One Size Does Not Fit All…One Answer Does Not Fit All Worksheet

This week, make a list of all the advice you get from other people about how to deal with your child’s
substance use that can “trigger” significant feelings or thoughts of self-doubt in you. Next to each
trigger, list a potential “coping response.” By thinking through a response to comments and suggestions
made by other people, you will be better equipped to stay open to suggestions and not feel less able
and confident about your own instincts and thoughts.

Self-doubt “Trigger” Comments Coping Response

We are not in a place where we think he needs that
“You should send him away to rehab“ intensive a treatment, and we want to try to engage him in
making changes without changing his environment

We are not willing to kick him out right now, and we think
“You should kick him out” there are many steps to try before taking such drastic
action

We are concerned because of the changes we notice

“You should chill out. It’s just pot” since his smoking has increased: grades dropped, different
friends, seems unmotivated in general

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