SUCCESSFUL

SEXUALITY FOR
TEENAGERS

e r e d
p o w Ogbo Awoke Ogbo

m
Life Coach

E ogbo.ogbo@giantthoughts.com
Tel. 08034880518

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 CONTENT
Sex is Good How Sexual Temptation
Works
Is Sexual Purity
Possible? How Addiction Works

Sex is More Than Sex How God’s Love, Grace

and Forgiveness Work
God, What Do I Do
With All These Practical Guide To
Hormones! Purity

Vow of Purity

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 SAMPLE ISSUES

Pornography The Media - TV, Music,

movies
Masturbation
Peer pressure
Homosexuality/Lesbianism
Rape
Peer pressure
Guilt and shame
Internet
Forgiveness
Facebook
Recovery
Partying
God’s will

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Everything God made is
good; God made sex
Like everything else God
made, Satan has tried to
hijack, corrupt and
counterfeit sex
Sex is sacred
Sex has one rule: Marriage
(This not old fashioned! It
works that way!)
The Bible is NOT out of
date.
SEX IS GOOD
Do you not know that
your body is the temple of
the Holy Spirit who is in you,
whom you have received from
God? You are not your own, you
were bought at a price, therefore
honor God with your body. 1
corinthians 6:19-20
We all struggle with our sexuality as part of
our biological, spiritual and personal
development.
Some people never master their sexuality until
death.
It’s not easy but posible.
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 SEX IS MORE THAN SEX
Biological

“For these
reason, a man Spiritual Psychological
will leave his
father and SEX
mother and be
united to his
wife, and they Emotional Social
will become
one flesh.”
Your sex life drags everything
Genesis 2:24 with it

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TEENAGE SEXUALITY LAND
MINES!

Lack of self control

is the quickest way
to blow up your
soul and distort
your personal
destiny.

- Proverbs 5:22-23

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 CONDOM OR SELF
CONTROL?

“For her house leads down to

death and her paths to the
spirits of the dead
None who go to her return or Condoms are
attain the paths of life.” much easier than
self control!
“Making love” or “Making land But ...
mines”?
Proverbs 2:
11-19

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 CONDOM OR SELF
CONTROL?

Proverbs 2: 11-17

Discretion protects, not condom (v. 11)

To the Girl: protection from “wicked men... whose

words are perverse” v12-15

To the Boy: protection from “the adulteress.” v16-19

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 WHY SEXUAL PURITY?
The goal of sexual purity is NOT to avoid
becoming infected with HIV or other STIs.
The purpose of sexual purity is NOT to avoid
becoming pregnant.
It’s not to show off that you are religious or
‘holier than thou.’
It is to attain the paths of life, becoming all
you are capable of becoming, and bringing
glory to God. (Revelations 4:11)

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 HOW SEXUAL TEMPTATION
WORKS
The battles starts and “Do not love the world or anything in the
ends in your mind:
world ... the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his
“Guard your heart
(mind) with all eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-
diligence ...” Proverbs comes not from the Father but from the world.”
4:23 1 John 2:15-17
GIGO - what you put in
comes out (TV,
Vulgar
Internet, Friends, Music,
Movies, Books, etc) Rap Music
Put away perversity
James 1:13-15 from your mouth; keep
corrupt talk far from
“For the lips of an adulteress drips honey, and your lips.
her speech is smoother than oil...” Pro. 5:3 Pro. 4:24

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 THE 5 WH’S OF SEXUAL
TEMPTATION
Who - e.g. Who are you? Who are your friends?

What - e.g. What are you doing there? What is in

your environment? What is likely to happen here?

Where - e.g. Are you where you ought to be? Where

can you find help and spiritual nourishment?

Why - e.g. Why are you there?

When - e.g. When should you be in a certain place?

when should you leave? When should you have sex?

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 PORNOGRAPHYMy personal story of
addiction to porn

“... preys on your very

life.”
Proverbs 6:26

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 SO, WHAT ABOUT THESE
IMPOSSIBLE HORMONES?
“It is good for a man (or Talent development!!!
woman) to bear the yoke while Physical Activities/
he is young.” Adventures
Volunteer/Charity
- Lamentations 3:27 Boy Scouts, Girl Guides,
Man O War, etc
Purpose can Less TV watching, video
deliver you from games
the distractions of Seek a mentor!
sexual desire!
Daniel 1:8

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WHAT DOES GOD SAY ABOUT
HOMOSEXUALITY/LESBIANISM?
God does NOT condemn lesbians and homosexuals - He loves them
as much as He does heterosexuals! They’re God’s offspring too.

God did not create anyone with ‘homosexual orientation’ as some

psychologists claim. Most homosexuals were initiated to the lifestyle
in secondary schools as young teens or by friends.
God clearly condemns homosexuality (Romans 1:24-27)

That the society approves of, debates it in parliament or in church

and makes it legal does not “soften” God’s stand. “Human rights”
should not be mistaken for “God’s sovereignty.”
Homosexuals and lesbians can change, if they so desire. There are
two options: change or keep arguing about it.

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 DISCUSSION

IS MASTURBATION A SIN?

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HOW GOD’S LOVE WORKS
God loves us unconditionally
We are saved by grace, and live by grace, not will power
God has paid the price for our sins, guilt and shame
through the death and resurrection of Christ
He delights in forgiving our sins and helping us live holy
like He
He gives a second chance - You can rise again if you fall.
(1 John 2:1-3.) “Neither do I condemn thee. Go and sin
no more.”

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PRACTICAL GUIDE TO PURITY

EXERCISE
What practical things can you
do to remain sexually pure?

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 TEEN TIPS
1. Cultivate healthy relationships with the opposite sex - you can have a girlfriend or
boyfriend and see #2 below ...

2. Set personal boundaries e.g. Never be in uncompromising situations, be modest with

fashion, be home by 7 p.m.

3. Kill the fuel supply for lust and masturbation e.g. I got rid of some TV stations, canceled
my subscription to People magazines, and burnt up ALL my archive of the magazine.

4. Be open to parents

5. Get an accountable partner

6. Mind the company you keep

7. Take time to meditate on God’s word and works, pray and fellowship with fellow
pilgrims

8. You never quite arrive: “Let he that thinks he stand take heed, lest he fall.”

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 VOW OF PURITY

“This is to confirm that on this date, I, covenant-maker's

name, entered into covenant in the presence of family,
friends, and spiritual mentors, to follow God’s command
not to have sex until marriage.

This certificate was presented as a token of this

promise.”

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 FURTHER HELP

Email: coaching@giantthoughts.com
Tel. +234 803 4880518
Websites: www.giantthoughts.com;
www.unlockyourdestiny.com
Watch Healthy,Wealthy & Wise with Ogbo
Awoke Ogbo on STV, DSTV W. Africa Channel
131 every Wednesday from 7.30 am

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