Chapter 37

HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICT

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One of the most important understandings and skills in one�s spiritual path is
the ability to resolve conflicts in yourself and your relationships.

This is necessary to remain in a state of personal power, self-mastery, and

decisiveness. Too many conflicts in your conscious and/or subconscious
mind begin to drain your energies over time.

Conflicts with People

One of the most important understanding and skills to develop in one�s

Spiritual path is the ability to resolve conflicts with other people in all types
of relationships.

1) The first principle in developing this understanding and skill

with people you have a close personal relationship to is loving, open, honest
communication of your thoughts and feelings.

2) Principle number two is the importance of avoiding arguments and attack

thoughts and feelings when there is a difference of opinion.

3) Principle number three: Always state your thoughts and feelings as �This is
my personal opinion� and �personal perception.�

4) Principle four: When bumping into differences of opinion and perception,

frame the situation as �Let�s agree to disagree.�

5) Principle five: Always frame the discussion in a �win/win� manner instead

of a �win/lose� perspective.

6) Principle six: Take time to listen and really hear what the other person has to
say, even if you disagree with where they are coming from.

7) Principle seven: Strive not to be overly emotional and strive to remain as

calm, objective, evenminded, and rational as possible.

8. Principle eight: Frame your communication in the words �this is the lens
that I see it from and you are seeing it from a different lens.� This honors the
other person�s lens even if you disagree with it.

9) Principle nine: Pray to GOD, the Holy Spirit, the inner plane Ascended
Masters, your Angels, and your Mighty I AM Presence for help in resolving
the conflict before beginning communication.

10) Principle ten: If you find your communication is becoming heated and both
of your negative egos are becoming too involved, I highly recommend
stopping all communication, but to say to the other person that your
observation is that both of your negative egos and emotional bodies are
becoming too engaged and you strongly prefer to end this discussion for now
and continue it when both of you are more calm.

11) Principle eleven: Before entering into communication, even a day or more
in advance, ask the Holy Spirit to undo the conflict on the inner plane and in
each person�s subconscious and conscious program. Also, ask the inner plane
Ascended Masters and Angels to heal the situation on the inner plane.
12) Principle twelve: When going into communication to resolve conflict
always keep in mind the proverbs �Do I want love or do I want to be
right?��Do I want GOD or do I want my ego in this situation?�and �Do I
want Love and Peace or conflict, fear and attack?�

13) Principle thirteen: Before beginning your communication to resolve a

conflict, make a list on a piece of paper of all the key points and how you
want to frame them so they will be more likely to be received in an open and
non-defensive manner.

14) Principle fourteen: Go into the communication with your full personal
power, unconditional love, attunement to GOD and Golden Bubble of
Protection so you can respond instead of react.

15) Principle fifteen: If the other person starts getting angry, attacking or
coming from their negative ego, don�t catch their psychological disease. Set a
better example. It takes two to have a war, and if one person engages in one
and the other person doesn�t, it can�t happen.

16) Principle sixteen: Be the first to apologize and admit your mistakes. This
may be one of the most important principles of all. I find most people and
most lightworkers being way too interested in defending their egos than
striving for egolessness which is the true nature of GOD. Start your
communication out by admitting your mistakes and apologizing for them
before ever mentioning the other person�s mistakes. This will throw the other
person completely off guard, and will set the tone for a Christed
communication rather than an ego battle.

17) Principle seventeen: Be the first to forgive no matter how much you have
been wronged.

18) Principle eighteen: Choose your battles carefully, for there are certain
battles that are just not worth fighting.

19) Principle nineteen: Always remember, there is a time to talk and a time to
be silent, and sometimes the best form of communication is silence. Honesty
does not mean you have to say everything. True mature honesty means you
say what is appropriate, as GOD would have you say it, to gain maximum
results in a Spiritual and Earthly manner.

20) Principle twenty: Do not be attached to your opinions or to an outcome, or

for that matter to material results.

21) Principle twenty-one: Strive to set the example of achieving a selfishselfless

balance. If there is any question about this, always choose the selfless
path.

22) Principle twenty-two: Always remember, the purpose of life is to live in

unconditional live, oneness, peace, and harmony with GOD, Light and your
Brothers and Sisters. Every situation of life is a Spiritual test to
see if you will choose love and oneness, or fear, attack and separation.

23) Principle twenty-three: Also remember that the person you are in conflict
with is an incarnation of GOD. Treat them as such even if they are not
demonstrating it.

24) Principle twenty-four: In some communications to resolve conflict it is

possible your lesson may be to just practice humility and humbleness. Or, as
the Master Jesus said, �To turn the other cheek.�

25) Principle twenty-five: Be more concerned about learning your lessons than
teaching other people their lessons. Leave that to GOD.

26) Principle twenty-six: Always remember, if you do not resolve conflict and
you hold onto karma in relationships, you may have to incarnate again in a
future lifetime to work it out.

27) Principle twenty-seven: Sometimes it is much better to resolve a conflict

through writing rather than direct verbal direct communication.

28) Principle twenty-eight: Most of all do not get into an ego battle with the
other person. This is the creation of Karma.

29) Principle twenty-nine: It must be understood, and this is of the highest

importance, that most people on Earth are totally run by the negative ego.

This does not mean that you have to be a doormat.This does mean that you must be
the highest embodiment of love/wisdom/power and egolessness. Egolessness does not
mean that you are not allowed preferences or opinions or loving spiritual
observations and discernments. It does mean, however, that these aspects of self
must be shared and utilized with extraordinary Divine unconditional love, and
Spiritual and psychological wisdom.

I share these things because it is essential for you to know and understand that
you will have to be the one to set the better GOD example. It will be you who will
have to apologize first. It will be you who will have to forgive first. It will be
you who will have to practice Humility and nonattachment. It will be you who will
have to demonstrate egolessness because it is just about guaranteed that the other
person won�t.

30) Use every conflict as a Spiritual challenge, test, and Spiritual opportunity
to practice the Presence of GOD and Godliness. By doing this you will not only help
yourself Spiritually, you will also be giving yourself unconditional love, oneness
and inner peace. You will also be setting a wonderful example to your Brothers and
Sisters, for it is very rare on this Earth that individuals resolve conflict in
such a Godly manner.

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