Jeline C.

Lensico March 12, 2020

1-1BLIS Academic Communication

1. Search for good videos from the internet of ff:

a. How to be a good friend?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LGinimRIl04

2. Summarize briefly the video by following the steps: (drafting your demonstrative
essay)
To say how to be a good friend is not the easiest thing to do. We all know how lovely
friendship can be, but we seldom focus properly on what a good friend should actually be
like. These are the traits we usually look for a good friend.
1. Loyalty - it is valued early on in all of our relationships, from the time we make our first
friendships.
2. Trustworthiness - is comprised of several components, including honesty,
dependability, and loyalty
3. Honesty or openness - is treasured, as to be close to an individual, one must be
willing to share his or her true feelings and states
4. Caring - Caring is the essence of love
5. Reassuring - ideally, a friend will do his or her best to lift your spirits when you are
down.
6. Inspiring - Another part of being uplifting is the quality of being inspiring

3. a. Start with why (goal of the speech)

b. Give a brief overview of the entire process
c. Go through the steps, one-by-one. For each, describe it, then show it (optional).
Discuss options, extras, or variations.
d. End your essay meaningfully by emphasizing the importance of what you have
demonstrated.
 HOW TO BE A GOOD FRIEND?
(DEMONSTRATIVE ESSAY)

To say how to be a good friend is not the easiest thing to do. Each person has his or her
own perception of what one would be. However, speaking generally, there are certain attributes
that most people deem characteristic of how to be a good friend. Loyal, trustworthy, open to
show weakness, caring, reassuring, and inspiring are common qualities that the majority of
people attach as their friends.
Loyalty is a usual attribute given to ideal friends. According to psychology today, loyalty
is valued early on in all of our relationships, from the time we make our first friendships. We
need friends who won’t spill our secrets to others, gossip about us, or allow others to criticize
us. The worst action between friends is double crossing one individual, or not keeping one’s
word. Also in the vein of loyalty, ideal friends are usually referred as being trustworthy.
Trustworthiness is comprised of several components, including honesty, dependability, and
loyalty, and while each is important to successful relationships, honesty and dependability have
been identified as the most vital in the realm of friendships. In line with being honest is also the
capacity to show one’s weaknesses. According to the Book of Life, “The ideal friend doesn’t try
to prove how robust and successful they are; on the contrary, quite often they let us know
awkward and potentially embarrassing things about themselves. They show how much they
trust us by confessing failings and sorrows which would open them up to possible humiliation
from the world beyond. They offer us the gift of their vulnerability” (Cotton, Jess). That openness
is treasured, as to be close to an individual, one must be willing to share his or her true feelings
and states. Caring is the essence of love, many say. In the words of ReachOut.com, “Friends
will come and go in your life, but more important than how long your friendships last is your
friends’ acceptance of you for who you are. A good friend walks the talk and shows that they
care by their actions – big and small” (“What Makes a Good Friend?”). An ideal friend cares for
your well-being over any issues that may arise between you two. A part of caring is being
reassuring. According to The Book of Life, “They don’t just flatter; they understand how easily
we lose perspective, panic and underestimate our own ability to cope. They know we’ve got
zones of fragility that need to be treated gently. Sometimes they get us to laugh at ourselves,
when on our own we’d be inclined to self-pity or rage” (Cotton, Jess). Ideally, a friend will do his
or her best to lift your spirits when you are down. Another part of being uplifting is the quality of
being inspiring. As The Book of Life says, “More often than it’s comfortable to admit, we don’t
quite know what we think until a proper friend gently asks us to expand on a thought, to explain
why we’re impressed by it and to find good answers to possible objections. They see the
potential in what we’re saying when we can’t” (Cotton, Jess). So, an ideal friend allows us to
expand on our ideas and for them to be greater than a momentary thought.
There are more qualities that could be spoken about when talking about how to be a
good friend. However, these are the most commonly mentioned. Being loyal, trustworthy, open
to displaying weaknesses, caring, reassuring, and inspiring are often stated as attributes of an
ideal friend. Always remember that life was meant for good friends.