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Our teens' self-esteem must come from their knowledge of who Jesus is and from
the assurance of His love and care. Parents can emphasize these truths as they
model acceptance, forgiveness and love.
Dennis Smith was rushing to class at a Christian school, when he met one of his students lingering in the
hallway.
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The student turned away, staring out a window. The young man was crying as he explained to Dennis, “The
other guys say I’m not cool. They tell me that constantly.”
The nal bell rang as they walked toward the classroom and Dennis gave the student a parting word of
encouragement. Dennis recalls how he felt after the encounter. “My heart just ached for him. Feeling like he
didn’t t in was crushing this kid.”
Whether they’re preteens or nearly adults, peers can compromise the otherwise healthy self-esteem of a
young man.
And guys are not alone in this struggle with self-esteem. Madison is a ninth-grader who enjoys the support
of an a rming family and a healthy church. But Madison says even Christian teen girls feel the pressure to
appear beautiful and perfect in every way. “For girls my age, everything is about body image,” she says.
Beverly Odom is assistant director of a large student ministry in Georgia. She says, “Teen girls are
constantly comparing themselves to each other and to images they see in the media. I often see the body
obsession thing linger on into adulthood.”
Whether positive or negative, realistic or skewed, the views our kids form of themselves during adolescence
stay with them for years. Their self-esteem in uences mental acuity, emotional health and behavior. Beverly
says, “The pressure on most kids today is just unbelievable. The quest to be accepted goes on 24/7. Even
Christian teens can lose sight of all that they have in Christ and can be pressured to do things that, deep
down, they know are wrong.”
Christian teens have clear and tangible reasons to feel OK about who they are. Their self-worth should be
grounded on, and bolstered by, the following realities:
Although these truths can be a great source of encouragement, teens’ emotions don’t automatically “catch
up” to the facts. Self-esteem issues often feed on irrationality. Teens must vigilantly pursue an honest view
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A healthy self-esteem isn’t grounded in one’s strengths or abilities. Of the ve points listed above, none
leads teens to nd their value by comparing themselves to others. Somebody will always come along who
is prettier, wealthier, smarter or more athletic. That’s inevitable.
Our teens’ self-esteem must come from their knowledge of who Jesus is and from the assurance of His
love and care. Parents have the privilege of emphasizing these truths as they model acceptance,
forgiveness and love. These truths provide lasting purpose and clear direction — even to those traversing
the heady and often challenging years of adolescence.
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ALEX MCFARLAND
Alex McFarland is a Christian apologist and evangelist who has spoken at hundreds of churches, college campuses and events throughout
the United States and abroad. He is a nationally-recognized culture and religion expert who has been interviewed by numerous major media
outlets. Alex has published more than 150 articles and authored 16 books.
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