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Lauren Danner
Professor Graue
COM 2206
22 July 2020
lives. Whether it be with another human being or an animal. Most of the time humans are using
different conflict management skills we have learned in our lives to get through
our everyday lives. The Defensive climate behaviors humans know are ones that most personally
use daily. When people have an interaction with someone you need to make sure you control
We as humans usually want to have a positive interaction with someone but sometimes
people are just having an awful day. Humans emotions get the best of them and people just say
things that would not have normally been said otherwise. Then there are only plain mean and
only care about themselves. People like me like to think the world is full more of the people who
are just having bad days and going through things we have no idea about.
For this specific encounter between the receptionist and someone else, the conflict
management strategy the receptionist used was competition. The book defines this as “a win-lose
approach to a conflict that involves high concern for self and low concern for others.” (Alder
p.330) The receptionist thinks that it is ok for her to get an attitude and brush off the customer as
if she doesn’t matter and, as if her way is right and no other way is. She does not seem willing to
seek out an outcome that will benefit both parties. She thinks she is perfectly fine being rude to
control. The video we watched with the Dr.Zakel explains that it is like someone putting a thumb
on you and them deciding how the event and/or exchange is going to go. You have no say
whatsoever in the outcome. (YouTube Dr.Zakel) You are just a participant and will either deal
with a nice or rude person. In this case it was an exchange and the customer got the rude person.
focus on finding a solution that satisfies both their own needs and those of others involved. The
goal isn’t to win at the expense of your partner but find an arrangement which everyone feels
like a winner.” (Alder 2018) Not only is it shown as the opposite of control, but this would have
the best outcome for both parties. You are both working together towards a common goal. This is
more a win-win solution instead of a win-lose which never works out in anyone’s favor. You
always regret acting that way towards someone whether it be the next day or year.
You: Hello, I was wondering if you had an estimate on when my car was going to be
Receptionist: I am sorry about that mam, let me check and see if the mechanics have an
You: Thank you! I appreciate your time. I still must go back to work today and want to
Verbally the receptionist could have used convergence” the process of adapting one’s
speech style to match that of others with whom one wants to identify.” ( Dragojevic et al., 2016)
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(Adler p. 142) to adapt to the speech style of the customer. She could have not used such
powerful language” direct and forceful word choices, with declarations and assertions.”(Alder
p.143) I think more than anything she should have used politeness” communicating in ways that
save face for both senders and receivers. Politeness is valued in some cultures more than others.”
(Alder p.144) especially working in customer service. It would have saved face. Nonverbal
regulators” cues that help control verbal interaction.” (Alder p. 173) would have helped because
they are cues that help to control verbal interaction. The receptionist could have smiled at the
customer and made eye contact to show she is interested in the conversation and cares. Her
paralanguage “ to describe the way a message is spoke, not so much about what you say, but
how you say it.” (Alder p. 182) could have helped by her adjusting her tone when speaking to the
customer.
Overall, I believe that the receptionist was having a bad day. She was probably stressed
out due to being overwhelmed at work and being so busy, I’m sure she had deal with a lot of
mean customers and probably assumed this one was going to be the same way toward her. I have
been in this position and then had to apologize for actin this way. She decided to take it out on
her customer and in real life that could have major backlash and possibly get her fired or at the
least written up. Making sure you are using the right verbal cues such as convergence, powerful
language and politeness, and nonverbal cues such as regulators, and paralanguage as listed in the
last paragraph would certainly help to make the exchange go much better. If things are really that
bad, then the company needs to let their customers know that it is going to be longer than
anticipated so they can plan accordingly. It is not realistic for someone to take a whole day for
their car to get repaired and just sit at the shop all day.
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Works Cited
Adler, Ronald B., et al. Interplay: The Process of Interpersonal Communication. 9th ed., Oxford
June 27, 2011. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cclq48QZT_c