a knee-jerk response
based on who we are. Sometimes it may hurt. That wasn't the intended purpose.
You need to be someone who has a lower than “normal” level of sensitivity, too.
Not as low as a sociopath, but definitely lower than society would like you to.

• No games. Just don't do it. It's the easiest way to make a sociopath see a
relationship as a waste of time. Fuck all the hint dropping - open your mouth and
speak. If you don't and then feel you have the right to get pissed off over something
they didn't pick up on, don't expect them to be apologetic. That situation will not
likely be one that ends with you on a pedestal. You'll probably end up even more
pissed off by the lack of desired response and acknowledgement. Sociopaths like
to win games by any means, so don't make that a factor of it all.

• Despite what I wrote up above, we don't like drama. At all. We hate it. Self-
explanatory. Leave it out.

• Don't leave a sociopath to stir over some shit. If an issue has arisen, solve it asap.
Don't walk away in the hope that it will be swept under the rug. It won’t. It will build
and manifest itself in ways best not thought. Solve shit immediately and it dies

• Don't judge them for how they treat others. If they treat you well but do not give a
shit about other people, those other people are not your problem. They do not care
for people they have not bonded with. That doesn't mean they'll automatically be
assholes to everyone, but it's not for you to care when they are unless the people
to which they are being asshole-ish are people who mean something to you, such
as you family or closest friends, but a HFS would know better and do better solely
out of respect for you, anyway. If you are someone who is affected by how one
treats others, don't embark on the relationship in the first place, because it will just
be a waiting game. Sociopaths give values to people individually and for whatever
reasons they see fit. Everyone basically has a rating of zero and that rating adjusts
the moment a sociopath becomes aware of a person’s existence, for any reason
under the sun. The rating may go up, down or stay neutral indefinitely, and it's also
very volatile, so it can change at any point with great ease, but it's not for you to
worry about. Only worry about how they treat you.

• Sociopaths are territorial. You may have known your best friend all your life, but if
they're someone who likes to be involved in your relationship, said relationship is

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going to end badly. People love to throw around that “friends are forever, we’ll be
around longer than your partner” bollocks when they aren't getting their way or are
being told not to get involved, and that's garbage. If your friend can't accept that
you are building a life with someone and they have to take a backseat in your life,
choose between your friend and your sociopath. Don't dilly dally or the choice will
be made for you.

What's the worst thing that can happen in the relationship to ensure it ends?

Well, betrayal. Of any kind. Physical or emotional cheating, lack of support, lying - the
typical things you’d expect, really, only the end has the potential to be so much worse. If
the relationship isn't working out, fine, end it or find a way to make it work, but if you think
any treacherous behavior is going to go unpunished in some way somewhere down the
line, my friend, you have lost your mind.

A relationship with a sociopath is really a no-nonsense state of affairs. Really, it's what
relationships should be, but many people won't like it because they need empathy,
forgiveness, sensitivity - all things you are not going to get with one of us. As long as you
can deal with that, your relationship can be everything you've dreamed of.

For us, it's hard being with your regular empath, and a ton of effort is required to regulate
our passive ways. If you ask me, it's more trouble than it's worth, because the relationship
would essentially be on borrowed time from the start. Our relationships can only work with
certain types of people but finding those people can be long and tiresome because they
are in the minority, so many sociopaths just get with anyone, and that's how the
perception that we are destructive in relationships is perpetuated.

What do sociopaths fear?

• Lack of control over a situation (not a person)

• Uncertainty with people
• Having our empathy levels return to normal.
• Losing the ability to suppress emotions.
• Having emotions, in general, return to normal levels.

Seriously, emotion is such an issue in life. When you have the full, all-round, normal
experience and then have it all significantly reduced, you wouldn't want to go back. Life
is so much easier (for the most part).

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Psychopaths have never had empathy or emotional reactions, so they don't know what
they are missing. Sociopaths know what we are missing, and we don't want it back.

How can you tell if a sociopath is using you or if they like you?

Their effort. They don’t even know whether or not they genuinely like someone half of the
time, and the only times you’re ever able to determine this is:

• After having an argument with them. If I continue to talk to them, there’s more of a
chance that I like them. I’m a person known to cut off people even when they do
serve a need because I know there’s a very high chance that I can fill their position
with someone else, so there’s no reason to bother dealing with someone if I don’t
have to.

• During a time when they serve no active purpose or relevance. I can only tell if I’m
genuinely friends with someone at times where there is nothing I need from them
immediately or in the near future, yet continue to talk to them as opposed to
ghosting and popping up again when necessary.

As Athena Walker said, judging by their actions is going to be your best bet, but the only
real way to know, in my opinion and speaking from a first-hand perspective, is to be
completely useless to them and still maintain a friendship that can survive times where it
would be both easy and convenient for them to simply walk away.

What does the statement “Psychopaths aim to control people; Sociopaths aim to
control the situation” mean?

It's a sunny day. Imagine a classroom full of children and a teacher. There is something
student X wants from the teacher’s drawer, but knows the teacher isn't going to give it to
them. How does X go about acquiring it?

If X is a psychopath, they'll try to do something such as convince the teacher to hold the
lesson outside because the classroom is hot and stuffy, and they are finding it hard to
concentrate. They'll wait for the classroom to empty; say they forgot something and then
go get what it is they actually wanted. It's a careful approach.

If X is a sociopath, they're likely going straight for the fire alarm and then doubling back
when the coast is clear. It's reckless, but it's efficient, and they're willing to deal with the
consequences of getting caught for setting off the alarm as long as they got what it was
they wanted from the draw.

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The psychopath manipulated the teacher in order to be able to get what they wanted. The
sociopath manipulated the situation in order to do the same.

Do psychopaths or sociopaths go through existential crisis?

With the level of ego sociopaths have, yea I don't see any shit like that happening at all.

People will call me egotistical and arrogant. That's fine by me, because it's true. My best
friend has stopped telling me when I'm right about something I told him to which he did
not listen because, one too many times, he's started a sentence with “You were right,” to
which I butted in with “I know,” before he even told me what I was right about. I think we
are only as tight as we are because that motherfucker refuses to stroke my ego. I'm not
opposed to such stroking, but, at the same time, I hate “yes men”.

How do you think the coping mechanism of sociopathy works at first?

It's not a coping mechanism. It's a realization. People in the world are full of shit. Only
people you trust can betray you, and a great many people will. That's the way it is. You're
either predator or prey.

There's nothing to “cope” with. The world is a war zone. Most people are too blind or
hopeful or stupid to see it. Us? We’re coming armed. As time passes, you become a more
proficient killer. King of the hill. Maybe, one day, last man standing.

Is it possible for a high-functioning sociopath to control their anger to some


In general, HFSs do control their anger. Easily annoyed/frustrated, but no outburst. Only
a trigger causes uncontrollable rage. Nothing one can do to stop that.

Why does a sociopath want a spouse?

I don't want a spouse (I will never get married), but I do want a life partner. Why? To
complete my life in two specific ways:

• I LOVE, Love. I love romance. It's just not something that is easy for a sociopath
to acquire, for various reasons. Living an objective life means I always have the
chance to be content, but that is not equal to happiness. Completing objectives
only leads to the next one; you are content with what has been achieved so far,

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but you are never finished. There's no emotional attachment involved. It is,
essentially, drone work. Love, for me, can achieve happiness. The sole objective
is to be happy together, which is something you can complete day in, day out.
Sure, there will be days when you are angry at each other, but that's still part of a
relationship that is, overall, a happy and satisfying one. Nothing else in life makes
me genuinely happy with life; everything besides a partner can and will only ever
make me content. I'm perfectly fine with being content my entire life, but, you know,
there's no greater objective than one that results in you having it all, and it's an
objective too good to ignore.

• I am smart. I use logic to determine many things - I don't mean in terms of me

being a sociopath, but when it comes to working on projects. I can't turn down a
great intellectual challenge if it is within an area that interests me, and I feel
compelled to solve it, just to prove that I can. The partner I choose will be someone
I have an uncontrollable bond with, meaning they will be able to influence and
control my behavior. This is a very significant fact, as I never relinquish control
unless I deem it the correct move or am literally forced to do so (even then, place
your bets). When I do, I may let someone else drive, but it's still my car and I
ultimately call the shots. Having a partner that can influence my behavior means
she can beat my compulsions and stop me from working on things that are “best
left alone”, let's say. I see myself as Icarus - part of her job is to stop me from flying
too close to the sun.

Ultimately, for any sociopath, it's a self-serving situation. As others have stated, common
reasons are blending in, having someone to control and what not, but all roads lead to
something the sociopath desires for their self, which isn't really any different from anyone
else in the world.

Sociopaths: What kind of harms perpetrated towards other people irritates you and

• Bullying - Not sure why, since this one caught me by surprise, but I can't take it.
Not the type where one person is imposing his or herself on someone who just
doesn't want to fight back - in such a case, I just think they better pick up their fists
or get knocked on their ass - but the situations where the bullied has seemingly
little or no chance of winning should they choose to fight back.

• Child abuse - Of any kind. This doesn't include disciplining your child by
smacking/beating or punishment involving a removal of something they like, as
some like to claim is child abuse - that's nonsense. I'm talking about real abusive

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behavior - molestation, physical attacks, verbal attacks, physical restriction,
neglect, imprisonment in makeshift “jails”. Nope. I’d happily start slitting throats.

• Rape - An odd one. It disgusts me mentally but doesn't affect me emotionally. I

don't feel empathy for the victim, nor do I feel rage towards the culprit, but, in a
perfect state of zen, I would easily skin them alive.

Other than people betraying me, not much, if anything else, really bothers me - not from
a sociopathic viewpoint anyway.

Sociopaths: What drives you to move forward in life?

I'm here. I'm alive. May as well make the most of it.

I'm have a high degree of intellect and I'm creative. May as well put them to use.

If I'm to get the most out of life, I must have access to as many things as possible, so I
can pick and choose what I wish to do next. Gotta get that somehow. Since I wasn't born
with the silver spoon, sitting on my ass doing nothing isn’t going to achieve that.

Only way is onwards and upwards, by any means necessary.

How do sociopaths stay calm no matter what the situation?

We don't, but there's no point in getting riled up over some trivial shit.

Unless it's a trigger or something that pushes us to breaking point, there's not really a
need to go crazy. Make no mistake, though, as we still get annoyed as fuck, at which
point we just look at you with contempt and complete disinterest.


Only someone with whom we have an emotional bond can cause the type of emotional
reactions you expect from an empath, but these people are always few and far between.
Most other people and situations just aren't worth the time, effort or stress.

Can a sociopath love?

Yes. It takes time to get to that point, but once there it’s there. They love anyone they
bond with (which will only be a maximum of 2 or 3 people in their lifetime).

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How do sociopaths control their emotions so well?

Innate ability, in a sense. It's not part of how we're born but it's part of how we're made.

It's not just emotions we can do it with, but feelings as well. I first realized when I went to
get my eyebrow pierced years ago. Anxiety kicked in and I suppressed it in an instant.
The video of it getting done is still on YouTube. Same thing happened when I went to get
my first tattoo, which was huge and on my neck. Anxiety, then suppression. I literally just
think to myself "let's do this" and it's gone. I just get on with it and it's done.

Same things happen with emotions - rage being the exception. I think it's too pure an
emotion for us to control so, yea, crazy times ensue. The rest are just... Switches.
Emotions flick off, we flick them off. Hard to say exactly how it works - could be a chemical
process, could be that we can control certain signals in the brain that allow us to negate
the effect. For us, it's the same as when we decide to move our eyes or scratch our heads.
We decide to do it and it kinda just happens.

Sociopaths: Do you have trouble taking selfies alone?

My God, I hate taking selfies. I hate having my picture taken in general, but my hate for
selfies is on another level.

Can Sociopaths control who they lie to?

As Athena Walker said, yes, we can. It's harder for a low functioning sociopath to tell the
truth than it is for a high functioning one, but we are all able to.

The difference between us is that LFSs think it is the best way to get what they want, so
they'll lie to get the girl or the guy, lie to retain control of a situation, lie to bolster their
position or to appear more dominant, and they don't mind digging a hole as far into the
earth's crust as they can.

HFSs, on the other hand, know how foolish and potentially damaging and detrimental it
is (to themselves) to lie so much. To maintain lies, you have to remember every single
one of them and act accordingly. That's waaaaay too much work for us to do. We may lie
to protect a person, to avoid a situation we'd rather not be in or even to get something we
want, but we don't feel like it is the only go-to method of being successful.

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I, myself, am known for knee-jerk truth telling, even when it's something virtually
insignificant that could still have some detrimental effect, like admitting I didn't do X when
it means the person asking is going to be annoyed with me.

I don't like lying for personal gain - I see it as "cheating" in the game of life and it kind of
ruins the challenge, especially if it is with someone who is gullible or trusts you.

I also don't like lying because it's a sign of disrespect or fear - I won't lie to someone I
respect and I'm too okay with confrontation to do it out of fear.

I will lie my ass off for other people, though. That, I am totally 100% fine with. Wouldn't
even think twice. Impulsive.

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