New Generation Needs Counseling?

Loveable juniors, dear fellows, respectable seniors and Mr. President Assalam-o-alikum. The topic on
which I have to argue is “New Generation Needs Counseling”. The matter is not that I am agreed or
disagree with the foresaid statement. I am not here to create an endless war between Yes and No. I am here
just to share my feelings and thinking in regards of above statement. I can be wrong, my feelings can be
wrong, my thinking can be wrong even experiences of someone’s life can be wrong but the facts of life
can’t be wrong. And the major fact and reality of life is to decide someone’s ambition, future and the line
of action on which somebody has to spend his or her life according to his wishes and purposes. I think that
the difficult thing in the life of someone is to decide something. Weather it will be a decision of marriage or
it will be a decision of right choice of subjects.

  First of all I would like to tell you something about counseling, what is counseling? Counseling can be
defined as the use of experiences to help people solve problems. Another, more precise definition is that
counseling is a family of technique for structuring interaction between a facilitator and a participant based
on mutual sharing of literature and experience. There is an rough overview of the fields which comes under
the counseling, as (1) to develop an individual's self-concept; (2) to increase an individual's understanding
of human behavior or motivations; (3) to foster an individual's honest self-appraisal; (4) to provide a way
for a person to find interests outside of self; (5) to relieve emotional or mental pressure; (6) to show an
individual that he or she is not the first or only person to encounter such a problem; (7) to show an
individual that there is more than one solution to a problem; (8) to help a person discuss a problem more
freely; and (9) to help an individual plan a constructive course of action to solve a problem.

"I can be wrong, my feelings can be wrong, Article by

my thinking can be wrong even Abdul Rehman
experiences of someone’s life can be wrong geneous77@hotmail.com
but the facts of life can’t be wrong."

It is said that there are three phases of life. One childhood, second adulthood and the third one is the old
hood. In my point of view it’s the fact of life. And I firmly believe that every person has to decide
something in all the three phases of his life. In childhood the decision can be fighting with someone,
gaining toffees from someone or it can be the choice of his line of action in his or her education. In
adulthood the decision can be the right choice of his or her subjects in the field of education; the decision
can be about his or her marriage or it also can be the right choice of profession as well. In old hood they
have to decide their son’s or daughter’s education, his or her marriage, his or her right choice of profession.
In short and long every person have to meet some decisions in every phase of life. And as we all know that
human being is social animal and likes society for his living, human beings are also interdependent with
each other so he cannot decide something without someone’s consultation. He tends to consult his
problems with others and wanted to take advantage from other’s experiences.

  Some people do not realize this fact; consider and spend the whole life as a single phase.
The decision making is the piece of cake for them. They don’t care either the decision is
right or wrong and just keened to take decisions. But after sometime they come to know
about their fault oftenly and then the time doesn’t care for them, now there will be no use
of crying over split milk. The matter which was solved by them becomes the more
dangerous. And it is very difficult to re-solve that problem in the positive way. The
victim indulges more in danger. This sort of decisions made their life full of tension,
depression and comfortless. According to a scientist.

      1.    Depression is caused by certain styles of thinking.

        2.    Depression is a result of unfortunate decisions and experiences.
  There is a strong evidence to support counseling, that when GOD created Hazrat Adam (A.S). He
almighty gave some instructions and directions in accordance to spend his life. But when Hazrat Adam
(A.S) went opposite to those instructions then Allah Almighty pulled him out of paradise. So in modern
words we can say those instructions and directions as counseling. GOD Almighty counseled Hazrat Adam
(A.S) HIM self. Because as we all know that God's love for HIS creature is more than the love of 70
mothers. So HE Almighty counseled Hazrat Adam (A.S) because Allah knows better that what is good and
bad for Adam. Infact, Allah is sincere with HIS creature. So it shows that we have to consult our problems
with sincere personalities. And we must look for some sincere personalities around us.

Here it would not be forgotten that teens or new generation have to grip and rule our
future estate, empire, country and houses as well. They have to survive in the
society as a noble and working element. And because of this fact we force to counsel
them in the light of social customs, culture, moral values of the society and
education. And without counseling them in the foresaid departments we would not be
able to produce a well generation for the future.

 There are a lot of draw backs in absence of counseling, especially for the counseling of
teens and new generation. If the new generation would not be counseled then there will
be a lot of doubts in their minds, and they won’t be able to get rid off all the serious
problems of their lives and society as well. The new generation will not be able to decide
their future and the future of their young one’s. They will not be able to solve their
problems as well. They will also be not able to work properly for the development of
their country or nation. They will be frustrated, depressed, tensionised and disappointed
as well. And they will not be able to survive in this world according to their ambitions
and aims. So as a result, they cannot adjust in the society. They do not feel comfort and
ease ever in their life. Infact, the new generation is the future of the nation or the country.
And in the meanwhile, the future of the nation or country will be lost in the darkness, and
they can also be dominated by the others. And if the country or nation will manage to
survive freely then the country will be very weak defensibly, socially, economically,
environmentally and medically as well. And I think that the country which has not good
defensive, economic, environment and health conditions, she have not any right to
survive as an individual nation or country. Anyways, above are the very little drawbacks
of the deficiency of the counseling.

As far as counseling and Pakistan concerns, the conditions are very weak and are not
up to the mark due to the lack of this trend “Counseling”. Mostly people are not
aware of the counseling and its benefits. For example, Oftenly, the father is all in all
in a family, and he manages his family. So he thinks that the right to take decisions
about his family is totally for him. So he tries to impose his decisions on his family,
even on his wife also. Generally people say that, there is a generation gap between
the parents and their young ones. And father does not think this fact and just impose
his decisions according to his old thinking. So his sons, daughters and sometimes
wife become frustrated. As a result, the family gets separated and whole the family
suffers from mental disturbance. As we all know that family is the unit of society so
society is also being affected by all of this. And for this Pakistan is interdependent to
others, and is not fully developed and progressed.

  In Pakistan , mostly parents don’t want their children to be counseled. And rebels are being produced by
them due to the absence of counseling. Crimes are increasing day by day. And mostly people spoil their
lives due to non-availability of counseling. So here I would like to assure you that we can reduce crime
rate, and can also control on the production of rebels. The lives of people can also be tracked on the right
track of success.

  The question is that how can we counsel our new generation? I would like to add something here that, we
can counsel our new generation with the help of electronic media, print media, in schools, colleges,
universities and by organizing special workshops for the awareness about counseling, on the national level
and international level as well. Parents can also counsel their young ones and relatives.

  To sum up the discussion, I would like to ensure you that it is very compulsory to counsel teens and new
generation. They need experiences for their betterment according to new age advises. The decisions must
be bi-lectual. And I think that counseling can be the legal solution for the choice, visions and ambitions as
well. It also can control the wholesome rate of frustrated ones, disappointed ones. It’s quite hard to accept
for me that the rate of suicide is not being increased due to the lack of counseling. So that, with the help of
counseling the suicide rate will also be reduced. In order to pull the train of problems on the track of right
solutions we must practisize “Counseling” practically in our daily life. It will be a handy solution for all the
mental illnesses.

  In the end, I hope that you will be contended with my feelings and thoughts. By this I mean that my words
will help you to find new challenges and opportunities in the way of destinies in your lives. There can be
written a lot on this subject but by keeping time limit in mind I want to end it up with a pray that; O! GOD
Almighty help us all to understand the life and its responsibilities, and the secrets n keys to be succeed in
life. (Amin).