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When I was sixteen, I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital about twenty miles
south of where I live. There, I met an array of youths whose lives had been permanently
fractured and tainted by dysfunctional, broken homes, substance abuse and addiction. But above
all else, they all experienced a kind of betrayal that is difficult to reconcile--one in which the
traitor is also the betrayed. When your own mind turns its back on you, every day is a struggle,
an uphill battle.
What one discovers right away at a hospital is that everyone in the world is completely
alone. There is no way to sugarcoat this truth, and no easy way to articulate it. Thrust into a
completely different environment that was full of suffering individuals in similar circumstances,
I became acutely aware of the presence of my brain in my head, of the brains in everyone else’s.
We were together in our aloneness, bound by our baggage, sharing the common affliction of
It was completely jarring, like a million radios blaring all at once around me. This
facility, it wasn’t a place of healing, it was a place of coming to terms with. Coming to terms
with personal identity. Loss. Sorrow. Anger. Trauma. Fear. Hopelessness. Suddenly my own
problems paled in comparison to these other heartbreaks happening in real-time all around me.
That isn’t to say my problems disappeared, but they rearranged themselves within me in a way
that made me realize that I shouldn’t feel bad comparing my problems to someone else’s, but
work to help them in the little ways that I could. I couldn’t fix anyone else’s issues for them, but
I could ease them. I could share a few comforting words, I could listen to them speak for a while.
I could hold someone’s hand, I could let them borrow my markers, I could tell a joke.
Then one day I began to apply this little mantra to my own life, my own unsolvable
dilemmas. I cannot fix you, I told myself, but I can ease your pain for a moment. And as those
moments of peace grew longer, I found myself leaving more and more of my fear behind.
So slowly but surely, I learned what healing meant to me. Painstaking and gradual, like
all things. You have a day in which coping feels impossible, but then the day passes. You sleep
for a whole day straight. You mess up horribly, and then feel like the world is beautiful the
minute after, because instead of staying down you tell yourself that it’s okay and you can try
Someday you will look back and realize that it’s been a year since the worst
day of your life. Then two. And while you won’t ever forget it, you will always remember the
sensations.
When I was sixteen, I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital about thirty-two miles south
of where I live.
Since being discharged from the first hospital earlier in the year, I had only grown. This
time around I understood that hatred isn’t really hatred, it’s a lack of love. When I treated myself
with the kindness that I believed other people deserved, the pain was easier to bear. Despite
every difference, every world that separates us, we all deserve kindness. And we are all capable
of giving it. Not for personal gain, not because it makes us feel good, but because we can.
Because we see others suffering and our empathy urges us to. That, to me, is the most
powerful and important part of the human experience. And to see ourselves as just people--
impossible to fully understand, constantly growing and evolving, stuffed to the brim with
Last modification to the original essay was made January 14th, 2019.