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December 1, 2019
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I remember landing in Denver, Colorado. The harsh audio from the airplane’s speaker
woke me from my relatively peaceful slumber. As the air-hostess’s crackling grumble carried
throughout the economy-class aisle, my slow awakening quite quickly morphed into panic. I
rushed to wipe my eyes of crust and my chin of deep-sleep saliva, and I embarrassingly found
myself face-to-face with another air-hostess kindly requesting the return of the airline’s blanket
to prepare for exit. At the announcement of the “all clear to proceed,” I jumped to my feet and
snatched my carryon from the overhead compartment. Clutching my luggage, I strutted down
towards the end of the cabin, and as I approached my freedom from infantile screams and the
I inhaled as that overhanging grey blanket reminded me of Karachi, Pakistan during the
monsoon season. Through booming thunder, my mother coddled my sister and me. The scent of
saffron from her auburn hair comforted my racing thoughts, not from the explosive roars of
lightning, but from the meteoric pounding of my father’s footsteps. My mother silently signaled
my sister and me to rush to our rooms as glossy, pearly tears ran down her rosy cheeks and onto
our foreheads. As I shut my bedroom door, I heard my father’s baritone growl as he snatched my
mother’s skull. For the next hour, my mother’s shrill screams of helplessness dissonantly carried
through the corridors with the frenzied booms of her bodily collisions against the tile floor.
I exhaled, relieved that my mother, sister, and I escaped our untold persecution, and I
abuse. The Center for Family Justice defines domestic abuse as “a pattern of coercive,
controlling behavior that is a pervasive life-threatening crime affecting people in all our
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communities regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, religion, social
standing and immigration status” (The Center for Family Justice). In other words, domestic
abuse may include, but is not limited to, name-calling, physical violence, emotional
manipulation, and identity-based discrimination. Furthermore, roughly fifty percent of men and
women experience emotional abuse and psychological aggression by a partner in their lifetimes,
and roughly twenty-five percent of men and women experience physical abuse. For such a
prevalent issue amongst men and women, how are people affected by domestic abuse?
Neurologist Dr. Glynnis Zieman states, “anxiety, depression and PTSD usually end up being the
most severe problems” (“Domestic Violence’s Overlooked Damage,” Stone); however, patients
tend to initially enter the clinic with symptoms of “headaches, exhaustion, dizziness or problems
On the other hand, abusers, too, may be afflicted with their own issues. For instance,
twenty-two prisoners possessing backgrounds of inflicting domestic abuse found that each
prisoner emotionally internalized the witnessed abuse from their fathers, and they perpetuated
“benevolent sexism” with their mothers, a chivalrous attitude towards women that casts women
as weak creatures in need of men's protection. Although the participants expressed beliefs of
female empowerment directed at their mothers, their expressions of the ideal woman regarded
absolute subordination to men “(a patient, caring, submissive housewife, totally dedicated to her
children and her husband)” (“Prisoners’ Ambivalent Sexism,” Testoni). As domestic abuse can
induce severe issues, such as sexism and mental illness, how are victims combatting their unjust
According to Will Stone, a reporter for National Public Radio’s All Things Considered,
survivors of domestic abuse remain “still largely in silence” (Stone). For such terrible abuse, why
Domestic abuse comes in a variety of forms. The Center for Family Justice outlines five
forms of domestic abuse: physical, emotional, economic, stalking and harassment, and sexual.
This diversity in the styles of abuse increases the difficulty in creating universal resolutions for
the affected 10 million people each year (Stone). Thus, without established, reliable outlets, these
Even before victims of domestic abuse may willingly pursue external support, research
shows that domestic violence stays unrecognized in victims. For example, “about 70 percent of
people seen in the ER for such abuse are never actually identified as survivors of domestic
violence” (Domestic Violence’s Overlooked Damage: Concussion and Brain Injury, Stone). In
other words, physical injuries from domestic abuse, such as bruises and cuts, may be treated, but
they are not cured. Emergency rooms deprive these patients of the careful investigation
regarding their physical trauma. Paired with the fact that “81 percent of...patients had so many
hits to the head, they lost count…” (Stone), the combination of cognitively impaired memory
from head injuries and inattentive emergency room staff, victims are left undiagnosed with
Silence in victims of domestic abuse is not limited to factors of physical violence. In fact,
according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH) and the United States Department
of Justice, eighty percent of victims do not present with physical symptoms. Then, what impedes
Survivors typically experience nonviolent forms of abuse long before a physical assault
ever occurs. Unfortunately, law enforcement only reacts when abuse turns physical, and
survivors are not seen as “real victims” until their situation escalates to violence.
Consequently, without legal validation from law enforcement, many survivors of nonviolent
domestic abuse do not believe that they are victims and may not feel the need to take action.
Additionally, victims may have emotional connections to the abuser that inhibit the pursuit of
that action. For example, the law offices of Graham Donath, J.D. state, “a victim may stay silent
because he or she loves the batterer.” Victims often retain some love for their partners despite
violence or torment. A relationship exists between the two people, and both the victim and the
violator could have a difficult time ending the relationship. Furthermore, the abuser could
financially support the victim and children, making economic dependence a significant factor. In
my family’s case, we felt helpless. Without physical evidence of the abuse inflicted by my father,
as a large majority of the abuse included verbal degradation, my mother, sister, and I convinced
ourselves that any legal action against my father would fail. My father, at the time, refused to let
my mother find employment, so we depended on my father for financial support, which, too,
Fortunately, after years of suffering, my mother, sister, and I filed a restraining order
against my father. We contacted a lawyer, and we learned how to separate ourselves from my
father after a long, fiscally and emotionally draining pursuit of freedom. However, with more
accessible means of assistance, such as better societal education regarding healthy relationships,
other individuals may be able to better combat domestic violence and recover from its drastic,
dire effects. Organizations such as One Love and the National Coalition Against Domestic
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Violence have made strides to further educate the public about recognizing domestic abuse and
its victims, but larger, dominant figures, such as employers and politicians, of everyday society
should seek to implement education and policies about domestic abuse to uphold every person’s
physical, emotional, and financial health. In fact, the United States of America has a precedent
In 1994, according to the United States Attorney’s Office Western District of Tennessee,
Congress passed the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). This act recognizes domestic
violence as a national crime with federal punishments. Federal oversight with this act helps
overburdened states and their local criminal justice systems by providing national classifications
for Qualifying Domestic Violence Misdemeanors and Crimes, Intimate Partners, and Victims’
Rights, resolving the discrepancies between domestic violence legislative acts in the individual
fifty states. Furthermore, VAWA administers grants through the United States Department of
Justice, providing funds for “shelters, rape prevention and education, programs to address and
reduce the sexual abuse of runaway and homeless youth, and community programs to educate on
domestic violence” (Lynch). These programs include but are not limited to the National
Similarly, the Intimate Partner Abuse Education Program (IPAEP) at the Massachusetts
Department of Public Health addresses the safety of domestic abuse victims while also
“hold[ing] individuals who use violence in their relationships accountable for their actions and to
help them change their behavior” (Massachusetts Department of Public Health). The IPAEP, if
First, the abusive partner attends at least eighty hours of group sessions that provide ample
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opportunity for each group member to participate in discussions and obtain individualized
feedback. Second, the abusive partner engages in an education component that addresses the
focusing on intimate partner violence and other perpetrated abuse and offer education that is
equivalent to the educational component. Fourth, the IPAEP conducts on-going assessments of
an abusive partner’s risk of harm to partners/victims. Finally, for a full discharge from the
Program, the abusive partner must remain violence-free for twenty consecutive weeks following
the final risk assessment. Thus, the Intimate Partner Abuse Education Program provides a
holistic rehabilitation for abusers that accounts for its participants during and well-after the
course.
On a national scale, the Intimate Partner Abuse Education Program and the Violence
Against Women Act could reshape the effects of domestic violence on its victims and
perpetrators. The reformative nature of the IPAEP may federally incentivize judges to use this
educational opportunity over a punitive sentence, such as imprisonment, that may not allow an
abuser to confront their toxic tendencies. Additionally, a national partnership between the IPAEP
and the VAWA could strengthen the national knowledge of anti-abuse organizations their
perceived legitimacy in the public eye, increasing the likelihood of domestic abuse education
programs and activism in communities across the United States of America. This stronger,
national case and fight against domestic abuse could produce a new narrative, an American
narrative in which domestic abuse survivors are empowered, and their abusers can learn to be
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Donath, Graham. “Why Do Domestic Violence Victims Stay Silent?” Law Offices of Graham D.
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“Federal Domestic Violence Laws.” The United States Department of Justice, 6 Dec. 2017,
www.justice.gov/usao-wdtn/victim-witness-program/federal-domestic-violence-laws.
Massachusetts, 2019,
www.mass.gov/service-details/intimate-partner-abuse-education-program-services.
Muhammad, Mildred. “Silent Scars of Domestic Abuse.” The National Domestic Violence
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Stone, Will. “Domestic Violence's Overlooked Damage: Concussion And Brain Injury.” All
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Testoni, Ines, et al. “Prisoners’ Ambivalent Sexism and Domestic Violence: A Narrative Study.”
International Journal of Prisoner Health, vol. 15, no. 4, Dec. 2019, pp. 332–348.
“What Is Domestic Abuse: Domestic Violence Definition.” The Center for Family Justice,