INTERSUBJECTIVITY

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- spunky

- spirited

 We are all unique individuals.

o We look at our differences and may have “labels” toward one another.
o You can be a “misfit”, a “loner”, a “partygoer”, or “easy-go-lucky”.
 We have different points of view.
 THIS LESSON FOCUSES ON BUILDING STRENGTH DESPITE OUR VARIOUS DIFFERENCES.
 Labels could be negative or limiting.
o You may be called whinny, or stubborn.
o We can make these labels positive and go beyond it.
o If positive label, IT CAN STRENGTHEN OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER PEOPLE.

INTERSUBJECTIVITY

- It is the condition of man (subject) among other men (also subjects)

- Refers to the shared awareness and understanding among persons
- It is made possible by the awareness of the “self” and the “other”

SOCIAL VS INTERHUMAN

- SOCIAL refers to the life of a group bound together by common experiences and reactions.
o Men feel themselves to be carried by the collectivity, which lifts them out of loneliness and fear of the
world and lostness. – Martin Buber
- INTERHUMAN refers to the life between and among persons; it refers to the interpersonal, that is, a life of
dialogue.

DIALOGUE

- It is a deep and genuine relationship between persons.

- It happens when two persons truly acknowledge each other’s’ presence and treat each other as equals.

ICH~ES (I-IT) RELATIONSHIP

- Refers to the world of experience and sensation where there are objects
- The beings do not actually meet. Instead, the “I” confronts and qualifies an idea, or conceptualization, of the
being in its presence and treats that being as an object.
- An individual treats other things, people, etc., as objects to be used and experienced.
- It is in fact a relationship with oneself; it is not a dialogues, but a monologue.

ICH~DU (I-THOU) relationship

- Refers to the world of encounters and relationships where there are persons.
- A concrete encounter without any qualification or objectification of one another
- A dialogue
 OBSTACLES TO DIALOGUE CONTRASTED WITH
Seeming Being
Speechifying Personal making present
imposition Unfolding

1. SEEMING
- It is a way of approaching the other governed by the image one desires to impress on the other.
- It involves deliberately playing up or hiding aspects of yourself to appear more desirable or impressive.
o The origin of all conflict between me and my fellowmen is that I do not say what I mean and I don’t do
what I say. – Martin Buber

BEING

- It proceeds not from an image, but from what one real is.
- It is the acceptance of the other in the way that it is also an acceptance of the self as it is.
o Acceptance is the road to all change. – Bryant Mcgill
o Happiness can exist only in acceptance. – George Orwell

2. SPEECHIFYING
- Refers to one’s talking past another.
- It is hearing without listening to what one says.
o Naririnig ka nga… hindi ka naman pinakikinggan.

PERSONAL MAKING PRESENT

- Process of fully opening oneself to the other.

o Why is it so hard to open up to others?

3. IMPOSITION
- Holding one’s own opinion, values, attitudes and oneself without regard for those of another.
- Telling the other how he or she should act, behave and respond to things.

UNFOLDING

- Involves seeing the other as a unique, singular individual capable of freely actualizing himself/herself.

“Love does not cling to the I in such a way as to have the Thou only for its “content,” its object; but love is between I and
Thou.” – Martin Buber