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INTRODUCTION
Over-nurturing is when parents are too involved in the children’s lives by giving
them more attention than necessary. They anticipate their children’s needs even before
According to Dr. David Bredehoft , over nurturing can trigger anxiety and stunts
children’s emotional and cognitive growth. Kids also, missing out on learning valuable
life skills.
relationship skills, decision-making, money and time management skills. Further, over
nurtured children may not know how to take an adult responsibility. They rely on others
experience a mixture of positive and negative feelings: a high percentage 48% reported
feeling loved, and 28% reported feeling good because they got everything they wanted,
but 44% felt confused, while 31% felt guilty, bad and sad.
The reason why over nurture happens it’s because of some variety of reasons
from different parents. Due to over nurturing, there were some skills that were missing
that has been reported and these are the communication, interpersonal, and
relationship skills, domestic and home skills, mental and personal health skills, decision
making skills, money and time management skills, as well as learning to be responsible.
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According to the article of Joanne Richard, the author of- Over nurturing bad for
your child’s well-being: Expert- where the research has been done by Dr. David
Bredehoft reports that the over-indulged children are at risk where they have following
difficulties such as; need immediate gratification and have poor self-control; have an
over-blown sense of entitlement; are ungrateful; have poor boundaries; are materialistic;
have overspending and over eating problems; have goals of wealth, fame and image,
and do not want meaningful relationships, personal growth or making the community
better; have not learned valuable adult life skills; are irresponsible; don’t know what is
The result of this study will benefit the parents and caregivers in which it allows
them to know on what are the effects to the development of children if they over-
nurtured them and let them be aware also on how they must nurture the child to avoid
such unnecessary effects. For the children, it will let them aware that being over-
nurtured is not good to their development and for the researchers, the result of this
study will allow them to know on what are the effects of over-nurturing which can affect
the development of a child and for future researchers, this study will serve them as their
This study aims to answer the question what is over-nurturing and its forms,
causes parents to over-nurture their children, how does over nurturing affect the
children’s mental, social and emotional development and how should these children be
dealt with.
With that, researchers struggle to carry out an answers in order to realize this study.
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BODY
that children should be doing for themselves, smothering them with love, allowing them
too many privileges, making sure they will always entertained, and hovering over them
Parenting style can affect everything can affect everything from how much your
child weighs to how she feels about herself. It’s important to ensure your parenting style
is supporting healthy growth and development because the way you interact with your
child and how you discipline her will influence her for the rest of her life.
labels: the over-involved parent, the helicopter parent, the over-protective parent, the
hovering parent, the over-scheduling parent, even the tiger mom (parent) however, he
In some article that we had browsed and read, it has been said that in recent
generations, many people have become “super parents”, who hyper-manage everything
in their children’s lives, from what they eat to what sports they play, to their choices of
friends and fashions. They ferry them from activity to activity and make sure they have
the latest electronic gadgets or other trendy items. They may even spend more energy
In the 1990’s, the term “helicopter parenting” was coined to describe parents who
hover over their children and intervene on their behalf. Instead of modelling self-
sufficiency and independence, they readily step in to solve their kid’s problems for them,
without realizing that it is sometimes better to step back and let the kids figure stuff out
on their own.
doubt and perfectionism, proposing that this type of parenting evolves from living
variously through a child rather than allowing them to be their own person, distinct from
the parent.
A parent with this behaviour may be over-compensating for their own low self-
esteem, so they work over time to ensure their children are happy and content. Their
motivation may be that they want their kids to have it all and not suffer any of the
hardships they endured. Researchers have identified four types of parenting styles:
Each style takes a different approach to raising children, and can be identified by a
According to Amy Morin, she identified four types of parenting styles and these
are the authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved parenting in which it has
characteristics.
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Authoritarian Parenting
Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, "Because I said so," when a child
questions the reasons behind a rule. They are not interested in negotiating and their
focus is on obedience.
obstacles. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences with little regard
teach a child how to make better choices, they're invested in making kids feel sorry for
their mistakes.
Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much
They may also become hostile or aggressive. Rather than think about how to do
things better in the future, they often focus on the anger they feel toward their parents.
Since authoritarian parents are often strict, their children may grow to become good
Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents invest time and energy into preventing behavior problems
before they start. They also use positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behavior,
Researchers have found kids who have authoritative parents are most likely to
They're also more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on
their own.
Permissive Parenting
Permissive parents usually take on more of a friend role than a parent role. They
often encourage their children to talk with them about their problems, but they usually
don't put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behavior.
Kids who grow up with permissive parents are more likely to struggle
academically. They may exhibit more behavioral problems as they don't appreciate
authority and rules. They often have low self-esteem and may report a lot of sadness.
They're also at a higher risk for health problems, like obesity, because permissive
parents struggle to limit junk food intake. They are even more likely to have dental
cavities because permissive parents often don't enforce good habits, like ensuring a
Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don't devote much
Uninvolved parents may be neglectful but it's not always intentional. A parent
with mental health issues or substance abuse problems, for example, may not be able
At other times, uninvolved parents lack knowledge about child development. And
sometimes, they're simply overwhelmed with other problems, like work, paying bills, and
managing a household.
Children with uninvolved parents are likely to struggle with self-esteem issues.
They tend to perform poorly in school. They also exhibit frequent behavior problems and
Bredehoft, Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson in 1998, 2000 and 2001, the reason
why parents over-nurtured their children because they may have experienced harsh
treatment as children and do not want to replicate that parenting that cause their child
pain. Their empathy for child’s struggle, they may wish to smooth the way so a child
won’t have to work so hard. They may not be clear about the difference between the
child’s job and the adult’s job, they may be unclear about the developmental capabilities
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of their children at different ages, they may feel guilty and wish to prove the strength of
their connection to the child. They may fear displeasing the child, they may without
being aware, want to support a self-image of being nice and they may not want to come
environments where adults, not wanting to frustrate their child’s offensive behaviour,
end up accepting any behaviours of their children. Adults make these non-instructive
choices out of fear of being further embarrassed, fear of their own ineffectiveness and
By being fearful, by not stopping the child’s offensive behaviour, the adult fails to
teach the child which behaviours are unwelcome, unattractive or ineffective. A child who
learns which behaviours help him connect with others and which behaviours push
Adults intending to make a secure bond with their children learn to tell the
difference between helping that fails to provide what is necessary and helping that
permissive or where all their decisions are made for them often, encounter emotional
and behavioural issues as adults. Like birds with their wings clipped, they may lack the
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confidence they need to leave the nest and become independent. They also may lack
confidence in their own judgement and decision-making abilities or, because so many
problems have been handled for them, they may have difficulty managing adversity as a
Studies have found that addiction results from multiple factors, including
hereditary (addiction can run in families, just like other diseases) and environmental
influences. It may be that over-nurtured kids mature into adults who experience self-
doubt, have difficulty managing responsibilities and adversity, and end up self-
and decreased satisfaction with life. Parenting behaviours that were characterized as
and relatedness”.
The researchers found that college students/children who had been raised
in these types of family environments reported low motivation and low desire to live
independently.
the Reedley International School- they give four effects and these are the low level of
independence, higher risk of anxiety, self-esteem issues and strong emotional restraint.
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Completely and forcefully controlling all of your children’s activities can result in
them having a low level of independence. This could mean that they will rely on you for
You may believe that there will be no negative implications since they are still
young. However, this could manifest into a behaviour that will lead them to be
dependent to not only you, but also to the other people in their lives.
As much as possible, it’s best to give your kids freedom when they’re doing their
daily tasks. Allow them to do things their own way. In return, you will be providing them
Helicopter parenting is what happens when the moms or dads constantly hover
The kids experiencing this type of parenting are more likely to develop anxiety
since they are always being closely observed by their guardians. To prevent this, check
yourself if you are constantly looking over their shoulders. Once you determine that you
are, try to distance yourself away from time to time. Give them the opportunity to do
tasks alone.
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Self-Esteem Issues
esteem. This can lead them to feel as though they are never good enough. You may
think that flooding them with overwhelming attention may help them feel validated but
Being over-nurturing can make them feel like they are incapable or vulnerable
because they cannot handle doing tasks by themselves. An example of this includes
parents who spoon-feed their kids even though they are quite capable of eating on their
own.
shut people off. This could often be seen in situations when they exhibit a passive
attitude. For example, they can be overly shy when it comes to sharing their insights. It
is also possible for them to prefer to be alone instead of mingling with others.
Be wary of this attitude because it can ultimately hurt your relationship with them.
As much as possible, communicate with them in a less intrusive way. Let them come to
nurturing could have negative effects on their growth. To prevent them from
manifesting, give them the opportunities to do things on their own and provide them with
If you are too focused on your child, you are likely to be ignoring your own needs.
Julie Lythcott-Haims said that despite what you think, your kid is not your passion. If you
are treating them as if they are, you’re placing them in the very untenable and healthy
role of trying to bring fulfilment to your life. Find something else to do.
Mistakes are your child’s greatest teacher, so welcome them when they happen,
whether it’s coming last in something, being dropped from a team or flunking an exam.
Instead of dreading failures, see them as a chance to get ready for adulthood.
Hold your child to account. At each stage of life, check your child is on track to
accomplish basic skills. If they aren’t, put in the time to train them. For example, by the
age of seven, children should be able to help cook meals and make their beds. By nine,
they should know simple sewing, how to take out the rubbish and fold and put away
their clothes. By the age of 13, check that they can iron, use basic hand tools and mow
the lawn.
Ask your child questions to help them work out their own solutions. Instead of
constantly directing them, ask what they think they should do to solve a problem. More
often than not, they will come up with a more practical, age-appropriate solution.
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Tyzack), there are three kinds of over-parenting: overprotecting (putting buffers and
safety rails in place), overdirecting (managing activities, studies and grades) and hand-
holding (acting as a concierge to help fill in paperwork and talking to authority figures on
Parents are living in the service of their children and they’re frazzled, worried and
disillusioned as a result. They need to reclaim their own lives, and make time for work
and hobbies and relationships so they can model a healthy, vibrant, adult life.
It’s no wonder 'kids’ don’t want to be adults because parents don’t make
Our kids have to be there for themselves. That’s a harder truth to swallow when
your child is in the midst of a problem, but taking the long view is the best medicine. Do
too much for them and we make them feel like failures.
Young people should be given free time and space to think. They should have
chores to help build their work ethic but, if they fail at a task, parents should not rush in
to help.
We have to teach our kids that authority figures are people trying to do a good
job who are worthy of respect. If there is a problem, parents must teach their sons and
daughters that they are the ones to have the conversation with that adult: we can coach
them but they shouldn’t depend on mum and dad for that. They should also do their own
work.
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And remember: over parenting doesn’t happen among poorer people because
they’ve got bigger things to focus on. It happens in communities where parents have
On a study entitled- Overindulgence- it states that there are many ways that
parents can find some middle ground such as have a reasonable set of rules, be
consistent in enforcing your rules, rules should be developmentally and age appropriate,
CONCLUSION
Therefore, parenting style can truly affect the individual's development in which
that being too much in protecting our child it gives such effects to them that somehow
Nurturing activities are vital to children's proper development, providing them with
opportunities to learn and the secure knowledge that they are valued and loved. Parents
have at their disposal many different ways to nurture children's physical, mental, social,
emotional, and cultural development. For example, parents are nurturing their children
when they teach them how to play a sport, how to count to ten, how to read, how to
make friends, how to express their emotions, and how to celebrate communal beliefs
and traditions. Most every interaction parents have with their children can become an
Nurturing activities should be times of fun, family bonding, and play rather than
the park, experimenting with magnets in the kitchen, finger painting in the driveway,
playing make-believe in the attic, cuddling on the couch before bed, or eating family
dinner at Grandma's house, children will appreciate that learning is fun. They will also
learn that the more they try the more successful they'll become. Most importantly,
children will learn that the adults they love love them back, and will support them. This
foundation of love and support sets the stage for healthy family trust and open
In other words, to ensure the development of the child, our way of nurturing them
must be balance and not too much. Let them experience the things that they must
experience as a child. It is a great privilege to every child that they can enjoy their
childhood as they grow. As what the others mostly say that experience is a great
teacher and through that way, when the children matures, they can identify the
differences between right and wrong and can possess positive manners based on what
they experienced. On the other hand, parents must still at the back of their children
monitoring if the child was still on its track so that, no matter what happen, parents can
reinforce automatically.
That is why, we should remember that nurturing such children must be balance in
order for them to be aware of on what they are going to do so that as they grow in the
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