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ny physician who sees female patients may have occasion to help women who
are in abusive relationships. If a woman has come to know and trust medical
Can Med Assoc J 1997;157:1555-8
professionals she may confide to them that she is in difficulty, regardless of
their specialty. Spousal abuse does not necessarily involve physical violence. Women
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who are mistreated in less obvious ways may need support in recognizing that and1579
their partners’ behaviour is unacceptably controlling and constitutes abuse.
The list that accompanies this article (page 1557-8) was first compiled by an Ot-
tawa men’s group, New Directions. Many of its members had been convicted of as-
saulting their partners and were asked to list behaviours they had used to control or
harm their wives or girlfriends. With further input from victims of abuse, women’s-
shelter workers and members of the Lanark County Coalition Against Family Vio-
lence, the list doubled in length. Many of the actions listed may be considered inno-
cent when weighed in isolation. In combination and over a period of time, however,
they may constitute a pattern of behaviour designed to break another person’s spirit.
Presented at this year’s annual meeting of the Federation of Medical Women
of Canada, the list was received with enthusiasm and emotion. This response sig-
nalled to us that it could be a valuable tool for physicians in identifying domestic
abuse. Workers at the Lanark County Interval House, a shelter for abused
women and their children, consider the list their most effective tool. Women who
come to the shelter often worry that the abuse they have experienced isn’t serious
enough to warrant a plea for help. Shelter workers give them the list and a high-
lighter, and ask them to identify incidents they have experienced. Many women
are surprised by the number of abusive actions they have experienced and come
to realize that physical assault is only one aspect of abuse.
The list categorizes abusive behaviours under 8 headings. Each type of abuse
involves an imbalance of power in the relationship, whereby the abuser at-
tempts to degrade, intimidate and thereby exert control over his partner.
Emotional abuse
Many women say that they would rather be hit than endure emotional abuse:
when they are assaulted physically they know they are being abused. Emotional The list of unacceptable
abuse is more subtle. It often begins or accelerates during pregnancy, when the man behaviours compiled
sees the fetus as a threat to what he perceives as his central position in the home. by the Lanark County
Coalition Against Family
Environmental abuse Violence follows this
article.
In this type of abuse the woman is made to feel afraid in her home or environ-
Martin, Younger-Lewis
ment. The abuser may attempt to intimidate her by What can physicians do?
punching walls, throwing objects or damaging items that
are important to her: it is usually only the woman’s posses- Again and again, women have told workers at the La-
sions that are broken. nark County Interval House that going through this list
of abusive behaviours was the catalyst that made them de-
Social abuse cide to leave an abusive partner. Several women who re-
turned to a relationship to give their partner “another
A key component of social abuse is the isolation of the chance” said that the list helped them to recognize when
woman from family and friends; the abuser’s goal is to abusive behaviours were starting to reappear. They were
prevent her from having a social life that is not centred on able to be more objective about what was happening to
him. The abuser may repeatedly cause scenes in public, them and this made it easier to decide to leave again.
such that the woman is too embarrassed to be seen with Physicians with a patient who suggests that she is in an
him outside the home and isolates herself. abusive relationship can consider taking the following steps.
• Quickly schedule an appointment in which you can
Financial abuse set aside the extra time that will be needed.
• Give the woman the list of abusive behaviours and
Money can be used to exert power. The abuser may at- ask her to highlight any that apply to her. Keep the
tempt to control his partner by ensuring that she has no list in her chart.
financial independence or by exploiting her earning abil- • Go over the list. Ask the woman to explain some of
ity. He may spend money without her agreement or the items. For example, “Deliberately leaves a mess
refuse to spend money on special occasions or on things for her to clean up” may mean that her partner un-
that are necessary for the family. caringly and purposely walks through the house with
mud on his boots, or that he deliberately sweeps food
Religious abuse off the table onto the floor.
• Listen nonjudgementally.
This form of abuse can be particularly effective if the • Ask the woman what she does to cope.
woman’s religion or spirituality is important to her. The • If the woman wishes, set up a series of appointments
abuser may ridicule his partner’s beliefs, or use religious so you can work together until she feels comfortable
precepts to justify abusive actions. enough to reach out for other resources. Work out
an explanation that she can safely present to her part-
Physical abuse ner — perhaps that a series of tests is required.
• Help the woman to assemble the resources she will
Many women think they have to be hit with a closed fist need. These can range from accommodation at a
to experience physical abuse. Any unwanted physical con- women’s shelter to assistance from the police or a lawyer.
tact may constitute abuse; the contact is often repeated and • Never take control or make decisions for the woman,
follows a particular pattern. Physical neglect, such as re- and never arrange a meeting for her unless she first agrees.
sponding inappropriately to illness or injury, is also abusive. • Document, document, document.
• Be clear about your limitations: there is only so much
Sexual abuse you can do.
• Be aware that the woman may be in a far more dan-
Women in abusive relationships sometime find them- gerous situation than she has stated. Most women
selves participating in sexual activities that they find ab- minimize the violence they live with.
horrent in order to pacify their partners. Abusive men Physicians who give support to abused women some-
may force their partners to have intercourse when they times feel frustrated when their patients are reluctant to
are ill or recovering from childbirth. Talking about sexual do anything to change their situation. When this happens,
abuse is difficult for most women; many choose to call a it may help if the physician calls the local woman’s shelter
crisis line anonymously to seek advice. and “unloads.” There may be compelling reasons why a
woman chooses to stay in an abusive relationship. It is also
Ritual abuse important to remember that the danger a woman faces in
her home may follow her if she flees; indeed, it may get
This type of abuse needs careful exploration. Physi- worse. For many, confiding in a physician is a difficult first
cians should be aware that it occurs, and that children step and it may take time to build the courage and confi-
and women are the usual targets. dence to go one step further. ß