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Chapter 1
Introduction
conversations, sexy and dirty talks. Some people believe that sexual satisfaction can only
be felt and achieved when there is physical touch and non-verbal communication.
However, many also felt the love of pleasure and satisfaction by just hearing naughty
sexual words or even dirty talk since it enhances the experience in sex and giving voice
to their on sexual wants at the same time (Borreli, 2015). In a National United States
study, people with different sexual orientation like homosexuals and heterosexuals who
had sex more often, taken oral sex, has consistency of orgasm, and integrated a lot of
variety like sexual acts, the settings of mood, and sexual communication has a higher
sexual satisfaction and the maintenance of passion (Frederick, Lever, Gillespie, & Garcia,
2016). Productive communication or even a constructive one is also one of many ways
In the Philippines, despite of its high religiosity and recognize only heterosexuality,
is one of the countries in the world where now, there is a high public acceptance of
are cases that most Filipino gay men describe their experiences using technologies to
explore and conceptualize their sexual identity and giving importance to dating,
sometimes for happiness and erotic desires (Castañeda, 2015). “The internet and the
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mobile world are likely to play seminal roles in you gay men’s identity and the identity
development process” since homosexual like gays felt accepted and want to be felt
identity accepted from the online society (Parsons & Grov, 2013, p. 21).
In the case of erotic chats of homosexuals, there are no provided and published
studies, news, journals, magazines nor articles based in the Philippine context.
The purpose of this study is to show that pleasure can be pursued in many forms
(Rye & Meaney, 2007). Thus, there are many ways to achieve sexual satisfaction not only
physically but also through erotic conversations. The ability to have sex talk tried to
develop the standard of sexual act for both members of the relationship. Therefore, with
the existence of erotic talk it leads to relationship and sexual satisfaction (Jonason,
strategies examine; they gave the first orderly documentation and investigation of erotic
talk. It is all about erotic talk that have been neglected in human sexuality because mostly,
people only focuses on the physical sexual satisfaction and have not realize that erotic
talk may contribute somehow and also may smooth the progress of orgasm, pleasure and
sexual satisfaction. Since the study uses thematic analysis, therefore the method
generated a total of eight themes along with how to account for the use of pleasure of
In addition to the study of Jonason, et al. (2016), there might be subtleties future
research ought to take care of as they have just like the qualification among telling and
hearing, for example, a lot of details might be given out if there are future researches
which will unravel some logical impacts. Erotically talking substance may vary if thought
about in one night remains when contrasted with devoted relationships. The scope of
erotic talk substance may be more prominent in a long term relationships rather than
sexuality.
In the study of Wells (1990), homosexuality and heterosexuality are both sexual
direction and sex inclinations. Understanding of terms thought about sexual or stirring
and the utilization of those terms with a mate or darling will be more prominent for lesbians
Since our study is about the language of homosexual sex messaging, so we have
a specific data sample that will be taken to any random participants in a national and local
semantic discourse analysis. The possible exclusion that may occur is the age of the
Our research aimed to attain the argument that more than act, sexual satisfaction
can be achieved through erotic conversations through chatting. According to the study of
Jonason, et al. (2016), the ability to have sex talk tried to develop the essence of sexual
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act in both members of the relationship. Therefore, with the existence of erotic talk it leads
Our study to investigated several options, like including national and local data
sources, specifically one of the electronic discourses such as chatting in order to attain
the argument for validation purposes. Thus, hoping to have an achieving result to support
argument that more than act, sexual satisfaction can be achieve through semantic
This section discusses the literature and studies related to discourse analysis
Language of Homosexuality
Wells (1990) studied traversed the terminologies that constitutes an arousing erotic
language for homosexual and the breadth to a specific language is employed with a
sexual partner. Its motivation is to distinguish sexual phrasing that speaks to sensual or
exciting language in private connections for female and male who recognize themselves
as homos. Gay people are pulled in to people of a similar sex or sexual orientation. As
expressed in the examination, on the grounds that physical sexual excitement strategies
have been accounted for to be diverse among gay people, sex phrasings may contrast
Pleasure in words may not only affect to those heterosexuals in which both a man
and a woman engage into sexual conversations. The pleasure can also be felt by
homosexuals like gays and lesbians. A different way of communication to get pleasure
from language or even erotic conversations is through using cellular phone and even
computers. In which an individual uses a social media apps and thru the message
in distance.
Understanding of terms thought about sexual or stirring and the utilization of those
terms with a mate or darling will be more prominent for lesbians and gay guys than for
the utilization of slang during sexual collaboration will be more noteworthy for gay people
than for heteros. In connection to our research, to help our case that sexual fulfilment
this infers our investigation does not constrain just on heteros but rather likewise gay
people for a similar reason which is conveying sensually for sexual fulfilment (Wells,
1990).
identity as gay and lesbian, and number of dimensions of this language use, including
vocabulary and the use by males of grammatically and semantically feminine forms to
refer to other males. However, to say that some self-identified gay men and lesbians may
sometimes use language in certain ways in certain contexts is not the same thing as
saying that there is a gay or lesbian language. Speech features of transgender people
including using certain words for specific genitalia in broader ways or as all-purpose
terms.
Sex Messaging
According to Burkett (2009) report on the sexting is occurred on the context such
common since sexting is for intimidate, and committed relationships. Since through
sexting you can enjoy flirting process of writing a sexual text messages, and as well as
visualizing what is being described in the text. At the same time, it is interesting way to
Furthermore, the article point out that sexting was a quite common among the
young people today because it is part of the flirtation process. Where men and women
spoke about engaging in sexting the context which intimate sexual relationships
maintaining sexual desire and pleasure. Therefore, reading erotic words or making out
greater sexual satisfaction in a close relationship (Montesi, Fauber, Gordon & Heimberg,
2010). They found it strongly hypothesis it’s because in sexual communication especially
the satisfaction was stronger for males, and the relationship between open sexual
communication and sexual satisfaction was stronger for couples that had been together
for a longer.
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discussing sexual aspects of the relationship requires more essential first and foremost
topics, and second may lead more directly to changes and improvements in an important
about general topics was associated with increased overall relationship satisfaction and
partners was associated with both increased overall relationship satisfaction and
talking likes and dislikes about sex and being open-minded about the sexual fantasies
and sexual desires to their partners are more predominantly satisfied with their sex lives
(Montesi, et al. 2010). In addition, erotic talk seems to play a part in relationship and
sexual satisfaction (Babin, 2013) and which it also allows to enable orgasm (Muehlenhard
& Shippee, 2011). These studies also serve as proof on which erotic, dirty or sexy talk in
such a form of language can also contribute to the sexual satisfaction of persons even
erotic talk that have been neglected in human sexuality because mostly, people only
focuses on the physical sexual satisfaction and have not realize that erotic talk may
contribute somehow and also may smooth the progress of orgasm. Since this study uses
thematic analysis, therefore this method generated a total of eight themes along with how
to account for the use of pleasure of erotic talk by the individual differences of participant’s
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sex, socio-sexuality and relationship satisfaction. The eight themes were ‘(1) sexual
dominance (e.g.,”Who’s my fucktoy?”)’, ‘(2) sexual submission (e.g., “Let me be your dirty
slut”)’, ‘(3) instructive statements (e.g., “Put your cock in me”)’, ‘(4) positive feedback /
reinforcement (e.g. “I love it when you slow down,”)’, ‘(5) intimacy / emotional bonding
(e.g., “I love you”)’, ‘(6) sexual ownership (e.g. “Are you my girl?”)’, ‘(7) speaking fantasies
(e.g. “Tell me what you would do with that guy”)’ and ‘(8) reflexive calls (e.g. “Yes /
yeah!”)’. The ability to have sex talk under these following themes tried to develop the
quality of sexual activity for both members of the relationship. Therefore, with the
existence of these erotic talk themes it leads to relationship and sexual satisfaction
Theoretical Lens
Goals Plans Action (GPA) theory was developed by James Price Dillard it explains
the process by which people produce messages like these messages that are intended
to change or maintain the attitudes or behavior of others. The basic principles of the theory
can be used to understand any type of communication behavior; it is helpful to see where
In the mid-1970s, the field of communication began to ask how people produce
messages that are intended to influence others. Researchers began to wonder whether
conversation itself. In other words, what is it that people are trying to achieve via
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interaction? At the same time it is theory of purposeful behavior because it assumes that
individuals make choices about the messages that they create and that they do so with
some degree of awareness. This does not mean that individuals are knowledgeable about
all available options, nor does it mean that they are aware of every part of the message
production process. It does mean that the theory holds that people usually know what
they are doing. If people are acting purposefully, then their intentions are valid
explanations of their actions. For most people most of the time, information about their
goals can reveal a great deal about their behavior (Dilliard, 2015).
The Goals Plan Action (GPA) theory views message production as three-step
sequence. The first step is “goals” are future states of affairs that an individual is
committed to achieving or maintaining. Goals are what people are trying to do. They
motivate plans, which is the second component in the model. “Plans” are mental
representations of messages and message sequences that are intended to enable goal
attainment. “Actions” are the messages that people actually utter in their efforts to realize
a goal. So, when someone forms a goal of borrowing class notes, that desire prompts a
plan. (e.g., “I could just ask Bill”) and, possibly, an action: “Could I borrow your notes?”
One aim of the GPA model has been to elaborate the nature of goals, plans, and actions.
Another aim has been to understand the relationships among those three basic elements
Action Theory, rooted in the tradition of influence and persuasion, it helps explain the
communicative actions and cognitive plans that lead to sexual and relational goal
sexual activity, changing the relationship, obtaining permission to perform a sexual act,
The Goals Plan Action (GPA) theory it uses in our study to evaluate the theory of
communication as an interactive process in which each actor adjusts his or her message
behavior to the other actor and assumes that individuals make choices about the
messages that they create and that they do so with some degree of awareness. It
no guesswork regarding the speaker’s wants, but implicit messages necessitate more
interpretation. Example when one roommate says to another, “I would like for you to come
to the gym with me,” the speaker’s desire is clear. One that has been mentioned already
is that it attempts to explain, not all behavior, but only purposeful actions. In short, the
adjustments are made messages that vary in terms of fully and clearly expressed,
Chapter 2
Method
This section discusses the research design, data gathering procedures, data
Research Design
This study used qualitative research design employing discourse analysis. In the
qualitative involves the analysis of the language of homosexual sex messaging. We find
research method that is used extensively by scientist and researchers studying human
about the social world that they are investigating through the involvement and as well as
participation especially in our world through focus upon what the individuals actors say
and do.
experience, but as an explicit linguistic tool constructed and at the same time strategies
draw heavily upon the theories developed in such fields as sociolinguistics and cognitive
psychology to try to understand what is represented by the various ways in which people
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readers will be in a better position to critically evaluate individual and studies there is no
limit to what might possibly constitute a qualitative database, and increasingly we are
seeing more and more creative use of such sources as texts and chat documents.
Hoping to achieve a result to support argument that more than act, sexual
sex messaging, we modified the methods that could help in achieving the goal.
The data gathered is obviously the erotic conversations from chat (Messenger)
screenshots from the chosen participants. The data was used for the analysis in order to
attain the argument that more than act, sexual satisfaction can be achieved and achieved
Data Analysis
As young adults who lived in a modern society and with awareness, knowledge
and influence of the emerging technology, people used it to communicate with others for
different purposes.
We have selected that data source which is chat (Messenger) screenshots of erotic
conversations from homosexual partners to analyze what are those words, phrase, clause
or sentences that could really support our argument that more than act, sexual
information in some structure. Thematic analysis continues from recognizing and ordering
The researchers used a thematic analysis with the use of messenger chats of the
participants and focused on identifying the patterns in use of speech act of messenger
communication between the boy and the gay. The result of the analysis will be shown in
This part presents the quality of the study that the researchers will be conducting.
this will allow a good practice. The researchers will be particular when in terms of
The researchers had made sure of the safety and authenticity of the data gathered
from the participants and the information are well hidden in accordance to their concern.
Credibility
The researches will use only one method in analyzing and a way of procedure in
which we are going to use the screenshot messages of the participants and analyze with
the use of thematic analysis. This method may not meet the definition of “triangulation”
(Lincoln & Guba, 1985), however, we will provide a credible data set.
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Transferability
The researchers included in the Appendixes B and C, which consist of the data
that are gathered (Appendix B) and are analyzed (Appendix C) used in order to answer
the objective provided. The complete set of data analysis documents are on file and will
be given.
Ethical Standards
Privacy
Giving respect to the identity and personal information of the participant, the
researcher will protect and censored the name and other information that gives clue to
Informed Consent
In the process of getting the consent of the participants is through chat, text
messages, and explicit consent. Most of the participants are far from the down town area
of Davao City and some may come from outside the city. The information and features of
the researchers’ study are given to the participants for the purpose of gathering data for
the research purpose. The researchers will respect the participants’ freedom to choose
to participate in the gathering of data for the research purpose. The consent by all means
that the participants show some form of agreement for the data collection of the
The researchers will not use research procedure that may cause and harm the
participant either his/her physicality nor mentality. The researchers are obliged at all times
Chapter 3
This chapter presents the results and findings of the study. There was one
homosexuals. The findings are presented and thoroughly discussed with literature
supports. In this study, the researchers have analyzed the data of the participants to
During the coding, there were patterns identified among the conversations of the
couples. These patterns show stages until they reach to the ultimate agreement to do
sexual favors.
starts from stage 1: the conversational starters, stage 2: getting to know, stage 3: sexual
sexual submission, stage 8: sexual reflexive calls, stage 9: sexual results and lastly the
stage 10: mutual understanding where there are two direction which are fondness and
The stage 1 is “Conversational Starters”, in which this marks the beginning of the
conversation and mostly starts with greetings. Sacks (1974) stated that that there are two
important features about greetings. Firstly, they occur at the very beginning of the
conversation. Secondly, they allow all the speakers a turn to respond to the greeting, right
at the beginning of the conversation. Further, the speech act of 'greeting' is expressed
such as 'Hi', 'How are you?', etc. Halliday (1973). The example below shows that the
participants used the form time-free of verbal greeting. According to Dezhara, Rezaei,
Davoudi & Kafrani (2012) that sexes prefer to use time-free greeting forms rather than
The stage 2 is “Getting to know”, in this stage, both gay and boy are exchanging
inquiries to know their information. Furthermore, this is also a stage were both people are
getting to know each other after getting the information on where they live and their
personal details. In communication, the exchange of ideas and information is the essence
of how people interface with one another with regard to sharing ideas and working
Pwde mag pa ilax migo bet man gd tika 😘 (C5, G, P60, L3)
The third stage which is the “Sexual adoration”, where the sender gives or express
compliment or adoring the physical appearances. Compliments play a role in how we view
personality traits (Karlberg, Moua, McDonough & Alakija, 2015). The data shown above
is much based on the appreciation of the physical appearance. According to Han (1992),
cited in Yousif (2003:15), states that 'compliments' are used for a variety of reasons, and
expressing admiration is one reason. Flirtation and attraction are also major factors to
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look at in regard to compliment behaviors that giving compliments based on physical traits
In addition, Complimenting' speech act has been listed under different categories by
many scholars from different perspectives (Shabeeb, 2008). The data of the participants
Al-Rassam (1999), that to' compliment' somebody means that you are giving, him, her
personal positive evaluation either about his, her appearance, attire, physical shape or
Mas ganahan man kog bayot ayaw na pag buot, cge na yours 😉
The 4th stage is about “Seducing”. According to Abbey (1982) Seduction, if seen
negatively, involves temptation and enticement, often sexual in nature, to lead someone
astray into a behavioral choice they would not have made if they were not in a state
of sexual arousal. The participant tries to ask and express their sexual desire and goal to
arouse the other person through seducing them.Seduction has not only to convince the
partner, but also to attract him/her.Seductive communication is a complex matter for the
heart and for the mind since it is used as a planned, rational strategy and is also called
into action when there is emotional involvement on behalf of the seducer (Ciceri, 2002).
So you wanna sex chat right now? 😉😉😉😉😉 (C1, B, P53, L6,)
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In the 5th stage which is about “Fantasizing” is where the participants are
expressing their sexual thoughts, imagery and desires to do if they were in reality and this
is also called sexual fantasizing or fantasy. Sexual fantasies are generally adaptive from
an evolutionary perspective because they serve to enhance sexual arousal which, in turn,
2018). The data shown above are examples on how the participants on sex chats express
their sexual thoughts that arouses them and talk about the actions that they could be done
in real life. This type of mental imaging is important for sexuality as it is closely associated
with sexual arousal, better sexual satisfaction, and higher odds of interpersonal sexual
Sexual fantasies not only involve normal sexual partners, but can also involve
strangers, people of the same sex, and group sex (Miranda & Medeiros, 2004). The
thoughts are endless. “In fantasy, people are relatively free to indulge their primitive lusts
and brutish impulses in ways that might be unacceptable in reality” (Wilson, 1997).
coz i want to lick your ass, until you cum on my face 😋😋 (C3, G, P56, L33)
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fantasies to better facilitate arousal’ (Jonason, et al. 2016), we go to the next stage which
something in order to make their erotic conversation more interesting and pleasurable
than just sharing one’s sexual fantasy. In speech act theory, commands serve
epistemically to express wants of the speaker when it is assumed that the hearer will carry
As per examples below, you will be able to notice that sexual command statements
are mostly about commanding to send nude pictures in order to facilitate more arousal.
In the first example, which is from Couple 6, the sexual command comes from the gay
partner stated on line seven (7). On the second example from Couple 2, this time the
command comes from the boy partner on line 31. The last example from Couple 3, as
stated on line 30 to 31, the gay partner ask to send nude picture but this time, it is a little
bit different because of the word “plzz” which means “please”. According to Smith, (1991),
which I feel should be an integral part of speech act theory. Commands may be toned
ohhhh my god give some picture plzz, i want to see it (C3, G, P57, L30-31)
The 7th stage is “Sexual Submission”. This refers to submitting one’s self sexually
to the dominant partner in order to put into action the goal of the conversation which is to
have sex on phone. According to Barker, (2014), if somebody identifies as being into
probably include power play in their sex life, and perhaps in other aspects of their
relationship. People can identify as dominant, submissive, or switch (which means that
they are sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive). It might be that people
stick to the same roles each time they play together, or that they take different roles
that they only do some of the time. Such scenes could involve any kind of exchange
of power.
since the first step is “Goals” that refers to what people are trying to do in an interaction
or conversation, which is in this context to have sex on phone. The second step is “Plans”
which are mental representations of messages and message sequences that are
intended to enable goal attainment. The last step, which is the “Actions”, falls into this
Sexual Submission stage of homosexual sex messaging, since “Actions” refers to the
As per examples below, the sexual submission statements are mostly about
submitting their self to the dominant partner in order to put into action and achieve their
goal. On the first and second example from Couple 5, there is a consistency of
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the dominant partner is the gay. Furthermore, on the third example from Couple 1, on
lines 20-21, this time the submissive partner is the gay, so therefore, the dominant partner
is the boy.
In this stage, the dominant/submissive relationship can either be the gay or the
boy and this may alter throughout the conversation or in their relationship as per Barker,
(2014), people can identify as dominant, submissive, or switch (which means that they
are sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive). It might be that people stic k to
the same roles each time they play together, or that they take different roles on
different occasions.
The 8th stage is “Sexual Reflexive calls”, this refers to the sex sounds or moans
made by partners in order to speed up orgasm and or to make a hint that they are reaching
their peak. So, this encourages their partner’s climax and thus terminates the sex activity
This stage is the continuation of the 3rd step in the GPA theory since these are still
messages that partners actually utter in their efforts to realize a goal and or reach their
climax, through making sex sounds (Dilliard, 2015). As per examples below, all of those
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(and maybe more) have the implicit, if not explicit, goal of trying to improve the quality of
sexual activity for both members of the relationship (Jonason, et al. 2016).
Stage 9 is what we called “Sexual Results”, this stage marks that the orgasm,
pleasure and or climax has been sexually achieved and satisfied. We can distinguish
sexual satisfaction through the words used in their conversation as per examples below.
Carrobles and Sanz (1991) proposed sexual satisfaction as the sixth phase in the human
sexual activity, and they consider sexual satisfaction to be the final phase after desire,
excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. The average age of participants was young
and other studies with different instruments have concluded that sexual satisfaction is
satisfaction. Sexual/gender identity also did not influence sexual satisfaction. These
participants of diverse sexual/gender identities did not report significantly different sexual
satisfaction levels.
Ipasulod lang kay sarap kaay, Yes of course my baby Ikaw nag enjoy pd ka (C5,
G, P62, L6-8)
The last stage in the stages of homosexual sex messaging is what we called
“Mutual Understanding”. This marks the ending of their sex chat conversation that
signifies fondness and rendezvous. As per examples below, when sex partners had went
through all the previous stages and achieved their goals, plans and action and that is to
have sex on phone for pleasure and satisfaction, as an effect of the sexual results, they
will now thank each other, share intimacy and they will now ask if they can make the sex
intercourse real.
In the study of Ogden (1999), he stated that partners who express intense erotic
attraction to their other partner poses special treatment. A detailed case presentation is
offered, describing one such patient, who demanded that her analyst convey his interest
in her concretely, insisting that he offer her gifts, tell her he loved her, and even engage
her sexually. It is argued that such concrete conveyances reflect, in part, the patient's
attempt to self- and mutually regulate intense, affect-laden experience. The wish that the
analyst demonstrate love for the patient expressed in modulated form her history of
deeply painful and frustrated longings, as well as her hope for a different outcome within
the treatment relationship. Finally, their spontaneous, shared playfulness evolved into a
form of ongoing relatedness that provided the patient significant understanding and
Ok
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(Sirbu, 2015). The value of interaction between individuals equates with the sense of
share knowledge, develop relationships, resolve issues and achieve a variety of daily
goals (Horton, 2017). As with all effective communication, the intent of the conversation
and the strategy for it should be determined in advance (Blair, 1992). Interactive
the stage of their sexual communication. Below is the figure showing the 10 stages.
This chapter presents the summary of the findings, conclusion and implications.
The one objective given which is to describe the language of sexual conversations
between homosexuals. Based on the findings the result has shown that there are 10
stages in homosexual sex messaging; (1) Conversational Starters, (2) Getting to know,
(3) Sexual Adoration, (4) Seducing, (5) Fantasizing, (6) Sexual Command, (7) Sexual
Submission, (8) Sexual Reflexive Calls, (9) Sexual Results, (10) Mutual understanding,
in which that are commonly done by the participants. These stages are in sequence in
an erotic purpose in which both man and gay end up engaging into sex messaging or
conversation with someone they know or just strangers. Through sex messaging, it
resulted that it can also satisfy the needs of sexual urges of gays and men as they
exchange sexual results where both of them are sexually satisfied with the sexual
conversation which they both shared and talked about. In other words, through the use
of language, it gives arousal to gays and men where both of them gives satisfaction for
This study can be applied in the language teaching with the use of the theories:
Speech Act and Goals Plans and Action being used in language. Students can learn the
importance of understanding and knowing how language is being used in a sexual way.
The procedure done in this study will be useful to future researchers who’s
accumulated to this study. The thematic results and the framework can be used as an
implication for language studies in order for others to know the stages of sex conversation
or chats. Furthermore, this study can also be used and serve as a guide to other
researchers whose studies are related with the method and objective.
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APPENDICES A
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APPENDICES B
Couple 1
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Couple 2
Couple 2
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Couple 3
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Couple 3
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Couple 3
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Couple 3
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Couple 3
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Couple 3
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Couple 4
44
Couple 4
45
Couple 5
46
Couple 5
47
Couple 5
48
Couple 6
49
Couple 6
50
APPENDICES C
COUPLE 1
51
COUPLE 2
52
COUPLE 2
53
COUPLE 3
54
COUPLE 3
55
COUPLE 4
56
COUPLE 4
57
COUPLE 5
58
COUPLE 5
59
COUPLE 5
60
COUPLE 6
61
COUPLE 6
62
APPENDICES D
Sexual Reflexive
Sexual Submission Sexual Results
Calls
Submitting himself Groaning sexually Giving Positive
sexually Satisfying sexual feedback/reinforcement
Submitting sexually reflexes positive feedback
Replying sexually Reflexing calls
giving gratitude
Responding to the Expressing moans
exchanging gratitude
sexual demand Expressing moans
Responding to the with pleasure Commenting
negatively
sexual signal Groaning sexual
Responding to the satisfaction and Closing to sexual
sexual instructive calls disappointment
demand/interest Reflexing Giving negative
Submitting oneself in appreciative call feedback
a sexual way Groaning sexually Sending Negative
Giving assurance after achieving feedback
sexually satisfaction Responding negatively
Submitting one’s self Moaning sexual Disappointing gratitude
Responding to sexual pleasure Doubting sexual
pleasure Moaning sexually appearance
Giving himself Sounding sexually Speaking shyness and
sexually Wailing sexually negative comment of
Sounding sexually self
while giving positive Refusing compliment
feedback Showing shyness
Moaning with sexually
satisfied statements
Speaking sexual urge
Speaking sexual
climax
Expressing sexual
satisfaction
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Mutual Understanding