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Ryan Lee
Writing 39C
22 October 2019
collectively facilitate the existence of. In it are many subspaces, with social media arguably
being the most prominent. Social media's intended purpose is to allow users to always be in
touch with their friends through viewing their posts, maintaining relationships no matter the
distance. However, from social media stems an ever-growing social issue-FOMO. FOMO (Fear
of Missing Out) is anxiety resulting from people worrying that they are missing out on social
activities that their peers engage in. This anxiety causes people to compare their social lives to
those of others, often resulting in perceived social inadequacy due to the negative thoughts a
person develops about themself. The issue of FOMO is caused by social media users' ability to
manage an online avatar, a representation of themselves that is created with the intention of
making their life seem more eventful and fun than it is in reality. Due to a user's constant
inundation of these avatars, their self image deteriorates as they compare their lives to these false
depictions of others and subsequently perceive themselves as being socially inadequate. As these
feelings increase in a person, they withdraw from their friends and family because they feel they
cannot meet the standards and expectations of them. Withdrawal from family and friends
deprives these people of the authentic social relationships they need, and takes away their means
of social support, leaving them to the whims of their negative self image. Despite social media's
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ability to bring people closer together through constant connectivity, it often does the opposite,
facilitating feelings of depression and social isolation due to feelings of FOMO. By increasingly
isolating its users from family and friends, due to feelings of inadequacy due to carefully crafted
avatars, FOMO steadily ushers in a new era of social ineptitude and anxiety, contradicting the
Though the term FOMO was created in the early 2000s, on a conceptual level, it has
existed since long before. Parallels can be drawn throughout history between FOMO and a desire
to match the standards established by a person's peers. Joseph Reagle draws connections between
FOMO and the early twentieth century comic "Keeping Up With the Joneses" by Arthur Moman
(1). The comic strip focuses on a family that experiences perpetual annoyance at their
neighbors-The Joneses- for always having something they want. The Jones family's indulgence
in fads creates for them an avatar of being hip and trendy, much to the envy and frustration of
their neighbors. Though the comic strip takes a humorous approach to the concept, it holds a
great deal of similarities to the relationship between social media users and the avatars they are
presented with. For example, a social media user could frequently post pictures from parties they
are invited to, which creates an avatar based on a social and fun lifestyle. Though they may post
these pictures, they do not post the mundane or negative occurrences in their lives, presenting an
inaccurate depiction of their lives. Instances like this have only increased in occurrence, which is
why the expression "keeping up with the Joneses" is still used today.
With the ever-expanding focus on media consumption in culture, social media usage
increases daily. Research studies have shown that increased social media use positively
correlates to increased levels of FOMO (Sarah Buglass, Jens Binder, Lucy Betts, Jean
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Underwood, 6). Their extensive survey study measured levels of FOMO and self-esteem through
cross-sectional analysis, structural equation modeling, and longitudinal analysis and presented
this correlation. This suggests the issue of FOMO has the potential to become more widespread,
FOMO's widespread influence will likely be felt by many, as the creators of social media
utilize this to their platform's benefit. Jenna Wortham contends that "Social software is both the
creator and the cure for FOMO" (1). What she means is that a person derives satisfaction from
creating an online avatar of themself that presents a fun and fulfilling social life, while
simultaneously having this sense of satisfaction lowered due to seeing other avatars present their
fun activities. This creates a cycle of FOMO within individuals and society as a whole. Within
individuals, FOMO causes social withdrawal due to a fear of not being able to meet the standards
and expectations of peers. This causes them to resort to social media for social satisfaction,
which worsens feelings of FOMO as they continue to see others post pictures from their
carefully calculated depictions of their lives. In society, this issue becomes a cycle as more and
more users unknowingly create FOMO in others through posting to improve their self-image
while simultaneously experiencing it when viewing the avatars of others. Hallie Reed
contextualizes this issue with anecdotes of social exclusion and the subsequent feelings she felt
from this. Rather than let these negative feelings overpower her sense of self, she cites advice
from Philip Galanes-an advisor for The Time's Social Q's-on how to counter FOMO (1). The
most effective piece of advice he offers is simply to put down the phone and take a break from
social media's deluge of sensationalized depictions of peoples' lives. Though not an innovative
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piece of advice, it remains true, as research links social media use to feelings of FOMO, making
Though FOMO is caused by frequent exposure to social media wherein other users depict
themselves leading exciting and fun lives, it is not merely a teenage response to perceived social
competence, and relatedness-all of which need fulfillment in order for a person to be motivated
and partake in life's activities. In this context, we focus on a person's sense of relatedness, as a
lack of satisfaction in this area can lead to less motivation and desire to engage socially, resulting
in symptoms of FOMO. Research has indicated that "individuals who evidenced less satisfaction
of the basic psychological needs for...relatedness (connectedness to others) also reported higher
levels of FoMO" (Andrew Przybylski, Kou Murayama, Cody DeHaan, Valerie Gladwell, 5).
From this research it is apparent that a lack of social relationships elicits a natural human
response of apathy due to these challenges to a person's sense of self. Because a person's sense of
self is rooted in their interactions with others, the social inadequacy they perceive themselves to
have directly results in a threat to their own sense of identity. Once this is compromised, the
ability to counter the source of the problem through high quality social interaction is inhibited,
and a person becomes withdrawn. Though said person feels withdrawn, the desire for social
interaction still remains, causing a person to continue use of social media as a last resort for
social interaction. This in turn exacerbates their problems and contributes to a worsening cycle of
The response of a person exhibiting symptoms of FOMO to use social media as a means
of compensation for a poor social life is supported by the hypothesized model below that
The study focuses on problematic Facebook use in relation to six hypotheses. In this context,
hypotheses one and three (b & c) are the most relevant; hypothesis one states that "FoMO will be
positively related to PFU [Problematic Facebook use] severity", and hypotheses 3b & 3c states
that "FoMO will account for relationships between depression severity...(3b), and life
satisfaction (3c) with PFU severity." The results of their study supported both hypotheses;
"FoMO was positively related to levels of PFU", and "FoMO mediated relations between levels
of social anxiety and PFU" (Abigail Dempsey, Kelsey O'Brien, Mojisola Tiamiyu, Jon Elhai 2,
3). As seen in the above, the hypothesized model does refer to social anxiety and problematic
Facebook use to hypotheses three and five. Furthermore, it hypothesizes that rumination,
depression, social anxiety, and decreased life satisfaction, and Facebook use frequency are
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intertwined with each other and FOMO, resulting in problematic Facebook use. Though not all
hypotheses were accepted, the connection between these responses to social dissatisfaction
strongly suggests that the symptoms of FOMO manifest in rumination, increased social media
use, and FOMO itself, resulting in excessive social media usage. This in turn, is linked to how
FOMO causes users to more frequently use social media as compensation for their perceived
social status, further facilitating the worsening cycle that FOMO creates in its victims.
FOMO's severity is largely due to it isolating people from their support groups (i.e.
friends and family). As stated previously, feelings of inadequacy cause withdrawal from the very
social relationships they desperately need. Research studies show that family support protects
youth from loneliness, however daily use of social media by those in families of high quality
Michaelson, William Pickett, Colleen Davidson 9). This is because even in families of high
quality communication, daily usage of social media cuts back on the amount of time spent
communicating with family which allows feelings of loneliness to grow in users. The study also
linked families with low quality communication to even higher levels of loneliness in social
media users, as they have less of a support group. A lack of family communication deprives
adolescents of the ability to confide their feelings and receive insight on their situation. For
example, a family with high quality communication would be able to comfort an unhappy
adolescent and inform them that social media avatars do not accurately depict the lives of the
people behind them. Critical advice such as this is key to adolescents not perceiving themselves
to be socially inadequate when compared to their peers. When adolescents are not prone to
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negative perceptions of themselves, the root cause of FOMO is gone which prevents them from
experiencing it.
Overall, the ability of social media users to create avatars that glorify themselves
inadequacy, they withdraw from friends and family due to fear of not meeting their standards. By
cutting their ties with their support groups, victims of FOMO resort to social media to
compensate for their lack of social interaction, further worsening the problem and contributing to
a cycle of FOMO that affects all users regardless of their avatar's depiction of their life. With
more and more people experiencing social withdrawal, society as a whole loses its forms of
support and becomes increasingly isolated from itself, presenting a pressing social issue that
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