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Chapter 1


People nowadays are more inclined in the digital and social

media in many aspects of their lives, especially in the youth today. The

internet can be a great way to meet people. Some use these means to

communicate with family and friends, some for educational purposes, and

some for economic and work-related activities.

Technology is booming rapidly year by year, there are some changes

that affects us in a various ways. One of this changes is the way of courting

someone we like, it has a huge advantage for people who can’t express

their feelings personally. In this way, they can show their desire on

someone using the means of technology, and that is the social media.

As students grow and develop, the creation of peer relationships is

a major focus of their social lives. The pursuit of romantic relationships

becomes increasingly important as teen students mature physically and

emotionally, and explore how romance factors into their emergent

identities. As digital technologies like mobile phones and social media

become ever-more deeply enmeshed in teens’ lives, these tools are playing

a role in all types of peer relationships, including romantic attachments.

It can be a tool that can be used for courting for your desire one. Most of

all teen students are involved in this way of courting. Courting in the way

of sending sweet messages, lovely stickers and pictures.

When others say ‘love’, the first thing that will come up to their mind

is being court with full potential and requires a lot of patience to succeed

on committing their partner’s answer. However, teens in this current

generation defines love in being sweet and clingy. Some people are in a

hurry on finding their partner in social media, this scenario are most

common on teens.

Many teens in relationships view social media as a place where they

can feel more connected with their partner’s life, share emotional

connections and let their partner know they care – although these sites

can also lead to feelings of jealousy or uncertainty about the stability of

one’s relationship. At the same time, even teens who indicate that social

media has had an impact on their relationship (whether for good or for

bad) tend to feel that its impact is relatively modest in the grand scheme

of things.

In this way, they can easily express their love towards someone they

desire. Courting through social media is becoming popular especially on

teens. Some people are thankful and feel grateful for this because they

have met their love and partner effortlessly and without any hesitation.

But there are also disadvantages in courting through social media: people

tell lies, presentation of identities, third party, rejection and emotional

This shows a great risk of courting in social media for they don’t

know what will be the outcome of their progress. However, this explains

that effort is also given on this type of courting. They just don’t develop

their courtship but also develop their maturity when it comes to love.

Technology has also become a part of courting practices. Romantic

conversations between two people are now through cellular phones. Most

common are through text messages and internet. However, parents still

prefer that their daughters should be courted formally.

Many elderly person don’t agree on courting through social media

because of their belief that love takes time and shows hard work to receive

an affirmation from the parents of the girl to allow them to date officially.

Traditional courting starts with the teasing stage conducted by friends.

Introductions and meetings between prospective couples are now done

through a common friend or attending a party. Serenading, reciting poems,

writing letters, and gift- giving shows respect to the family of the courted


According to Borja-Slark, Aileen (2012), in the year of Spanish

times, they prohibits men to be very aggressive or becoming even when

they want the lady very much. One cannot just talk and approach a lady

in the street and ask her number or address. If a young man sees a lady

he likes he should seek out the help of a common friend of both family, to
ask the permission of the woman’s father whether he can visit them in

their house.

When the approval is obtained, the suitor can then come to the

house with the friend of both family who will initiate the introductions to

the family. The parents in turn will introduce their daughter to the

gentleman. In this stage, the suitor is expected to bring gifts to the family

and a special one to the girl he likes. This is the thing he will have to do

every time he visits the girl's house.

When you court a lady, you have to court her whole family as well.

In this first visit, the couple will not be left alone on their own to get to

know each other. It will just be an informal chatting and introduction and

getting-to-know stage between the suitor and the family and making clear

of the suitor's intention to pursue the host's daughter. The gentleman will

visit the woman’s house more often, this is the stage where he does the

servitude. He serves the girls family in any way that he can to show to

them and to the girl of his sincere intentions and love for her, be it by

chopping firewood, fetching water from the well, etc.


This study aims to give awareness about the student’s perspective

on social media courting and traditional courting in selected senior high

school students of Arellano University Juan Sumulong Campus.

Especially, this research seeks to find the answers of the following


1. What are the student’s perspective on social media courting and

traditional courting?

2. What are the development in an individual on experiencing the

social media courting and in traditional courting?

3. What are the differences between social media courting and

traditional courting?

4. What are the risks of courting in a traditional way and in social

media as perceive by the students?

5. Why it is important to stick with the traditional courting rather than

courting in social media based on the student’s perspective




The focus of this study is to determine the student’s perspective on

social media courting and traditional courting. The respondents of the

study will be among the ten (10) selected Senior High School students of

Arellano University. The study will be conducted during academic year


The study would be done through the utilization of questionnaire to

the selected senior high school students as a survey and reference.

The researchers only limit the focus of their studies about the

student’s perspective on social media courting and traditional courting,

the researchers may not be able to accomplish their study due to lack of

sufficient time. In contrast, the researchers will be bias on selecting the


This study would serve as an instrument in determining the

student’s perspective on social media courting and traditional courting of

selected senior high school students of Arellano University Juan

Sumulong Campus.

STUDENTS- this study will give them awareness on the risks and benefits

of courting in social media and courting in traditional. Knowing this risks

and benefits can help them decide carefully on the relationship they want

to commit.

TEACHERS - this study will serve as a guide for them to give advice for

the students that are experiencing this type of courting.

PARENTS - this study will give them idea on the effects and the possible

outcomes in social media courting and in traditional courting and to give

guidance on their children when making decision.

SCHOOL - this study will serve as an instrument to help the selected

senior high school students to be aware on social media courting and in

traditional courting.