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Adolescent Owner’s
Manual
Don’t Ask Me, but Consult my Manual
I Dent
Do you?
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Adolescent Owner’s Manual
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Introduction
Adolescent Owner’s
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Don’t Ask Me, but Consult my Manual
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Copyright © 2015
ISBN 978-9982-9992-1-2
Publisher:
Dr. Dhally M. Menda
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Introduction
To the Misunderstood
Adolescents
living on Planet Earth
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Contents
The Author ix
Acknowledgments xi
Introduction xiii
Introduction 3
1: Parts Identification 7
2: Hormones at Work 21
3: Immature CEO 29
5: The Family 57
6: The School 85
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7: The Peer 89
8: The Community 95
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The Author
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Acknowledgments
For more than a decade, this book has been siting on
my mind’s canvas, waiting for a go ahead from my
Master, the Lord Jesus Christ. I thank him for the
inspiration, time and good health, as I wrote the pages
of this book.
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Introduction
I do not read appliances’ Owner’s Manuals.
When I buy a watch, a phone, a kitchen appliance, I do
not take time to read the small booklet that the
manufacturer puts in the box. After opening the box, I
just put it aside and start the try and error process,
until the gadget starts functioning!
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Know your Adolescent
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Know
Your
Adolescent
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Know your Adolescent
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Know your Adolescent
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Parts Identification
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Parts Identification
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“Now may the God of peace himself sanctify
you completely, and may your whole spirit
and soul and body be kept blameless at the
coming of our Lord Jesus Christ”
I Thess. 5:23
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Parts Identification
Important:
Like any other human
being, an adolescent is
a being composed of
three parts:
• The Body
• The Spirit
• The Soul
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THE BODY
The adolescent’s body is the visible part
of who s/he is and it is being used as a
vehicle transporting the adolescent to
his/her desired or undesired
destination.
The Sight
Function:
The eyes allow the adolescent
to connect to the external
physical and digital worlds.
Peers, family members,
Movies, sms, emails, notes, beauty, nature, etc. are seen with
eyes.
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Parts Identification
The Hearing
Function:
The ears allow the adolescent
to connect to the auditory
world.
Music, positive or negative
voices from the family,
church, school, friends,
neighbours, community, etc. pass through the ears the gain
access to the adolescent.
The Taste
Function:
The adolescent’s tongue
connects him/her to the world
of gastronomy and taste.
The drinking, eating, kissing
smoking, are done through the
mouth.
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The Touch
Function:
Fingers and body surface
connect the adolescent to
sensations and the digital world.
Phones, computers, IPods,
cameras, games, caress,
touching, fights, etc. all use this
door connect the adolescent.
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The Smell
Function:
The adolescent’s nose connects
him/her to the world of fragrance
and smell.
Perfumes, body smell, food, drinks,
drugs, etc. enter the adolescent
through the nose.
Body Maintenance
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THE SPIRIT
The adolescent has five channels,
which give access to his/her spirit:
• Memory;
• Imagination;
• Emotions;
• Conscience; and
• Reason.
The Memory
Function:
This is the mental capacity or faculty of
retaining and reviving facts, events (good
or bad), impressions (positive or
negative), etc., or recalling or recognizing
previous experiences.
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The Imagination
Function:
To form mental images of things that
are not present to the senses or not
considered to be real.
Romance, rejections, masturbation,
etc. pass through this channel.
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The Emotions
Functions:
This is a mental state that arises
spontaneously rather than through
conscious effort and is often
accompanied by physiological changes.
Gaming, watching TV, playing around
enter through this channel.
The Conscience
Function:
This is a faculty of the mind, or
inborn sense of right and
wrong, by which we judge of the
moral character of human
conduct.
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The Reason
Function:
The basis or motive for an action,
decision, or conviction.
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Spirit Maintenance
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THE SOUL
If a car owner spends all his money changing the car tires,
doing regular maintenance and always having a full tank for
its daily trips, while is body is starving for lack of food, he
will end up not being able to drive it because of body
weakness.
The same applies to the adolescent’s spirit. If not adequately
nourished, the ‘adolescent’ will become weak and fail to
properly direct his spirit and body. Has adolescent ‘owner’ do
not be ashamed to feed the inner man of spiritual food, which
comes from the word of God.
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Soul Maintenance
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The Thermometer Effect
One-on-one Coaching
Speaking Engagements
dhally.menda@gmail.com
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Thermometer Effect
Adolescents do the very things they don’t want to do
and don’t do what they want to do. In all this
confusion, parents don’t realize that adolescents, like
thermometers, tend to adopt the behaviour of the
environment in which they find themselves: in ‘cool’
environments, they become ‘cool’, and in ‘hot’
environments, they become ‘hot’. This book highlights the
Thermometer Effect that the family, the school, the
peers, the community and media is having on the
adolescents’ lives.