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Elias Whitaker
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Copyright
A l l ri g h t s r e s e r v e d .
E l i a s W h i t a k e r © 20 1 5
N o p a r t o f t h i s b oo k m a y b e r e p r o d u c e d
m e c h a n i c a l l y o r e l e c t r o n i c a l l y, e i t h e r b y
p h o t o c o p y i n g , p r i n t i n g o r b y an y me a n s o f
e l e c t r o n i c t r a n s f e r, w i t h o u t t h e w r i t t e n p e r m i s s i o n
of the author.
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Table of Contents
Copyright ...................................................................................................... 2
Introduction.................................................................................................. 5
The Girl: the Women: the Heart / the Boy: the Man: the Mind................... 7
The Mind vs The Heart ................................................................................. 8
The Boy - The Man - The Mind ..................................................................... 9
Defense .................................................................................................. 11
Leverage ................................................................................................ 14
The Down Fall (He lied, she cheated) ....................................................... 16
Cheating...................................................................................................... 19
I'm not a player, I just crush a lot ............................................................ 22
The boyfriend player .................................................................................. 22
The baby daddy player ............................................................................... 23
Seasonal Player........................................................................................... 24
The married man ........................................................................................ 24
Situationship .......................................................................................... 25
Relationship: ............................................................................................... 26
Single: ......................................................................................................... 26
SituationShip .............................................................................................. 27
Reversal ...................................................................................................... 31
Interpretation ............................................................................................. 32
Feelings .................................................................................................. 35
Testimonials ........................................................................................... 37
“Ay Mama Mia” .......................................................................................... 39
“In Love with Love” .................................................................................... 41
“Oklahoma City Finest” .............................................................................. 41
“The Lady at Mac” ...................................................................................... 42
“The Dallas Cowgirl” ................................................................................... 43
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Introduction
Have you ever met someone of the opposite sex and hung
out with that person a couple times? Did you just happen
to enjoy the outing with that person? Did you happen to
share a good kiss or indulged in sexual pleasure with that
person? Hung out with them a couple more times and
enjoyed their company? Then when someone asked you
“what are you guys, I mean you and that other person?”
and you couldn’t explain what it was you had going on?
You guys weren’t boyfriend or girlfriend or even share a
title; we are past the age when folks called it talking.
Dating is cool but you have gone past the dating guidelines,
fuck buddies are cool, but you respect the situation more
than just giving it that title. You try hard to conjure up an
answer, and you say; “just like Facebook, it’s complicated”.
However, there is nothing complicated about it, because
you are two adults getting to know each other and learning
about your current situation. Well this my friend, is what I
like to call a “SituationShip”.
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The Girl: the Women: the Heart / the Boy: the
Man: the Mind
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why women make the decisions they do, and why men
operate the way they do. Neither party is wrong because you
can never make a woman feel like her emotion/feeling is
wrong because it’s an emotion and not a resolved problem
through an algorithm like a man’s logic.
However, I can tell that if you’re looking for the ideal man
like he is prince charming and that’s not going to happen.
It’s a new day and bright new age ladies, and men have gone
through their fair share of situations and have had hard
lessons of life, which have caused them to probably act the
way they do. Now a woman is probably saying men do us
wrong always, and we deal with it. Remember ladies you all
are fueled by your heart, so you know how to deal with your
emotions a lot better than a man does. Prime example of
how a man views things and how women may view them.
When a man sees a color to him its Blue, Red or Green but
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Now like I said neither party is wrong, it’s just the man
using his mind to make a decision and the women using
her heart to make the decision. Now you ask what would
happen if a man used his heart to make a decision and a
woman used her brain to make the decision. Shit, I Don’t
Know! LOL email your question in and we can talk about it.
I hope that this will give everyone a better understanding of
the thought process of either the man or the woman. Don’t
worry we are getting closer and closer to the breakdown of
what a SituationShip is, and that is the aim of this book.
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Defense
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You never really ever know a person and with social media
now you really don’t know a person because more people
live online than they do in person.
Why just have one song on your iPod or ask the DJ to play
just one song the whole night in the club. It is normal and
natural to want and accept change. I’m not telling you not
love someone I’m just telling you to be aware that not
everyone will live up to your standards. Most folks come
into the game playing offensive trying to win you over; they
show you all the glamor and glitz. You don’t really get to
know a person until a couple months of being with them
and getting to know them. Some folks have real life
problems, some people are struggling, and some people
don’t match up to your standards. All the while, you were
caught up in the charm or the good time, and you don’t
think of knowing what real life situations you have going
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on. Nevertheless, when real life hits and you are past the
honeymoon stage, all the truth and the reality dawn upon
you, and reality will prevail.
To most people, this will throw them off because you’re only
taking the person for the cover of the book they showed you,
versus actually opening up the book and seeing it for what
it is – going for the face value. This will hurt and cause you
to be distant from the person because you had high hopes
you believed it was all a hype. Playing defense will keep you
prepared for everything and nothing will surprise you. This
keeps you in a neutral zone where you can still make
decisions that won’t be detrimental to your feelings or to
your life. Always Play Defense this is very important. In a
situation like this, nothing will fool you or throw you off
guard because you understand anything is possible
regardless of what the person tells you.
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Leverage
if that’s your thought process then you have just lost the
leverage game to a man like me, and you may become
sexually frustrated dealing with me. Nevertheless, we are
not talking about just me, and I don’t represent all men in
this situation. In most cases, women leverage your goodies
for what you want in certain situations, but the ideal
situation to leverage is through the thought process. Some
things may appear perfect but understand everything has
its flaws, remember nothing is perfect.
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The Down Fall (He lied, she cheated)
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Cheating
Now ladies I know you’re mad and I’m not saying cheating
is alright, but you have to be honest with yourself do you
expect a man or fellas do you expect a woman just to be
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focused on you and only you day in and day out, for the
rest of their lives? I sure hope not and this is what you have
to understand, that there are a billion people in the world,
you sell yourself short just by stopping at the first one you
felt you made a connection with because you don’t know or
haven’t seen what the world has to offer.
Now people are just acting human, and from time to time,
people want change, or have a spark brought to their life.
Unless you’re constantly on your toes doing new things
spicing it up even after they feel like it got old, then you
have to understand that you run the risk of your partner
wandering off. If you give them space and keep everything
a Situationship then folks wouldn’t ever feel compelled to
have to cheat, lie, or be secretive because you’re in a
situation with no restraints. The moment you leave a
Situationship and create a relationship, you have so many
restraints and guidelines it makes things difficult. A
Situationship is relationship freedom, giving both parties
the freedom to do as they please while having respect and
an understanding above all. The downfall of 80% of
relationships is as a result of someone cheating. The
excuses stem from the situation getting boring, “I just got
uncomfortable”, “I don’t see us growing past this”, or it may
be the urge for something new in their life. A Situationship
was created to keep everyone happy and to enjoy what life
has to offer in the opposite sex. I don’t condone cheating,
because with cheating also comes a feeling of betrayal from
your partner. Therefore, I definitely do not condone that,
but in a Situationship, it is ok to have multiple situations.
Do not be messy and do not expect everyone to be able to
adapt to the Situationship lifestyle that fast it’s a process.
Remember the thought of a sin is still a sin so the thought
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I'm not a player, I just crush a lot
I 'm not a player, I just crush a lot is not just a famous line
from a Big Pun Song, but it is truthfully the best way you
can describe a Situationship if you like. To just give it the
title of a player is just not right. In this chapter, I will break
down the 5 types of players that exist out here.
For Mr. SituationShip, well read the book you should know
what he is about.
The baby daddy player is the one who has a baby mama; a
girlfriend, a side chick, and a new boo. This guy feels like
he is a player but in all actuality he just can't let go of his
baby mama and he also wants to have something new but
not to leave his old situation. The side chick and the new
boo come into place usually because he wants the attention
of someone new while his baby mama and the new girlfriend
get into it. He usually wants an outlet. The fact of the matter
is that this guy always wants to have some type of women
he can always turn to. The baby mama won't go anywhere
because they share a kid and things don't really change,
with respect to feelings, between them. I didn't make this
up this is just from real observation and understanding of
what things are.
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Seasonal Player
This is the “I once was a player, but I grew up” type of guy.
He is also the guy always trying to force his new beliefs on
all the other player types. However, don’t convert me just
because you converted let me figure it out. There isn’t
anything wrong with the married man. In my circle, this guy
has been every player in the book with the exception of the
“Baby daddy player”. However, he has finally settled down
and found the one that gave him the feeling he needed out
of life. Now once again I’m with the married man player I’m
only referencing the ones in my circle and how they
operated before they settled down. They usually have gone
through their share of women and have finally decided to
give their all to one of them. If it was the boyfriend player
he just finally chose one and dropped all the others, if it
was the seasonal player, they finally found one to be with
through all the seasons. Now if they operated like Mr.
SituationShip then all they did was learned how to turn a
Situationship into a Relationship. Jersey has been hung
and retired of this guy.
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Situationship
Relationship:
Single:
SituationShip
When dealing with women some just want the truth, others
want to be lied to, and then you have the ones who are just
here to go with the flow. Most say they want the truth but
a lot of them can’t handle the truth. The crux of the matter
is this; I respect you and your decisions, and wouldn’t ever
disrespect that. We may hang out chill go to dinner a movie
or out for a good time. We may even enjoy each other
sexually. Everyone has a past, and everyone will have a
future, people aren’t perfect so I wouldn’t expect anybody
to not cheat or lie. Therefore, I form a situation where none
of those negative factors can even exist.
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love or head over heels for each other. Then months or years
later, that same set of persons that claimed they couldn’t
breathe without each other or that they loved each other so
dearly, now hate with a passion.
This is because in the relationship you allowed yourself to
be consumed by your partner, you saw perfection in the
happiness you had but forgot that this person is still
human. They could do no wrong because the honeymoon
stage had you believing everything is great and couldn’t go
wrong. Suddenly, down the line to protect your feelings, he
lies to her or she hides something from him. Now, trust is
lost and feelings are hurt. They start to question everything
and no longer feel secure in the bond and relationship that
had been formed. Things get worse and a feeling of betrayal
kicks in, and now you feel like the person you once loved
and were consumed with, is now an enemy.
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Where have you been? Who are you with? What are you
doing there? Who is that girl or that guy? Who is texting
us? Who’s that girl or guy that put that emoji under your
picture? These are all question asked by an insecure Man
or woman, in a relationship where trust is lost but the love
is still there. In a Situationship, none of this question would
apply to you because it doesn’t matter what I am doing or
what you are doing. Let’s only share the positive things with
each other. I have never met someone and out the gate, they
just start telling me their problems, or giving me, insecure
gestures and we just met. That would be weird and creepy,
I’m sure everyone would agree on this. Therefore, you take
a Situationship and feel like every time is the first time.
Good Morning text, or phone calls, random lunch or dinner
dates with your situationships. Work the field, play the
board games. Ladies go have lunch with Ronald in Marina
Del Ray, have some drinks in Hollywood with Kevin and
then head home and cook a dinner for Travis. Fellas Take
Tammy for donuts and coffee in the morning, meet Amanda
for ice cream at the park during lunchtime and go to a
movie with Amber later that night. Have fun explore the
world take trips, meet people, learn new things from the
world, listen to people and their stories, see what the world
has to offer.
Your past is your past and this is no refresh button on your
Penis or Vagina, you can’t un-fuck anybody. So just, take
it for what it is, and move on past it.
Always remember that whatever you decide to indulge in,
you have to be complete and come into the agreement
100%. That 50/50 is out of here, no one wants to have to
build someone up. You want to be able to come together
with you man or woman and be able to build something
bigger and better as a power couple, or as a team. In a
Situationship, this also works as well because it allows you
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Reversal
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Interpretation
Every time I meet a new woman when I’m out of town, and
the connection is good with a matching chemistry; I am
prepared to just enjoy a good time and to take it for what it
is. This is because I know that just meeting this woman, I
am sure of it that she has someone back home, or is
currently dealing with someone, but it isn’t working out. I
don’t get mad or cut the women off when this happens
because everyone has a past or everyone has somebody
because nobody wants to ultimately be lonely without some
companionship of the opposite sex. Several times, I have
shared good moments with a woman out of town, only to
find out that she is married or has a boyfriends or fiancé
back home. It used to throw me off, I never could
understand how that was possible. How could a woman
spend that quality time with me, and make me feel like that
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falling in love but was always on the defense from the first
fall out, I already knew what was going on, and what to
expect. Therefore, when everything hit the fan and more
information leaked out on how much she was really doing
and the extent of things. It didn’t completely crush me or
send me into a depression because I had already prepared
myself to be on the defense. Now what I did to ensure I was
on the defense and not heart broken is probably something
we don’t need to discuss but just always know that it takes
two to play that game. When you’re always being accused
of cheating or talking to someone or hiding things from your
partner; then you must ask yourself, where did this come
from?
You be surprised how in tune with the women I really am,
and how I know and understand all the moves and actions
they make. Oh yeah, that’s probably because I was raised
by a woman and I am very much a mommy's boy.
Nevertheless, that’s not why, I just understand life, and why
folks will do what they do, I have observed human actions
with kin interest, through you might call autodidacticism; I
have come to understand human nature. Life is about being
your best; it’s about achieving the highest goals you want
to accomplish. If you’re in a relationship with a man, that
is a seven on a scale of 1-10, and one day you meet a man
who is an 11, more to offer educates you and shows you
things you never have seen before. Do you stay with your
seven and figure it out with him? I’m sure you have years
of your life to spend on someone else life, or do you go with
the 11 and upgrade your life? I’m sure you all had many
answers but the best answer is this you keep them both
and put them in a Situationship and keep living your life
and enjoy what they both have to offer…..
“SITUATIONSHIP”
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Feelings
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Testimonials
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It did not hit me that the joke was on me until we were all
drinking and playing games in his living room. The subject
of "Situation-ship" came up. A "Situation-ship" is two
people who just have a situation with each other, it could
be that you guys are dating or just having sex, but you guys
are involved in some type of way. Anyway, he goes to say he
has a "Situation-ship" with me and the girl sitting next to
me. I was devastated here I am thinking it was just him and
me and we might get serious after this, but no after picking
my face off the floor, I knew that I could never be with a
man that thought this type of behavior was ok, at that
moment I felt like a joke. I felt everyone was laughing at a
joke I did not think was funny. He is the reason I stayed
away from guys in the music industry, they just don't take
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Notes
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