- Watch the video about self- judgement again. Pay attention to the Carla's example.

Analyze it
and answer this question: Do you know somebody who lives or lived a self-judgement
experience as Carla's?

Once my neighbor felt that there must be something wrong with any woman who wants to be
with him because he was unsuccessful with most of his relationships, and feeling this way had him
sabotaging his relationships. In this case, he has learned to take relationships seriously, and likely
has looked at his own behavior in a very factual way. He can probably be very real with people.
And if he could see that his problem isn’t the problem and see the truth that lets him supposedly
see this problem, he would not sabotage his relationships. He would see what he has to offer. He
sees a weakness and his insight is a strength, but he judges his weakness greater than his strength.
When his strength goes into feeding that weakness, he likely tires himself keeping that judgement
of his self.

- The speaker mentions that a self-negating experience is caused among other things by looking
outside ourselves and a lack of fullfillment... Can you think of other causes of a self-negating
experience?

- The reason you judge yourself harshly is due to a lack of self-belief. This usually happens
whenever you compare what you have done to what you think should have been done or to what
someone else has done for a similar kind of job. You care too much about how other people judge
your decisions or behavior. When you are overly concerned about putting on the right
performance from your own point of view or from the perspective of others, you become unsure
and this raises self-doubt. Self-doubt causes you to pass poor self-judgment.

-What piece of advice would you give yourself in order to stop judging yourself.

-As long as I continually work on self-improvement, I should stop comparing myself to others.

Start accepting myself right who I am. There are many reasons I am imperfect, and mine are mine
alone. That doesn't mean I can't change, it does mean my journey is unique for my own
experiences.

I just wanna say it's not too late to overcome self-judgement. Just imagine all the people in my life
that have judged me and made me feel on worthy. Now just say, "fuck 'em!" because I am worthy
of everything, love, happiness, peace, all of that.

Don't you dare listen to anyone that make you feel small, even your own subconscious because I
am enough. Just stop it. Stop judging myself and start loving and respecting myself instead:
because I deserve it. So work on your self-love every day and fight all the negative thoughts about
myself.

trying to better yourself has value, but only when you do it with love and compassion for yourself.