Communication in our life

Every day we communicate with scores of people; we talk about politics,

work, life, money and so on. After all, do we know what communication is? An
encyclopedia says that “communication is a process whereby information is
enclosed, channeled and imparted by a sender to a receiver via some medium.
The receiver than decodes the message and gives the sender a feedback”. So,
this is a scientific explanation of the notion “communication”. But what dies
communication mean for common person of any age, sex, rank and social
position?
Communication is one of the most important necessities of every human
being. Even millions years ago when primitive men could not speak, they
communicate with the help of gestures, sounds and pictures. If we try to
imagine our life without communication with each other, the picture will be dull
and unemotional, like the science fiction where people are replaced by robots.
Besides exchanging the information, we exchange our feelings, emotions,
gestures and so on. Communication can reveal different feelings. According to
the theme of the communication, communicator, conditions, communication
can leave us happy, satisfied, indifferent, irritated or enraged. Sometimes good
communication can replace medicine in the case of depression. Our relatives
and close people can understand anything without words just looking at our
eyes, and that is communication too.
Now people can communicate even if their dialog is not face to face.
Modern gadgets give us such opportunity. For instance, sending a short
messageby the mobile phone, you can put different marks or smiles conveying
your emotions; using the program Skype for chattering you can see your
partners face and all gestures he uses.
On the other hand, there is a great detail that cannot substitute
communication face to face. When you communicate with a person who can
even keep silence, you can understand this person by his or her gestures, eyes
and body language. During our communication we often unconsciously touch
each other, and that also gives us a piece of information.

Gender Differences in Nonverbal Cues

Nonverbal communication is integral to how we communicate. But each
gender uses different nonverbal cues when communicating.
There are seven types of nonverbal communication.

Facial Expressions
Our faces can demonstrate more than 10,000 facial expressions. But men
overall use fewer facial expressions than women. Men also smile less. Women
tend to rely heavily on facial expressions, including head nodding and eye
contact because, as children, they were taught “more appeasement body
language,” according to Science of People.
 Paralanguage
Defined as “the nonlexical component of communication by speech, for
example intonation, pitch and speed of speaking, hesitation noises, gesture and
facial expression,” paralanguage is used by women much more than men. This
includes gesturing noises such as “mhm,” “ah” and “oh,” as well as head
nodding. These gestures are a way to convey, “I am listening and understanding
what you’re saying,” without actually saying it. Men also use paralanguage
during communication, but do so less frequently, and it’s usually just to confirm
someone’s comment or to say, “I agree.”
Physical Space
Men are much more likely to command and use personal space than
women. Men often prefer face-to-face communication, with the opportunity to
shake hands or pat someone’s shoulder. Women are usually comfortable
speaking with someone side by side and are more comfortable being in close
proximity with other women.
Touch
While there are some differences between how men and women
communicate through physical touch, there are plenty of similarities because of
our genetic makeup. Usually, men use pats, back slaps and shoulder touches as
a way to display dominance. Men will use an introductory handshake to set the
tone for communication to come. Women, on the other hand, may reach out and
touch someone’s arm or offer a hug to build a connection and show support.
Researcher Paul Zak, however, found that touch releases a hormone in our
brains called oxytocin, Science of People reports. The hormone is found in
increased numbers when people hug or engage in sexual activity.
Posture
Men typically have wider postures and stand with their arms farther away
from their bodies and legs apart. Women are more likely to keep their arms
closer to their bodies and cross their legs.
Gestures
According to research on nonverbal communication, women learn during
childhood to “align their bodies to face the other person” and sit still while
using more hand gestures. Women’s gestures are also typically more fluid. Men,
meanwhile, use sharp, directed movements.
Eye Contact
Women typically use more direct eye contact during communication in
order to make a strong connection and develop a relationship. Men, however,
use eye contact most commonly as a challenge of power or position.
To draw a conclusion, I suppose that all modern and fashionable gadgets
for communication are really useful things when you have no opportunity to
meet a person. Nevertheless, if you have one, enjoy every moment of this
process because it is a real treasure and “Good communication is as stimulating
as black coffee and just as hard to sleep after”.