Managing Emotions

Marcelo Bulk
 Definition
 Literally, it means moving from inside out.
 It is a human characteristic used to deal with external
situations by choosing between many possible
reactions.
 Learnt from family and other sources, a healthy
emotional stage can help the individual to experience
the best of everything and to deal with bad
circumstances in a more mature way.
 But, when an individual faces a point of experiencing
unhealthy emotions, it is possible that even the best
situation becomes the worse experience in his life.
 Influence
 Emotions are reactions to anything that
happens, so they are present at every
step.
 Effort, success, influence, recovery and
changing, are all affected by the
reactions we have towards what
happens around. In other words, by
emotions.
 Importance
A healthy emotional
state:
How to manage emotions?
 Success or contentment
in career.
 Keeping friends and
using time in a worthwhile
way.
 Dealing with stressful
situations.
 A healthy mind and body.
 Staying in self-esteem.
An unhealthy emotional
state:
 Failure in career or
marriage.
 Losing friends, time or
reputation.
 Increasing stress levels.
 Affecting mental and
body health quality.
 Decreasing self-esteem
levels.
 Repression
 It means to prevent the expression of an
emotion by will power or social
constraints.
 It works like a pressure cooker: if you
don’t do something about that soon, it can
explode!
 Talk to someone you know. Just
remember that you can’t repress what you
feel forever.
 Transference
 It is when you identify a certain wrong
emotion and you replace it with another one,
or some other action.
 For instance, you know you can’t shout
against your boss, so you start to make ironic
comments about him to other people.
 It is important to acknowledge the emotion
you feel and look for advise from an expert
on how to deal with it in a healthy way.
 EI
 Emotional Inteligence is the capacity to
understand, perceive and use the emotions
felt by the individual and other people.
 A sales manager is aware that his team lacks
motivation, so he creates a program to
increase sales by generating enthusiasm for
new products.
 EI cannot be used as a tool to manipulate
other people, but it is useful to help finding
solutions.
 *Self-Control*
 Itis the stage where you can manage an
emotion before it comes into action. It
requires a deep knowledge of the self and an
efficient tool for access.
 After sometime working on the self, a
manager is able to face a crisis in her
company by being calm and focused.
 Even though it is something apparently more
difficult, it allows the person to manage
emotions in a total different level.
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 Focus
 Mind works better if it is focused, that is, the thoughts and
emotions that emerge have a clear meaning for the self and
a clear purpose.
 Control
 The real control is on the intellect, so that the best decision
is made.
 Meditation
 Meditation technique enables the mind to be focused in a
very easy way.
 Raja yoga meditation provides an interesting and effective
method to control the intellect.
 **Self-Leadership**
 After controlling the self, the individual
becomes his or her own leader. Emotions
cease to exist as reactions and the leader
allows his feelings to be expressed.
 A mother instead of reacting towards the
insult spoken by her daughter-in-law, decides
to give her love and compassion.
 Only by being a leader of the self, emotions
will not created damage.
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 Conclusions
 Managing emotions are an important factor in
organisations.
 There are many ways to do it.
 Raja yoga meditation can help to achieve
both, self-control and mastery over the self.
 Brahma Kumaris is available to help with
that.
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