BALLERTA, Carl Justin A.

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Online Anchor Activity #2

Asst. Prof Noel Asiones

I cannot live without you

This essay intends to enlighten the minds of the readers or the people concern with this confidential
topic- married couples living separately. Additionally, it tackles the different factors on why married
couples live separately. And as a whole, this essay would like to give important messages and
information pertaining on how to live fruitfully as a married couple. Married couples are usually and
mostly lived in one roof and in one bed but how come that some of them tend to live away from
each other?

20% of currently married women have ever lived separately from their husband or partner; 44% of
which lived separately from their husband or partner from 1-11 months or almost 1 year during the
past 2 years (based on the Demographic and Health Survey of 2017). This unavoidable situation
would mean that married couples consider living separately for some important reasons.
Additionally, it could be honed that there is an increasing number of married couples who undergo
with this. There may be a lot of possibilities why couple lived separately one of which is economic
factor. As theology says in the book of Genesis 24:67; Deuteronomy 24:5; I Samuel 2:20, Being a
provider means providing for the physical things found in home – the husband is to be a physical
provider; being said that, husbands work for their family and work for their wives wherein, they tend
to work in abroad and living behind their families and their wives just to provide them the necessary
things they need, that’s how husbands sacrifice for their wives and families. Another factor is in
sociological impact wherein there may be abuses or misunderstandings between them. Yes it is,
abuses may result separation, and this is very alarming because in theology it says that “husbands
love your wives as Christ love His Church – this denotes that husbands must treat their wives with
utmost love, care and respect for their own benefits and for the family. Another sociological factor is
maybe the married couples have their marriages arranged without even their consent. As it says so,
arranged marriage without consent of both parties really made them choose to live separately
because there’s no love between them. Another is that maybe the husband is in prison for some
unavoidable circumstances and went into jail. Lastly, Infidelity may lead to separation of the married
couple in bed and in roof; sad to say that this is really happening.

If these things would not be addressed most especially for the negative factors it could cause broken
families, mortal sin and bad role model for the next generation. Broken families because there
maybe another parties that would enter into the married life of the couple that leads to a complete
separation between them. Mortal sin because they engage into a situation that is not theologically
abided by the rules. Bad role model because as they say, “what youngsters see from the adults, they
tend to copy this and do it in the future”, if married couple would not straighten their bad doings
then this could possibly happen.

As a married couple living separately is heart breaking knowing the vows and promises they shared
in their marriage. If the husband is working abroad try to maintain consistent communication, if
there’s abuses and misunderstandings try to reconcile or talk to each other, and if there is infidelity
try to ask what is wrong to the both of you and talk with it. Married couple is LOVE.