Cabanas Lesson Plan

Name Renelyn R.
Cabanas
Course Year  Section Home Economics Literacy, BTLED 1C
Subject Code & Title TLE-EX 133
Date Submitted September 09, 2019
Date Reported October 02, 2019
Unit/Chapter/Module No. Unit III/Chapter 4
Topic Title Family Relations
Internet: https://www.trandfonline.com/In-laws ,
Source/Reference Material(s) https://en.m.wikipedia.org/familyrelations
Learning Strategies Lecture, (Interaction) sharing of ideas and activity
PRAYER
The facilitator will lead the students to pray before they start for the reporting.
 One Our Father
 One Hail Mary
 One Glory Be
 One Angels of God
ATTENDANCE
After the prayer, the facilitator will check the attendance and after the presentation, attendance
will be checked again.
REVIEW THE PAST LESSON

Before the facilitator proceed with her discussion of the lesson, the facilitator will ask the
students.
 QUESTION: What have you learned about the last discussion?
 EXPECTED RESPONSE: I’ve learned the different types of the family, the importance,
the functions of the family and the life cycle.
MOTIVATTION ACTIVITY
The facilitator will give the motivational activity before they start the discussion.
The class will read the poem.
 STRATEGY: Poem
 SOURCE: Internet: https://yourstoryclub.com./short-stories.family/short-storyfamily-
relations/
 AUTHOR: Martin Dejnicki

 LYRICS:
Your family are people, you can depend,
If you get in trouble, they shall defend
They are the ones that understand,
Always willing to give you hand.
Your family, you should always cherish,

Without them you should probably perish.
Topic Presentation Output in TLE-EX 133 Home Economics Literacy, Unit III UNDERSTANDING HUMAN
DEVELOPMENT IN FAMILY RELATIONS-Chapter 4 FAMILY RELATIONS by Cabanas,Renelyn R. BTLED-IC Home
Economics, 1st Semester SY 2029-2020, EVSU-COED.
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Your connection with them is very deep,
If something happens, together you weep.
Your family can help, your confidence build,

With their love and support, you’ll feel fulfilled.
Just don’t forget to show your appreciation,
That will strengthen your relation.
 QUESTIONS: What have you learned about the poem?

 EXPECTED RESPONSE: The poem reminds me how important family is in our life.
Personally, I can’t imagine how my life would be without family that I could depend on. In
addition, family members such brothers, sisters, cousins and parents are great at
offering free advices and perspective on things.
Learning Objectives
At the end of the topic presentation in Unit III-Understanding Human Development in Family
Relations” Chapter 4- “Family Relations,” the students are expected to do the following tasks
with at least 75% level of proficiency;
a. explain the importance of the preparation for marriage;
b. relate with own personal experience the kinds of the family relations; and
c. apply the different ways to deal any problems or conflicts in the family relations.
PRELIMINARY ACTIVITIES
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FAMILY RELATIONS
FAMILY RELATIONS relatedness or

connection by blood or marriage or
adoption.
FAMILY a group considering of parents

and children living together in a household,
who support and love you and people you
can confide and trust.
INTRODUCTION TO FAMILY RELATIONS

(HUSBAND, WIFE AND IN-LAWS)
Being in a family relationship can create legal obligations in addition to the moral and social
obligations that we usually associate with family relationship.
HUSBAND is a male in a marital relationship,
who may also refer to as a spouse or partner, had
a legal duty to provide his wife and children with
shelter, food, and other basic necessities of life.
WIFE is a female in marital relationship, nurtures
her children to stay healthy and do well in their
life, has the ability to take care of every minute
detail at home.
PARENT-IN-LAW is a person who has a legal
affinity with another by being the parent of the
other’s spouse.
DIFFERENT KINDS OF FAMILY

RELATIONSHIP
- recognized by the Family Law Act.
FAMILY LAW ACT regulating rights of spouses and dependents in regard to property, support,
inheritance, separations agreements and other matters of Family Law.
MARRIAGE implies a greater sense of personal commitment to the
relationship as a true partnership.
ANNULLMENT to obtain annulment, one of the parties must begin a court proceeding asking for
declaration that marriage is void.
SEPARATION the parties must simply start living “separate and apart” from each other, whether
under the same roof or in separate homes, may be signal the breakdown of their emotional
relationship but it doesn’t end their legal relationship.
DIVORCE is the legal termination of valid marriage.
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MARRIED SPOUSES people who are married spouses have wed at a ceremony conducted by
someone licensed by the province to perform marriages. Married relationship end when a court
makes an order for spouse divorce.
UNMARRIED SPOUSES people who

are unmarried spouses have lived with
each other in a “marriage-like
relationship” for a certain minimum
amount of time. This is the sort of
relationships people mean when they
talk about “common-law spouses”. This
relationship will end when they separate,
don’t need to get divorce.
OTHER UNMARRIED RELATIONSHIP are

people who have a child together but never
lived together, might include people who have
helped someone have a child through
assisted reproduction, like being an egg
donor, a sperm donor or surrogate mother.
PARENTS THROUGH NATURAL

REPRODUCTION a child parent are
presumed to be child’s birth mother
and biological father.
PARENTS THROUGH ASSISTED
REPRODUCTION when one or two
people need the help of others to
have a child.
CHILDREN’S CAREGIVER AND EXTENDED FAMILY extended family members and other adults
may have a parent-like relationship with a child who is not their biological child.
PREPARATION FOR MARRIAGE
PREPARATION a preparing or being prepared.
ATTEND A PRE-MARITAL EDUCTION OR
PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING it will teach your
communication skills and conflict management
tools, along with addressing appropriate
expectations.
FIND A MENTOR COUPLE seek out an older

more experienced happily married couple to
provide wisdom and support to you as you begin
your adventure together.
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START THINGKINNNG WE INSTEAD OF ME marriage is a partnership it will serve you well to
remember you are on the same team.
TALK ABOUT YOUR EXPECTATIONS IN

MARRIAGE discuss your goals to help ensure a
successful marriage.
BE COMMITED since commitment is a choice,

believing in the permanence of your marriage will
actually help your relationship.
TALK ABOUT MONEY always spend less than

you make, save an a little for rainy day and try to
avoid debt.
TALK ABOUT CHILDREN plan if how many children you would like to have.
FIVE IMPORTANT ELEMENTS OF MARRIAGE

There are some relationships that lead to marriage. This website uses cookies to ensure you get
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more but before venturing into what you will eventually enjoy (or endure) throughout the rest of
your life, there are some vital elements that must be considered.
LOVE AND COMMITMENT, It is crystal clear that love is the vital element needed in any form of
relationship. This applies to marriage too. Without you loving your spouse or your spouse loving
you (for who you are), the marriage will not last, unfortunately.
Love is putting your spouse or partner above you, love means making your partner your major
priority, it means they come before anything else.
TRUST There is nothing to over-emphasize about the marriage.

Before you say “I do”, be sure that you truly love your partner and they love you the way you do.
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you consent to the use of cookies. Learn more importance of trust in every marriage. Trust is the
most important determinant to the health and longevity of a marriage.
back.
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION By now,

you should know that effective
communication is needed in every
relationship. A bridge in the communication
structure of a marriage is what often leads to
divorce. Both of you tend to deal with
situations as they come up more effectively
without wasting any time. You are in a
healthy marriage when you are able to
openly express your deep feelings and avoid
burying hurt or anger.
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It is a sign you are in a healthy relationship if and your partner is on the same page. No partner
in a relationship should feel shy or timid about communicating their feelings at any point. Neither of
you should have seconds thoughts about sharing your needs, desires, pain points and thought.
PATIENCE AND FORGIVENESS Nobody is

perfect. Your partner is bound to make some
mistakes, decisions, and statements that will
upset you. Sometimes, you will be annoyed
about the way your partner acts or treats you,
but you have to be patient enough to forgive
them.
Patience and forgiveness will always be
essential in a marriage. Understanding couples
learn to show unending patience and
forgiveness to their partner. You should humbly
admit your own faults and do not expect
perfection from your partner. Do not bring up
your partner’s past errors in an effort to hold
your partner hostage, it destroys marriages!
SELFLESSNESS IN A RELATIONSHIP is like a wrecking ball

If you communicate effectively with your partner, you will be able to see things from your partner’s
perspective and forgive them.
Most marriages break done due to badly managed marriage finances, lack of commitment,
instances of infidelity, or incompatibility, but selfishness in relationships can lead to resentment,
pushing the relationship to the verge of extinction.
Give your hopes, beliefs, dreams, and your entire life to your partner. And begin to live a blissful life
together.
FACTORS AFFECTING FAMILY RELATION

All parents enter into the bliss of parenthood
with euphemistic notions of rosy parent-child
relationships and family bonding. While some
of us are aware of what constitutes a healthy
relationship, be it with a child or an adult, many
of us are clueless of the subconscious patterns
of control, abuse, and dysfunction that exist in
families around us, sometimes, even our own
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EMOTIONAL HUNGER in the later stages of life has its roots in childhood where a child is
deprived of strong emotional connection at a young age. Parents with attachment issues end up
controlling their kids in inconsistent ways leading to confusion in their little minds that later
manifests as attachment hunger in their adult relationships.
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QUALITY VS. QUANTITY. Whether you and your partner both work or one of you is a stay-at-
home parent, it is important to make sure that the quality of interaction that you have with your child
is enriching as well as nurturing.
Situations, where a parent tries to assuage their guilt of not spending enough time with their child
by giving in to the child’s demands creates a guilt-ridden pattern of giving and take in the
relationship. Similarly, when a parent spends too much time at home, they tend to feel exhausted
from the relentless caregiving and end up angry or irritable with the child frequently.
CONFLICT IN THE SURROUNDINGS. Something that is bound to affect the closeness between
you and your child is the amount of conflict that is prevalent in their surroundings. Bitter
relationships with relatives in joint families, poverty, or instability in terms of a political scenario are
bound to have effects on your child and thereby their relationship with you.
HEALTH OF PARENT The physical and

mental health of a parent plays a huge role in
how the parent-child relationship pans out in
the long run. A parent battling a debilitating
physical illness or a parent with postpartum
depression tends to have a negative effect on
the parent-child relationship.
DEVELOPMENTAL DELAYS IN THE

CHILD Developmental delays in a
child tend to create stress between the
parent-child relationships. Some
delays involve stressful solutions that
may end up with the child resenting
the wishes of the parent.
However, it is up to you to tide over
such things by being as supportive and
strong as possible.
INVOLVEMENT OF THE FATHER The involvement of both parents is known to produce positive
outcomes in the children’s relationship with their parents in the long run. It also has a positive effect
on the emotional and physical well-being of the child as well as better academic performances later
in life.
While some of the factors listed above are beyond your control as a parent, there are some that
you can work on as individuals to evade any negative effects they may have on the closeness that
you enjoy with your children.
Even though some factors may be beyond your control, the awareness that it could potentially
cause a rift between you and your child will goad you to find solutions to minimize conflicts. It is
also important to remember that children learn a lot from observing us than by what we tell them to
do.
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DEALING TENSIONS WITH CONFLICTS IN THE FAMILY
When considering family stress, the focus needs to be on how stress impacts the family as a
whole. They defined family stress as an imbalance between the demands of the family and the
ability to cope with those demands.
These demands are also known as stressors—a life event or transition that happens in the
family. Stress is the feeling. How a family copes with stressors impacts the level of stress in the
family. Ineffective ways of coping can bring about a myriad of feelings and worst of all—
disconnection.
ESTABLISH SELF-CARE FIRST If the word “self-care” is not in your family dictionary, please add
it now. Self-care is the simple act of attending to your own needs. Taking care of one’s self first can
impact the family system tremendously as it gives permission to the other to take care of his or her
own self. This applies especially for working parents.
SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES There are many subsystems within the family system. It is the
responsibility of the adults in the family to set boundaries between the couple, parent and sibling
subsystems. Physically separating yourself from your children to resolve adult issues or seeking
professional help is highly recommended to set healthy boundaries and reduce family stress.
HAVE AN OPEN FAMILY SYSTEM There is a
flow of ideas in open family systems and
feedback is exchanged so that members can
learn and grow. In closed family systems, no
new ideas are allowed and differences of
opinions are shut down. If there is a member in
your family that needs to be right all the time, it
is a sign that you are in a closed system.
DEVELOP A FAMILY MANAGEMENT
SYSTEM Families come in all shapes and sizes.
Thinking about how you would like your family to
function is called family management. Use a
calendar. Share tasks. Have clear expectations
of roles and responsibilities. Plan your budget.
KNOW WHEN TO SAY “YES” AND “NO”

Parenting can be very stressful especially if
you’re a single parent. It is important to
recognize when you need help and when you
don’t in terms of raising your children. It’s
alright to say “yes” to help offered, especially
when you are overwhelmed.
It’s a way of allowing others to love you by
helping you. Learn to say “no” when you have
friends or relatives who interfere too much in
your parenting methods. It’s a way of being in
control as a parent.
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VALIDATE EFFORTS Too often, we focus on the negative results and are quick to blame the
other person instead of encouraging each other. Sometimes just saying, “I know you’re trying really
hard to (fill in the blanks)” is all your mum/dad/sister/brother needs to hear. No “but” after the
sentence.
HAVE NON-JUDGEMENTAL FAMILY MEETINGS Calling for family meetings is an intentional

way of saying, “We are here for each other.” However, family meetings can turn ugly when a lot of
judgements are thrown at each other.
ACKNOWLEDGE ‘IT’ “It” is often unspoken in many families. “It” could be the loss of a family
member ten years ago and the grief that continues to linger.
“It” could be an affair that is rather kept as a secret.
“It” could be a past trauma. Unspoken “its” may feel safe and comfortable now but the silence could
insidiously affect each member in various harmful forms—substance abuse, depression, and
suicidal thoughts. Acknowledge the “It” for the long-term health of your family. Seek professional
help if needed
ACCEPT THAT NOTHING IS PERMANENT Pain is temporary. Stress is temporary. Loneliness is

temporary. Conflicts are temporary.
Reminding each other in the family that nothing is permanent reduces the rigidity in the system. It
gives the family hope to change.
BE TOGETHER When a family is under

stress, it is common to withdraw from
each other.
This may be okay if a member just needs
some space for him or herself but can be
problematic when members are starting to
feel disconnected. Find ways to do things
together. Because remember, stress is
temporary.
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LEARNING HIGHLIGHT
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in growing older it is; Family goes well beyond those who we are
only closely blood related to. Family is not about blood, its about who is willing to hold your hand
when you need it the most. Family is truly about the special people that God brings into our lives
who truly care and love us for who we are. Family is all about being there, understanding, and
supporting one another for no other reason than truly wanting to be a part of someone’s life.
Family relationships hold no selfish expectations, grudges or judgements, for to be a truly family
means choosing to “act” in love toward one another.
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Name Renelyn R. Cabanas
Course Year & Section Home Economics Literacy, BTLED-1C
Subject Code & Title TLE-EX 133
Date Submitted September 09, 2019
Date Reported October 02, 2019
Unit/Chapter/Module No. Unit III/ Chapter 4
Topic Title “Family Relations”
Activity Title “People Bingo”
Material(s) 1. Pentelpen (markers)
2. Sacks
3. Manila papers
4. Students play sheets
Learning Strategies
Learning Objectives
At the end of the activity, students are expected to deepen the understanding of the lessons
in Unit III: “Understanding Human Development in Family Relations” Chapter 4: “Family
Relations”, must able to do the following tasks with 75% level of proficiency;
a. play “people bingo” activity;

b. present to the class the result of the activity; and
c. publish result for:
c.1 processing and analysis
c.2 generate abstraction or generalization
c.3 give concrete facts or situation for application; and
c.4 make a synthesis of the whole activity.
I. ACTIVITY PROPER
TIME
1.1 BRIEF INTRODUCTION
ALLOTMENT
Family relationship is typically long term and generally have a period in 1 min.
which common space is shared.
1.2 INSTRUCTION/DIRECTION
A. Selection of Co-facilitators
1. 1 co-facilitator at the same time the back-up support
2. 3 Judges
3. 2 Documenters (documents the process and take pictures)
4. 2 Observers (1 per group)
5. 1 Timekeeper 3 min.
B. Direction Setting
1. The class will be divided into two groups by counting off 1-2.
2. One group will stay on the left side and the other group will stay on
the right side.
3. Each group will be forming a line.
4. The group will make their group name and select their leader,
secretary, representative and the rest are their members.
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5. Each group will be given the materials and activity play sheets.
6. The first person in line will get inside into the sacks.
7. And he/she will go to the board while jumping until he reaches the
play sheet in the board.
8. The next member will wait until the first member is done, then the
sacks will be passed on the next member
9. Next member, will follow the same process.
10. The first group to fill all the boxes will yells “BINGO!” and the game
is over.
11. After allotted time given, each group must be ready to present.
12. The “People Bingo” will be judge based on the following criteria as
shown below.
CRITERIA RATING POINTS

1. Creativity (20%) 20%
2. Uniqueness of concept (20%) 20%
3. Innovative means of delivering message (30%) 30%
4. Originality (20%) 20%
5. Clarify of expression (15%) 15%
6. Group Cooperation (5%) 5%
TOTAL 100%
1.3 RULES
1. All members of the group should cooperate.
2. Each group should finish the activity with allotted time given.
3. No shouting and bullying. 10 seconds
4. Violation to any of the rules will automatically disqualify the
participant/s concerned group or person.
1.4 MECHANICS
STUDENT’S ACTIVITY TIME
FACILITATOR’S ACTIVITY
(Expected Response) ALLOTTMENT
1. The class will divide into two 1. Students are now
groups by counting off 1-2. counting off 1-2 and
2. Proceed to each respective group themselves.
group. 2. The students are
3. Each group will be given the now at their
materials and activity play respective groups. 1 min.
sheets. 3. The students are
4. Each group will have to get now working on what
ready for the activity. they will do.
5. Each representative of the 4. The students present
group will present in front of activity in front of the
the class. class.
II. ANALYSIS
The facilitator will ask the students:
a.) What is your insight about the The activity was great,
20 sec.
activity? challenging and very relatable on
the topic.
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III. ABSTRACTION
I learned from our activity is that,
The facilitator will ask the students:
its necessary to learn and to
a.) What have you learned from the 20 sec.
know our relation to each other,
activity?
especially in the family.
IV. APPLICATION
The facilitator will ask the students: All of us we had our own
a.) How can you reflect the activity on respective ideas about
real life situation? relationship in the family, we
should know if what is our
relationship every member in the
family. 20 sec.
Ex. When there is a long-distance

relative. Children’s should know
the relationship both sides of their
parents.
V. SYNTHESIS
The facilitator will ask the students: The activity helped me to
a.) On how the activity helped them to understand more, because
understand the lesson? through this activity we shared
more ideas and I learned new
knowledge about the types of 20 sec.
relations, and it’s very important
to understand this or to know the
relationship in each person in the
family.
Time Allotment: Start: End:
CRITERIA RATING
1. Creativity (20%) 20%
2. Uniqueness of concept (20%) 20%
3. Innovative means of delivering message (30%) 30%
4. Originality (20%) 20%
5. Clarify of expression (15%) 15%
6. Group Cooperation (5%) 5%
TOTAL 100%
PREPARED BY: CHECKED & RATED BY:
RENELYN R. CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

Name & Signature of student Instructor
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Group Name:
Group Number:
Leader:
Representative:
Members:
____________________________ ___________________________
____________________________ ___________________________
____________________________ ___________________________
Course Year & Section: Score: Rating:
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Group Name: Score:
Group Number: 1 Date:
Leader:
Representative:
Members:
___________________________ ______________________________
___________________________ ______________________________
___________________________ ______________________________
No. Rank Surname First Name M.I Raw Score Rating Remarks
Group Name: Score:

Group Number: 2 Date:
Leader:
Representative:
Members:
___________________________ _______________________________
___________________________ _______________________________
___________________________ _______________________________
PREPARED BY: CHECKED BY:

Name and Signature of student Instructor
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Name of the Judges 1
Judge 1
GROUP CRITERIA TOTAL
Creativity Uniqueness Innovative Originality Clarify Cooperation
(20%) (20%) (30%) (20%) (15%) (5%)
Group 1
Group 2

Judge 2
(20%) (20%) (30%) (20%) (15%) (5%)
Group 1
Group 2

Judge 3
(20%) (20%) (30%) (20%) (15%) (5%)
Group 1
Group 2

Name and Signature of student Instructor
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II.ANALYSIS
FACILITATORS STUDENTS ACTUAL RESPONSE
ACTIVITY
How was the activity?
Does the Activity deepen

your understanding about
the topic?
III.ABSTRACTION
FACILITATORS STUDENTS ACTUAL RESPONSE
ACTIVITY
What have you learned

from the presentation?
IV.APPLICATION
STUDENTS ACTUAL RESPONSE
FACILITATORS
ACTIVITY
How can you reflect, adopt

the activity into reality or
real-life situation?
V.SYNTHESIS
STUDENTS ACTUAL RESPONSE
FACILITATORS
ACTIVITY
How the activity helped

them to understand the
lesson of family relations?
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No. of No. of Types of Types of Test
Area of Content Contact Items Questions Test Replacement
Hours
Multiple 4-10
K-7
Choice
Types of Family Relations 35 mins. 8
Matching
S-1 2
Type
K-2 Multiple
1,3
Choice
1,3,4,9
Preparation for Marriage 35 mins. 7 Matching
Type
E-5
Modified 5
T/F
Factors Affecting Family Modified

2 C-1 4
Relations T/F
Matching 2
Dealing tensions and E-1 Type
conflicts in the family 15 mins. 3 Modified
C-2 T/F 2-3
TOTAL 1.5 hrs. 20 20
LEGEND
K Knowledge Ap Application
A Analysis C Comprehension
E Evaluation S Synthesis
RENELYN CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

Name & Signature of student Instructor
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SUMMARY
TEST I
TEST II
TEST III
TOTAL
NAME: DATE:
COURSE YEAR & SECTION: SCORE: RATING:
GENERAL INTRODUCTION:
According to Mc Culbin and Olson, “The third primary type of interpersonal relationship we
engage in is that of family. Family arranged group, usually related by blood or some binding factor
of commonality where individual roles and relationships are modified overtime.” Therefore, family
relationship is typically long term and generally have a period in which common space is shared.
TEST I. MULTIPLE CHOICE

DIRECTIONS: Read and analyze carefully the following statements below. Among the given set of
choices, choose the letter of the best answer. Encircle the letter of your choice.
1. Which one of the elements of marriage is the most important to determine the health and
longevity of marriage?
a. Effective Communication
b. Trust
c. Love
d. Commitment
2. What type of relationship that people have with a child together but never lived together?
a. Unmarried spouse
b. Children’s caregiver
c. Other unmarried relationship
d. Married spouse
3. Which one has a legal affinity with another by being the parent of the other’s spouse?
a. Mother c. Parent-in-law
b. Wife d. Grandmother
4. Which of the following refers to people that lived together with “marriage-like-relationship”?
a. Married spouse
b. Other unmarried relationship
c. Unmarried spouse
d. Children’s caregiver
5. Who has the legal duty to provide shelter, food and other basic necessities of the family?
a. brother c. father
b. grandfather d. in-laws
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TEST II. MATCHING TYPE
DIRECTIONS: Match the different factors affecting family relations found in COLUMN A with the
definitions or descriptions in COLUMN B. Write the letter of the correct match under the provided
COLUMN “answer”.
ANSWER NO. COLUMN A LETTER COLUMN B
1. Marriage a. A preparatory measured; making ready
2. Be together b. Relatedness or connection by blood or
marriage
3. Separation c. A person who have a legal affinity with
another by being the parent of the other’s
spouse
4. Divorce d. Has the ability to take care of ever minute
detail at home
5. Surrogate mother e. Regulating rights of spouses and
dependents in regard to property and
separations agreement.
6. Parents-in-law f. The legal termination of valid marriage
7. Wife g. End of their emotional and legal
relationship with each other
8. Family Law Act h. People need the help of others to have a
child
9. Preparation i. Legally or formally organized union of two
people as a partner in a personal relation
10. Family Relation j. When a family is under stress, it is the
common way to withdraw from each other
k. A woman who bears a child on behalf of
another woman
TEST III. MODIFIED TRUE OR FALSE

DIRECTIONS: Write TRUE if the statement is correct. If the statement is FALSE, change the
underlined word to make the sentence correct. Write your answer on the space provided.
1. Developmental delays in the child tend to create stress between the

parent-child relationship.
2. Marriage is a partnership it will serve you well to remember you are
on the same team.
Families come in all shapes and sizes and thinking about how would
3.
family to function is called develop a family management system.
4. It is important to make sure that the conflict of interaction that you
have with your child is enhancing as well as nothing.
5. Find a mentor couple to provide wisdom and support to you as you
begin your adventure in marriage.
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TEST I. MULTIPLE CHOICE
1. B Trust
2. C Other unmarried relationship
3. C Parent-in-law
4. C Unmarried spouse
5. C Father
TEST II. MATCHING TYPE
Legally or formally organized union of two people as a partner in a personal
1. I
relation.
When a family is under stress, it is the common way to withdraw from each
2. J
other.
3. G End of their emotional and legal relationship with each other.
4. F The legal termination of valid marriage.
5. K A woman who bears a child on behalf of another woman.
A person who have a legal affinity with another by being the aren’t of the
6. C
other’s spouse.
7. D Has the ability to take care of every minute detail at home.
Regulating rights of the spouses and dependents in regard to property and
8. E
separations agreement.
9. A A preparatory measured; making ready.
10. B Relatedness or connection by blood or marriage.
TEST III. MODIFIED TRUE OR FALSE
1. TRUE child
2. TRUE Marriage
3. TRUE family management system
4. FALSE quality
5. TRUE mentor couple

Name & signature of student Instructor
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1 4.0 Cabanas Renelyn R. 20 95.0 passed
2 4.0 Añora Ranilyn F. 20 95.0 Passed
3 4.0 Gruco Laica P. 20 95.0 Passed
4 4.0 Payong Mariel E. 20 95.0 Passed
5 4.0 Garcia Ma. Lyka V. 20 95.0 Passed
6 4.0 Reas Qungrace V. 20 95.0 Passed
7 4.0 Pedregosa Eymard P. 20 95.0 Passed
8 9.0 Gavino Eugenio 19 93.5 Passed
9 9.0 Ariza Frince Niño B. 19 93.5 Passed
10 9.0 Ducducan Mae Ann A. 19 93.5 Passed
11 12.5 Campo Cristine Joy N. 18 92.0 Passed
12 12.5 Rafales Maribel D. 18 92.0 Passed
13 12.5 Corsanes Jesiebel J. 18 92.0 Passed
14 12.5 Oriel Josephine N. 18 92.0 Passed
15 17.0 Recodo Maureen Bianca 17 90.5 Passed
16 17.0 Merquillo Jorge L. 17 90.5 Passed
17 17.0 Sabusap Jannel A. 17 90.5 Passed
18 17.0 Asis Princess Christine 17 90.5 Passed
19 17.0 Paragatos Marilyn A. 17 90.5 Passed
20 21.5 Bayarong Kristine N. 16 89.0 Passed
21 21.5 Asis Beaufill A. 16 89.0 Passed
22 21.5 Serafin Anilyn L. 16 89.0 Passed
23 21.5 Arcales Dexson B. 16 89.0 Passed
24 25.5 Ragob Jenilyn M. 15 87.5 Passed
25 25.5 Elizaga Marianne Kristel S. 15 87.5 Passed
26 25.5 Estember Joana Marie D. 15 87.5 Passed
27 25.5 Tenegra Allen James S. 15 87.5 Passed
28 28.5 Bignotea Ruby Ann A. 14 86.0 Passed
29 28.5 Dalupan Ronalene G. 14 86.0 Passed
30 30.0 Mosquite Rolando A. 12 83.0 Passed
31 31.0 Lampasa Jose John Paul T. 11 81.5 Passed
- Vallarta Fritzie Pearl T. - - Absent
- Linde Abegail V. - - Absent
- Baje Mary Grace E. - - Absent
- Lumontod Richard - - Absent
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No. of Test Items: 20 Highest Score Obtained: 20
Highest Possible Score: 20 Lowest Score Obtained: 11
Mean: 17.06 Standard Deviation: 2.51
LEGEND:
YELLOW: Passed
ORANGE: Failed
RED: Absent

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1. Draw your Family Relationship Chart.
FIRST GENERATION
ANSELMA MORALES CABANAS ANDRES CABANAS

(GRANDMOTHER) (GRANDFATHER)
REYNALDO CABANAS
(MY FATHER)
DECEASED
RUBEN M. CABANAS ROEL M. CABANAS ROGER M. CABANAS MARICEL C. DUVAL
SECOND GENERATION
REYNALDO M. CABANAS
(MY FATHER)
GEMMA RENTILLOSA CABANAS

(MY MOTHER)
REGIE R. CABANAS RENELYN R. CABANAS

(MY BROTHER)
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ASHLEY NICOLE R. BUENO ARIANNE JANE R. BUENO ANDREA LUOIZE R. BUENO
(HALF SISTER) (HALF SISTER) (HALF SISTER)
THIRD GENERATION
JERAME ABING JAY-AR P. ROLLAN

(SISTER-IN-LAW) (MY PARTNER)
RHEA MAE A. CABANAS JUSTINE KYLE C. ROLLAN

(MY NIECE) (MY DAUGHTER)
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1 Cabanas Renelyn R.
2 Añora Ranilyn F.
3 Gruco Laica P.
4 Payong Mariel E.
5 Garcia Ma. Lyka V.
6 Reas Qungrace V.
7 Pedregosa Eymard P.
8 Gavino Eugenio
9 Ariza Frince Niño B.
10 Ducducan Mae Ann A.
11 Campo Cristine Joy N.
12 Rafales Maribel D.
13 Corsanes Jesiebel J.
14 Oriel Josephine N.
15 Recodo Maureen Bianca
16 Merquillo Jorge L.
17 Sabusap Jannel A.
18 Asis Princess Christine
19 Paragatos Marilyn A.
20 Bayarong Kristine N.
21 Asis Beaufill A.
22 Serafin Anilyn L.
23 Arcales Dexson B.
24 Ragob Jenilyn M.
25 Elizaga Marianne Kristel S.
26 Estember Joana Marie D.
27 Tenegra Allen James S.
28 Bignotea Ruby Ann A.
29 Dalupan Ronalene G.
30 Mosquite Rolando A.
31 Lampasa Jose John Paul T.
32 Vallarta Fritzie Pearl T.
33 Linde Abegail V.
34 Baje Mary Grace E.
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No. of Test Items: Highest Score Obtained:
Highest Possible Score: Lowest Score Obtained:
Mean: Standard Deviation:
LEGEND:
YELLOW: Passed
ORANGE: Failed
RED: Absent

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Family Relations
ENGLISH SHORT STORY PUBLISHED ON

MARCH 17, 2017 BY SADHANA
One day, when Surili was working at
home, she got hurt by knife in kitchen. She could
not do any household work. Arun got very
annoyed and angry.
There was a boy named Arun, who stayed
at a small home in a village. In his house, all
females used to shout on man, miss behaved
with them, they forced their husbands to do all
type of house works. He had seen his mother
asking his father to do mopping, washing
utensils and also cooking food. Whenever he
prepared food, mother never said the food is
good. Always use to come out with mistakes in
food.
When Arun went to school, there he had learnt that a girl should be respected and in the
same way, boy. But at his home, it was other way. The males of the family did all the household
work. They went to market for purchasing vegetables, fruits, groceries and all. Then after coming
from market, they did work. In the last 30 years of age, Arun has observed same thing at his
chacha’s house and his brother’s house.
One day, he got married with an innocent girl named Surili. She belongs to a very well-to-do
and well- behaved family, He started behaving bad way from 10th day of marriage. Though the girl
was down to earth, still Arun used to shout and was annoyed with her. And thus, family was always
unhappy and in tense atmosphere. No happiness was seen in family.
One day, when Surili was working at home, she got hurt by knife in kitchen. She could not do
any household work. Arun got very annoyed and angry. Then Arun’s father came to see them.
Surili cooked good food for her father in-law. Arun’s Father was very happy and satisfied by her
service and care. He explained Arun about the girl, that Surili is very good by nature and please do
not harass her as we are getting troubled by your mother.
Then when Arun realized that and saw a smile on his father’s face. He said sorry to Surili and
then they both stayed very happily.
WHAT IS THE MORAL LESSON OF THE STORY?

The moral of story is never do same with others what you see in family. To be happy, stay
happy and don’t compare the relations.
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/familyrelation
https://www.trandfonline.com/inlawsandconceptfamily/pdf
https://www.chuchutv.com>blog>factor-likelytoaffectingparent-childrelationship
https://www.marriage.com>importanceelementsofmarrige/
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FAMILY RELATIONS
Preparation for Different kinds of Factors affecting Dealing

marriage family relations family relations Tensions and
conflicts in the
attachment family
hunger
attend a -establish self-

premarital care
counseling
-set healthy
Quality vs.
boundaries
Quantity
find a mentor
couple -have an open
family system
-develop a
start thinking conflict in the family
we instead of sorroundings management
me system
-validate efforts
talk about your -acknowlege it
expectations Health of the -be together
parent
development
delays in the
child
Being in a family relationship can create legal obligations in addition to moral and social
obligations that usually associate with family relations. Family relationship may become even more
important to well being as individual. From our families, we learn important values concerning
intimacy, spirituality, communication, and respect. Parents and other family members model
behaviors that shape how we interact with others. As a result, we continually form images of what it
means to be a family, and try to maintain that image of family in our lives. You may define family as
your immediate family, consisting of your parents and a sibling. However, your romantic partner
may see family as consisting of parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. Each
of you perform different communication behaviors to maintain your image of family. Many families
have children as part of their makeup. There are three types of family relationship; First, Married
spouse it means they are legally partners because of wedding ceremony. Second, Unmarried
spouses they are lived together refers to “marriage-like-relationship”. Lastly, Children’s caregiver
extended family refers to “parent-like-relationship”.
Preparation for marriage is to help each partner access his or her personal readiness for
marriage and help couples to enhance their strengths, clarify expectations, identify areas needing
change, learn and practice communication and conflict resolution skills and develop more
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emotional and sexual intimacy. First, attend a premarital counseling to be guided couples on their
communicating skills and conflict management. Second, find a mentor couple to provide wisdom
and support you as you begin your adventures together. Third, start thinking we instead of me
because marriage is for team or partners. It will serve you well to remember that you are on one
team. Talk about your expectations, discuss your goals to help ensure a successful marriage. It is
also important to talk about children, discuss or planned for it.
Different factors that can affect to family relationship such as, (1) attachment hunger, parents
with attachment issues end up controlling their kids in a inconsistent ways. (2) quality vs. quantity,
it happens when both parents are working. It is important to make sure that the quality of
interaction that you have in your child is enriching as well as nurturing. (3) conflict in the
surroundings, something that is bound to affect the closeness between you and your child is the
amount of conflict that is prevalent in their surroundings; and there are some ways to deal the
conflicts in the family relations. (1) establish self-care first, it is the simple act of attending your own
needs. (2) have an open family and develop family management, you should be open to your
family, the most important is the communication of the family. (3) acknowledge it and be together, if
you’ve done wrong, then say sorry and acknowledge it and have much more time to your family, be
together always no matter what happen.
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WORDS MEANING
Affinity
Relationship by marriage
Compromise A change that makes something worse and that’s not done for a good
reason
Confide
To show confidence by imparting secrets
Conflict
Fight, battle or war; competitive or opposing action of incompatibles
Debt
Sin, trespass; something owed
Dependents Decided or controlled by something else
Deprived
Marked by deprivation especially of the necessities of life or of healthful
environmental influence
Fraud
An instance of the use of dishonest methods to acquire something of value
Haul To cause (something) to move by pulling or drawing; to exert action on

Nosy Wanting to know about other people’s live
Nurture
The sum of the environmental factors influencing the behavior and traits
expressed by an organism
Prevalent
Generally, or widely accepted, practiced or favored
Rebellious Fighting against a government
Sham
An imitation or counterfeit purporting to be genuine
Surrogate
To get/put in the place of another; to appoint as successor, deputy, or
substitute for oneself
Timid
Lacking in courage or self-confidence
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https://www.trandfonline.com/inlawsandconceptfamily/pdf
https://www.chuchutv.com>blog>factor-likelytoaffectparent-childrelationship
https://www.marriage,com.>importantelementsofmarriage/
https://leaderonomics.com/leadership/tension-in-the-family
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During Premise or Motivational Activity
Introduction of my Topic Presentation
Interaction and sharing Ideas with the class
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FAMILY RELATIONS
The third primary type of
interpersonal relationship we
engage in is that of family. What is
family? Is family created by legal
ties, or the bond of sharing
common blood? Or, can a family
be considered people who share
commitment to one another? In an
effort to recognize the diversity of
families we dene family as an
arranged group, usually related by
blood or some binding factor of
commonality, where individual
roles and relationships modify over time. Family relations are typically long term and generally
have a period in which common space is shared.
Pearson suggests that families share similar characteristics as they tend to be, organized, a
relational transactional group, sharing a living space for prolonged periods of time and a mixture of
interpersonal images that evolve through the exchange of meaning over time. Let’s take a few
moments to unpack this definition.
Families Are Organized. All of us occupy and play fairly predictable roles (parent, child, older
sibling) in our family relationships. Similarly, communication in these relationships can be fairly
predictable. For example, your younger brother may act as the family peacemaker, while your older
sister always initiates rights with her siblings.
Families Are a Relational Transactional Group. Not only is a family made up of the individual
members, it is largely defined by the relationships between the members. Think back to our
discussion of Systems Theory in Chapter Five. A family that consists of two opposite-sex parents,
an older sister, her husband and three kids, a younger brother, his new wife, and two kids from a
first marriage is largely defined by the relationships among the family members. All of these people
have a role in the family and interact with others in fairly consistent ways according to their roles.
Families Usually Occupy a Common Living Space Over an Extended Period of Time. One
consistent theme when defining family is recognizing that family members typically live under the
same roof for an extended period of time. We certainly include extended family within our
definition, but for the most part, our notions of family include those people with whom we share, or
have shared, common space over a period of time. Even though you may have moved away to
college, a large part of your definition of your family is the fact that you spent a great deal of your
life sharing a home with those you call your family.
Families Possess a Mixture of Interpersonal Images that Evolve Through the Exchange of Meaning
Over Time. From our families, we learn important values concerning intimacy, spirituality,
communication, and respect. Parents and other family members model behaviors that shape how
we interact with others. As a result, we continually form images of what it means to be a family, and
try to maintain that image of family in our lives. You may dene family as your immediate family,
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consisting of your parents and a sibling. However, your romantic partner may see family as
consisting of parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents.
Each of you perform different communication behaviors to maintain your image of family. Many
families have children as part of their makeup. Olson and McCubbin discuss seven stages that
families with children go through as they progress through life. Families without children will not
follow all of these stages, and blended families, where one parent does not have primary custody
of children, may experience less extreme shifts between stages.
The first stage of family development is Establishing a Family. In this stage couples settle into
committed or married life and make necessary changes in acknowledgement of their new legal,
relational, and social status. If they did not live together prior to marriage they may need to work
out details of sharing space, money, and time. Often, this stage involved establishing a first home
together as a couple.
The second stage of family development is Enlarging a Family. In this stage a couple decides t o
expand their family with the addition of children. While a time of joy and celebration, this is also a
period of great stress and change for parents as they figure out new roles as parents. Time for
friends, work, and one another is often decreased as the demands of a new child become the
primary concern and focus of the couple’s attention and resources. In this stage, the relationship is
no longer defined in terms of two people, but includes the children that are now part of the family.
The third stage of family development is Developing a Family. As children grow, their needs
change from primarily physical (feeding, changing diapers, and sleep) to more cognitive and
emotional ones. Parents become the primary source of instilling cultural and spiritual values, as
well as fostering a child’s individual personality. This period takes a tremendous amount of time
and commitment from parents as the children remain the focus of daily interactions. Think of the
family that runs around taking children to soccer, baseball, piano lessons, church, and guiding their
educational development. In this stage, the personal development of children is of high importance
to the family.
The fourth stage of family development is
Encouraging Independence. Around the teen
years children begin the process of naturally
pulling away from their parents as a means of
establishing and securing any independent
identity. You might recall that this period
contained periods of stress and frustration for
your parents, as well as you. Children may
feel their parents are being overly protective
or nosy about their friends and activities, while
parents may feel abandoned and concerned
for their child’s safety as they spend more
time away from home. These are often referred to as the rebellious years in which children engage
in behaviors for the purpose of establishing independence from their parents.
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The fifth stage of family development is Launching
Children. Over the course of raising children couples
experience a relationship with one another where
children are often the central focus rather than each
other. In the Launching Children stage, each member
of the couple must now relearn his/her roles as the
grown children eventually leave home for college, a
career, or their own marriage and family. If one of the
parents gave up a career to raise children he/she may
wonder what to do with the free time. While the empty
nest syndrome can be stressful it is also a chance for
new possibilities as parents have more time, money,
freedom, and energy to spend on each other, hobbies, travel, and friends. Many experience
excitement about being able to focus on each other as a couple after years of raising children in
the home.
The sixth stage of family development is Post-Launching of Children. Depending on how a couple
handles stage five, the post launching of children can be filled with renewed love, or can produce
great strain on the marriage as a couple learns that they do not know how to relate with one
another outside the context of raising children. Some couples fall in love all over again and may
renew their wedding vows as a signal of this new phase in their relationship. Some parents who
may have decided to stay in a marriage for the sake of the children may decide to terminate the
relationship after the children have left the family home. For some couples, with no “birds left in the
nest” the family dog becomes the new center of attention and inadvertently takes on the role as
one of the offspring and continues to regulate and restrict the couple’s actions as the dog demands
rearing. Some parents pick up new hobbies, travel around the world, and maintain multiple “date
days” each week.
The seventh stage of family development is Retirement. Similar to the launching of children,
freedom from work can be an opportunity for growth and exploration of new relationships and
activities. Simply having more time in the day can facilitate travel, volunteer work, or continuing
education. Conversely, people in this stage might experience a reduction in income and the loss of
identity that came with membership in a profession. The family may also experience new growth
during this stage as grown children bring their own relational partners and grandchildren in as new
members of the family.
Communication patterns within the family, and between a couple, are continually changed and
revised as a family progresses through the above stages. The fact that a couple generally spends
less time together during stages two and three, and more time together in stages five through
eight, requires that they continually manage dialectical tensions such as autonomy/connection.
Management of these tensions may manifest itself as conflict. All relationships have conflict.
Conflict is natural. How we think about and manage conflict is what is important.
5 Important Elements of a Marriage to Consider Before Tying the Knot

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Healthy and long-lasting relationships go a long way in contributing to a happy and fulling life. A
relationship is said to enrich our lives and add to our enjoyment to being alive, but we all know that
there is no relationship which is perfect.
There are some relationships that lead to marriage.
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But before venturing into what you will eventually enjoy (or endure) throughout the rest of your life,
there are some vital elements that must be considered.
1. Love and commitment It is crystal clear that love is the vital element needed in any form of
relationship. This applies to marriage too. Without you loving your spouse or your spouse loving
you (for who you are), the marriage will not last, unfortunately.
Love is putting your spouse or partner above you, love means making your partner your major
priority, it means they come before anything else.
Commitment is all about staying by your partner’s side no matter the circumstances. It means
going through “thick and thin” with your partner. If you are not committed physically, mentally and
spiritually to your partner, then your marriage is heading
for “rock-bottom”.
2. Trust There is nothing to over-emphasize about the
marriage.
Before you say “I do ”, be sure that you truly love your
partner and they love you the way you do.
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of trust in every marriage. Trust is the most important
determinant to the health and longevity of a marriage.
If couples can do what they say and say what they do,
they create an atmosphere of trust and reliability in
knowing their words and actions mean something to
their significant other. Couples that rely on each other
can both breathe a sigh of relief to know their partner
has their back.
3. Effective communication By now, you should know that effective communication is needed in
every relationship. A bridge in the communication structure of a marriage is what often leads to
divorce. Both of you tend to deal with situations as they come up more effectively without wasting
any time.
You are in a healthy marriage when you are able to openly express your deep feelings and avoid
burying hurt or anger.
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It is a sign you are in a healthy relationship if and your partner is on the same page. No partner in a
relationship should feel shy or timid about communicating their feelings at any point. Neither of you
should have seconds thoughts about sharing your needs, desires, pain points and thoughts.
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4. Patience and forgiveness Nobody is
perfect. Your partner is bound to make
some mistakes, decisions, and statements
that will upset you. Sometimes, you will be
annoyed about the way your partner acts or
treats you, but you have to be patient
enough to forgive them.
Patience and forgiveness will always be
essential in a marriage. Understanding
couples learn to show unending patience
and forgiveness to their partner. You
should humbly admit your own faults and
do not expect perfection from your partner.
Do not bring up your partner’s past errors in an effort to hold your partner hostage, it destroys
marriages!
5. Selflessness in a relationship is like a wrecking ball
If you communicate effectively with your partner, you will be able to see things from your partner’s
perspective and forgive them.
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feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid that shakes the
foundation of a marriage.
Most marriages break done due to badly managed marriage finances, lack of commitment,
instances of infidelity, or incompatibility, but selfishness in relationships can lead to resentment,
pushing the relationship to the verge of extinction.
Give your hopes, beliefs, dreams, and your entire life to your partner. And begin to live a blissful life
together.
Summarily, we need to value our marriages, treat your partner with great care and love, and invest
into your marriage by being patient and
trustworthy.
Factors Most Likely to Affect a Parent-Child
Relationship
February 28, 2017
All parents enter into the bliss of parenthood
with euphemistic notions of rosy parent-child
relationships and family bonding. While some
of us are aware of what constitutes a healthy
relationship, be it with a child or an adult, many
of us are clueless of the subconscious patterns
of control, abuse, and dysfunction that exist in
families around us, sometimes, even our own.
As much as it is important to make sure our
child is eating healthy, achieving developmental milestones, it is also imperative as parents to be
aware of negative patterns we may subconsciously foster on our relationships with our children.
This awareness will also lend us valuable empathy towards others around us who may be battling
such situations with their children in their lives. So here are some factors that play a part in
affecting the crucial relationship between parents and children.
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1.Emotional hunger in the later stages of life has its roots in childhood where a child is deprived of
strong emotional connection at a young age. Parents with attachment issues end up controlling
their kids in inconsistent ways leading to confusion in their little minds that later manifests as
attachment hunger in their adult relationships.
It is very important for you to be consistent, firm and sometimes assertive in your interaction with
your child. Sending mixed signals is a sure way to confuse your child into a state of apprehension
that hampers their emotional development to a very large extent.
2. Quality vs. quantity. Whether you and your partner both work or one of you is a stay-at-home
parent, it is important to make sure that the quality of interaction that you have with your child is
enriching as well as nurturing.
Situations, where a parent tries to assuage their guilt of not spending enough time with their child
by giving in to the child’s demands creates a guilt-ridden pattern of giving and take in the
relationship. Similarly, when a parent spends too much time at home, they tend to feel exhausted
from the relentless caregiving and end up angry or irritable with the child frequently.
Regardless of your situation, it is important to make sure that you send consistent messages to
your child through your actions on what is or isn’t permissible and not change it based on other
factors like parental fatigue or guilt
3. Conflict in the surroundings. Something that is bound to affect the closeness between you and
your child is the amount of conflict that is prevalent in their surroundings. Bitter relationships with
relatives in joint families, poverty, or instability in terms of a political scenario are bound to have
effects on your child and thereby their relationship with you.
Not having a nurturing and supportive relationship with your partner can lead to your child feeling
emotionally scarred due to frequent fights and emotional battles that they’re exposed to. However,
adversity usually has two outcomes. Either it brings people closer or drives them apart.
While it is impossible to do away with conflicts, it is possible to avoid the emotional distress that
they’re likely to cause your child by allowing your child to watch you solve these conflicts in a
respectful manner, while keeping communication channels open. Over a period of time, this
transparency in communicating and discussing conflicts will strengthen the bond that you have with
your child.
4. Health of parent The physical and mental
health of a parent plays a huge role in how the
parent-child relationship pans out in the long
run. A parent battling a debilitating physical
illness or a parent with postpartum depression
tends to have a negative effect on the parent-
child relationship.
However, trying to maintain normalcy as much
as possible, even in the face of illness or
trauma will help provide stability to your child in
the short term. Open discussion about the
same will help your child develop positive role modeling in handling such situations themselves and
increase their respect for you as a parent.
5. Developmental delays in the child Developmental delays in a child tend to create stress between
the parent-child relationships. Some delays involve stressful solutions that may end up with the
child resenting the wishes of the parent.
However, it is up to you to tide over such things by being as supportive and strong as possible.
Many developmental delays even out over time and it takes courage, patience, and grit to remain
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calm in the face of such delays. However, the rich reward for the same is a sense of pride and
closeness that develops between you and your child which makes it worth the pain.
6. Involvement of the father The involvement of both parents is known to produce positive
outcomes in the children’s relationship with their parents in the long run. It also has a positive effect
on the emotional and physical well-being of the child as well as better academic performances later
in life. Fathers who are involved in the early stages of dealing with children’s needs end up
enjoying a certain closeness that extends into adult life.
While some of the factors listed above are beyond your control as a parent, there are some that
you can work on as individuals to evade any negative effects they may have on the closeness that
you enjoy with your children.
Even though some factors may be beyond your control, the awareness that it could potentially
cause a rift between you and your child will goad you to find solutions to minimize conflicts. It is
also important to remember that children learn a lot from observing us than by what we tell them to
do.
We advise you to view all these upheavals with a long-term perspective and take decisions that
have a consistent approach to resolving the problem in the long run instead of resorting to quick
fixes that will only end up sending mixed
signals to your child.
DEALING WITH TENSIONS AND CONFLICTS
IN THE FAMILY
By CHRISTINE MARYANNA GABRIEL Nobody
wants to open the door when stress is knocking
on the other side. We feel defeated when it
creatively finds its way into our family and tries
to become an additional member.
A research in 2009 by educational consultants,
Deborah J. Thomason and Pamela A. Havice, highlighted that past discussions on stress have
focused on a single person.
When considering family stress, the focus needs to be on how stress impacts the family as a
whole. They defined family stress as an imbalance between the demands of the family and the
ability to cope with those demands.
These demands are also known as stressors—a life event or transition that happens in the family.
Stress is the feeling. How a family copes with stressors impacts the level of stress in the family.
Ineffective ways of coping can bring about a myriad of feelings and worst of all— disconnection.
Here are 10 small yet effective ways your family can use to cope with stressors and bid farewell to
stress:
1. Establish self-care first If the word “self-care” is not in your family dictionary, please add it
now. Self-care is the simple act of attending to your own needs.
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Taking care of one’s self first can impact the family system tremendously as it gives permission to
the other to take care of his or her own self. This applies especially for working parents.
2. Set healthy boundaries There are many subsystems within the family system. It is the
responsibility of the adults in the family to set boundaries between the couple, parent and sibling
subsystems.
Dragging your children into adult issues is not only harmful to your children’s emotional wellbeing
but to the family system as a whole.
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Physically separating yourself from your children to resolve adult issues or seeking professional
help is highly recommended to set healthy boundaries and reduce family stress.
3. Have an open family system There is a flow of ideas in open family systems and feedback is
exchanged so that members can learn and
grow. In closed family systems, no new ideas
are allowed and differences of opinions are
shut down.
If there is a member in your family that needs to
be right all the time, it is a sign that you are in a
closed system.
Stress levels are high in closed family systems.
Be open to differences and recognize that
multiple ways of thinking can exist at the same
time in a given space.
4. Develop a family management system
Families come in all shapes and sizes. Thinking
about how you would like your family to function is called family management. Use a calendar.
Share tasks. Have clear expectations of roles and responsibilities. Plan your budget.
Intentionally developing a management system can give family members a sense of consistency
and security that can help family members feel more in control of the stress levels
. 5. Know when to say “yes” and “no” Parenting can be very stressful especially if you’re a
single parent. It is important to recognize when you need help and when you don’t in terms of
raising your children. It’s alright to say “yes” to help offered, especially when you are overwhelmed.
It’s a way of allowing others to love you by helping you. Learn to say “no” when you have friends or
relatives who interfere too much in your parenting methods. It’s a way of being in control as a
parent.
6. Validate efforts When was the last time you validated an effort, not just an accomplishment,
but an effort made by a family member?
Too often, we focus on the negative results and are quick to blame the other person instead of
encouraging each other. Sometimes just saying, “I know you’re trying really hard to __________
(fill in the blanks)” is all your mum/dad/sister/brother needs to hear. No “but” after the sentence.
7. Have non-judgmental family meetings Calling for family meetings is an intentional way of
saying, “We are here for each other.” However, family meetings can turn ugly when a lot of
judgements are thrown at each other.
Create a space for each voice in the room to feel heard. Be clear of the meeting agenda.
Recognize that differences are not threats, but rather, opportunities for the family to grow. 8.
Acknowledge ‘it’ “It” is often unspoken in many families. “It” could be the loss of a family member
ten years ago and the grief that continues to linger.
“It” could be an affair that is rather kept as a secret.
“It” could be a past trauma.
Unspoken “its” may feel safe and comfortable now but the silence could insidiously affect each
member in various harmful forms—substance abuse, depression, and suicidal thoughts.
Acknowledge the “It” for the long-term health of your family. Seek professional help if needed
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. 9. Accept that nothing is permanent Pain is
temporary. Stress is temporary. Loneliness is
temporary. Conflicts are temporary.
Reminding each other in the family that nothing is
permanent reduces the rigidity in the system. It
gives the family hope to change.
10. Be together When a family is under stress, it
is common to withdraw from each other.
This may be okay if a member just needs some
space for him or herself but can be problematic
when members are starting to feel disconnected.
Find ways to do things together. Because
remember, stress is temporary.
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Name Renelyn R.

REVIEW THE PAST LESSON

 AUTHOR: Martin Dejnicki

Your family, you should always cherish,

Your family can help, your confidence build,

 QUESTIONS: What have you learned about the poem?

FAMILY RELATIONS relatedness or

FAMILY a group considering of parents

INTRODUCTION TO FAMILY RELATIONS

DIFFERENT KINDS OF FAMILY

UNMARRIED SPOUSES people who

OTHER UNMARRIED RELATIONSHIP are

PARENTS THROUGH NATURAL

FIND A MENTOR COUPLE seek out an older

TALK ABOUT YOUR EXPECTATIONS IN

BE COMMITED since commitment is a choice,

TALK ABOUT MONEY always spend less than

FIVE IMPORTANT ELEMENTS OF MARRIAGE

TRUST There is nothing to over-emphasize about the marriage.

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION By now,

PATIENCE AND FORGIVENESS Nobody is

SELFLESSNESS IN A RELATIONSHIP is like a wrecking ball

FACTORS AFFECTING FAMILY RELATION

HEALTH OF PARENT The physical and

DEVELOPMENTAL DELAYS IN THE

KNOW WHEN TO SAY “YES” AND “NO”

HAVE NON-JUDGEMENTAL FAMILY MEETINGS Calling for family meetings is an intentional

ACCEPT THAT NOTHING IS PERMANENT Pain is temporary. Stress is temporary. Loneliness is

BE TOGETHER When a family is under

a. play “people bingo” activity;

CRITERIA RATING POINTS

Ex. When there is a long-distance

RENELYN R. CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

Course Year & Section: Score: Rating:

Group Name: Score:

PREPARED BY: CHECKED BY:

RENELYN R. CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

Name of the Judges 2

Name of the Judges 3

PREPARED BY: CHECKED BY:

RENELYN R. CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

How was the activity?

Does the Activity deepen

What have you learned

How can you reflect, adopt

How the activity helped

Factors Affecting Family Modified

TOTAL 1.5 hrs. 20 20

PREPARED BY: CHECKED BY:

RENELYN CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

TEST I. MULTIPLE CHOICE

TEST III. MODIFIED TRUE OR FALSE

1. Developmental delays in the child tend to create stress between the

RENELYN R. CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

PREPARED BY: CHECKED BY:

RENELYN R. CABANAS IMELDA D. ABENIO

ANSELMA MORALES CABANAS ANDRES CABANAS

RUBEN M. CABANAS ROEL M. CABANAS ROGER M. CABANAS MARICEL C. DUVAL

GEMMA RENTILLOSA CABANAS

REGIE R. CABANAS RENELYN R. CABANAS

JERAME ABING JAY-AR P. ROLLAN

RHEA MAE A. CABANAS JUSTINE KYLE C. ROLLAN